Not just another year

It is that time of year when we reflect on where we have been and where we plan to go in the New Year. You need to learn what you can from all the negative issues that have happened in 2012 then "Just Flush It" out of your mind. Don't let what stunk in 2012 stink up one moment of 2013. It's a NEW Year, a NEW Day and the start of a NEW Life so don't bring any issues from last year that will make it the SAME Life just a Different Year. If you want a different Life then do things Differently this Year. Happy New Year!

Before it can do anymore damage

Forgiving someone who has hurt you does not mean that all is forgotten. It simply means that you made a decision to not let what they did hurt you anymore. Take all the hard painful experiences from your past and "Just Flush It" out of your mind before it can do anymore damage. If the thought pops back up in your mind then learn how to "Just Flush It" at a quick glance. Forgiveness is the first step on your journey to make room for "peace of mind" to get in. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself.

Pictures keep it fresh on your mind

After the garbage bags are taken out and the dishes are done you will be able to relax while you reflect on the memories that you created this Holiday Season. The memories flood in at a slower pace then the fast chaotic speed at which they were happening in real time. You will smile as the visions of all the happy smiles come one by one with each moment that you replay in your mind. Knowing that as time goes by these memories will be stored away you can grin from ear to ear knowing the pictures you took will help bring them fresh on your mind to enjoy another day.

Have a Merry Christmas Everyone

May we all have a safe and Merry Christmas this year as well as "peace of mind" to help us face the challenges of the 21st century as we ring in the New Year. Treasure the moments you spend with family and friends this Holiday Season and be sure and take pictures because they will help you remember them as your memories fade. Christmas comes just once a year and for some it is the only time that their familiy and friends are around so enjoy all the love and joy while you can.

You just feel it

When you find the perfect gift for someone you just feel it. Sometimes it is hard to wait for Christmas for them to open it. When that moment comes Christmas morning you can barely contain your smile as they begin to open your gift. Your eyes are focused on their face to see the excitement on their face as they see what treasure is inside. Suddenly you will both grin ear to ear and you see the same look and feeling in their eyes as you had when you found the perfect gift for them.

A stress free Holiday

Just Six days till Christmas. It's time to wrap up the last minute shopping and let the cleaning begin. As you tidy up the house and prepare your list for your Holiday meal be sure and put on some Christmas Music to keep your spirits bright as you sing along while you work. As the day draws near and the planning and hard work is done you will be able to sit back, relax and enjoy the Holiday fun. If you want to plan on a Stress Free Holiday then start now getting everything done so you will have nothing to stress about.

Occupy your mind

I tried to occupy my mind as I waited in the drive thru at my bank which was very long here just days before Christmas. I went over the gifts that I had gotten for others in my mind and it brought a smile as I thought of the bargains I had gotten this year and how it will bring them a smile from ear to ear. I went over the menu of our Holiday Meal. I could see it so vividly that my belly began to growl. I began thinking about the house filled with Family in their festive attire and the joy on their faces brings me a warm feeling.... then it was my turn at the teller.

Your greatest gift of all

As you add the ribbon and bow to each gift it becomes a decoration. When you put lights on the Christmas Tree it goes from forest green to a mesmorizing sparkly enchanted forest. As you shop for your Christmas meal that will warm their bellies you must not forget about the desserts that will melt in their mouth. Most of all as you gather to spend time with those you love make sure you arrive all holly and jolly to spread your gift of joy which will be your greatest gift of all.

That's not what Christmas is about

Buying things for people that they don't need nor do they want just because it is Christmas is NOT what Christmas is about. Going into debt to buy it means you can't afford to buy it and that makes it a burden on your finances and that is NOT what Christmas is about. Baking an extra pie or baking cookies and bringing it to someone will warm their bellies and their hearts NOW that is what Christmas is all about. Spreading the feeling of Christmas without giving till it hurts financially NOW that's what Christmas is about.

How many can you do in twelve days?

This Holiday Season see how many random acts of kindness you can do the last twelve days before Christmas. Write them down each day. Now I am not talking buy them something I mean open a door for someone, pick up something they drop or reach for a item too high for someone in a store. Give a compliment to a store clerk, a drink of water to your Lawn man or simply send them a smile as you pass by to hug their face as their natural instinct will be to smile back at you. Even not yelling at your family and friends when you want to scream you can write down and count as a random act of kindness cause it is.

For a kid of any age

It is beginning to look and feel like Christmas everywhere you go. Although the stores are crowded the bright colored jolly decorations and Christmas music playing softly helps you feel calm inside. What a joy it is to watch the faces of children light up with a glow as they walk around in amazement as they walk through the decorated stores. The adults shopping in the toy section for gifts (or so they say) are sure jolly as they get to push all the buttons and explore all the toys and let the kid in them come out and play without looking crazy. Christmas time is a jolly time for a kid of any age.

Open the lid and out comes the kid.

As I drag out all the Christmas boxes of decorations I think about all the hard work ahead that it will take to get it all up. As I lift the heavy containers I seem to wear myself out before I even open the first box and get started. Strangely enough though once I open the first lid and see all the bright happy colored treasures from out of no where I get so excited and full of energy. When I open the lid out comes the kid in me to play with all the musical toys and the joyful feeling gives me the energy to tear quickly through the boxes searching for all the treasures buried inside.

You don't have to.....

You don't have to be a doctor to make someone feel better..... Laughter is the best medicine and you can give it away without a degree. You don't have to be a mechanic to help a stranded motorist..... Help to change a tire or jumper cables may be all they need. You don't have to agree with someone in order to respect them...... We should simply agree to respect each others right to their own opinion. You don't have to be nice to anyone today..... But it sure would be nice if you were.

Slow down enough to enjoy it

Don't forget the most precious gift of the season is the moments you spend with others. Your Family will enjoy your company but strangers and those that we see as we hurry through our busy lives will be the most pleasantly surprised as you give them a moment of your time and your undivided attention to make them feel special to you by bringing them some Holiday Cheer. Tis the Season to Slow Down and enjoy the company of Family and Friends while they have Slowed Down enough to enjoy your company.

Bend like a pretzel

There are many steps you must take in life as you maneuver your way through your journey on the Roller Coaster of Life. Your journey will be full of ups and downs along the way. As you creep your way slowly at times be sure to catch your breath because just around the corner you will need the fresh oxygen as you turn a corner and find you will have to fly like the wind to keep up. Sometimes in Life you will have to stand tall to see where you are going and other times when the tallest object gets struck by lightning when you got to bend like a pretzel.

Bravo to the show

Bravo to the TV Show "What would you do?" for inspiring people to get involved when they see wrong doings happening. In today's society we have gotten in the habit of ignoring our Human Instincts when we see a problem to the point of becoming numb to them. This show has opened many peoples eyes to just how many people ignore the victims. If it was happening to you or someone you care about you would want someone to help. The more wrong doings are ignored the more acceptable the behavior becomes and that will make it more likely to happen to you.

You have narrowed your view

Everywhere you look you can see only what you choose to see no matter if it is surrounded by other things. It is easy to overlook the other things because you have narrowed your view so small that you can not see what is around you. No matter what door of opportunity opens up for you unless you look inside you will never know it even existed. Staying focused is important but if you look around with your eyes wide open as you go along you will open up the chances of opportunities that you might have otherwise missed. Opportunities are never lost they are taken by someone else.

If you want it make room for it

The only way to have "inner peace" is to make room for it in your mind. Clear out all the clutter that is taking up all the space and making no room fpr "peace of mind to get in. "Just Flush It" out of your mind. Relax and enjoy a quiet stress free moment of silence. Living a Healthy Lifestyle means more than what you eat and exercising it is important to maintain good Mental Health as well by what thoughts you choose to think about. "Peace Of Mind" is just a Flush away.

You must slow down to see

In the fast paced World we live in people tend to expect instant gratification and lose sight and patience as they quickly move on not waiting on things that just take time. They don't realize what they coulld have had because they are running around chasing the next thing. Anything worth having takes patience and hard work. You will have to slow down to see any opportunity and take a moment to explore the possibilities that the opportunity may offer. If you don't stop long enough to see an opportunity then you will miss out on an opportunity that could possibly help you. Opportunities are never lost they are taken by someone else.

