Monday, October 25, 2021

What percentage of people do you think would say they were dealing with anxiety?

   How many people do you think are dealing with anxiety?

  You would be surprised to know that even before the pandemic that number was a very high percentage of those that were asked.

  Could you imagine how many people would say yes after nearly two years of living in a pandemic.

  Let's not forget that there are also many people who would not say yes even though they have anxiety.

  The pandemic has caused anxiety to be at an epidemic level. It affects the rich and the poor. It affects the young and the old. 

  We need to all be kind to everyone that we meet because we have no idea what they may be facing.

  A random act of kindness can make a positive difference in someones life.

  You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone see it or feel it?

 Even if there may not be anything you can do to help them, you can at least make sure you don't do anything that would make it harder for anyone. 




Friday, October 22, 2021

Do you know what the definition of self care is?

   The dictionary defines "self care" as the practice of taking ACTION to PRESERVE or IMPROVE one's own HEALTH.

  Taking care of yourself IS NOT being SELFISH. It is the only way to maintain your overall well being.

  STRESS and ANXIETY whether it is real or not affects your overall well being.

  STRESS and ANXIETY whether it is done physically or mentally will have a negative affect on your overall well being.

  You can't think clearly to make the right decision for yourself let alone anyone else, if you don't STOP to be able to think CLEARLY.

  If you want to be able to "TAKE CARE" of things for others, you have to give yourself the "SELF CARE" that you need.

  You have to "TAKE CARE" of yourself so you can "TAKE CARE" of YOURSELF. 




Wednesday, October 20, 2021

Why is it harder to forgive yourself?

   Forgiving someone else is a lot easier than to forgive yourself.

  Forgiveness for others is something you do for yourself not for them.

  They don't have to acknowledge what they did nor do they have to apologize for what they did. 

  You forgive them so that you can JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so it doesn't affect you negatively by weighing heavily on your mind.

  So why is it so harder to forgive yourself?

  Perhaps it's because you think that you need to let those involved know that you are aware of what you did wrong.

   That way they understand that you know so they don't hold it against you.

  The problem is that they won't forget so the damage to your reputation they have of you won't change.

  That makes it harder for you to forgive yourself because you have to live forever with the consequences.

  You feel like if they would just let you explain then they would forget about whatever you did or said. 

  But you know deep down that they will never forget.

  If it is a dear friend or family member your past bond together and the many years they have known you will heal from your mistake.

  But if it is a new personal or business connection your first mistake can cause them to close the door of communication immediately and permanently.

  That makes forgiving yourself harder. Especially if you know how important of a connection they would have been for you.

  You have to forgive yourself because letting it weigh so heavily on your mind won't change the outcome that you have with them. PERIOD.

 No only if I could explain.

 No only if I could do it differently.

 No would've, could've, or should've will change WHAT IT IS.



  Remember FORGIVENESS is something you do for YOURSELF. 


  Always remember that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes.







Monday, October 18, 2021

Why don't you take your own advice?

   Why is it that you can give good advice to others yet you don't follow your own advice?

  You know what you should do yet you don't do what you know you should do.

  As I was explaining to someone the dilemma I was having they pointed out that it was similar to the dilemma that our mutual friend was facing.

  Then they asked me why didn't I take the same advice I gave them to deal with the dilemma.

  At first I didn't see MY dilemma as being the same as THEIR dilemma.

  But after thinking about it I realized that it was. 

  I have no idea how I didn't see that it was the same dilemma. 

  I have no idea why I didn't immediately follow my own advice to solve my own dilemma.

  Strange how you can clearly see how others can solve the dilemma that they face yet be perplexed about how to handle the same dilemma for yourself.

  Sometimes you can clog yourself up worrying about something that you can't think clearly. 

  The answer can be right in front of you yet you can't see it. 

  Next time you are faced with a dilemma and you don't know what to do, just ask yourself what would you advise someone else to do if they were in the same dilemma.


Friday, October 15, 2021

What do you remember?

   What will you remember that you find out later that was a memory that is not based on facts?

  What you based your opinions on may not be based on facts.

  Your thoughts are the reality that you live even if in fact it isn't reality at all.

  How you looked at it back then will determine what your memory will be.

  What you choose to see is what will determine what your memories will be.

   If you focus on the positive things that happened in your past then you will have positive memories.

  When I saw my school transcripts I realized that for a fact I didn't do as good in school as I remembered.

Wednesday, October 13, 2021

Can you help spread the positive message?

   It's hard to pass on a positive message if no one ever hears the message.

  It may help many people but it won't help anyone if they never hear about it.

  First I tried everything that I thought was worth a try yet it didn't work.

  After finding someone to get advice on how to spread the positive message, they too realized that they also saw it was going to be nearly impossible.

  So now what?

  There is no doubt that the powerful positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT would help people. 

  But it won't help anyone if they never hear the powerful positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT.

  I am wandering if you will help me spread the positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT?

  Give those you love peace of mind.

  Let them know that they need to take the painful experiences in their lives and JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF THEIR MINDS SO PEACE OF MIND HAS ROOM TO GET IN.




Monday, October 11, 2021

Does it really matter?

   If it doesn't matter in the "big picture" in your life, then does it really matter?

  If it doesn't affect you one way or another, then does it really matter?

  If it doesn't have any impact on you, then does it really matter?

  If you waste time on something that is a waste of your time, that will lead to problems.

  If you waste your energy on things that really don't matter, that will lead to problems.

  If you stress yourself out over things that don't matter at all, that will lead to problems.

  If you take care of others but don't take care of yourself, that will lead to problems.

  If it doesn't matter then forget about it, JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND so it doesn't lead to problems.

  Just remember anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt. 

  It's much easier to walk over a mole hill then it is to have to climb up a mountain.



Friday, October 8, 2021

How would you describe yourself?

  If someone ask you to describe yourself, would you know exactly what to say?

  It sounds like an easy question yet you have to ask them which part of you do they want you to describe.

  Do they mean the business part of yourself?

  Do they mean a particular part of yourself?

  Do they mean on a regular basis or describe who you would be when/if you had to be in a particular situation? 

  You can't answer who you would be in a situation until you are faced with that situation.

  The answer is complex because life happens and you have to adapt and change as you go to keep up with the never ending changes on your life's journey.

  It's okay to simply say I am who I am. 







Wednesday, October 6, 2021

Are you doing what you need to do?

   You can work hard yet still not benefit from your hard work. 

  You can  be proud of yourself for all your hard work yet not get the benefit you were after.

  The three little pigs are a good example. They each worked to build themselves a house.

  But building a house out of materials that won't sustain the wind of the Big Bad Wolf, won't protect you from the Big Bad Wolf. 

  First you have to make sure that what you do will reap the benefits that you are after.

  The outcome is not only about how hard you work. It's determined also by if you did the work necessary to reap the benefits that you want.

  Knowing what you need to do and how you need to do it is necessary before you waste your time and energy doing things that don't benefit you at all.



Monday, October 4, 2021

Did you know that RHYTHMIC sounds can ease your stress?

   Just as I was finally heading out my front door to do my errands, the dark rain clouds were just rolling in.

  I had planned on going earlier to do errands but apparently I shouldn't have procrastinated. 

  I knew that driving around was not a good idea because the sky was black all around me as far as I could see.

  I plopped down on my porch and started feeling disappointed that I had procrastinated at all.

  Within less than a minute the rain was pouring so hard you couldn't even see the house across the street.

   I began feeling anxiety building inside me about possibly not making it before the businesses closed that I needed to go to.

 Then the rhythmic sound of the rain drops falling on the many surfaces outside caught my attention.

  I could hear the metal tinging as it bounced on the table.

  I could hear the thud sounds as it bounced on the roof.

 I sat there enjoying the musical sounds that the rain had brought.

  Before I knew it I had forgot all about being upset that the rain was preventing me from getting my errands done and being upset with myself for procrastinating.

  The rain may delay your errands but instead of stressing out about it just sit down and let the RHYTHMIC sounds Keep you relaxed.


