How on earth will you be able to see a light at the end of the tunnel if you don't unbury yourself from all the obstacles that are blocking your view? Anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt. If you don't look for a way to get out of any mess you may be in then the fact is you can't find a way out. You can not make it to your destination if you don't make the necessary turns in the road to get there. If you get to a dead end you can turn around or give up and that is where you will stay.