In order to HELP OTHERS then FIRST YOU HAVE TO HELP YOURSELF so that YOU CAN

        Not everything has an INSTRUCTION BOOK so all you can do is STOP....and THINK ABOUT IT before you DECIDE what to do.

        If YOU DO IT WITHOUT THINKING you just might REGRET MAKING A DECISION WITHOUT STOPPING TO THINK. 

       The other day I almost said YES I WILL but LUCKILY I THOUGHT ABOUT IT and REALIZED that I am glad I THOUGHT ABOUT IT and DECIDED it WOULDN'T be best for me.

       Had I NOT THOUGHT ABOUT IT I would have been in TROUBLE because it DEFINITELY was something I DIDN'T HAVE TIME TO DO.

        YOU have to UNDERSTAND that SAYING NO when someone ASK YOU is OKAY, then they will FIND SOMEONE ELSE WHO CAN HELP THEM.

        I USED to always say YES because I WANTED TO HELP OTHERS but I REALIZED that there was TIMES when I JUST NEEDED TO PUT MYSELF FIRST.

       It WASN'T because I was LAZY OR SELFISH it was because in order to BE ABLE TO HELP OTHERS that I HAD TO FIRST TAKE CARE OF MYSELF so that I COULD HELP OTHERS WHEN THEY REALLY NEEDED ME.

        When you OVERWHELM YOURSELF with TOO MUCH TO DO then YOU WEAR YOURSELF OUT and then even in an EMERGENCY you will be TOO TIRED TO HELP ANYONE.

      HELPING OTHERS when YOU CAN is a GOOD FEELING but IF YOU CAN'T HELP..... then it's OKAY to say I WISH I COULD but UNFORTUNATELY I AM UNABLE TO.

       Your friends and family will still LOVE YOU because THEY KNOW that IF YOU COULD YOU WOULD.

        So like the FLIGHT ATTENDANT says TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF and put on YOUR OXYGEN MASK FIRST so that YOU CAN THEN HAVE ENOUGH OXYGEN so then YOU CAN HELP THOSE AROUND YOU.

        Always REMEMBER that in order to HELP OTHERS that YOU have to be HEALTHY ENOUGH to HELP THEM.

       

Who GETS HURT when you GET ANGRY at someone WHO HURT YOU?

         What THEY DID absolutely HURTS but when YOU GET ANGRY it HURTS YOU HARDER because ANGER HURTS YOU.

        When YOU GET HURT those THAT HURT YOU usually LEAVES YOU HURTING and within a SECOND THEY HAVE NO MEMORY of HURTING YOU.

        Have you ever CONSTANTLY REPEATING THE MOMENT YOU WERE HURT again and again in YOUR MIND?

       And EVERYTIME YOU RELIVED that MOMENT.... DID IT HURT YOU EVERY TIME YOU RELIVED IT?

        Do YOU THINK that RELIVING IT WILL EVER TAKE AWAY YOUR PAINFUL FEELINGS?

       Well IT WON'T!

       And RELIVING IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN IS YOU CHOOSING to KEEP HURTING YOURSELF OVER AND OVER AGAIN. 

       YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST but YOU CAN DEFINITELY CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS and THINK OF POSITIVE THINGS that will MAKE YOU FEEL POSITIVE TODAY. 

       WE ALL HAVE SOMEONE that WE COULD BLAME but THE TRUTH IS that WHAT HAPPENED ONCE HAPPENED but it is UP TO US to NOT EVER CHOOSE to RELIVE IT EVER AGAIN.

      So JUST FLUSH IT out of YOUR MIND SO YOU NEVER HAVE TO RELIVE IT EVER AGAIN.

       If YOU WANT to have PEACE OF MIND then YOU have to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so PEACE OF MIND will have ROOM to GET IN. 

         

Our EXPERIENCES are part of Our EXPERIENCES

        There will be many things that we WILL FACE throughout OUR LIFE and WHAT WE LEARN from them is part of WHAT WE LEARN.

       WHAT YOU LEARN as you LEARN NEW THINGS to reach the GOALS you set is WHAT YOU LEARNED AS YOU GREW.

       Once YOU REACH THE GOAL that you had set then.....you start to wander WHAT ELSE might be a NEW GOAL that YOU COULD DO.

       TOO MANY people when they REACH THEIR GOAL then they FEEL LOST because HAVING A GOAL keeps YOU MOTIVATED to REACH THAT GOAL.

       STAYING BUSY ON working on YOUR GOALS is LIVING LIFE ONE GOAL AT A TIME.