Friday, October 1, 2021

Are you looking for a simpler life?

   If you want to have a more simple Life, you have to KEEP THINGS SIMPLE.

  If you want to have a more relaxing life, you have to KEEP THINGS SIMPLE.

  If you you want to have more time to spend with your friends and family, you got to KEEP THINGS SIMPLE.

  If you want to not be overwhelmed, you need to KEEP THINGS SIMPLE.

  If you want to have ROOM in your mind to think clearly, you have to KEEP THINGS SIMPLE. 

  If you want a simple life so that you can simply be happier, you got to KEEP THINGS SIMPLE.

  Anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they KEEP ADDING DIRT. 



Wednesday, September 29, 2021

Would you if you could?

   If someone needed a helping hand would you help them?

  If someone was being mistreated would you do whatever you could to stop them from being mistreated? 

  If someone needed to be encouraged would you say or do something that would encourage them?

  If you needed help you would hope someone would help you, wouldn't you?

  If you were being mistreated you would want someone to rescue you so you wouldn't be mistreated, wouldn't you?

  If you needed to be encouraged you would be thankful if someone encouraged you, wouldn't you?

  If you ignore bad behavior it will become acceptable. 

  And if you ACCEPT it than you can EXPECT it to eventually happen to you or someone you love.


Monday, September 27, 2021

Is stress taking a toll on your overall well being?

 There are many challenges that we must face while we are on our Life's journey that can be stressful. Not to mention the added stress the pandemic has created.

  The stress can weigh so heavy on our mind that it can weigh you down physically.

  Sometimes we add unnecessary stress because we worry about what COULD or MIGHT happen.

 The damage is done even if everything turns out fine and we realize that we worried and stressed when we didn't even need to.

  So don't stress yourself out, or at least not until you know that you have something you need to even stress about at all. 

  Because the damage that stress caused you is real even though it turns out you had nothing to worry about. 

  If it is not a life or death situation then don't make it one by worrying yourself to death about things that you aren't even going through. 

  Your thoughts are the reality that you live even if your thoughts are not reality at all.

  Don't sweat the small stuff, nor things that COULD OR MIGHT happen.




Friday, September 24, 2021

Do you want to have peace of mind?

   If you want to have PEACE OF MIND you have to make ROOM in your mind so it can get in.

  If you keep reliving what happened in your past you don't have a chance to live the current moment you are living.

  You can't see or enjoy the beauty around you if you only see everything that you saw or experienced in your past.

  You need to take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so PEACE OF MIND has ROOM to get in.

  To ENJOY Life you have to ENJOY it while you are living it. 

  You can't move past it if you don't leave it in the past so you can get moving forward.

  YESTERDAY is already gone and TOMORROW may never come but TODAY is yours to ENJOY.



Wednesday, September 22, 2021

Do you know if you were heard?

   If you want anyone to hear you then you will have to tell them. 

  You may think they know but honestly they won't know unless you tell them.

  If you want them to know then make sure you tell them so they will know.

  Unfortunately just because you say it out loud to someone doesn't mean they heard you.

  But if you say it out loud they have a chance to hear you.

  When you take a chance that you will be heard and they call you back to talk about what you said, YOU KNOW YOU WERE HEARD.

  Although you may not get the reaction to what they heard you say that you wanted to hear from them, IT'S AWESOME that you know that they heard you.

  I want to thank MRS. ELIZABETH for acknowledging that you heard me. 

  Unfortunately it wasn't what I wanted to hear, just to know you heard me was awesome to hear.

  They can't hear what you don't say. 

  If you want them to know anything you have to say it out loud so they can hear you.


Monday, September 20, 2021

You have to do what is .....

   You have to do what is best for you even though it may not have been what you ever wanted to do.

  You have to be able to do it alone just in case you find yourself having to do it alone. 

  You have to prepare yourself for whatever could come your way because you never know what is coming.

  You have to have a positive outlook if you have any chance for a positive outcome.

  You have to keep all your options open so you always have an option.

  You have to try because you won't know if you can do it until you try to do it.

  You only have the time you have so enjoy life while are living it. 





Friday, September 17, 2021

Don't wait for it

   Don't wait until it's too late. Because you don't want to miss your opportunity.

  Don't wait until it's gone. Because when it's gone, it's gone.

  Don't wait until you are too old to do it. Because you can't turn back time.

  Don't wait to enjoy it because it may not be available later to enjoy. Enjoy it while you have a chance to enjoy it.

  Don't forget what is most important because if it's important then it is important to remember.

  Don't wait to enjoy your children because before you know it they will be grown ups.

  Don't wait for it to fall in your lap because it won't. Go after your dreams to make your dreams come true.

  Don't wait, go for it. 

Wednesday, September 15, 2021

You can't AVOID it if you don't acknowledge it

   You can't IGNORE it if you want to be prepared for it. You have to ACKNOWLEDGE it so that you know how to prepare for it.

  You can't AVOID it if you don't ACKNOWLEDGE it so that you can do what you need to do so you can AVOID it.

  You can't MOVE past it if you don't ACKNOWLEDGE it so you can walk around it to KEEP MOVING. 

  KNOWING what to EXPECT will help you ACCEPT it so you are PREPARED for it.

  Don't PRETEND it isn't if it is. 

  Don't IGNORE it if you want to AVOID it.

  KNOWING what you NEED to do is the only way that you will KNOW what you NEED to do to GET R' DONE.




Monday, September 13, 2021

Different Strokes for Different Folks

  Just because they like it doesn't mean that you would like it.

  Just because it works for them doesn't mean it would work for you.

  Just because other people are doing it doesn't make it right.

 Just because you like it doesn't mean that anyone else would like it.

  Just because it works for you doesn't mean it would work for them.

  Just because it is the right thing to do is why everyone should do it.

  Just because you are who you are is what makes you, well you.

  Just because it is what is best for you is the only reason you need to JUST DO IT.

Friday, September 10, 2021

You shouldn't wait until you are old to....

 The older I get the more things I realize that I would have done differently had I only knew what I know now.

 If only I had listened to the advice my elders tried to tell me, I would not be here today regretting not listening.

  Life is full of lessons that you must learn at some time on your life's journey. 

  It's just a lot easier to listen so you can learn from the mistakes made by others than to learn them the hard way.

  If you know you have to learn as you go on your life's journey then the earlier you prepare for what you know is coming the better.

  At the place I am in life I realize that PEACE OF MIND is and always should have been MY PRIORITY. 

  I would like to pass on the positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT. 

  There are lots of advice on marketing a service or products but JUST FLUSH IT is a FEELING. 

  Any advice on how to MARKET a FEELING would be greatly appreciated. 



Wednesday, September 8, 2021

How did they do it?

   How is it that you can do it right in front of them yet they don't see what you were doing but they notice them doing it the first time they do it?

  How can you have worked so hard to build the foundation and steps yet they only notice the step railing?

  How is it that you do everything that you need to do to get it, yet not be rewarded by getting it?

  How is it that you did all the research to know what you need to do it yet not have everything that you need?

  How can they forget all that you had done to help them in the past the minute you say you just can't help them this time?

  Unfortunately no one gets everything they deserve. Unfortunately there are times when those people that don't deserve it at all yet they get it. That's just life.

  All you can do is do the best that you can do so you can be proud of YOURSELF. Because at the end of the day, that is what really matters. Not whether you got what you deserved because you might not.

Monday, September 6, 2021

It may not seem that important but...

  Take a few moments to sit down and have some "small talk" with someone.

  It may not seem like "small talk" is important but it is. What you learn from a minute of "small talk" may be very helpful to you later in your life.

  At the time you just enjoy visiting them and you relax together while you are just having conversations about nothing in particular just "small talk."

  But you just may learn some important information that can help you or someone you love navigate through a tough situation years later.

  As you lend them your ear to allow them to tell you about random things you just may hear about things that you will need to know one day later in your life.

  It may seem like "small talk" is small but it is the moments you will treasure most about the time you have spent with those you love.

  Big things come in small packages. Every moment you get to relax and enjoy each others company is moments you both will treasure.

