Monday, October 30, 2017

It doesnt happen in an instant

In the fast paced World we live in we expect everything to happen in an instant. Well Rome wasn't built in a day. A lot of great ideas get thrown aside when you find out it is going to take more time and effort then you thought. We have serious problems that go unfixed because no one wants to take the time to fix it. Generations put bandaids on the problems and now they are just flat out ignored. Those simple problems that were ignored have now became devastating to those affected by it. You have to wander how on earth a human being can ignore what they see that is right in front of their faces. The song Blowing in the wind, starts playing in my mind. It ask questions like How many deaths will it take till we know that too many people have died, How many mountains must one man climb, and so on and so on. Check out the song that hopefully inspires you to do what it takes to make the World a better place. The World won't get better on its own we all must do our part.

Friday, October 27, 2017

Hold on to it

When you are young you dream about all the things that you want to do one day. What that may be changes as you grow up. But there are a few things that you hold on to that you know for sure you are going to do one day. You may not be able to do it when you thought you would but as long as you don't give up planning to do it You eventually will do it. There is no time limits on waiting for your dreams to come true as long as over time you hold on to your dreams.

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

How can it still be happening a half of a century later?

When I was young my parents and grandparents used to talk about the road construction crews standing around all day. They would take years to do a 2 mile long stretch of road. They watched their taxes go up to pay for it and their patience grow thin with all the congested traffic it caused. Here it is a half of a century later and you can see them standing around just talking as you slowly navigate through the construction areas. As I started my errands past the construction areas to get around, I saw four groups of workers within a half a mile of each other standing around just talking. Some had their hands in their pockets. As I came back through the construction area there they were the same four groups still standing in the same spots two hours later just talking. There is no doubt that me and my family are not the only ones who sees them getting paid good money and good benefits to stand around and talk. We need to put cameras on these work sites to see how much time and money our city can save by only paying them for the actual hours they are working.

Monday, October 23, 2017

It usually happens for a reason

If it is meant to be it will happen one way or another. For a short time in my life I lived in Maine. It was totally different surroundings than I was used to. As I tried to get comfortable sleeping at night in our new home, the noises would start. Every night for a week I would be tortured by the sound of a child screaming. We lived in town houses and the sound echoed making it impossible to tell which direction it was coming from. There was a small forest area that lead to the park behind us. I often wandered was it coming from that direction. It made getting comfortable there with my three small children impossible. Still trying to get situated with our new lives I invited a couple we met over to play cards. Just as we got started the screams from the same child I had heard that had tortured me was wailing right outside my door. This was the first time it had happened in the daytime. Without thinking or saying a word I instantly bolted out the back door to find that child at last. There he was living right next door to me. He was screaming just like he had every night since I moved in there. His mother saw me come out the back door and stare their direction. She quickly apologized that her son was screaming so loudly. I went to her at the fence and told her how happy I was that he was throwing that fit because knowing those screams are not from someone torturing a child was the best welcome present she could have gave me. Instantly the bond between me and my new neighbor was formed. That was nearly 27 years ago. That week of torture was necessary to give us both a friendship that we would need throughout our lifetime. You never know where things will lead you nor why there wasn't a simpler way to get there.

Friday, October 20, 2017

Boy the moon gets blamed for everything

There are some people who refuse to except blame for their actions and bad behaviour. The worst excuse is that everyone else does it. Just because someone does it doesn't make it right to do it. You can blame it on the moon if you want to, but you alone are to blame for doing it. Bad behavior is how you choose to behave just like you choose what to eat for dinner. Unfortunately there are times when bad behavior becomes acceptable if there are no consequences for behaving badly. People think seeing wrong doings and doing nothing about it is ok but that simply makes it acceptable. If you choose to ignore it then you are guilty of basically saying it is ok with you. But will you be ok with it if it was happening to you or someone you love? You should ask yourself that before you decide to ignore it.

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

You may be too old for it but you are never too old to enjoy it.

Halloween isn't just for the little ones. Haunted houses are built for the young at heart, but no one under 13 can enjoy them. Your children may be too grown up for you to walk them around the neighborhood, but while you wait at your front door all the neighborhood kids will stop by to show you their costumes. The older you get the more you realize how precious each moment really is. You know that the "little things" in life are far too important to miss out on them while you chase after the "big things" that you may not ever reach to enjoy. Make sure when you get older that your bucket list contains things that you can realistically do by accepting that your not as young as you used to be when you first made your bucket list. You may still be able to do it but you may have to do it a little differently. Seasons change and as they do you got to change your clothing according to the weather. You can enjoy a swim in the ocean as much as sledding in the snow but you can't wear the same clothes while you are doing each one. You may be too old to believe in Santa but you become Santa's helper so your grandchildren believe in Santa.

Monday, October 16, 2017

You can always stop and do a u-turn

If you realize that the choice you made is leading you in the wrong direction in life, then you can choose to stop and do a u-turn. No matter what you have already invested it is not a waste to stop it. It is a waist of your time to continue. We don't always make the right choices in life but it's just an experience in life and you learn as you go. And when you realize that the direction you are going is the wrong choice then your experience in life has taught you to stop and do a u-turn to get back on track. When you choose the path that shows the most traffic you realize it was because others before you went there and did a u-turn and had to go back the way they came in, making the path look more traveled on.

