Have you ever REALIZED that YOU WERE WRONG?

        When something HAPPENS that UPSETS YOU then there is usually SOMEONE or SOMETHING that YOU BLAME FOR IT.

        BUT SOMETIMES the PERSON or CIRCUMSTANCES that YOU BLAME had NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. 

       I have seen FRIENDS FIGHT over CIRCUMSTANCES yet in the end they REALIZE that THEIR NEGATIVE ATTITUDE IS NOT BASED ON nothing that EITHER OF THEM DID.

      Have YOU ever RUINED A WONDERFUL FRIENDSHIP over YOU BELIEVING something that THEY DIDN'T DO?

       When I REALIZED that WHAT I THOUGHT WAS TRUE was ACTUALLY NOT TRUE it was TOO LATE.

       That is when I REALIZED that WHEN YOU ARE HURT then YOU WILL SEE THAT YOU ARE HURT and UNFORTUNATELY YOU ANGRILY BLAME someone or someone without THINKING.

      So BEFORE YOU REACT or BLAME SOMEONE just STOP.

      It could take you hours, or weeks, or POSSIBLE NEVER TO TRULY KNOW for sure but if YOU REACT ANGRILY then YOU WILL Have NO ONE but YOURSELF TO BLAME for HOW YOU REACTED.

      YOUR SUFFERING could NOT BE because of WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU but because of HOW YOU REACTED.

       DON'T REACT UNTIL YOU STOP and THINK because ONCE YOU REACT..... then WHAT'S DONE IS DONE.

      

      

FORGIVENESS is a GIFT YOU GIVE YOURSELF

      You CAN'T WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY because HONESTLY THAT PROBABLY WON'T COME from SOMEONE THAT HURT YOU. 

      But REGARDLESS YOU DESERVE TO LET IT GO so that YOU CAN MOVE PAST IT.

      SO YOU FORGIVE THEM so that YOU CAN JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind then ENJOY the FORGIVENESS that YOU DID FOR YOURSELF. 

       Trying to WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY from a person WHO HAS NO RESPECT FOR ANYONE not even THEMSELVES is....CRAZY.

      But the MINUTE YOU ACCEPT IT and GIVE FORGIVENESS is THE MINUTE YOU HAVE THE FREEDOM TO BE FREE to ENJOY PEOPLE YOU CAN TRUST.

      Now just because YOU FORGAVE THEM definitely DOESN'T MEAN that YOU WANT TO BE THEIR FRIEND STILL, because YOU LEARNED.

      Because YOU KNOW WHO THEY TRULY ARE NOW and YOU LEARNED that YOU DON'T WANT ANY RELATIONSHIP with someone LIKE them.

     Just BE THANKFUL that YOU LEARNED WHO THEY ARE and YOU CAN STAY AWAY from THEM because YOU LOVE YOURSELF enough to STAY AWAY FROM THEM.

       If YOU DON'T TRUST THEM then....STAY AWAY FROM THEM and let FORGIVENESS SET YOU FREE.

To STAY MOTIVATED you have to always MOTIVATE YOURSELF

       When TIMES GET TOUGH it makes what you NEED TO DO....HARDER TO DO.

       Just STOP and REMIND YOURSELF WHY the HARD WORK is NECESSARY. 

      If you want to REACH the TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN then remember that YOU HAVE A LOT OF CLIMBING TO DO in order to REACH the TOP.

       If you want to EARN A DEGREE then YOU HAVE TO PASS THE CLASSES NEEDED in order to EARN THAT DEGREE.

      If you want to BE KNOWN as SOMEONE WHO IS ALWAYS HONEST then YOU MUST ALWAYS BE HONEST so everyone KNOWS HOW HONEST YOU ARE.

       If it is IMPORTANT TO YOU then no matter what ANYONE ELSE THINKS just REMEMBER IT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU. 

      I have many people that I ADMIRE but WE THINK DIFFERENTLY about CERTAIN THINGS.

      So I just NEVER ASK THEIR OPINION ON THOSE SUBJECTS because I KNOW WE THINK DIFFERENTLY on THOSE SUBJECTS.

      We have to KNOW WHAT WE NEED TO DO  TO STAY MOTIVATED and FOCUS ON THAT so that WE CAN STAY MOTIVATED.

      When YOU HAVE TO DO THE HARD WORK then JUST DO IT and YOU WILL BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR DOING IT.

      YOUR THOUGHTS will DETERMINE whether THEY ARE MOTIVATING OR NOT to YOU.

       So THINK POSITIVELY and remember that Peter Pan could ONLY FLY if he THOUGHT HAPPY THOUGHTS.

      In order to STAY MOTIVATED then YOU HAVE TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF. 

      

       

      

      

Letting them LEARN the HARD WAY is......

       Obviously LEARNING from someone else's mistakes may be IMPORTANT to you and those that you love.