Get in the Habit of Flushing It

Even the most optimistic people have to deal with a negative thought that streams in their mind but upon recognizing it as such they "JUST FLUSH IT" out of their mind at a quick glance before it can do any damage. It won't happen over night but you can get in the Habit of Flushing the negative thoughts as they pop up in your mind. Although the negative thought might keep popping up again and again you can get in the Habit of Flushing them as they come. You can't stop the negative thoughts from popping up but you can STOP and "Just Flush It" before it can do any damage.

Despite your best efforts

Sometimes no matter how hard you try there are some situations that there just can't be a positive outcome despite your best effort. At these times the only thing you can do is "Just Flush It" and move on. Everything happens for a reason and one day you will see that had it not been for the setbacks earlier you would not be where you are today. Sometimes the setbacks in your life were just a way to get you on the right path to be who you are and get you where you need to be.

Your first reaction

Your first reaction to a positive thought will be the most powerfully moving so to get the most positive outcome from it you should react quickly. The first reaction to a negative thought will also be it's most powerfully moving but if you react quickly out of anger it will bring you the most negative outcome. In this case you need to step back from the situation until your anger is gone.

By simply not spreading your anger

"Big things come in small packages" is the perfect description for the feeling that your small act of kindness will bring to the person you are kind to. A simple act of kindness can be all they need to flush away a bad day. Unfortunately the same is true for your actions done out of anger. Although they may seem to be harmless your actions to the person you inflict your anger on can do unnecessary damage that causes them to have a bad day. Sometimes your small act of kindness can be as simple as not spreading your anger on to others.

You worried for nothing

As the tension in your body begins to tighten when you are facing a stressful situation it squeezes tightly on your organs. If it is not a life or death situation then don't make it one. The damage to your body is done even when what you were stressing over turned out to be nothing to stress over. Don't worry about something until you have a reason to worry. You stress your heart out even if you worried for nothing.

Built in warning system

When you feel it in the pit of your stomach it is not always from gas. I hear people say all the time after the damage has been done that they just felt like it might not be the thing to do but they ignored the warning signals and did it anyway. If a person who was allergic to peanuts ate them knowing they shouldn't it would be dangerous. If you know deep down inside that you shouldn't do it then don't do it because it would be your built in warning system saying danger danger.

That is where you will stay

How on earth will you be able to see a light at the end of the tunnel if you don't unbury yourself from all the obstacles that are blocking your view? Anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt. If you don't look for a way to get out of any mess you may be in then the fact is you can't find a way out. You can not make it to your destination if you don't make the necessary turns in the road to get there. If you get to a dead end you can turn around or give up and that is where you will stay.

If at first you don't succeed

Once you decide that something won't work you will give up trying. If you have tried everything you can then you will know for sure it can't work. If you simply tried it one way and gave up then you can not say for sure that it won't work you can only say that you don't know that if you tried it a different way it might work. I am sure you fell the first time you tried to ride a bike but you knew that if you kept trying you would figure it out. If at first you don't succeed try and try again.

Know when to go with the flow

When you take the time to think about what your actions will bring you will clearly see that your first reaction to a situation that angered you would only cause the situation to get worse. Now don't get me wrong acting on a situation that is done out of passion or compassion for something or someone needs to happen because those spontaneous first reactions make athe biggest impact on what positive outcome that your actions will bring. The old saying "You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them and when to walk away" in this case it is best said "Know when to stop and think about it and when to go with the flow."

The "big problems" get smaller

There are many "big problems" that we face that they can seem impossible to have a positive outcome. People want to help but they feel the problem is so big that their small help won't affect it. That is simply not true. Every small act in the right direction gets us closer to a solution As each small act makes the "big problem" smaller and eventually it gets small enough that it is easy to solve. Your small act will have a big positive impact on the person you help.

Clear out the clutter

You know how it feels when your desk is cluttered with papers making it impossible to find what you need? The effort it takes to keep it straightened up is far less time then you are spending looking for it now. You will also benefit by taking the time to get in the habit of clearing out the negative thoughts from your mind by flushing them away that "peace of mind" will be easy to find. "Peace of mind" is just a Flush away.

They can only hear if their ears are open

If you want to inspire someone don't start off telling them all their faults. If they feel personally attacked your "words of wisdom" that follows they will not hear because they have quit listening. Start with your "words of wisdom" that get their attention and they will open their minds as well as their ears and possibly be inspired by you. If you want to make a positive difference then keep the conversation positive. There will only be a negative impact if they only hear your negative comments. While their ears are open they will hear you. Don't let the only thing they hear be a list of their faults.

What you had will be gone

Don't abandon your common sense and bet that some too good to be true idea will be worth giving up the little but stable plan you have now. You know deep down that if it is too good to be true then it usually isn't true. Dreams can't be had by falling in your lap they will take hard work and determination to not abandon your plan as you work through all the trials and errors it will take to reach your dream. Don't risk what you have to chase what doesn't exist because what you had won't be there when you give up the chase.

You failed to get up and try again

When you find yourself lost after all that you tried has failed you will just have to regroup your thoughts from all the hard painful lessons you have learned and find a different way to get a sucessful result. If you simply give up then it will not be because you failed at what you tried but because you failed to get up and try again. Many great ideas that we see as necessities today had many failed attempts along the way but it is available today because they failed to give up until they were sucessful.

You wouldn't have taken that Path

Anything worth having in life takes hard work. What if you just gave up everytime something was hard to do? You not only need to make a plan on how to get the job done but you must plan on doing the hard work that it will take to get it done. It may not seem like you are getting too far at times when it seems that you take one step forward and fall two steps back but could you imagine how far back you would be if you didn't take a step at all? There will come a time when the hard work is done that you will look back and say had you not fallen you wouldn't have taken that Path that led you where you are.

Somebody has to do it

If it is up to you then what are you going to do about it? There are just some things in life that are not going to get done unless you do it and if it is important to you then you are just going to have to figure it out or it won't get done. The sooner you accept that it is up to you then you won't be waiting for someone else to do it and the sooner it will get done. It may be a dirty job but somebody has got to do it.

So you won't get knocked down

Sometimes you have to get knocked down before you see trouble coming. There are many curves and boulders in life that if you don't open your eyes to see that they are there then you will hit them head on. You can not be so busy thinking about what could've, should've and would've happenned in your life if you are gonna stand firmly so you can pay attention to what is happening now. If you focus on where you are and where you are going in life then you will bend with the curves and go around the boulders in life and you won't get knocked down.

It starts with a positive attitude

When your mind is clogged with thoughts that are so negative you can not have a positive outlook. If you want a positive outcome you will have to Flush out the negative thoughts so there will be room for the positive ones to get in. You would not know if it was day or night outside if you could not see outside. When you clear your mind it will open up your mind to explore new positive ones. A positive outcome starts with a positive attitude that you get from positive thoughts.

Hobbies help relieve stress

Getting involved in a Hobby will help relieve stress which will make you a more pleasant person to be around. It will make you feel young again by bringing out the kid in you. Hobbies help distract you from your everyday routine and allow you to fully get ingulfed in something that you do just for your own enjoyment. It's like oxygen to your soul. You may not have much time or money to spare but a Hobby can cost little to nothing. Even couponing is a Hobby and it pays you to do it. Writing can be fulfilling and fishing merely takes a pole. Make something you are passionate about a Hobby.

"PEACE OF MIND" is just a flush away

If you want to feel refreshed and have a clear mind then you clearly need to not let the negative thoughts that are weighing you down to stay fresh on your mind. If you would make room in your mind by flushing out all the clutter then you will have a fresh clear mind where you can feel refreshed. Don't let your mind get so full of negative thoughts that the positive ones don't have room to get in. "Peace of Mind" is just a flush away.

Grab on to a good one

You need to get in the habit of only choosing to think about the thoughts that make you feel good. If you spend all your time thinking about the thoughts that bring on the negative emotions such as anger, fear, pain and sadness then that is all you will be able to feel. You won't be so stressed out all the time if you didn't keep thoughts that stress you out fresh on your mind all the time. You choose how you will feel by the thoughts you choose to think about. Learn to flush the bad thoughts out of your mind and grab on to a good thought and you will smile inside and out, it is your choice.