Friday, September 3, 2021

Knowing and accepting are two different things

 You might know it but still have trouble accepting it.

  You may know what to EXPECT yet still have trouble accepting what will happen.

  You may know that something is bad for you yet still have trouble staying away so it can't hurt you.

  It's hard to ACCEPT the truth at times but if you don't you will have to ACCEPT the consequences for ignoring the truth.

  It is what it is, it ain't what it ain't. It's that simple.

 Just because you don't want to ACCEPT it doesn't mean you shouldn't ACCEPT it.

 You may not like it, but like it or not you have to ACCEPT that it is what it is to keep moving forward you just have to ACCEPT it for what it is.

  The truth may be hard to ACCEPT but that is just LIFE.


Wednesday, September 1, 2021

If you don't ask the question...

   If you want to know the answer to your question, you will have to ask the question.

  If you don't let them know what you need, how would they know what you need?

  Although there are some things there are no answers for, not even on Google. You won't know unless you look it up.

  You may think they know what you need but they don't unless you tell them what you need.

  The answer could be right in front of you but unless you look for it, you will never see it.

  If you don't know but you need to know then ASK someone so you will know.

  There is nothing wrong with asking but if you don't ASK you will wish you would have asked when things go wrong.

  No one knows everything but everyone knows that if you want to learn anything you need to ASK someone who knows the answers you need.

  If you don't ASK you will never know. ASK so you can make an informed decision. 


Monday, August 30, 2021

Do something

 If you choose not to do anything then you will be choosing to do nothing. But remember that choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make.

 If you want to make a positive difference you have to do something that would make a positive difference.

  If you want things to be different in your life than you will have to do things differently.

  You can't keep doing things the same way over and over again and expect a different result.

 You also can't get too comfortable in life because life is always changing. You will just have to ADJUST as you go to keep moving forward.

  The outcome is not determined by the circumstances that you face but by how you REACT to the circumstances that you must face.

 Only if you look for a way to have a positive outcome will you know what you have to do to have a positive outcome.


Friday, August 27, 2021

Will it make a difference?

   Even though you can not take care of everything they need, they will still appreciate your help.

  Every random act of kindness no matter how small it is, makes a positive difference to them.

  You may not have the answers they need but taking the time to listen to them, allows them to be able to figure out the answers on their own.

  You may not be able to do anything to help them but you certainly can make sure you don't do anything that would make things harder for them. 

  You can make a positive difference but only if you do something that will make a positive difference to someone.

  You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone see it so they can feel it?







Wednesday, August 25, 2021

As long as it helps

   What good is your wisdom to anyone if you don't share your wisdom with anyone?

  Have you ever tried to share your wisdom with someone who really would benefit from it yet they won't listen to what you have to say?

  I saw a sign that said....If your own family won't listen then spread your wisdom to another family.

  Just because everyone won't benefit from your experiences doesn't mean someone won't benefit from them.

  If you want to make a positive impact on someone you have to do something that will have a positive impact on them.

  Share your wisdom and they can either listen or not. You don't want to regret not trying to share it with them.




Monday, August 23, 2021

TRUST ME, karma is real

   It's hard to see their HUMAN side when they have to keep it hidden.

  It's hard to know who to trust when there are so many people who you can't TRUST everywhere.

  Luckily if you know someone you TRUST who knows someone they TRUST, then you will know someone who can be TRUSTED.

  It may be hard to find but once you do then you will be able to PASS IT ON to others. 

  Earning someone's TRUST is the only way for them to TRUST you enough before they will decide to share WHO THEY TRUST with you.

  It's like a special club for other HUMANS like yourself that are TRUSTWORTHY. 

 If they don't TRUST you then they will protect those special people they can TRUST from you.

  Society had seemed to be full of people who you just couldn't TRUST anything they said. 

  Turns out there are many people who you CAN TRUST but you will never know who they are until someone who TRUST YOU tells you who they know that are.

  They won't TRUST you unless you prove you can be TRUSTED. 

  If you want to be TRUSTED then if you give someone your word, make sure you keep your word.

  I shared my HONEST AC GUY with them years ago who their friends and family use. To repay me they shared their HONEST MECHANIC with me when I needed one.

  TRUST ME, you reap what you sow in life. KARMA IS REAL.

Friday, August 20, 2021

What to EXPECT when there is no way to know what to EXPECT

   What you thought you could EXPECT isn't what you can EXPECT at all.

  What used to be NORMAL isn't what is NORMAL anymore.

  What used to WORK doesn't WORK anymore.

  What you used to be able to DO is not possible to DO anymore.

  You can't plan for the UNEXPECTED because you have no idea what to EXPECT.

  It's hard to say what you NEED to do when the PANDEMIC changes what you will NEED.

  Life is full of CHALLENGES and you have to ADJUST to get through the CHALLENGES.

  LIFE'S JOURNEY is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns without living during a pandemic. 

  Pandemic or not we only have one life to live and the only way to ENJOY life is to ENJOY it while you are LIVING IT. 

  Don't sit around and wait for things to go back to NORMAL to be HAPPY because nothing will be the OLD NORMAL ANYMORE.

  BE HAPPY wherever you are. 

  When LIFE gives you LEMONS learn how to make LEMONADE.



Wednesday, August 18, 2021

If it makes you happy then who cares what anyone else thinks!

   It's not being SELFISH to make sure you have self compassion. Which means doing things that make you feel HOPEFUL and INSPIRED.

  OF COURSE you can't do anything and everything that you want to do. There are many things that you should never do because it will have only negative affects. 

  But taking care of yourself is not being SELFISH, It is being SMART. It is a NECESSITY so you can ENJOY LIFE WHILE YOU ARE LIVING IT.

  It might be just who you are, always jumping in to help everyone with everything. But if you don't take care of yourself you won't be able to HELP anyone when they really need your help.

  REMEMBER if someone asks you if you can help, and you CAN'T, it is okay to say NO. 

  REMEMBER if it isn't HURTING ANYONE and it is something that makes you FEEL HAPPY, then do it. IT doesn't MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS. 

  REMEMBER at the end of the day as long as you are PROUD OF YOURSELF that is all that matters. 

   Do you remember the song DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY? 

  The next time someone doesn't like what you are doing that makes you happy just tell yourself DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY.



Monday, August 16, 2021

Don't lose CONTROL focusing on things you CAN NOT CONTROL

   Don't focus on things that are OUT OF YOUR CONTROL.

  ACCEPT that you are not in CONTROL of what other people do or say.

  Accept that you are not in CONTROL of every situation you will have to face in your life.

  Don't focus on everything that is out of your CONTROL.... FOCUS ON THINGS THAT YOU CAN CONTROL.

  You may have been treated unfairly or disrespected but you can still treat others with kindness and respect.

  You must FOCUS your energy on your deeply held values and being a positive influence on others.

  If you let the turmoil of worrying about things YOU HAVE NO CONTROL over consume you then you will lose CONTROL over all the positive things that you DO HAVE CONTROL OVER.

  LIFE'S JOURNEY is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns. 



  DON'T waste a single moment of it FOCUSING on things that you have NO CONTROL OVER.


Friday, August 13, 2021

A thought that distracts

   When your thoughts DISTRACT you it can make staying on track harder.

  When your thoughts DISTRACT you it can keep you from doing what you need to do.

  When your thoughts DISTRACT you it can make reaching your goals impossible.

  So when you need a change then change your thoughts by DISTRACTING your way of thinking.

 When you need to stay focused then don't let thoughts DISTRACT you.

  When a thought pops up that evokes negative feelings JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so it can't DISTRACT you.

   Your thoughts are your reality. 

  Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts that try to grab our attention and it is up to us to choose wisely.

Wednesday, August 11, 2021

Does it affect the "big picture" in your future?

   Sometimes we can think something is important yet it won't have any affect us in the future.

  Don't let things weigh heavy on your mind that will weigh you down on your life's journey.

  If it doesn't matter then JUST FLUSH IT out of your MIND to lighten your load.

   Sometimes you think it was important to them yet they don't even remember it at all.

