Monday, October 25, 2021

What percentage of people do you think would say they were dealing with anxiety?

   How many people do you think are dealing with anxiety?

  You would be surprised to know that even before the pandemic that number was a very high percentage of those that were asked.

  Could you imagine how many people would say yes after nearly two years of living in a pandemic.

  Let's not forget that there are also many people who would not say yes even though they have anxiety.

  The pandemic has caused anxiety to be at an epidemic level. It affects the rich and the poor. It affects the young and the old. 

  We need to all be kind to everyone that we meet because we have no idea what they may be facing.

  A random act of kindness can make a positive difference in someones life.

  You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone see it or feel it?

 Even if there may not be anything you can do to help them, you can at least make sure you don't do anything that would make it harder for anyone. 




Friday, October 22, 2021

Do you know what the definition of self care is?

   The dictionary defines "self care" as the practice of taking ACTION to PRESERVE or IMPROVE one's own HEALTH.

  Taking care of yourself IS NOT being SELFISH. It is the only way to maintain your overall well being.

  STRESS and ANXIETY whether it is real or not affects your overall well being.

  STRESS and ANXIETY whether it is done physically or mentally will have a negative affect on your overall well being.

  You can't think clearly to make the right decision for yourself let alone anyone else, if you don't STOP to be able to think CLEARLY.

  If you want to be able to "TAKE CARE" of things for others, you have to give yourself the "SELF CARE" that you need.

  You have to "TAKE CARE" of yourself so you can "TAKE CARE" of YOURSELF. 




Wednesday, October 20, 2021

Why is it harder to forgive yourself?

   Forgiving someone else is a lot easier than to forgive yourself.

  Forgiveness for others is something you do for yourself not for them.

  They don't have to acknowledge what they did nor do they have to apologize for what they did. 

  You forgive them so that you can JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so it doesn't affect you negatively by weighing heavily on your mind.

  So why is it so harder to forgive yourself?

  Perhaps it's because you think that you need to let those involved know that you are aware of what you did wrong.

   That way they understand that you know so they don't hold it against you.

  The problem is that they won't forget so the damage to your reputation they have of you won't change.

  That makes it harder for you to forgive yourself because you have to live forever with the consequences.

  You feel like if they would just let you explain then they would forget about whatever you did or said. 

  But you know deep down that they will never forget.

  If it is a dear friend or family member your past bond together and the many years they have known you will heal from your mistake.

  But if it is a new personal or business connection your first mistake can cause them to close the door of communication immediately and permanently.

  That makes forgiving yourself harder. Especially if you know how important of a connection they would have been for you.

  You have to forgive yourself because letting it weigh so heavily on your mind won't change the outcome that you have with them. PERIOD.

 No only if I could explain.

 No only if I could do it differently.

 No would've, could've, or should've will change WHAT IT IS.



  Remember FORGIVENESS is something you do for YOURSELF. 


  Always remember that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes.







Monday, October 18, 2021

Why don't you take your own advice?

   Why is it that you can give good advice to others yet you don't follow your own advice?

  You know what you should do yet you don't do what you know you should do.

  As I was explaining to someone the dilemma I was having they pointed out that it was similar to the dilemma that our mutual friend was facing.

  Then they asked me why didn't I take the same advice I gave them to deal with the dilemma.

  At first I didn't see MY dilemma as being the same as THEIR dilemma.

  But after thinking about it I realized that it was. 

  I have no idea how I didn't see that it was the same dilemma. 

  I have no idea why I didn't immediately follow my own advice to solve my own dilemma.

  Strange how you can clearly see how others can solve the dilemma that they face yet be perplexed about how to handle the same dilemma for yourself.

  Sometimes you can clog yourself up worrying about something that you can't think clearly. 

  The answer can be right in front of you yet you can't see it. 

  Next time you are faced with a dilemma and you don't know what to do, just ask yourself what would you advise someone else to do if they were in the same dilemma.


Friday, October 15, 2021

What do you remember?

   What will you remember that you find out later that was a memory that is not based on facts?

  What you based your opinions on may not be based on facts.

  Your thoughts are the reality that you live even if in fact it isn't reality at all.

  How you looked at it back then will determine what your memory will be.

  What you choose to see is what will determine what your memories will be.

   If you focus on the positive things that happened in your past then you will have positive memories.

  When I saw my school transcripts I realized that for a fact I didn't do as good in school as I remembered.

Wednesday, October 13, 2021

Can you help spread the positive message?

   It's hard to pass on a positive message if no one ever hears the message.

  It may help many people but it won't help anyone if they never hear about it.

  First I tried everything that I thought was worth a try yet it didn't work.

  After finding someone to get advice on how to spread the positive message, they too realized that they also saw it was going to be nearly impossible.

  So now what?

  There is no doubt that the powerful positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT would help people. 

  But it won't help anyone if they never hear the powerful positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT.

  I am wandering if you will help me spread the positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT?

  Give those you love peace of mind.

  Let them know that they need to take the painful experiences in their lives and JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF THEIR MINDS SO PEACE OF MIND HAS ROOM TO GET IN.




Monday, October 11, 2021

Does it really matter?

   If it doesn't matter in the "big picture" in your life, then does it really matter?

  If it doesn't affect you one way or another, then does it really matter?

  If it doesn't have any impact on you, then does it really matter?

  If you waste time on something that is a waste of your time, that will lead to problems.

  If you waste your energy on things that really don't matter, that will lead to problems.

  If you stress yourself out over things that don't matter at all, that will lead to problems.

  If you take care of others but don't take care of yourself, that will lead to problems.

  If it doesn't matter then forget about it, JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND so it doesn't lead to problems.

  Just remember anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt. 

  It's much easier to walk over a mole hill then it is to have to climb up a mountain.