From this day forward

When things are not working out for you in your personal life you need to step back so you can regroup and get back to the necessary things in your life that matter most and start there. Now set your personal standards that will determine every choice you make from this day forward. It's a New Day and the start of a New Life so don't bring any of the "crap" you don't need that has been weighing you down.

Moments that you can't relive

Don't be in such a hurry for the next phase of your life that you miss out on everything that happens in your life while you are living it because those are moments that you can not relive. Planning for the future is necessary for future enjoyment but it is also important to plan on enjoying every moment that you can while you can. If it makes you happy then soak it up and enjoy it while the feeling is there to enjoy. Don't miss out on all the little things in life while you are working on that big thing in your future that you will enjoy one day.

Immediately Change Directions

Imagine you are the owner of the Company and you had invested all your money and time to secure your future and it begins to fail. You would have two choices. one close the doors or two figure out what you are doing wrong that lead you down and change it immediately. In your personal life you are the owner and in order to secure your future you will have to keep on track by immediately changing directions if you see anything that will lead you off track while on life's journey.

A grudge will only raise your blood pressure

Forgivness is not something that you do to make someone else "feel at ease." Letting go of the issue by forgiving someone who has done you wrong will be something you do for yourself. You will feel a weight lifted off of you and you will feel refreshed and at ease. Holding a grudge raises your blood pressure and simply allows you to be hurt over and over again. Some things may be hard to forgive but untill you do it will keep doing damage while it weighs heavy on your mind. Minimize the damage by forgiving those who have done you wrong so you will be strong enough to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Five, three, two, it's done

Let's say there are five issues that you are dealing with that are weighing heavy on your mind but only two you can solve at the moment. Take care of the two that you can so that you can clear your mind of them and now you are only facing three issues. Now lets say one of those can't be dealt with so you can take that off your list leaving only two issues to deal with. Now that you are not so overwhelmed you can focus on "thing 1" and "thing 2." You will then be able to clearly see how to get them done and you will be left with room for "peace of mind."

Make two list

Don't overwhelm yourself by making your "to do" list so long. Make two list, one for the important things that really need done and one for if you have time you would like to get done. Keep things as simple as you can so that you do not make things harder than they have to be. If you simply need to get the garbage out of your car then don't write clean and vacuum the car on your list, just simply bag up the garbage and mark it off your list. When you simply don't have time to get everything done that you want to do you will simply have to be happy with getting done what's most important to you.

The key to unlock the secret

I don't quite understand how some people see the glass half full while others see it as half empty. Without a doubt I believe that if I could figure out the answer it is the key to unlock th secret to happiness. How you see things will determine whether you have inner peace by focusing on what you do have or you have inner turmoil being stressed out over what you don't have. Figuring out the key to changing someones "point of view" sounds easy but it is almost impossible. Until they open their eyes to see things from another "point of view" they won't see clearly and they will only see the glass half full.

An hour can make a difference

Most peoples lives are so busy that it is just too hard to make solid plans to devote any regularly scheduled moments for themselves. You will have to take advantage of those few and far between times where you can squeeze in whatever time you have, whenever you can. You would be surprised how much an hour here or there can help. For those who at times don't get even a chance to breathe, an hour can make all the difference in the world. When time for yourself is so precious make every moment you get be devoted to personally finding a way for you to relax even if it is to get a job done that you had no time to get done.

Look with your eyes wide open

If you can't imagine it then you won't see what it would be like. Seeing is believing. Your "point of view" is all you can see therefore it will be your reality. If you don't have a dream then your dream will never come true. If you don't believe you can do something then you won't try to do it. If you don't look with your eyes wide open as you go through lifes journey then you will not see the curves and boulders that will naturally be in your path. You will hit trouble head on. With your eyes wide open you would see trouble coming and you could go around it.

There's a big difference

There is a big difference between talking about the "problems you had" and talking about the "problems you have." It may seem like only a few letters difference in each phrase but there is a big difference. If you spend all your time and energy complaining about the "problems you have" then you are wasting your energy that you should be using to fix each problem as it comes so that you can relax while you talk about how you fixed the "problems that you had." Don't fill your mind with an overwhelming amount of stuff that needs done, just get up and get 'r done so that you can "Just Flush It" off your list and relax now that you fixed the "problems that you had."

Throw them in a box

When you are older you realize not only how precious memories are but how few you really remember. Pictures truly help you recall and enjoy those memories that are locked deep inside your mind. It is funny how at one glance at an old picture you can suddenly pull up the memory so vividly that you can feel the emotions as if you were transported back to that time. Without a picture or someone who was there with you bringing it up you may never recall that moment at all. Take pictures now that even if you just throw them in a box for 20 years or so there will come a time when you will treasure the precious memories that could otherwise be a forgotten memory.

Have your Family Reunion at the store

A trip to an Antique Store is similar to a Family Reunion. As you spot the lamp that your Aunt and Uncle had you begin to reminisce about memories of times you had spent there much like you would if you would see them evoking all those same kind of memories. As you stroll through the store there will be other relatives that items bring up buried memories of, usually crystal clear despite how forgetful you are in real time. Try it sometime. When you find yourself with a few moments to spare stop by an Antique Store or second hand shop and see how many relatives you can have a Family Reunion with.

You must stop long enough to see

Don't be in such a hurry all the time because the best things in life can not be felt unless you stop long enough to see them to feel the joy that it could bring. If you never have time to enjoy the little things in life then you won't be able to enjoy the big ones either. Take the time to stop and smell the roses or to feel the breeze blow away the tension to help you feel refreshed. Enjoying the simple little joys in life will help energize you to help you deal with the bigger issues you may have to face later. Slow down. Running around all the time like a chicken with his head cut off won't allow you to see anything at all.

The beauty that lies within the storm

As I sat in my car during an unexpected severe thunder storm, the sound of the raindrops were so loud on the roof of my car that they were almost painful to my eardrums. The power of Nature was apparent as the thunder shook not only my car but I could feel my organs quiver deep inside. The patterns and ripples from the giant raindrops were a work of Art that changed as each round of drops splattered and ran down the windshield. At times the raindrops fell in perfectly aligned geometrical patterns as each new line of raindrops fell the last row drips away. If you get caught in such a storm try to focus on the pattern of raindrops to distract you and find the relaxing beauty that lies even within a severe thunder storm.

Look for It

What you are looking for will determine what you will find. How you see things will determine what you will see. If you look with your eyes wide open you will see things clearly and that will clearly be what you see. If your view is too narrow it will determine what you will be able to see. If you don't look for It then you won't find It. What are you looking for? When you find yourself dealing with so many negative issues you can find relief by focusing on finding even the smallest positive aspect. It will distract you while you are looking long enough to ease your stress and take a deep breath.

Whatever you decide

Whether it is a vacation or a career in life all the way down to even the simple choices like what to wear or what to eat for dinner each day you must decide before you can get the task done. As long as you know where you want to go you will know which direction to take that will lead you where you want to go. One decision will lead to yet another decision but that is the only way you will get wherever you decided that you wanted to go. You can't make the right decision till you make a decision.

Answers that can never be found

We all have times when there just are no answers to the questions we want answered. Nor can everything that you have a question about be found on Google either. You will have to just accept that it is what it is and no matter how hard we try things just happen, that's just Life and Life isn't always fair. Winning in life means you found a way to enjoy Life despite all that you had to live through. You simply managed to live Life to it's fullest while you were living not spend it searching for answers that can never be found.

Seen only at a glance

A quick glance can say a lot. In an instant it lets someone know how you feel without uttering a word. Your facial expression mimics and contours to shout out just how you feel. The old saying "A picture is worth a thousand words" is true. Think about what your face is saying with those you make eye contact with. Make sure the picture others have of you is the words you truly wish to say. No matter what anyone says 'Words Do Hurt" even silent words seen only at a glance.

A perfectly good outcome

You can't wait for the "perfect moment" or you will miss the "moment of opportunity" that would have lead you to the "perfectly good" outcome that you were searching for. We all have heard the old saying "If it sounds too good to be true then it isn't true", yet we miss out on our opportunities in life letting them go by because we are waiting for the "perfect opportunity" to fall in our laps. What you need could be right in front of you but you will never see it if you are only looking for the "perfect anything" because it doesn't exist. Don't miss out on the "perfectly good" things in life.