  What is important to you when you are young won't be important to you when you are old.

  What is important to you may not be important to them.

   At the end of the day it's important that you are proud of yourself. 

Monday, August 9, 2021

Be thankful for it

   Being thankful for what you got takes you appreciating what you got. Not thinking about what you don't have.

  Being thankful for what you got takes you seeing the glass half full. Not seeing it as half empty and waste your time and energy complaining  about how much you didn't get.

  Being thankful for what you got is all in how you look at it.

  You could be surrounded by water yet still die of thirst if you don't take a drink.

 You may not have everything that you could ever want but as long as you have everything that you really need you should be thankful.

 Being thankful for what you got is the only way that you will be grateful for what you got. 

 Don't waste a perfectly good day because everything aint perfect.



Friday, August 6, 2021

You figured it out but you can' no longer....

   When I look back now, I can understand but I didn't understand in time. 

  The older I get and the more things I experience, the more I understand what exactly they went through that I didn't understand back then. 

  Unfortunately you may not understand in time to talk to them about it. 

  I experience things now that I remember older relatives going through when I was younger but they are no longer around to talk to them about it.

  I used to think old people were kinda grouchy and set in their ways. And now that I am one of the old people, I understand why  and I too am kinda grouchy and set in my ways.

  Change is exciting when you are younger but when you are older it is hard to change. 

  I can see the puzzled look on my grown children's faces when they don't understand me at all.

  After a while I give up trying to make them understand and I tell them nevermind, one day you will understand.

  That is exactly what my older relatives would tell me when I didn't understand them. 

  We all have been there and say if only I Knew then what I know now....


Wednesday, August 4, 2021

Ask yourself to help yourself

   From time to time you need to take the time to talk to yourself.

  I know it sounds crazy to talk to yourself but you know you best so you would be crazy if you didn't.

  When you need to decide what is best for you to do, be honest with yourself so you will know what is best for you.

  Who you surround yourself with has a big impact on your way of thinking. So ask yourself if it is best for you to be around them or not.

  When you find yourself in a negative situation ask yourself what you need to do to have the best positive outcome for yourself.

  As long as you are honest with yourself you honestly will make the right decision for yourself. 

  What works for someone else may not work for you. 

  What makes someone else happy doesn't mean it is what would make you happy.

  What is important to someone else may not be important to you. What is important to you may not be important to them.

    Your thoughts are the reality that you live so think HAPPY THOUGHTS to be happy.

   At the end of the day as long as you are proud of yourself that is all that matters.

Monday, August 2, 2021

Life survival skills

   A person is not born knowing anything. You learn as you go.

  You learn from your experiences. 

  You learn from the people around you. Even a brief encounter with someone can teach you something that was an important part of what made you who you are today.

  Remember your WORDS of encouragement can encourage them. 

  They may not remember your brief encounter but your encouraging WORDS you plant will not be forgotten. 

  Unfortunately your negative WORDS will not be forgotten either. So remember IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL.

  We need to go back to making mandatory in our schools classes that teach life survival skills to both boys and girls.

  Knowing a range of things like checking the oil in your car and changing a tire to how to prepare meals for yourself. As well as banking, budgeting and saving, just to mention a few.

  Life survival skills are needed to survive. 

  Cooking, gardening, budgeting, being creative and entertaining ourselves at home had become a LOST ART in the fast paced World we live in. 

  But because of the pandemic, now we have all learned many things that we can pass on to other generations.

  What good is your wisdom if you don't share it with others?

  You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone feel it?

  Pass it on. 



Friday, July 30, 2021

You have to draw the line to be fair to everyone

   If you are a pet owner you know that your pets are not human but you love them as if they are your children.

  You spoil them just like you would spoil a young child. You protect them because like a child they need protected.

  Unfortunately someone who has never had a family pet sees all pets as a nuisance that they don't want to be bothered with.

  Everyone is free to choose whether they want a family pet in their families or not.

  Although I have family pets of my own I have had friends who's pets I didn't exactly like. 

  But there is a line that you do not cross when letting your feelings be known about someone's beloved family pets.

  They don't have to like your pets, they don't have to pet your pet or even acknowledge your family pet.

  I had always felt as long as they didn't physically harm your pet they didn't cross any lines when visiting someone's homes that had family pets.

  But recently I had someone visit my home that crossed the line that I didn't know existed.

  I have two family dogs, one is nine and the other is ten years old. They are very much like children to us.

  My visitor was sharing the skin off his fried chicken we were eating with my Labrador. When I noticed I asked him why he was repeatedly only feeding her and not giving my other dog any?

  I thought he would say oh I didn't see her there. Instead he said with a stern attitude that it was because the lab didn't bark at him but the other one did.

  I tried to ignore his response then he threw another big piece to my lab as I watched the sadness in my little miniature Weiner dogs face as he once again made sure she didn't get any.

  Finally as I watched him tare the skin off another piece of chicken I stopped him. I said you don't have to share with any of my dogs if you don't want to.

 But I don't want you to give either of them anything if you aren't willing to give them both some.

  I thought ok he knows he crossed a line and I was upset he will share that piece with both of my dogs. 

  But nope. He just looked at me without saying a word and finished eating. When he was done he placed it in a bag and tied it up and threw it in the garbage.

  He was determined to make sure that my little dog that barked at him didn't get any, period.

  I was certainly upset by his actions. I understand he has never had a pet. I understand that he has no idea how a pet is a family member.

  But I wish he would have acknowledge what I said in some way, shape or form. I  learned that sometimes you have to set different boundaries that you never knew you needed to set.

 I didn't know before but I know now that the next time he visits my house and we are about to eat, I will ask him not to feed either of my dogs any food. 

  As soon as he left I went in the garbage and pulled out the bag he had put his chicken in that he had thrown away. 

  And boy the look on both of my dogs faces as I shared his chicken skin with them was priceless. 







Wednesday, July 28, 2021

Don't carry sandbags

   On your Life's Journey you will learn as you go. 

  You never know what life has in store for you. But one thing is for sure and that is that you have to ENJOY Life while you are living it. 

  All you have is the TIME you have so ENJOY every moment of IT. 

  Don't carry your painful experiences from the past like sandbags on your life's journey. Learn what you need to from it then JUST FLUSH IT to lighten your load.

  Remember that the Rollercoaster of Life is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that's just LIFE.

  And sometimes in Life you may have to bend like a pretzel to stay on track, that's just LIFE.

 But you don't have to load yourself down with "SANDBAGS" making your life's journey harder, JUST FLUSH IT to lighten your load.





Monday, July 26, 2021

Staying true to what you believe

   The last year and a half has been challenging at times. We have had to get creative to accomplish even the smallest things. 

  As the covid-19 virus has mutated and is spreading we may have to consider going back into quarantine. 

  We have learned a lot as we have had to navigate through the challenges that the pandemic has caused. 

  We will get through this latest outbreak too by taking all that we have learned and taking all the necessary steps to stay safe.

  We all need to buckle down and do what we need to do to stop the spread of the covid-19 virus so we will be able to gather together to enjoy a Holly Jolly Christmas this year. 

  I was stunned when a local Walmart store closed for two days yesterday to disinfect to slow the spread of this more contagious variant.

 Although I had recently stocked up for hurricane season, I had to go back out today to stock up again on certain things that are specifically needed for quarantine supplies.

  Luckily what we learned as we navigated through the last year, will get us through the challenges we will have to face in the next few weeks.

  We can do this!


Friday, July 23, 2021

You may have heard what they said...

   You can hear what someone says yet not understand what they said at all. 

  How you interpereted what they said doesn't mean that is what they said at all.

  You may have heard every word they said yet not hear the meaning of their words at all.

  How you look at things determines what you see. 

  How you interpret what you hear will determine what you think was said.

  Your point of view is the only view you see that you have to base your opinions on.

  Yet when you take the time to see it from a different point of view, your opinion may change.

  Without knowing for sure you can't be sure so wait to form your opinion until you know for sure.

   Understanding what they meant to say is the only way to know what they are truly saying.

