Regroup your thoughts

There are many reasons why things have happened and if they have hurt you then not one reason will make your hurt go away. You must acknowledge your pain because you can not ignore it nor get the answer to why that will make your pain any less real and pretending it didn't happen won't make it go away. Accept that what has happened has happened then you can quit looking for "why" it happened and regroup your thoughts to figure out "how" to make sure it doesn't happen again.