At the end of the day

At the end of the day you alone will have to live with the consequences for your actions that day. Don't let anyone or anything cause you to react without having time to think about the consequences that your actions can bring before choosing how to react. You will make better choices if you just take a moment to see what your choices will bring. Consider it an investment in a brighter future. You wouldn't risk your money without considering all the options so you don't lose your investment and the reward for a brighter future is priceless. Invest the time it takes because at the end of the day you will have to live with the consequences.

What you put into your home

Your Home is not a reflection of the situations or the people you encounter outside the four walls of your home. It is the garden that is grown from the seeds in your soul. The old saying "you reap what you sow" is so true. what you put into your home will determine what is and what is not inside your four walls. Don't invite trouble in. If you want a happy Home then make it a happy place to be. The reality is that your "point of view" is your reality. A Home is what you make it and your "point of view" will determine what kind of Home you make.

Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill

Throwing your hands in the air and giving up when times are tough will only make things worse. Whatever is going to happen will simply pile up and become a mountain of problems. Tackling things as they come will keep them from becoming a mountain of despair. There is an old saying...."Anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt"... Don't let things that you can get done get added to the things that you can not solve or the mole hills that you must face on life's journey will turn into a mountain of problems that is too big to climb.

Stormy situations shall too pass

As the storm rolled in you could hear the thunder and see the lightning at a distance. There is no way to prevent the storm from coming, all we can do is locate the flashlights and huddle down for a stormy night. When the storm passes you deal with the damages as you recover being thankful that your still able to huddle together when the sunshine returns. In your personal life there are such stormy situations that cause some damage but your future will be bright after that stormy situation shall too pass.

Relax while you are relaxing

When you sit down to take a break to relax make sure to relax. Don't use that time to think of all the things that need to get done or the issues you may be facing. You need a break from those things that weigh heavy on your mind to truly relax. When you find time to relax make sure to use that time to mentally and spiritually relax as well as physically relax. Give yourself a true break every now and again to prevent it from breaking down to get one.

You won't be distracted

There are things that just happen to you that if you learn to deal with in a "Humorous Way" they do less damage. Most of the time you can easily shake your head and say "what the heck" and move on if you just let it go so that you can move on. "Just Flush It" out of your mind as fast as it comes when it has no effect on the "Big Picture" in your life. Don't keep it fresh on your mind because then it will have a chance to have a negative impact on the "Big Picture" in your life. Stay focused on only what is most important in life and you won't be distracted by those things that are not.

It takes an imagination

Every young child I know loves to play with an empty box, ignoring the gift that was once inside. It seems to be a natural instinct. Once they start playing with electronic toys they don't use their imagination anymore and creativity simply means how creative they can get to convince their parents to buy them another new game. You must be creative to get through things throughout your life, that is how you solve each problem as you face it. Find creative ways to get your children to use their imagination so that they will be able to creatively solve their problems when they are grown.

The forgotten Aquarium

When I was growing up you would always find a Fish Aquarium in every type of Doctor's Office. I had forgotten about that until we recently bought a 55 gallon aquarium for our home. The sound of the filter combined with the sight of the plants and rocks as well as the peaceful movement of all the fish totally relaxes you from the inside out. You don't see them in waiting rooms these days, perhaps we would all benefit by a waiting room full of peaceful patients around us and we can convince our Doctors office that they would benefit by getting an Aquarium. Perhaps we should all have one in our homes.

Now they appreciate it

Now that my children are grown I still buy them things they need but now they appreciate it and what they need cost twice as much. Picking up what I can allows them to be able to make their money stretch further getting everything else they may need. In this economy there are millions more just like my kids who could benefit from the sale items that could be as simple as jumbo toilet paper and such household items that they wouldn't run out of to help them out each pay day for a month or so. Try using coupons to get items for free and surprise someone with the items. They will appreciate it.

Break free from your past

If you let the memories from your past be all that you think about then you will not have time to create new positive memories. You can't let go of the painful memories if you keep them fresh on your mind. Break free from your past so you will be free to dream about how to enjoy everyday. It's a New Day don't waste it thinking about yesterday. Your past should not define you it should merely guide you in the right direction so your future can be brighter. What is done is done unless you keep reliving it putting yourself through it over and over again. "Just Flush It" out of your mind to minimize the damage.

Your backyard is a jungle

When you are bored try going outside and seeing how many different bugs you can find in a 10 minute span in your own backyard. I started a Bug Box for my grandson like I had with my children. After a couple of weeks of preserving them and putting them in our display box, we were surprised by the variety that lives outside in our yard. Now you know that you better always be on guard because you know there is a Jungle of fierce looking creatures that could climb up your leg.

It begins at home

If you want your children to have hope for a brighter future then don't trash their hopes and dreams when they are young. If you want happy kids you will have to be happy when you are with them. If you want to have a good relationship when they are grown you must build a good relationship with them when they are young. If you want them to be kind and compassionate adults remember it begins at home by raising them starting at birth to be kind and show compassion for others.

There is a difference

There is a difference between living and being alive. There is a difference between dealing with a struggle you must face and still struggling with it after it has been dealt with. There is a difference between what you want and what you need. How you deal with life as it comes can make all the difference in the world. Your "point of view" is your reality. How you see things will determine what you see. What you see will determine how you will react. There is a difference between a good outcome and a bad outcome to your situation and seeing things clearly will clearly make all the difference.

A relationship worth keeping

When someone you care about reacts angrily don't respond with anger or you double the chances of damaging a relationship worth keeping. The best thing to do is walk away and minimize the damage. Unfortunately stress levels are high for everyone even your family and friends in these tough times we live in and a simple sarcastic remark can spark a real feud. When they have had time to think about what they have said they will make sure it doesn't happen again. A mistake happens once it is a habit if you repeat it.

It's not contagious

We all know someone who has lost their home and have had to start over in a new town. If they move to your town please help them feel welcomed. Their financial mess is not contagious and most of the time it was due to no fault of their own. Helping them plant themselves firmly in your town will help build community unity in your town. We all benefit when they are stable enough to stand on their own as they will stand beside us to tackle any issue that everyone in the community faces.

Get back on track

As the weather outside goes from flooding one week to dangerous high temperatures the next week, we must keep adjusting to make do the best we can. As we personally face storms from one extreme to the other we must also adjust and bend like a pretzel at times to get through them. We quickly forget about the flooding and what it took to get through it when we become busy dealing with the extreme heat. When the heatwave passes we don't think about it, it is gone and we are thankful that we are back on track. Personally we need to deal with each issue and move on focusing only on the next issue and be thankful that you are back on track. "Just Flush It" as it comes.

A customer today could be your boss tomorrow

This economy has cost many people their jobs. My friend recently trained a new employee who was her boss who had trained her at the business that had closed their doors. Be kind to your employees and customers today because tomorrow you may need a job from them. This is a positive lesson that makes being kind and compassionate even for selfish reasons a good thing. It will help bring compassion back into the World.

To restore Humanity

We need to get back to the good old fashioned way of doing some things to restore Humanity. The first should be honesty. It use to be "A man is only as good as his word" and a simple hand shake would seal the deal. Nowadays they say "Don't believe a word you hear", and even if you get it in writing it doesn't mean a thing. It is better to tell someone an honest No then to say Yes knowing you really mean No Way, that is not OK. Just as you decide whether to eat a hamburger or a pizza for dinner you decide whether to be honest or not.

Free to be who you want to be

As you celebrate this Independence Day remember that Freedom was not free it came at a price. Remember those who serve to protect that freedom and those who sacrificed their life for it. As Americans we are too Blessed to be depressed. Break free from your worries and celebrate Independence Day with the freedom to enjoy life. You are free to be who you want to be, now it is up to you to be the best you can be.

Don't invite trouble in

You can not just let the same people knock you down over and over again. It does not matter who they are. You need to surround yourself with only those who allow you to be yourself and enjoy life while you are living even if that means that you will be alone. It is better to be swimming alone then surrounded by sharks. Your four walls within your home can withstand the "Big Bad World" we live in as long as you stand strong and not let the "Big Bad Wolves" that knock on your door inside. Don't invite trouble into your life and you will have less trouble to deal with.