  Don't ruin a good relationship because you interpereted what they said or did all wrong. 

  Don't miss out on an opportunity because you didn't understand what an opportunity it actually is. 





Wednesday, July 21, 2021

Setting boundaries for yourself

   When you set boundaries for yourself you don't cross them.

  The boundaries you set are set by you to make sure you don't cross them.

  You are bound to encounter people who try to get you to follow them outside of your boundaries.

  You may even be tempted at times to go beyond your boundaries but remember WHY YOU SET THAT BOUNDARY.

  You set limits on yourself not to limit what you do but to limit any negative affects on yourself. 

  The boundaries you set for yourself are not meant to hold you back they are set to ensure nothing can hold you back.

  If it is against what you believe is good for you then make sure it is something you never do. 

  When you set boundaries for yourself DON'T CROSS THEM.




Monday, July 19, 2021

What we have in common....

   We can all be very different yet we can still also be the same in many ways at the same time.  What do we all have in common?

  We may not like the same kind of food but we all have to eat.

  We may not always see eye to eye or agree on things. But as long as we agree to disagree we can all get along.

  We have many differences but all that matters is that we all have common courtesy, common decency and common sense in common.

   Our uniqueness makes us each unique.

 You don't have to like what anyone else does. But if you want the freedom to be who you want to be then you have to let them have the freedom to be who they want to be.

 If you want others to respect your opinion then you have to respect their right to their opinions.

  Me and my family and friends don't always agree on everything. But we love each other enough that we all agree to not talk about subjects we disagree on. That way we can enjoy the time we have together.

  What you have in common with someone means more than how different you are on things.

  As long as you have common courtesy, common decency and common sense in common you can enjoy their uniqueness.



Friday, July 16, 2021

In life U-TURNS are allowed

   You may make the wrong turn in life and it leads you to a dead end. Luckily in life U-TURNS are not ONLY allowed but they are a natural part of life.

  You shouldn't be so hard on yourself that you chose a path that unfortunately led to nowhere.

  Not only do things change over time that determines where a path leads but as humans we change over time and where we want to be, also changes.

  What worked in the past may not work anymore. What worked for someone else may not work for you.

  Adapting to life is necessary to go with the flow. Doing a U-TURN when you hit a dead end is necessary to keep moving in the right direction.

  If you get knocked down in life you got to get up, dust yourself off and get started again. It doesn't matter how many times you have to "start over" all that matters is that you get up.

  Remember in life U-TURNS are not ONLY allowed but they are also necessary at times, that's just LIFE. 


Wednesday, July 14, 2021

The last thing they need is your negative energy

   When someone makes a mistake they don't need you to scream and berate them in order for them to learn from it. 

  As a matter of fact your negative words and insults make them cringe.  Which will stunt the natural growth they would have gained.

  People can call it tough love and pretend like it will help you. But kicking someone after they have fallen isn't love at all.

  Rubbing it in someones face so that they know that you know that they made a mistake is not helpful to them.

  If you want to help them then let them see for themselves and learn from it. We all make mistakes throughout our life, that's just part of life, it's growing pains.

  Give them encouraging words to help them get back on their feet. 



Monday, July 12, 2021

You don't miss what you never had

   It's true you may not miss it until it is gone. And it is also true that you don't miss what you never had.

  During over a year in quarantine there were many people and things that you knew you would miss a lot. 

  But there were also things that annoyed you that you never thought you would miss, but you do.

  As we slowly get back into being able to move freely about there are some things that we have realized that we didn't miss at all.

  The fast paced pre-pandemic lifestyle we had doesn't seem as appealing as it used to be. Having the time to STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES is something that we want to continue to have time for.

  Many people have had to learn to cook at home when the quarantine closed down the restaurants. 

  Some of the new dishes you have made and enjoyed during quarantine are ones you and your family want to continue to have at home.

  Your new normal is whatever feels good to you. 



Friday, July 9, 2021

Keep things as simple as possible

     The more elaborate your plans are, the more parts that you have to move to do it. If you keep things simple then you will have less you need to juggle to do it.

   The less you have to do the less stressful it will be for you. And those around you will benefit from a stress-free you.

  If you want to simplify your life you got to keep things simple. 

   Don't take on more than you can handle. If you can't do it then simply tell them no I can't help. 

  There is nothing wrong with giving someone an honest no. Know your limits and stay in your limits for your overall well being. 

  Just keep things simple. You will be less stressful if you have less to stress about.




Wednesday, July 7, 2021

Enjoying your Life's Journey

   Life's Journey is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns. It's called the ROLLERCOASTER OF LIFE.

  But the only way to ENJOY life is to ENJOY it while you are living it. 

  Like the plaque on my wall says..

  I asked God for all things that I might ENJOY LIFE, He gave me LIFE that I might ENJOY all things.

  If you look for the positive things as you go you will have a positive outlook, which will  lead you to a positive outcome.

  Life is how you look at it. You can see your glass as half full or half empty. 

  You can't have a feeling without first having a thought. If you want to feel HAPPY you have to think of HAPPY THOUGHTS.

  If you FOCUS on things that ANGER you then you will FEEL angry.

  If you FOCUS on things that sadden you then you will FEEL sad.

  If you FOCUS on things that inspire you then you will FEEL inspired.

  If you FOCUS on things that make you happy then you will FEEL happy.

  If you LOOK for trouble you will FIND it.

  If you LOOK for reasons to smile you will FIND it.

  If you LOOK for someone or something that inspires you then you will FIND it.

  If you LOOK for a positive outcome you will FIND it.


  Seek and you shall FIND. 


Monday, July 5, 2021

Don't let the negative vibes clog you up

   You already know that you can't please everyone so don't try.

  Since you can't please everyone don't let the negative words or actions from anyone distract you from what you want to do.

  I often wandered why those that disagree with you waste their time to make sure you know that they disagree with you. 

  They try to grab your attention to try to get you to be distracted because your positivity is something they wish they had.

 Instead of allowing your positivity to help them be more positive they would rather make you feel as negatively as they do.

  Which is exactly why you need to surround yourself with people who are positive and stay as far away from negative people and negative situations as you can.

  Don't let them steal your joy. Don't let a negative person or negative situation have any chance to clog you up. 

  Instead be thankful that their opinion doesn't affect your opinions. Your thoughts are your reality not what anyone else thinks. 

  You can't please everyone so expect there will be some people who won't be pleased.

  At the end of the day as long as you are proud of yourself it doesn't matter if anyone else is proud of you.



Friday, July 2, 2021

Independence is the freedom to be you

   Having independence means you are free to be yourself. 

  Freedom to be yourself means the freedom to choose for yourself.

  Don't let anyone take away your ability to be independent.

  As Independence Day approaches make a list of all the things that being independent means to you.

  Keep in mind that respecting other people's right to be independent is the only way that you yourself can enjoy being independent.

  Celebrating independence day this year is going to be a celebration also that quarantine is over.

  Freedom and independence go hand in hand. You can't have one without the other. 

  As you make your fourth of July plans make sure you plan on making safety a priority. 

  Fireworks sure are fun to watch but they are dangerous too. 

  Happy Fourth of July everyone. 




Wednesday, June 30, 2021

If we were all the same nothing NEW is possible

   We are all different. That is a good thing because if we were all the same nothing NEW would ever be possible.

  It takes a different point of view to see things others don't see.

  It takes a different way of thinking to think of NEW things.

  If we were all the same there wouldn't be anything NEW to talk about or anything NEW to experience.

  Our differences are what makes us each unique. Our uniqueness is what makes us different from each other.

  Our uniqueness is necessary to have unique ideas that create unique opportunities for each of us. 

  Could you imagine if we all looked the same? 

  Could you imagine if we all dressed the same?

  Could you imagine if we didn't have the freedom to think differently? 

  We can all be thankful that there are different strokes for different folks.

  Ten people can see the same thing yet see something totally different. And every single one of them are right, they saw what they saw.





Monday, June 28, 2021

You can be right but also be wrong at the same time

   You might be right about part of it but you can also be wrong about other parts of it.

