Letting them LEARN the HARD WAY is......

       Obviously LEARNING from someone else's mistakes may be IMPORTANT to you and those that you love.

      But sometimes it IS NECESSARY to LET THEM LEARN ON THEIR OWN because that may be PART OF THE PLAN for THEM TO LEARN FOR THEMSELVES. 

      I always THINK that it is PART OF MY JOB to make sure I try to keep EVERYONE SAFE by LETTING THEM KNOW the DANGEROUS PARTS so THEY CAN AVOID THEM.

      But WHEN SOMEONE LEARNS BY DOING IT then for sure THEY LEARNED and THEY GREW AS THEY LEARNED.

      And I LEARNED that if I want those around me to FEEL COMFORTABLE in TELLING ME about their NEW IDEAS THEY HAVE PLANNED....

    .....then I NEED TO JUST LISTEN WITHOUT ALWAYS SAYING NEGATIVE REASONS WHY THEY SHOULDN'T DO IT.

      But in MY MIND I can't help but THINK... so I THINK ABOUT IT..... I just DON'T SAY EVERY THOUGHT that POPS UP.

      And the MOMENT THEY GET BACK FROM DOING IT I will BE THANKFUL that THEY ARE HOME SAFELY. 

      What YOU DID WHEN YOU WERE YOUNG WASN'T SMART TO DO but YOU WANTED TO DO IT so YOU DID IT....  but TODAY YOU KNOW THAT YOU WOULDN'T DO IT AGAIN...HAHAHA.

      

      

Caring takes connecting with your HUMANSIDE

         We are all born with COMPASSION IN OUR HEART ❤️ that we USE because we are ALL HUMAN. 

         So that makes it HARD to understand how people sometimes treat OTHERS with NO COMPASSION. 

        But it is THE REASON why WE ALL need to SPREAD KINDNESS so that KINDNESS WILL SPREAD.

        When Mother Theresa was asked how could we FIX the PROBLEMS we see in SOCIETY  she said something in effect to.....

        If ONE PERSON FROM EVERY FAMILY would be a POSITIVE ROLE MODEL to THEIR FAMILY then THEY WILL SPREAD HUMANITY. 

       And if you are that ONE PERSON and YOUR FAMILY WON'T LISTEN then SPREAD YOUR MESSAGE TO ANOTHER FAMILY.

       JUST SPREAD IT and IT WILL GROW so ask yourself WHAT ARE YOU SPREADING?

       It's TRUE.....YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

What are you looking for?

       If you don't like climbing a mountain then you SHOULDN'T JOIN a mountain climbing club.

      If you don't like SINGING then don't SING at the KARAOKE party but you can still go and enjoy hearing your FRIENDS SING.

      If you don't like dancing then don't dance but you can ENJOY the music while it is playing. 

      If you want to RELAX then RELAX and AVOID things that STRESS YOU OUT.

      When you are feeling STRESSED OUT just STOP and RELAX while you are THINKING about times when you FELT RELAXED.

       When a negative thought pops up in your mind just STOP and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind then ENJOY the positive message that pops up next.

      When I am having a rough day I STOP and THINK about something POSITIVE that HAPPENED that day that makes me SMILE.

      If you look for what UPSET YOU today then that is WHAT YOU WILL SEE.

      But if you look for WHAT MADE YOU HAPPY today then that is WHAT YOU WILL SEE.

      If you LOOK FOR TROUBLE then that is WHAT YOU WILL FIND.

      WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

      

      

Searching for it doesn't mean that it will be EASY

        You can WORK HARD to ACHIEVE it but sometimes your HARD WORK doesn't EARN WHAT you were WORKING SO HARD to ACHIEVE.

       That doesn't mean that you DIDN'T WORK HARD ENOUGH it just means that even though you WORKED SO HARD it just wasn't meant to happen. 

      Every NEW THING that we ENJOY today may have taken many FAILED ATTEMPTS TO ACHIEVE but LUCKILY whoever was doing it kept DOING IT until they SUCCEEDED.

       What we LEARN through OUR MISTAKES we tried doing in the past were NECESSARY to LEARN HOW TO DO IT CORRECTLY to ACHIEVE THE GOAL we had planned.

       Do you know HOW MANY TIMES that someone had almost finished it but yet THEY STOPPED because they DIDN'T REALIZE that with a  SMALL ADJUSTMENT....they would have SUCCEEDED?

      MANY....MANY TIMES so DON'T STOP just ADJUST and then before you know it...BOOM IT WILL BE DONE.

       When you wanted to RIDE A BIKE you knew that you would FALL many times before you would be able to RIDE LIKE THE WIND.

      When you CHOOSE TO DO IT then ACCEPT that you are CHOOSING to KEEP GOING until YOU FINISH IT.

      If YOU WANT IT then DO WHATEVER it TAKES and DO IT as MANY TIMES that it TAKES because THAT IS WHAT IT WILL TAKE to GET 'R DONE.

