Forgivness is not something that you do to make someone else "feel at ease." Letting go of the issue by forgiving someone who has done you wrong will be something you do for yourself. You will feel a weight lifted off of you and you will feel refreshed and at ease. Holding a grudge raises your blood pressure and simply allows you to be hurt over and over again. Some things may be hard to forgive but untill you do it will keep doing damage while it weighs heavy on your mind. Minimize the damage by forgiving those who have done you wrong so you will be strong enough to make sure it doesn't happen again.