  You may know certain parts of something yet there may be things you don't know.

  You may think you know what someone is going through yet have no idea about other things that they are going through.

  You can make the right decision considering what you do know yet you might  decide differently if you knew all the facts.

  Just because you think someone should do things differently based on what you know doesn't mean they did the wrong thing. 

  You can only base your opinions on the facts as you know them. That doesn't mean that you wouldn't change your opinion if you knew all the facts.

  There will be times when you thought you were doing things the right way yet later realize that you were wrong.

  That doesn't mean you knowingly did it wrong. It just means you did what you thought was right based on what you knew.

  It's hard to know if you are making the right decisions. As long as you do what you thought was the right thing to do then you know you made the right decision at the time.

  Everyone has the right to have their own opinion and just because you disagree with their opinion doesn't mean that either of your opinions is wrong. 




Friday, June 25, 2021

Spend your time wisely

   We only have the time we have so we can't waste it.

  We only have so many hours in a day to accomplish what we want to accomplish.

  We have to remember that we can't please everyone but we can and should make pleasing ourselves our priority.

  Before you fill up your schedule doing things for others, you need to start each day writing a schedule to get everything you need to do for yourself done.

  Then if you have time left over to help others you can squeeze it into your schedule. 

  It's nice to help others, IF YOU CAN. But  YOU CAN'T neglect taking care of yourself to do it.

  If you don't take care of yourself first then you won't be in any condition to help others when they REALLY NEED you. 

  Keep in mind that if your mind and body tells you that you need to TAKE A BREAK, then you better take a break before you BREAK DOWN.




Wednesday, June 23, 2021

What are you saying to yourself?

 How you look at it determines what you see. How you think about it will determine how you will feel about it.

  Your thoughts are the reality you live. If you keep telling yourself that you can't do it then you will never do it because you will never try to do it. FLUSH away your DOUBTS.

  If you tell yourself that you can do it and cheering yourself on by saying.. YOU GOT THIS, then you will be inspired to just do it.

  You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. Your thoughts are the reality that you live. 

  Instead of allowing a setback to hold you back, look at it as an opportunity to make your reality better. 

  Instead of dwelling on it as something YOU HAVE TO DO because of negative situations. Look at it as something you GET TO DO that you wouldn't have done if not for the situation.

  Instead of letting the pressure of the negative situations hold you down, use that pressure to bring out your strengths. 

   With the right way of looking at it, being under pressure can work to your advantage by bringing out THE BEST IN YOU.

  Remember PETER PAN could only fly if he THOUGHT OF HAPPY THOUGHTS. 

  So the next time you have to face a negative situation, remember all you got to do is THINK like PETER PAN.


Monday, June 21, 2021

One day it will be what you are grateful for

 You may not have enjoyed it when it was happening. But one day, you will look back and realize that everything happens for a reason and you will be thankful that it happened.

  It's hard to believe that having to endure the painful experiences in your life is all part of the process that was necessary to be who you are.

  Mistakes you make are also an important process necessary for you to grow. Keep in mind that to learn from your mistakes you have to admit that you made a mistake.

  Sometimes you may not see the sunlight because the storm clouds are blocking your view. But you don't have to worry because you know that the sun is still in the sky.

  Eventually the storm will pass and the sun will once again be shining bright.

 Unfortunately it may take a tornado in your personal life turns out to be necessary because it was the only way to get you where you need to be. 

  Life's journey is not always smooth. There will be bumps along your way. That's just LIFE. 

  The tough times are part of the process necessary for you to be able to have the good times. One day you will be able to look back and be thankful for everything it took to get you to where you are today.









Friday, June 18, 2021

Don't start a new habit that you know is a bad habit

 You may not always notice that you are starting a new HABIT.

  Of course some HABITS you start because you know you need to get in the HABIT of doing to have a positive impact in your life.

  And then there are some HABITS you know are very bad for you that you shouldn't get in the HABIT of doing.

  You need to look at the HABITS you have gotten into and be honest about which HABITS you need to BREAK. 

  It's going to take a conscious effort to BREAK THE HABIT but bad HABITS need to be broken. 

  First you need to make a list of the HABITS you need to break. Then one by one write ALL the reasons why you need to get out of that HABIT.

  When you read your reasons WHY, it will give you the willpower you need to BREAK THE HABIT. 

  Keep your list handy because you need to get in the HABIT of reminding yourself WHY you need to BREAK THE HABIT so you can BREAK THE HABIT.

  Remember a mistake only happens once. If you repeat it then it has become a HABIT that you need to BREAK.





Wednesday, June 16, 2021

If you want it then you will have to do whatever it takes to get it

 If you want it then it doesn't matter if anyone else thinks it is what you should want.

  If it is important to you then it doesn't matter if anyone else thinks it is important.

  You can't keep changing to please others because before you know it you won't even know who you are.

  We only have one life to live and to enjoy your life you have to enjoy it while you are living it. 

  It's okay and sometimes it can even be helpful to listen to other people's opinions. But in the end your opinion is the only one that matters. 

  Doing what makes you happy is the only way to be truly happy. 

  If you want to be comfortable in the skin you are in you have to be comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. 

 You can never please everyone so don't try to. As long as you are pleased with yourself that is all that matters at the end of the day. 

  We will not always agree but as long as we all agree to disagree we will be able to enjoy each other's company. 

  Stay true to yourself. Be the best you that you can be.




Monday, June 14, 2021

Well I never thought I would but here I go

 Since I started blogging over 11 years ago I wanted to make sure I always wrote about things to distract anyone from stress, not write about things that were stressful that would cause them any stress.

  Unfortunately I am so upset by recent events that I have to write about them. 

  I have been told repeatedly that social media is the best way to promote your business and products. 

  I opened many social media accounts like Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. I tried them all but quickly felt uncomfortable realizing that you never know who someone truly is because they can easily make up fake identities.

  Therefore I was never really active on any social media sites. But during a year of quarantine I began actively trying LinkedIn again. 

  I knew that Daymond John was for sure really him on LinkedIn. As well as several others like Gary Vaynerchuk, Matt Higgins and Kim Kaupe, they too were really who they said they were.

  I began to forget about all the fake profiles that had kept me away from social media. I let down my guard and started connecting with people.

  I had always wanted to write a song to spread the positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT. Because those three powerful positive WORDS would help people but they won't help anyone if they never hear about them.

  I wrote a jingle and sang it on YouTube as soon as I got my trademark. Unfortunately my video didn't get heard either. If you would like to see it go to YouTube and look for the JUST FLUSH IT song by Billie Bob.

  Anyway back to my experience recently on LinkedIn. 

  One day the country singer Trace Adkins popped up and I sent him a request to join his community. To my surprise he ACCEPTED it.

  I was then able to message him and asked him if he would be interested in writing the JUST FLUSH IT song. I was SHOCKED when a couple of days later he wrote back yes but we needed to meet in person.

  I knew he was hosting the Ultimate Cowboy show as well as touring and being a presenter at the awards so he was busy.

  So I wrote my version of the JUST FLUSH IT song and sent it to him on LinkedIn where we had been communicating. 

  Five weeks went by then.....he wrote back saying my song really impressed him and we needed to meet in person.

  I was on cloud nine. I called all my family and friends to tell them the good news. Finally the WORLD would hear those three powerful positive WORDS. 

  I was upset when my family and friends said I shouldn't meet a stranger and the chances that it was really him was unlikely. He was too rich and famous to want to meet an average person like me.

  I got angry that they didn't feel like my JUST FLUSH IT song and the message behind JUST FLUSH IT was so moving to him and that was why he wanted to meet me to collaborate.

  After months of hoping to team up with him it was finally about to happen. But I promised my family and friends that I would listen to them and somehow verify it was actually Trace Adkins that I was in communication with on LinkedIn.

  That was going to be hard to do but I started looking for a way. 

  I was heartbroken when I ran across an article from 2018 in which Trace Adkins said he wanted to let his fans know that there were many fake profiles on the different social media sites claiming to be him.