      

In order to HELP OTHERS then FIRST YOU HAVE TO HELP YOURSELF so that YOU CAN

        Not everything has an INSTRUCTION BOOK so all you can do is STOP....and THINK ABOUT IT before you DECIDE what to do.

        If YOU DO IT WITHOUT THINKING you just might REGRET MAKING A DECISION WITHOUT STOPPING TO THINK. 

       The other day I almost said YES I WILL but LUCKILY I THOUGHT ABOUT IT and REALIZED that I am glad I THOUGHT ABOUT IT and DECIDED it WOULDN'T be best for me.

       Had I NOT THOUGHT ABOUT IT I would have been in TROUBLE because it DEFINITELY was something I DIDN'T HAVE TIME TO DO.

        YOU have to UNDERSTAND that SAYING NO when someone ASK YOU is OKAY, then they will FIND SOMEONE ELSE WHO CAN HELP THEM.

        I USED to always say YES because I WANTED TO HELP OTHERS but I REALIZED that there was TIMES when I JUST NEEDED TO PUT MYSELF FIRST.

       It WASN'T because I was LAZY OR SELFISH it was because in order to BE ABLE TO HELP OTHERS that I HAD TO FIRST TAKE CARE OF MYSELF so that I COULD HELP OTHERS WHEN THEY REALLY NEEDED ME.

        When you OVERWHELM YOURSELF with TOO MUCH TO DO then YOU WEAR YOURSELF OUT and then even in an EMERGENCY you will be TOO TIRED TO HELP ANYONE.

      HELPING OTHERS when YOU CAN is a GOOD FEELING but IF YOU CAN'T HELP..... then it's OKAY to say I WISH I COULD but UNFORTUNATELY I AM UNABLE TO.

       Your friends and family will still LOVE YOU because THEY KNOW that IF YOU COULD YOU WOULD.

        So like the FLIGHT ATTENDANT says TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF and put on YOUR OXYGEN MASK FIRST so that YOU CAN THEN HAVE ENOUGH OXYGEN so then YOU CAN HELP THOSE AROUND YOU.

        Always REMEMBER that in order to HELP OTHERS that YOU have to be HEALTHY ENOUGH to HELP THEM.

       

Who GETS HURT when you GET ANGRY at someone WHO HURT YOU?

         What THEY DID absolutely HURTS but when YOU GET ANGRY it HURTS YOU HARDER because ANGER HURTS YOU.

        When YOU GET HURT those THAT HURT YOU usually LEAVES YOU HURTING and within a SECOND THEY HAVE NO MEMORY of HURTING YOU.

        Have you ever CONSTANTLY REPEATING THE MOMENT YOU WERE HURT again and again in YOUR MIND?

       And EVERYTIME YOU RELIVED that MOMENT.... DID IT HURT YOU EVERY TIME YOU RELIVED IT?

        Do YOU THINK that RELIVING IT WILL EVER TAKE AWAY YOUR PAINFUL FEELINGS?

       Well IT WON'T!

       And RELIVING IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN IS YOU CHOOSING to KEEP HURTING YOURSELF OVER AND OVER AGAIN. 

       YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST but YOU CAN DEFINITELY CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS and THINK OF POSITIVE THINGS that will MAKE YOU FEEL POSITIVE TODAY. 

       WE ALL HAVE SOMEONE that WE COULD BLAME but THE TRUTH IS that WHAT HAPPENED ONCE HAPPENED but it is UP TO US to NOT EVER CHOOSE to RELIVE IT EVER AGAIN.

      So JUST FLUSH IT out of YOUR MIND SO YOU NEVER HAVE TO RELIVE IT EVER AGAIN.

       If YOU WANT to have PEACE OF MIND then YOU have to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so PEACE OF MIND will have ROOM to GET IN. 

         

Our EXPERIENCES are part of Our EXPERIENCES

        There will be many things that we WILL FACE throughout OUR LIFE and WHAT WE LEARN from them is part of WHAT WE LEARN.

       WHAT YOU LEARN as you LEARN NEW THINGS to reach the GOALS you set is WHAT YOU LEARNED AS YOU GREW.

       Once YOU REACH THE GOAL that you had set then.....you start to wander WHAT ELSE might be a NEW GOAL that YOU COULD DO.

       TOO MANY people when they REACH THEIR GOAL then they FEEL LOST because HAVING A GOAL keeps YOU MOTIVATED to REACH THAT GOAL.

       STAYING BUSY ON working on YOUR GOALS is LIVING LIFE ONE GOAL AT A TIME.

       And if YOU REALIZE that at times ALTHOUGH YOU TRIED there are just SOME GOALS YOU WEREN'T MEANT to ACCOMPLISH then PICK ANOTHER GOAL.

         Our GOALS CHANGE as WE GROW and your LIFE'S JOURNEY is full of GOOD DAYS as well as BAD DAYS that are ALL PART OF YOUR LIFE'S JOURNEY. 

     The BEST PARTS OF LIFE is ALL THE THINGS both THE GOOD AND THE BAD that YOU DID ALONG THE WAY.

       ENJOY YOUR LIFE while YOU ARE LIVING IT.