      But sometimes it IS NECESSARY to LET THEM LEARN ON THEIR OWN because that may be PART OF THE PLAN for THEM TO LEARN FOR THEMSELVES. 

      I always THINK that it is PART OF MY JOB to make sure I try to keep EVERYONE SAFE by LETTING THEM KNOW the DANGEROUS PARTS so THEY CAN AVOID THEM.

      But WHEN SOMEONE LEARNS BY DOING IT then for sure THEY LEARNED and THEY GREW AS THEY LEARNED.

      And I LEARNED that if I want those around me to FEEL COMFORTABLE in TELLING ME about their NEW IDEAS THEY HAVE PLANNED....

    .....then I NEED TO JUST LISTEN WITHOUT ALWAYS SAYING NEGATIVE REASONS WHY THEY SHOULDN'T DO IT.

      But in MY MIND I can't help but THINK... so I THINK ABOUT IT..... I just DON'T SAY EVERY THOUGHT that POPS UP.

      And the MOMENT THEY GET BACK FROM DOING IT I will BE THANKFUL that THEY ARE HOME SAFELY. 

      What YOU DID WHEN YOU WERE YOUNG WASN'T SMART TO DO but YOU WANTED TO DO IT so YOU DID IT....  but TODAY YOU KNOW THAT YOU WOULDN'T DO IT AGAIN...HAHAHA.

      

      

Caring takes connecting with your HUMANSIDE

         We are all born with COMPASSION IN OUR HEART ❤️ that we USE because we are ALL HUMAN. 

         So that makes it HARD to understand how people sometimes treat OTHERS with NO COMPASSION. 

        But it is THE REASON why WE ALL need to SPREAD KINDNESS so that KINDNESS WILL SPREAD.

        When Mother Theresa was asked how could we FIX the PROBLEMS we see in SOCIETY  she said something in effect to.....

        If ONE PERSON FROM EVERY FAMILY would be a POSITIVE ROLE MODEL to THEIR FAMILY then THEY WILL SPREAD HUMANITY. 

       And if you are that ONE PERSON and YOUR FAMILY WON'T LISTEN then SPREAD YOUR MESSAGE TO ANOTHER FAMILY.

       JUST SPREAD IT and IT WILL GROW so ask yourself WHAT ARE YOU SPREADING?

       It's TRUE.....YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

What are you looking for?

       If you don't like climbing a mountain then you SHOULDN'T JOIN a mountain climbing club.

      If you don't like SINGING then don't SING at the KARAOKE party but you can still go and enjoy hearing your FRIENDS SING.

      If you don't like dancing then don't dance but you can ENJOY the music while it is playing. 

      If you want to RELAX then RELAX and AVOID things that STRESS YOU OUT.

      When you are feeling STRESSED OUT just STOP and RELAX while you are THINKING about times when you FELT RELAXED.

       When a negative thought pops up in your mind just STOP and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind then ENJOY the positive message that pops up next.

      When I am having a rough day I STOP and THINK about something POSITIVE that HAPPENED that day that makes me SMILE.

      If you look for what UPSET YOU today then that is WHAT YOU WILL SEE.

      But if you look for WHAT MADE YOU HAPPY today then that is WHAT YOU WILL SEE.

      If you LOOK FOR TROUBLE then that is WHAT YOU WILL FIND.

      WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

      

      

Searching for it doesn't mean that it will be EASY

        You can WORK HARD to ACHIEVE it but sometimes your HARD WORK doesn't EARN WHAT you were WORKING SO HARD to ACHIEVE.

       That doesn't mean that you DIDN'T WORK HARD ENOUGH it just means that even though you WORKED SO HARD it just wasn't meant to happen. 

      Every NEW THING that we ENJOY today may have taken many FAILED ATTEMPTS TO ACHIEVE but LUCKILY whoever was doing it kept DOING IT until they SUCCEEDED.

       What we LEARN through OUR MISTAKES we tried doing in the past were NECESSARY to LEARN HOW TO DO IT CORRECTLY to ACHIEVE THE GOAL we had planned.

       Do you know HOW MANY TIMES that someone had almost finished it but yet THEY STOPPED because they DIDN'T REALIZE that with a  SMALL ADJUSTMENT....they would have SUCCEEDED?

      MANY....MANY TIMES so DON'T STOP just ADJUST and then before you know it...BOOM IT WILL BE DONE.

       When you wanted to RIDE A BIKE you knew that you would FALL many times before you would be able to RIDE LIKE THE WIND.

      When you CHOOSE TO DO IT then ACCEPT that you are CHOOSING to KEEP GOING until YOU FINISH IT.

      If YOU WANT IT then DO WHATEVER it TAKES and DO IT as MANY TIMES that it TAKES because THAT IS WHAT IT WILL TAKE to GET 'R DONE.