Friday, October 13, 2017

You may have forgot a moment after you did it but they didn't!

Whoever said words can never hurt you, was wrong. The person you said something to may not forget the hurtful words you said or things you did to them. Some people can forget and some things you can FLUSH away but some things you never forget. When a sight or smell brings up a memory it triggers the same hurt feelings as if it was happening now, even though years and even decades may have past. It triggers PTSD. Negative hurtful events from your past can pop up out of no where. Although there is no permanent way to keep them from popping up again and again, you can FLUSH them at a quick glance before they have time to do any damage emotionally again and again. You may not be able to completely forget but you can quickly protect yourself from it. Everyone needs to remember that a mean thought may pop up in your mind quickly but it shouldn't fly out of your mouth so quickly, because your first thought to a negative situation is very negative. Think about it before you say it out loud.

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

What was the best part of your day?

At the end of the day what will you remember about your day? You have to choose which moments from the day you want to remember. There were positive things that happened today. There were routine things that were done today. And some days there were negative things that happened today. But at the end of the day when you get to sit and reflect on the day, which ones are you thinking about? It is your choice, and whichever you choose will form your opinion of what kind of day You had. Because how you choose to look at things are the thoughts that create the reality you will live with. Your thoughts become your reality. So if you want to think of the positive ones then you will think about what a positive day You had. And if you choose the routine it can put you in a bleak outlook of your day. And if you think of only the negative parts of the day, guess what? Your thoughts make it seem to have been a bad day. Choose wisely because at the end of the day you are choosing whether you had a good day or not. Sometimes the difference between a good day And a bad day is whether you choose to see the good things that happened that day. Like they say either you see the glass half full and enjoy your half of glass or you see the glass half empty and waste it complaining about where the other half went. What do you see?

Monday, October 9, 2017

It broke his heart

I never knew it meant so much to him. My grandson spent the night and as we were talking I told him they were removing the toilet off of my web site. He cried so hard and hugged me so tight. His tears were steadily flowing down my arm. He said no grandma don't let them take your toilet its yours, its all of ours. I tried to explain that in almost eight years I had not sold not even one book or not even a t-shirt and the new web guy said with the toilet no one takes me seriously. He said we couldn't let them just take it that it was what JUST FLUSH IT was all about to help people FLUSH AWAY their problems. Every holiday for eight years my kids and grandkids buy me a new toilet for my collection. I told him they could still by them because I still collected them but I had to take it off to see if it made a difference. Watching him cry so hard made me cry too. I never put anything before my families happiness but if I could make JUST FLUSH IT a phrase known in households across the World then we could all quit work and spend more time together. He didn't care he said they had already made me take off the pictures of toilets on the books and he wasn't going to let them take it. He is only eight years old and I tried to explain to him that I had agreed to take it off. Just weeks before he was born I sent my first book to be published and because I joked with his parents to name him Billy Bob, at the last moment before sending to get books made, I decided to use the pen name of Billie Bob. I never realized that he considered the toilet as his too and that the toilets were so important to him. He is my biggest fan. My heart is breaking as I know I have to for the chance at ever selling anything. When things happen in my family they tell me write a blog about that grandma. They love to hear blogs all about them. My blogging and books have been therapeutic for me and I know they can help others find Peace of mind too. But they can't help anyone if they never hear about it. This is a very hard decision that I have to make with my mind not my heart.  I hope it is the right decision. I am curious what people really think of the toilet, please comment below to let me know before it is gone.

Friday, October 6, 2017

How fast can you decide?

There are times when you first check your email and there are a lot in your inbox. You naturally focus on what is important knowing the others are merely there making noise to distract you. You have to ignore the distractions so you can stay on track to stay focused on the important ones. It's the same with the thoughts in your mind. You can't be distracted by the negative thoughts if you plan on staying focused on the important things. Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts popping up trying to grab our attention. Unfortunately there are negative ones mixed in with the positive ones. When a thought pops up that you know is negative than JUST FLUSH IT at a quick glance so it doesn't have a chance to distract you from staying focused on what's most important. A clear mind will help you avoid making poor desicions.

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

You dont have to completely change

A complete change may not be necessary. Changing your expectations may be all you need. Sometimes you expect way to much out of people or circumstances. They may just be too unrealistic. If you are looking for only perfection to make you happy then you will never be happy because nothing or no one is perfect. But you can be perfectly happy if you would accept people and circumstances for what they are. You have to accept yourself for who you are and accept that your not perfect as well as accepting the things that have happened in your life. Acknowledge it then accept it so you can JUST FLUSH IT and move on. If your expectations are too high you will never find what you were expecting to find.

Monday, October 2, 2017

Be the change you want to see in the World

As I try to write my blog today my mind can't think of anything because the tragedy in Las Vegas is weighing heavy on my mind. It will be hard to prevent such tragedies but we can prevent some of them by reporting what we see that raises our suspicions. We need to expand our intelligence agencies so every report can be examined. My heartfelt prayers go out to the hundreds of victims and their families.

Today I will leave you with a quote from Gandhi "Be the change you want to see in the World".