"Just Flush It" and carry on

Even when you have done all you can there are times when you will fail but don't fail yourself and stay down. "Just Flush It" and carry on. Even if you don't get everything you want you can get up and regroup and still get everything you need. "It's OK to sit on your pity-potty every now and again just be sure and flush when you are done." In today's society we all have had things done or said to us that without a doubt we didn't deserve and we could place blame for the problems we are facing but knowing who or what to blame will not fix your problems. Keeping them fresh on your mind will only let it hurt you over and over again. Minimize the damage by learning from it what you need to then "Just Flush It" out of your mind.

They feel no shame

Sometimes I just want to scream "What the heck is wrong with people." People seem to have become almost non Human. Not to mention how selfish and angry they are all the time; they feel no compassion, no shame, and they feel no guilt for the inhumane treatment of others that they cause. Even though I know that it means they will never be able to feel true pride or joy either, it is no punishment for them either because they are not Human enough to care. Show therefore teach the habit of Compassion to plant seeds of Humanity wherever, whenever, and to whomever you can to replace the insanity we see in society.

There is no punishment for the crime

Although what's right or wrong may be clear it is not clear why far too many people get away and seem to prosper by doing the wrong things. The saying "crime doesn't pay" applies to legal issues but morally there seems to be no punishment for the crime of being morally wrong or ethically wrong and they get away with deceiving other people which allows them to legally get away with profiting from it. Your character and your reputation use to decide your fate in life, nowadays there are all kinds of characters that are ruining the reputation of compassion that Humans are known for that are deciding your fate in life.

The "Peter Pan Syndrome"

Looking back at what I thought "grown-up" life would be like when graduating high school, I see just how far off I was. Throughout time since then I have learned the truth and I have seen more than enough to know that your age is only part of being "grown-up." The other part is whether you choose to act like a "grown-up." We all can see the philosophy of Peter Pan and not wanting to grow up but far too many people are acting as if they are still young causing unnecessary consequences for other grown ups. We all end up paying the price for those who have the "Peter Pan Syndrome."

Start by looking out for each other

It is not as simple as feeling safe as long as you watched your back these days. Nowadays it's dangerous not only 360 degrees around you but things seem to fall from the sky and the ground crumbles beneath your feet. What the heck? Perhaps since it seems to be happening to everyone we can band together and start looking out for each other, knowing that "United We Stand" is the only way any of us will be able to stand on our own. It is hard for any of us to thrive and grow wherever you may live when we get attacked from every angle every step of the way. If we would start by looking out for each other then the outlook for the future is good.

It would only take one generation

If each adult would make sure that they show therefore teach compassion to every child and young adult that they come in contact with throughout life it would take only one generation to plant enough positive seeds in the World to make a positive difference in the tone in society. A child learns from those around them and the environment they live in. It teaches them what is expected and accepted in society. It will determine the standards and morals that they live by as a human being. If your own family or those around you are unreachable then reach out and spread positive seeds in another family.

It is up to you

If you don't do what it takes to get where you need to be then don't say "You Can't." If you don't work to get what you need then don't get mad when you don't get it. If you don't do something to reach your goal then you will never reach it. If all you do is sit around and complain about your problems then your problems will never get resolved. If you want any kind of results you will have to do something. It is up to you to do what you need to get done what you need done so just get up and "get 'r done."

Make the necessary adjustments

Well it seems as if there is no end to the unfortunate circumstances that we are sometimes put in through no fault of our own. In a hectic World it is a struggle to have "peace of mind." You must flush it as it comes or it will clog up your mind allowing no room for "inner peace" to have any chance of getting in. If the situation or the people causing you stress can be eliminated all together then by all means you should flush them out of your mind and out of your life immediately. If for some reason they are a necessary part of your life then make the necessary adjustments to make it work.

You don't give till it hurts

If you keep bailing other people out while you financially get sunk yourself you will only sink and they will still sink after you no longer are able to bail them out. Make sure you are stable and anchored and only give what you can without sacrificing what you need for yourself. If you have to give up what you need to give to another then it should be a no brainier. You don't give till it hurts you give what you can without hurting yourself. Take care of you first then if you can and only if you can you will be able to help them if you want to.

Save your energy

The weight of the burdens you are facing today are overwhelming but if you try to carry around the weight of your painful past or past mistakes also then it will weigh you down. Lighten your load by letting go of your past that is weighing heavy on your mind by learning to "Just Flush It" out of your mind. What is done is done. It is what it is. Learn from it what you need to then "Just Flush It." It only happened once yet you have lived through it over and over again by thinking about it over and over again. Minimize the damage by not reliving it in your mind, "Just Flush It" and save your energy for the battles you are facing today.

Think before you hit send

If you write it in black and white whether by text, e-mail, tweets, or face book message it will be in permanent ink. Take the time to think about that before you hit send. You can not deny it nor take it back when it is etched in cyberspace stone with permanent ink. You can't hide it from anyone and anyone has the right to and they will use it against you. "Be careful what you say" takes on a whole new meaning when you say it in writing with permanent ink. Think about it before you hit send.

It raises your blood pressure

There is a limit to the amount of stress that each one of us can handle before we collapse. Many people have been brought down by being under too much stress that they just can't think straight and their decisions under stress only make matters worse. Eliminate any stress you can and avoid stressful situations. Don't let the simple things like being caught in traffic, or not having enough time in your day to get everything done, nor a simple bad hair day be added to your stresses in life that you must face. Too much stress can lead to Instant Cardiac Arrest by literally squeezing the life out of you. If it isn't a life or death situation then don't make it one by raising your blood pressure and risk Sudden Death by worrying about it.

If only it was that easy

It seems like such a simple thing to just simply always be treated fairly. Why is it then that so many of us are treated so unfairly? If we all simply treated others as we would want to be treated then we would all be able to count on fair treatment that would simply make life a little more simpler in these hectic times we are living in. Not knowing what to expect makes your stress level rise which puts a tremendous strain on your body causing permanent damage physically even if what you were so stressed out over never happened. Imagining the worse stresses your mind, body, and soul so don't get stressed out until it is a fact that you must deal with it.

Ease your mind

When you have had enough worries on your mind that you can't eat or sleep then you know for a fact that mental stress causes physical problems. It is not healthy or wise to worry that much that you make yourself physically sick. Anything you can easily flush out of your mind that doesn't matter in "the big picture" in your life will be a healthy choice. The only way to eliminate stress from your life is to decide what you really need to stress over that really matters and the rest you "Just Flush It" out of your mind and then you will have less to stress over. One thought at a time you will ease your mind.

It's all worth it

It may seem like your hard work is not getting you anywhere but it has kept you from falling two steps back with each dilemma you have faced. There are many obstacles that you will encounter but as long as you work hard to go around them to stay on track and you stay focused on where you need to go then eventually you will get there. If you turn around in anger every time a boulder gets dropped in your path in life then you will never reach your goal. Don't give up when the going gets tough and although it may feel like your not doing enough, when all the hard work is done you'll see that it was all worth it. If you want a life worth living it takes hard work.

From endangered species to being extinct

Common sense, common decency, and common courtesy are not very common these days. Instead we commonly see wrong doings and unfair treatment has become acceptable therefore common occurrences. It has become rare to see acts of kindness and highly unlikely that a helping hand will be there to catch any of us if we fall. You are more likely to get kicked when you are down. Act now before Human Compassion turns from it's current state of an endangered species to being extinct. Show therefore teach basic Human Compassion whenever, wherever, and to whomever you can.

Karma will make a difference

Karma can make all the difference in the world. It will either bite you in the butt or it will cushion your fall. I have seen those who are always flowing good karma still get knocked down so it won't prevent you from being knocked down but it will keep you from staying down. Life is a roller coaster full of ups and downs and Good Karma will be your seat belt that will keep you safe and bring you "peace of mind" on your journey through life. Don't think that just because there are other people who's karma deserves to bite them in the butt yet they haven't been bitten that karma doesn't matter. They will one day get what they deserve, it just hasn't happened yet.

Life is full of curves

When a dangerous storm is about to hit many people prepare way in advance so they will have the basics they need. In their personal life they ignore what they know is coming as if they think pretending they don't see it will somehow allow them to avoid it. If you see trouble coming get out of the way! If you simply ignore it you will hit it head on and be knocked down. If you get thrown a boulder as you go through life's path just acknowledge that it is there and walk around it cause pretending that it ain't there won't be possible when your path to where you want to be is blocked. Your path in life may be full of curves but it is the only way to get where you need to be.