  He said in the article that he would never personally send a message to anyone through any social media accounts. 

  I sure wish I would have read this article before I spent months thinking I was talking to Trace Adkins. 

  I had seen many instances on the news where fans connected with celebrities on social media and got them to go to there high school prom with them. So it didn't seem totally impossible to reach a real person on social media. 

  But unfortunately I had let down my guard and started to believe it was possible even though I had given up years ago. 

  I painfully was reminded that anyone can set up a fake profile and pretend to be whoever they want to be, including pretending to be Trace Adkins. 

  I feel stupid that I really, with all my heart, thought that I was talking to Trace Adkins. I. Knew better but I still fell for it.

  I wanted to write about it to warn everyone that this could happen to you too. I want to spare you the heartache and disappointment that I just went through.

  I have always known that if it sounds too good to be true then it probably isn't true. 

  I found out a long time ago that anyone can hide behind a fake profile and pretend to be whoever they want to be.

  I have no idea how I let myself believe it was really Trace Adkins. I just wanted it to be him so bad that I became blinded and forgot everything I knew that should have protected me from being so vulnerable to scammers.

  Although I will always keep my guard up by reminding myself about this incident, I will continue reading post on LinkedIn.

  More than any other social media I have tried on over these last 11 years, their Post spread seeds of compassion for others and stories that uplift and inspire people. 

  And I know that if we all spread seeds of Humanity it will grow and replace the INSANITY we see in our society. 

  The World won't get better on its own we all must do our part. 

  World peace is possible by bringing peace of mind to one person at a time. 

    And to keep peace of mind you must NEVER FORGET that you can enjoy social media sites but you must NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN. 

    Please help me spread the powerful positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT so it can bring peace of mind to one person at a time. 








Friday, June 11, 2021

Don't focus on what is wrong or you will lose focus

   If you only FOCUS on what went wrong you will not see what went right. You can't build on your strengths if you don't FOCUS so that you see them. 

  No one is good at everything. But they can use what they are good at to accomplish what they want to.

  You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. 

  If you FOCUS on what you are good at you can build on your strengths. If you only FOCUS on your faults then you will weaken yourself. 

  Your thoughts are the reality you live whether it is based on facts or not. If you keep telling yourself that you can't do it then without a doubt you will never do it because you will never try to do it.

  Don't FOCUS on your faults and judge yourself so harshly. Remember NO ONE is good at everything. 

  Be proud and thankful for the things that you are good at. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done and acknowledge your hard work even if it doesn't turn out like you had hoped. 

  Remember the turtle won the race not because he was faster than the rabbit but because he stayed FOCUSED on getting to the finish line. 

  Stay FOCUSED and CHEER yourself on.


Wednesday, June 9, 2021

Proving you are right sometimes proves to be the wrong thing to do

   It feels good to know you were right about things. 

  There are times when you may need to prove you were right in certain situations. But there are also situations where fighting to prove you were right will hurt you in some way.

  Knowing you were right is very important but proving you were right is not always important.

  Just like when you tried to warn someone not to do something and they did it anyways, the last thing they want to hear when they are hurt is you saying I TOLD YOU SO. 

  There will be times when you are proud of yourself for something you did but no one else even noticed what you did. Just because they didn't notice doesn't, or at least shouldn't, change how proud you are of yourself.

  Sometimes letting the other person think they were right is way more important than trying to prove to them that they were wrong and you were right.

  In life sometimes you PROVE how smart you are by making the right choice for the best outcome by not fighting to PROVE you were right.




Monday, June 7, 2021

We have had plenty of time to learn

   Being in quarantine for over a year gave us all plenty of time to get to know our friends, families, neighbors as well as ourselves better.

  The fast paced World we all lived in never gave us a chance to STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES. There wasn't time for SMALL TALK. No time to just relax and enjoy quiet moments.

  Then came the pandemic. Suddenly our busy life's came to a screeching halt. We suddenly were in quarantine and had plenty of time on our hands.

  When the quarantine ends our lives will gradually get busier. But would you want it to get back into your old fast paced lifestyle where you didn't have time to even STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES?

  What have you done or had to change during quarantine that you will continue even after the quarantine is over?



Friday, June 4, 2021

You can die from thirst surrounded by water

   You could die of thirst even though you are surrounded by water if you don't take a drink 

  Your glass may only be half full but it will quench your thirst if you take a drink.

  You may not have everything you ever wanted but as long as you have everything that you need you should be grateful.

  If you expect things to go perfectly as you had planned then you better plan on being dissappointed because nothing is perfect.

  You can't wait on the perfect opportunity because it doesn't exist and you will miss the opportunities that come your way.

  Your dreams can't come true if you don't have dreams. Keep your dreams realistic or you will set yourself up for failure.

 Remember you can't please everyone so don't try. But at the end of the day as long as you are proud of everything you have done that is all that matters.


Wednesday, June 2, 2021

Don't JUDGE too harshly it will stunt their growth

 I know you have heard the phrase.....

  You can't JUDGE a book by its cover. Things are not always what they appear to be. 

   You shouldn't JUDGE others because you have no idea why they are who they are to understand why they choose to do what they do.

  You may think that they are making a mistake and maybe they are. But give people the right to make mistakes.

  We need to accept that anyone including ourselves won't always make the right decisions. 

  Keep in mind that our failures are a necessary step to being successful. It's growing pains.

 And if you JUDGE too harshly you can stunt the growth.


Monday, May 31, 2021

Treasured memories

   Today is full of memories of those that are no longer living. They are treasured memories that allow us to relive special moments we had with them. 

  I went through some old photo albums today which triggered old memories that were buried deep in my mind. 

  I sure noticed that our clothing styles were quite different back then. As we age our looks change so much that I had to take a moment to recognize people in old photos. 

  Photo albums are not as important or common in the last decade. Although we have our memories in our mind, I can't imagine not having a picture to remind me of all the little details.

  And although millions of memories are somewhere buried deep in our mind you can't ENJOY it unless it is triggered and you unbury the treasured memories. 

  There are many days in our lives that we think of those that are no longer with us. But today is all about going treasure hunting in our mind to ENJOY treasured memories that are buried. 

  Spend as much time as you can every moment you can making treasured memories with those you love.




Friday, May 28, 2021

You can't be you if you don't remain true to yourself

   Every person is unique in many ways. You may have some things in common but no two are exactly the same, not even identical twins.

  We can experience some of the same things as each other but there are way many more things that we each experienced that the other person didn't.

  You can't be you if you don't do what you want to do JUST because someone tells you that if they were you, they wouldn't do it. 

  Someone may think they know someone based on what they know about them. But they only know a small percentage of their lifetime of experiences it took to make them who they are.

  You know you best. So it is best that you decide what you should do. It doesn't matter what anyone else would do if they were you. 

  Remember what works for someone else may not work for you. 

   If you keep changing yourself to please other people, before you know it you won't even know WHO YOU TRULY ARE.

  You can't be you if you don't stay true to yourself. 

  To be the best you that you can be takes being YOU. 





Wednesday, May 26, 2021

It may be a feeling not a fact

   Your emotions may keep you from seeing the real facts. You may be too emotional to see it. That doesn't mean it isn't obvious to see. It means you can't see it.

   Your emotions can make you blind.

  I know that you have heard that love can make you blind. But did you know that every emotion can make you blind?

  When you are experiencing life you don't see everything you just are consumed by thoughts that evoke emotions that can keep you from caring about looking for the facts. 

  You mistake your emotions for facts. Have you ever got angry about something only to find out the facts behind it and realize that there was nothing to be angry about?

  Have you ever just jumped into an idea without having all the facts? Only to realize that you should have waited until you had the facts because you sure would have done things differently.

  When something happens that instantly evokes an emotion in you, stop before you react. Once you get the facts you will know exactly how you should react to have the best outcome.

  The fact is that without all the facts you have no idea what you should do or how you truly should feel about it.

  If you believe it is true then that will be your reality whether it is really true or not.

Don't let your emotions guide you, get the facts that can lead you in the right direction.


Monday, May 24, 2021

Do you realize the energy you waste putting it off?