       And if YOU REALIZE that at times ALTHOUGH YOU TRIED there are just SOME GOALS YOU WEREN'T MEANT to ACCOMPLISH then PICK ANOTHER GOAL.

         Our GOALS CHANGE as WE GROW and your LIFE'S JOURNEY is full of GOOD DAYS as well as BAD DAYS that are ALL PART OF YOUR LIFE'S JOURNEY. 

     The BEST PARTS OF LIFE is ALL THE THINGS both THE GOOD AND THE BAD that YOU DID ALONG THE WAY.

       ENJOY YOUR LIFE while YOU ARE LIVING IT. 

       

       

When you want to make a POSITIVE DIFFERENCE then....

      You obviously CAN'T fix everyone's problems but YOU CAN make sure that you never make things HARDER for ANYONE. 

      You CAN'T make the negative things that happened to you go away but YOU CAN learn from them then..... JUST FLUSH IT so it CAN'T HURT YOU AGAIN. 

      You may NOT be able to CHANGE THINGS that happened already but YOU CAN CHANGE HOW YOU THINK TODAY so that you CAN ENJOY TODAY.

      YOU may NOT have FELT APPRECIATED by someone who SHOULD'VE APPRECIATED YOU but YOU CAN and YOU SHOULD APPRECIATE YOURSELF and ENJOY YOURSELF TODAY.

        YOU may have NOT ALWAYS FELT LOVE like YOU SHOULD OF but YOU CAN LEARN to LOVE YOURSELF.

        YOU HAVE A CHOICE HOW YOU FEEL TODAY despite of the negativity that YOU have had to face.

      DON'T let YOUR PAST PREVENT YOU from ENJOYING YOURSELF TODAY because TODAY it is PURELY UP TO YOU and YOU DESERVE to CHOOSE TO ENJOY YOURSELF.

     YESTERDAY is already gone and TOMORROW may never come but TODAY IS YOURS TO ENJOY SO ENJOY IT.

DECIDE so that YOU KNOW

       BEFORE YOU DECIDE how to get ANYWHERE you will have to DECIDE WHERE YOU WANT TO GO.

        If it is something that is IN THE NORTH then you OBVIOUSLY KNOW that you WON'T GET THERE if you GO to the SOUTH.

        If YOU DONT LIKE SEAFOOD then when you go OUT TO EAT then DON'T ORDER YOURSELF ANY SEAFOOD to EAT.

      If YOU have an IMPORTANT DECISION TO MAKE then STOP... and THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU DECIDE. 

       YOUR DECISIONS that YOU MAKE is YOUR DECISION so CHOOSE WISELY because it is UP TO YOU.

       

ENJOY the CHANGES because LIFE is full of CHANGES

       What you find important to do today may not be something that you will always find important to you.

      I have spent days doing something that I have been doing for years then...out of the blue....I suddenly just didn't want to do it anymore. 

      What you liked when you were young doesn't mean as much to you when you get older.

     There is nothing wrong with CHANGING WHAT YOU LIKE.... IT is just part of GROWING UP and doing what you like is NATURAL CHANGES.

       When I tried to FIGURE OUT WHY I NO LONGER liked it there was no answer to be found I just GREW and things NATURALLY CHANGED. 

      YOU can't get TOO COMFORTABLE in LIFE because LIFE is ALWAYS CHANGING. 

       And as YOU ADJUST to the CHANGES then YOU will GET COMFORTABLE and YOU will begin to ENJOY the CHANGES.

      

Maybe it isn't what you planned at least.....

        You may have PLANNED a grill out with your family and friends yet out of the blue....It starts pouring down rain.

       Although it wasn't what you had PLANNED at least you bought some awesome food that you can prepare for everyone, it's just everyone will be ENJOYING IT indoors instead of outdoors. 

       You may have PLANNED to get together with your friends but suddenly one by one many friends decides they can't come.

      And although it changes things you will still ENJOY the time you get to spend with those that do come.

       When things in your life are different then you had PLANNED just GO WITH THE FLOW and ENJOY WHAT YOU CAN.

       LIFE is LIFE and things happen in YOUR LIFE and that is JUST LIFE.

       YOUR CHOICE is whether you CHOOSE TO ENJOY IT OR NOT.

       When things are not WORKING OUT LIKE YOU PLANNED then......JUST FLUSH IT and ENJOY YOUR LIFE AS YOU ARE LIVING IT.

       We all ONLY have ONE LIFE to LIVE and it is UP TO YOU whether YOU ENJOY IT OR NOT and even on A BAD DAY then YOU CAN FLUSH AWAY A BAD DAY and ENJOY EVERY MOMENT YOU CAN.