Step back and get the facts

How you see things will determine the outcome. Your "point of view" will be your reality. You will react to what you believe is happening even if it is not. It is important to see things clearly and not react on negative emotions. Step back to get the facts before your "point of view" clouds your judgement. You must look at every situation with your eyes wide open or you will close the doors that may open for you in the future.

Feel the wind

As I am sitting here watching the wind blow through the leaves I am reminded of an old song called "The answer is blowing in the wind." With all the senseless killings happening all around me a line from the song comes to mind. It was...."How many deaths will it take till we learn that too many people have died.....the answer my friend is blowing in the wind." One innocent death should open our eyes to make a change. If people will slow down instead of always rushing through their day and just stop to feel the wind blow against their skin the answers will be found as they are blowing in the wind.

Enjoy what you already have

Sometimes the only answer you can find to a question is that there is no answer at all. Not all questions you may have can be answered on Google. What works for someone else may not work for you. No relationship or solution may be exactly what you expected but it can be acceptable and do-able for you. Quit looking for the perfect anything and you will learn to be happy with everything you already have.

Reward those who work hard

There are so many people who look for something or someone to blame for their circumstances and unfortunately they never realize therefore they never deal with nor accept their own personal responsibilities that lead to their circumstances. It always amazes me that those are the individuals who get all the help from others. It's as if they are rewarded for creatively inventing reasons why it is not their fault. Those individuals who accept responsibility and work hard to better their circumstances are not offered any help nor rewarded for their valiant effort. Let's reward and assist those who are working hard to get ahead and they will be able to stand on their own beside us not be dragged down in spite of their hard work.

Don't let dishonesty be accepted

It use to be a true statement that you get what you pay for. Nowadays no matter how much you pay you get ripped off. Store owners use to go out of their way to make sure their customers were happy because they didn't want their reputation ruined and ruin their business. Nowadays businesses can get away with anything because there are no standards that business's follow and they stay busy enough with bad reputations. Doing business with someone who you know is dishonest is giving them your approval therefore making it acceptable and OK.

What can you do?

You may have a lot of compassion for others but can anyone see it or benefit from it? I am not talking about a financial benefit just a kind gesture or a kind word when you can. There are times when just knowing that someone understands your struggles or a warm smile to distract them for a brief second can help. Teach those around you to have compassion for others to spread seeds of Humanity to replace the inhumane treatment we see spreading like an epidemic in Society. Do what you can do to make them smile.

Moral rules should out trump loop holes

Sometimes it seems that a guarantee means they guarantee they will find a way to not give you any guarantee. We simply need to start demanding that if it Morally should be guaranteed then there is no way to get out of what you guarantee. Moral rules should out trump any loop hole no matter how creatively designed to sound justified. Use a company (therefore your vote) that you know won't jump through hoops to get out of standing behind their product or services so they can stay in business or all we will be left with is a Bully who doesn't set standards that they will morally stand by.

A "jump start" may be all they need

If you buy a tire or a starter for someone to get their car on the road you will help in a way they appreciate as if you had bought them a new car. A kind fairly inexpensive gift to "jump start" them will be a gift that is priceless to getting not only their car but their life back on track. Most people only need a "jump start" to get set to face life's journey but without it they are stuck in a rut. Don't underestimate how you can impact someone with spending little to nothing.Your old lawnmower to someone who doesn't have one or just simply opening a door for someone who is struggling with their hands full will be appreciated more than you will ever know. Help "jump start" someone today.

Somethings duct tape can't fix

When you have a problem it is a natural response to look for the quickest solution possible. Putting a band aid on a cut that needs stitches is a temporary fix till you can see a doctor. Personally you may be putting band aids on things that need a more permanent solution. There are just somethings that quick fixes won't help for long. Take the time and energy to fix it so that it will not be a problem you will have to deal with down the road. Somethings duct tape can't fix and it will require you to seek out a permanent solution.

It's becoming an epidemic

If people would not let their anger boil over and spew on everyone and anyone that they come in contact with then anger wouldn't spread so rapidly becoming an epidemic. The anger you take out on others causes a domino effect as they (out of frustration) pass it on to those around them. It won't make you feel any better so why would you spew it on to others? Leave your frustration behind you and let the happiness from others spew on you and push your anger out of your mind.

Gas is not always the problem

I often wander when people say "I knew that was gonna happen" then why did they do it then? It is amazing to think that they knew deep down that it would turn out bad yet they chose to do it anyway. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again the same way and expect a different result. There was a time when someone who had a GUT FEELING did not question it they took it as a warning and walked away. We seem to be so worried about someone telling us what we can or can not do that we don't even listen to ourselves and we do it anyway. Stomach pains are not always Gas they are a WARNING.

Your "Words of Wisdom"

The WORLD won't get better on it's own, we all must do our part. What would you say to someone if they were listening that would make a positive difference in their life? What traditions or lessons would you like to share to help them in a positive way? I would love to read any answers you may have. Please send them to: Billie Bob P.O. BOX 1493 Middleburg, Florida 32050

Whenever, wherever, and to whomever

Remember the old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all"? It seems as if the people we interact with today either they didn't pay attention or never heard it at all. Nasty comments seem to spew out of their mouths as fast as it pops in their mind. We must all do our part to bring back basic compassion whenever, wherever, and to whomever we can. By showing therefore teaching others to be kind, considerate, and compassionate. We can plant seeds of Humanity to one day replace the inhumane treatment of others that we see has spread like an epidemic through society.

knocked down by unnecessary battles

There are some things that are worth fighting for and some things that are just not worth fighting for. If it is important enough to fight for then as long as you don't quit when the going gets tough then you will succeed. If it doesn't matter in the "big picture" for your future then you need to walk away to save your time and energy for what really matters. Fighting an uphill battle is hard enough without being held up or knocked down by unnecessary battles along the way. Lighten your load by letting go of things from your past that are weighing heavy on your mind.

Stand up or you will get knocked down

If no one is held accountable for their actions then they can do whatever they want. If we want to be able to count on being treated honestly and fairly then we must insist that those who are not are held accountable for their actions. Setting standards is a start but if they are not followed nor expected to be upheld and there are no consequences when they are not met then in the end you will be standing alone. Stand up for what is right and insist that everyone is treated fairly before one day you are the one that will get knocked down.

Not what I expected

Nowadays it seems as if the phrase "Justice For All" is not always the case. My husband calls me a dreamer when I always expect to get treated fairly and when I don't I get extremely hurt personally. It is as if I am expected to always expect to be treated unethically and deal with it. I know that very clearly we all get "tinkled on and poohed in" throughout life that is how I came up with the message behind "Just Flush It." There is just No Way I should have to expect every interaction with every Human being that I will be treated inhumane and just have to accept it. We should expect and only accept "Justice For All" then that is what We will get.

Raises your chances of being a victim

If you needed help would there be anyone to help? If you saw someone who needed help would you help them? If you help others when you can then in return they may help you or someone in need of a helping hand. In society today it seems as if not only have we lost the human compassion and instinctively jump in to help when we see others being treated badly but in our everyday lives we at times treat other people as if we had no human feelings at all. If everybody walks by and they don't step in to help the victim it turns a crime into an everyday occurrence that will raise your chances of being a victim.

Investment for the future

Helping someone when they are down on their luck is an investment for the future by creating a positive tone in society. We all benefit from the "peace of mind" that you give them that they pass on to others as they are able to now flow through each day with a smile of relief. Even a small positive gesture as simple as a smile can catch them off guard and distract them from the stress on their mind enough to relax them as your smile hugs their face causing them to smile spontaneously. Those you help today will help others in return causing a domino effect spreading seeds of humanity in society that we all reap the harvest from.

They wear a camouflage

When you look into their eyes you just might see their soul trapped inside. Although their words and actions may not reveal any clues to who they are deep down in their soul their eyes are the window to see just who they really are. You can not always judge a book by it's cover when it comes to people because to protect themselves emotionally they wear a camouflage. Under their hard shell is someone waiting to feel safe enough to come out. Their shell was built from layer after layer they had to put on throughout life to protect their inner self.

Silent words of Wisdom

Just listening will usually help those who already know they have a problem and for those who don't they won't benefit from your wisdom until they feel like you heard them and understand their problem. Sometimes people can figure out their own problems as they talk about it. It helps them to sort out the facts as they explain it to you. There is a time for words of wisdom and then there are times when it is wise to be silent. Lending an ear may be all they need. Silent words of wisdom sometimes speaks volumes.

Catch a Glance

In a crowded waiting room instead of getting mad at how long you have to wait entertain yourself to help the time go faster. Catch the glance of a young child and give them a warm smile and for the rest of your time waiting they will keep checking to see if you are watching them ready to smile real big as to say "I see you." You won't be able to resist smiling back at them. After several warm smiles that you share they seem to call your name and you finally can get out of that chair. Enjoy a glance and a smile while you are waiting instead of getting angry.

The reality that your thoughts create

If you form an opinion before you ever know all the facts then your opinion may keep you from ever learning the truth. Keep an open mind because new doors may open for you throughout life but the fact is that your unsubstantiated opinions may slam them shut never revealing what was meant for you inside. Your opinion is definitely the only one that should count but you definitely should exam all the facts because your "point of view" is your reality that your thoughts create.

Give me a break

There are times when we all need a little break every now and again. It may be a break from a seemingly endless string of unpleasant issues that you are facing or a break just to relax and catch your breath. You will have to make time to relax no matter how busy you are because too much stress can squeeze the life out of you. Too many physical demands can force you to have a sudden break by physically breaking down. Give yourself a break when you need one. You can relax while you are doing activities that you enjoy as well as just sitting quietly. Your mind and body will tell you what it needs you just got to listen when it says give me a break.

Don't slam the door

Sometimes when things don't go your way it is because what you really need is not what you thought. You will quit looking for what you need if you get what you thought you needed. Don't give up when things don't go your way or you will miss out on what was meant to give you what you really need. If you get so angry over what might have been then your anger will prevent you from getting what you need. When one door closes another one opens that will lead you where you need to be unless you are so angry that you slam the doors closed as they open.

Regroup your thoughts

There are many reasons why things have happened and if they have hurt you then not one reason will make your hurt go away. You must acknowledge your pain because you can not ignore it nor get the answer to why that will make your pain any less real and pretending it didn't happen won't make it go away. Accept that what has happened has happened then you can quit looking for "why" it happened and regroup your thoughts to figure out "how" to make sure it doesn't happen again.

No matter what state you live in

I have heard people say if only I had this or if only this would happen I would be happy. The truth is you can't be happy in your own skin if you don't learn to be happy in the skin you are in. Happiness is only felt in your mind. You can not buy it or feel it just because someone says you should be happy. You could be a millionaire or even a rock star but that won't make you happy. Happiness is simply a state of mind no matter what state you live in.

Words do hurt

Just because a thought pops into your mind in a split second doesn't mean it should come out of your mouth that fast. Our first thought in a situation can be a little blunt and hurtful. Think about it before you say it keeping in mind that it may be best to say nothing at all. No matter what anyone says WORDS DO HURT. Physical bruises will heal but the damage that words can do can stay on someones mind causing personal turmoil for a lifetime. Think about it before you say it out loud.

You will just have to adjust

The milder winter means the bug population didn't slow down and their numbers are going to give them the upper hand the rest of the year. It is as if the bees know it already and they have become a lot braver around my house. They stop at our eye level and hover as if they are letting us know who will be the boss this year. Looks like there will be more indoor tea parties than outdoor picnics. As life just seems to throw it's curves at us we will just have to adjust because that is just life.

An honest no hurts less

If you promise someone that you will do something and then you don't you make things worse for them. An honest no would have kept them searching for help. Since you said you would do it they quit looking for help and that could do unnecessary damage to them with far more consequences than the fact that your word means nothing. If you don't want to help or if you can't help then just simply say no sorry I can't help you. Saying yes when you have no intention to help is like throwing someone a life preserver but pulling away before they grab it only for your boat waves to drown them.

Whatever it takes

You may have to wait to get what you need but if you need it then you will just have to wait. If you get angry and walk away then you will only hurt yourself and make what you need further away then it was before. It may seem like a long journey but if the journey is necessary to get what you need then it is the journey you will have to take, no matter how long it is, it will be the road you need to be on to get where you need to be. You will just have to do whatever you have to do because if you need it then you will have to do what it takes to get what you need.

Don't fry your Brain

Too many issues to deal with at one time bring on sound waves from every direction creating so much friction that thinking about them is electrifying and painful. Simplify your thoughts so you don't fry your brain. Take a five minute breather to just take a deep breath or two to clear your mind to prevent an overload over issues that don't mean a thing in the overall scheme of your life. Your life can be less stressful if you focus only on what is important not giving things that really don't matter a second thought and you will have less to stress over.

Just to distract you

As I watch the clouds roll in I wander just where they have been. Just as I began to recognize it's shape it bends and twists till it attaches itself as it collides with another cloud. Before too long that little cloud gets lost in the cluster of clouds that now covers half the town. There is no moral to this nor a lesson to learn just a chance to distract you from any dark cloud that may seem to be hanging over your head causing misery in your life right now to give you a little hope and a little peace of mind knowing clouds roll out as fast as they roll in.

Which one are you?

The reality for many is that no one seems to care not one little bit about what is humanely and morally right anymore. It's like some scary episode of twilight zone that doesn't end. The people who we interact with don't seem to have human emotions that evoke or even show the basic compassion for another human being. The best reality show out there that will plant seeds of Humanity is "What would you do?"
Some people ask "Why things happen"
Some people ask "How things happen"
Some people "Make things happen"
Which one are You?

Human aspects v.s. technology

Technology is good but it still takes human contact to get some things done. It is easy to ignore an e-mail. Sometimes it is just an excuse to simply say I e-mailed them which simply means the buck has been passed and that is all they are required to do. The human touch by telephone or face to face may be required to get any results. Technology seems to be replacing humanity which can sometimes lead to outcomes that are inhumane that no one sees and the human aspect of human beings gets lost in the technology. The closest thing some people get to a hug is a poke on face book.

A common goal

Don't just turn away when you see something happening that you know is morally wrong. It is because wrong doings have been ignored that has made them acceptable therefore a common occurrence. We must set moral standards in society that we demand be upheld unconditionally if we want a morally safe environment to live in. There has to be a change in how we react if we want to make a positive change in the lack of basic human compassion for one another that seems to be so common these days. Let's do whatever we can to make common sense, common decency and common courtesy be common in society.

Do what it takes to make lemonade

If you don't try to fix it then you can't say that it can't be fixed. If you don't try to make your life better then it won't get any better. If you want a different outcome in your present situation then you will have to do something differently. The definition to insanity is doing the same thing over and over again the same way and expecting a different result. No matter how, when, where, or by what circumstances led you to be where you are in life ONLY you can do what it takes to make lemonade out of the lemons you are dealt with.

Squeezing the Life out of you

Take a moment today to think about a simple task that you could do just for you. We tend to put off the things that we need in our chaotic busy lives that would make a World of difference in our "peace of mind" if we take just a moment to do something nice for ourselves every now and again. Stress levels in these tough times we are living in can squeeze the very life out of us if we don't keep it under manageable levels. We must take care of ourselves so that we do not let stress build up in our mind putting tremendous amount of pressure on our physical body squeezing literally the very life out of you.

Fill in slots for yourself

Help when you can but not if you can't. It shouldn't interfere with what you need to do for yourself. Those that run themselves ragged helping others usually don't have someone to help them if they wear themselves down where they can't get up. You won't be able to be there for those around you if you don't take care of yourself first. Fill in slots for your own life then squeeze in time for others if you can.

Somethings you can't recover from

If you let anger stay fresh on your mind it begins to consume every area of your life. When you are angry you put pressure on your physical body also. It starts out over one situation that you could not avoid that starts eating you up inside. You must learn to let go of the anger before it does permanent damage. As you begin to get angry and you feel your body tightening just imagine the pressure on your internal organs. You may recover quickly personally but raising your blood pressure in a fit of anger can bring on Sudden Cardiac Arrest that you can't recover from.

Don't waste another day

Facing your problems head on and fixing them fast does far less damage then avoiding it for so long that the problem just gets bigger. You waste far more energy trying to avoid things over and over again then you would if you just dealt with it so you could forget about it. Putting off things that you will eventually have to face anyway only adds more stressful days that you could avoid if you just do what you got to do. Putting off things till tomorrow only means you wasted another day. Minimize the damage by quickly facing it so you can Just Flush It out of your mind.

It becomes almost invisible

In the midst of a group of leafless trees on a cold winter day stood the tiniest tree that was just covered with bright red leaves. As I admired it's vibrant color of red the other trees became almost invisible. It demanded my attention not allowing the barren feeling that the drab leafless trees sight would evoke. It reminded me that in our every day lives we may be surrounded by circumstances that evoke those same barren feelings but if we will look hard to see just one small bright area in our life we could at least for a few moments focus on it then we will feel the emotions that it's sight will bring.

Don't create bullies

We create bullies when we allow bullying to go on by pretending we don't see it. If there are no consequences for bad behavior it becomes accepted. It would be so easy to prevent if it is not tolerated therefore not allowed at a very young age. Parents and schools have a chance to prevent it from becoming a life altering problem not only for the victims they bully but for society to deal with for their lifetime. Set Moral Standards that you will tolerate that you stick to not let an attitude of bullying have any chance of growing. We can plant seeds of a positive mindset to replace the bullying we deal with in society.

The reality that your thoughts create

It is bad enough when others put you down but nothing makes you stay down but you. If you can dream about it then you can reach it. If you doubt that you can do it then there is no doubt you won't try to do it. If you know that you can do anything if you put your mind to it then you know you will do what needs to be done. If you don't believe you can do it then you will believe there is no reason so you won't try. Your thoughts about yourself can either give you the confidence you need to make your future bright or they can take away any chances you have to make your future brighter. Your "point of view" of yourself will determine the reality that your thoughts create.

Take your time

It may take a little longer to do it right but it will for sure take a lot longer to fix it if it can be fixed if you do it wrong. It is not a shortcut if it simply leads you short of where you need to be. If you skip the steps necessary at the beginning to reach your goal it will make you waste your time and energy going back to fix it as you find some of the steps you made earlier need completely redone. It is not time wasted if you took the time to do it right but you sure will waste your time doing it if you have done it wrong.

Before your day begins

Every day is a new day. How you choose to start it will set the pace for the day. That is one reason why breakfast is the most important meal because you don't want to start the day hungry and grouchy. People say they just need to go back home and go back to bed and start their day over again when it starts out bad because how you start the day sets the pace. While you brush your teeth in the morning be sure to flush out your mind also to flush away a bad day if you need to before your day begins.

You be the Stranger that helps

There are many people who try to inspire or guide someone they love in a positive way....but they just don't listen. You have some great ideas and they may very well help them in a positive way....but they just can't hear you. If your own family won't listen then spread your light in another family. Sometimes it takes a Stranger to tell people the same things that their friends and family have been telling them before they can hear it loud and clear. While you are waiting for your family to hear it, You be the Stranger that helps someone else hear it loud and clear.

Laugh away a heart attack

Take advantage of a chance to laugh when you can before you forget how to. A good belly laugh is good for your mind, body, and soul. I know it is hard to feel like laughing when you are under a lot of stress but when you laugh you produce endorphins that will ease some of the stress as it helps you to relax. Remember the old saying "laughter is the best medicine"? Well it is true. Stress on your mind causes stress on every part of your physical body as well. Quit stressing your heart out just laugh away a heart attack.

Make time for "small talk"

Through small talk you learn stepping stones and hidden dangers to a variety of things. They may not be questions that you have today but they may be the answers to the questions you may have later in life or the answer for someone asking you for advice one day. The simple conversations that you may have if you slow down to talk can make your life more care free by finding solutions as the conversation bounces from subject to subject opening up topics that are of interest to you that will help you free up more time to relax if you make the time for "small talk."

A quick glance

There are many ways to view a situation so don't make a decision based on a quick glance. At a glance you don't see the whole picture and you will have no idea what good can come and your reaction to the quick glance that angers you will change the outcome from a positive outcome to the negative one your actions out of anger will bring. You must take the good with the bad in most situations in life and if you get so angry about the bad parts then you will react badly and no good will be able to come from it.

One step closer

Someone must be the first to do something to get it started and create a starting point for others to join to get the ball rolling. There are many things that seem impossible but if you would make even a small step towards the task you would see that it is much easier now that you started the ball rolling. It can either gain momentum and keep rolling or at the very least it will be one step closer than it was. You will never get to the finish line of anything if you don't start.

Pick and choose your battles

In this day and age you definitely need to pick and choose your battles carefully. In a time when we are all facing so many battles at the same time we must save our energy for those battles that are most important so you will have the strength it will take to win them. You will wear yourself down if you fight for everything that you know ain't right. You may not win every battle that you choose to fight but you can still win the war if you stay focused on what is most important to you. You don't have to strive for a perfect outcome just the outcome that can work for you.

Spring clean your mind

You don't have to go to an expensive retreat to get away from the stress you are under, just make room in your mind by simply refusing to let the stressful thoughts that you keep fresh on your mind from past painful experiences take up all the room in your mind. You will have "peace of mind" when you make room for it. Don't let what has happened in your past stink up your future too. "Just Flush It" out of your mind like you do all the clutter during Spring Cleaning.

You are a teacher and a farmer

You teach compassion to others by being compassionate.
You teach honesty by being honest.
You teach sharing by always sharing.
You teach others how to be happy by being happy when you are with them.
You teach patience by being patient.
Every interaction you have with others shows them therefore may teach them something. What are you teaching others? Plant seeds of kindness as you go through your day because it is true YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

Too big to climb

How you react to your problems will determine how big the problem will be. Take the time to think about it before you let a minor set back in life become something that will affect you negatively in a major way. Remember the old saying "anyone can make a mountain out of a molehill if they keep adding dirt." Acknowledge the problem for what it is and simply see it as a small mole hill that you can simply step over and don't react with anger that can turn it into a mountain too big to climb.

Turn frustration into energy

If you don't get over the anger about what you have to do because of what others have done and just "get 'er done" then nothing will get done. Anger will grow inside you doing physical damage that nothing can be done about. Cut your losses by doing what needs to be done turning the frustration into the energy and lessons learned that you will need to fix the situation not let your frustration turn into anger that stresses your heart out.

Don't close the doors

You must learn to be patient. When you get angry so fast you close the door before your answer comes making it then impossible to get whatever it was you were waiting for. You should at least leave all the doors open even if you stop waiting on the answer. Doorways and paths are opened whenever they can so that one day when the timing is right you will have the access to the answers you need. If you are not patient and you slam all the doors closed then you make it impossible to find any answer that you may some day need.

Will you know if the sun is shining?

Your "point of view" will determine your reality. If you believe something is true then no matter what someone may say or do it will still be true in your mind. If you close your mind to even the proven facts then the fact is that it will remain true to you. If you open your mind you just might find that it is not the facts that are making your reality so gloomy but your "point of view" that is keeping your reality so gloomy. The sun may be shining but if you convince yourself that it's cold outside and you don't look outside to see then you will spend your day inside to avoid the cold.

Don't bite their head off

Why is it when someone is faced with so much chaos in their life that their head is about to explode they bite the head off every person around them? It won't help them a bit but they do it despite the fact and usually unaware of the pain that their actions have on those who they lash out on. Don't spew your anger onto others no more than you should spread your germs on others if you had the flu. Anger makes people sick so don't spread it!

Strategies to prevent it

Don't let a set back in your life keep you from enjoying life. Don't let your mistakes define you. Don't let your past stink up your future too. What is done is done and some things just aint right but it is what it is. Don't spend all your energy trying to figure out why or how it happened because there is no answer to tragedies only questions about strategies to prevent it from happening again!

Happy New Year

Happy New Year. May 2012 bring you "Peace of Mind." Peace starts within ourselves by letting go of what has happened in our past in order to start with a clean slate to do things as they need to be done to have a peaceful future. Things will naturally leave your memory if you don't think about them to keep them fresh on your mind. Don't bring the same personal baggage that has been holding you back into the New Year, "Just Flush It" out of your mind.