   Have you ever had a fifteen minute job you needed to do but you kept putting it off for days? 

  Every day you would see it on your to-do list then spend the entire day procrastinating doing it. And PROCRASTINATION sucks up a lot more energy than the energy it would have taken to just do it.

  Ask yourself, Do I really want this to haunt me for another day? The guilt about NOT DOING it causes a lot of stress. 

  Thoughts of NOT DOING it weighs you down taking up all your energy. 

  Do your hardest jobs first in the morning so you don't waste your energy procrastinating. Being able to cross it off your TO DO LIST will give you peace of mind now that it is done.

  Don't put it off, JUST DO IT.



Friday, May 21, 2021

If it won't work then it won't work

 If it won't work then stop wasting your time and energy trying to make it work. Sometimes you have to accept that no matter how much you wanted something to work out if it don't work it just won't work.

 Things don't always turn out like we had hoped for. It doesn't matter how much hope, time or effort you put into it you have to FORGET ABOUT IT and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. 

  Because it didn't work doesn't mean that you didn't put the hard work in it to try to make it work. It just IS WHAT IT IS, and no amount of work can make it work. 

  You will never regret trying to make it work but if you never tried you would have regrets forever that you didn't try. 

  Even though the outcome would be the same it isn't something that you will have to wander what if.... and carry that burden of regret.

  If your attempts fail, it isn't failure. It's lessons learned that were necessary for you to grow. You will have pride in yourself as a result no matter if it works or not. 

  At the end of the day as long as you are proud of everything you did that is ALL that really matters. 

Wednesday, May 19, 2021

If you lose FOCUS you can't see

   You have to stay FOCUSED on what you are doing in order to do it right. 

  You have to stay FOCUSED on where you are going if you want to get there.

  You have to stay FOCUSED on what is most important if you want to make sure that the important things get done.

  You have to stay FOCUSED when you are driving to safely drive.

  You have to stay FOCUSED on what you want the end results to be so you can do everything that you need to do to get those results. 

  If you lose FOCUS you won't be able to see your dreams become your reality.

  Don't let anyone or anything distract you and steer you AWAY from FOCUSING on what you need to FOCUS on.






Monday, May 17, 2021

Hanging on to things you don't need to carry with you

   Have you seen something in your home that you had not seen nor even thought about in nearly a decade? 

  Do you really need to hang on to it anymore? Unless it is personally important, which if you forgot about it for a decade then it obviously isn't, then the answer is probably no. 

  So don't hang on to it just get rid of it.

  If a memory from your past of a painful experience is holding you back JUST FLUSH IT, don't let it drag you down.

  You will accumulate many, way too many things, on your life's journey.

  You will experience many things on your life's journey.

  You will meet many people on your life's journey.

  You will go through many challenges on your life's journey.

  You will go through many changes on your life's journey.

  You will make many choices on your life's journey.

  Don't drag anything from your past that will make your life's journey hard in any way. 

  If anything or anyone is dragging you down look at each one as a SANDBAG. Then ask yourself why would you choose to carry a heavy SANDBAG?


Friday, May 14, 2021

When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

   It's easy to see it in others but unless you look in the mirror, you can't see it in yourself. 

  If you find yourself going through a tough situation you need to look in the mirror to see that you are tough enough to get through it. 

  If you find yourself angry just look in the mirror and you will see just what other people see when you are angry. 

  The look on your face that other people see, will be what they will base their opinion of you to be. 

  When you walk in a room make sure your face says you are happy to be there. Because the look on your face says a lot.

  If you are angry just remember exactly what your angry face looked like in the mirror.  

  If you want to make someone smile all you have to do is smile. And if you look in the mirror when you are smiling you will look ten years younger. Because a smile is a FACE LIFT.

  When you want to encourage yourself just look in the mirror and say some encouraging words to yourself.

  It may sound crazy to talk to yourself but you have to be able to figure things out for yourself in life. And you know you best so it would be crazy not to talk to yourself and figure things out.

  But you have to be honest with yourself about everything and everyone. But most importantly you have to be honest with yourself about yourself, both the good and the bad that no one else sees. 

  You may be able to hide your true self from others. But you can't deny the truth when you honestly look at yourself in the mirror. 

 The Truth can set you free but sometimes the Truth can hurt. 



Wednesday, May 12, 2021

You can see what is coming

   If you see trouble coming then get out of its way. Don't wait and let it hit you head on. 

  If you feel it in your gut that something about it just isn't right, listen to your gut. It is not always gas, it's your built-in warning system. 

  If you want to avoid trouble you have to avoid it. Which means you have to keep your eyes wide open on your life's journey so you see it and be able to avoid it.

  You may even realize that there are things you thought were good for you that you will just have to change. They may have been good for you before, but just not anymore.

  On your life's journey you will go through many seasons of change. Each stage of life brings different changes and adventures as well as challenges you must face. 

  LIFE is like a rollercoaster and there will be ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that is just LIFE. Just keep your eyes wide open so you can avoid any trouble that may come your way.

  Remember that if you see TROUBLE coming then GET OUT OF THE WAY. 



Monday, May 10, 2021

Don't let it fall on deaf ears

 If you want them to hear you then say it in a way they can hear it. 

  If you start off with an angry tone they will not hear you. Because they will choose to not hear you. 

  Your words of wisdom won't help anyone if you say them with an angry tone. The minute they feel your anger they will tune you out in DEFENSE MODE.

  If you want them to listen to what you have to say then make sure you say it in a way that they want to listen. 

  It's not that they don't need to hear it. It's just in DEFENSE MODE they can't hear it. Your words might be exactly what they need to hear so say it in a tone that doesn't sound like an attack which sends them into DEFENSE MODE.

  Remember it's not only what you say but it is also how you say it. 

  Imagine a dog running up to you and barking aggressively at you. Would you want to pet him? 

  If you want them to hear you then make sure your tone doesn't make your words fall on deaf ears. They can't hear you if they are in DEFENSE MODE.





Friday, May 7, 2021

What are you looking for?

   What you see will depend on what you are looking for. 

  What you seek is what you shall find.

  If you look for trouble you will find trouble. If you look for the negative things in everything you will find them.

  If you look for the positive in every situation you will find one. 

  What are you looking for?

  It's all in how you look at it that determines what you see. 

  Just keep in mind that your thoughts make up the reality that you will live in. Whether they are really the reality or not.

  You may have to face negative situations on your life's journey but how you look at it and how you react to it, will determine whether you have a positive outcome.

  If you look for a way to have a positive outcome you will find a way to have a positive outcome. That doesn't mean it will be easy. It means you have to do whatever you have to do to have a positive outcome.

  What you see will depend on what you are looking for. What are you looking for?



Wednesday, May 5, 2021

Don't waste it

   All we have is the TIME we have so don't waste it. 

  Don't spend the TIME you have RELIVING the past. Spend your TIME enjoying your TODAYS. 

  Don't spend the TIME you have worried about things that may or may not happen. Even if the thing you worried about doesn't happen the damage from worrying is already done.

  Don't spend the TIME you have getting stressed over things that you can not change. You have to accept that it is what it is and adjust.

  Don't spend the TIME you have trying to figure out how or why because some things there are just no answers for, not even on Google. 

  Spend the TIME you have enjoying every moment you can. Don't put everything you want to do on your bucket list. Because some things you have to do when you are young. 

  Spend the TIME you have wisely because you only have the TIME you have, so don't waste it. 

  Spend every moment as if it were your last because it could be. 

  Yesterday is already gone and tomorrow may never come, but TODAY is yours to ENJOY. 


Monday, May 3, 2021

Everything has gone haywire today

   I don't understand how so many things can break in one day. I started out the day with one problem that I had been working on for days. 

  I thought I had a solution for it, although costly and time consuming. But after days of trying to fix it I had to accept that it was just going to be expensive but it needed fixed. 

  By the time I got back from fixing the one problem I realized it caused a more serious problem that I thought would be fixed once I took care of the first problem. Unfortunately not.

  Computers are not necessarily expensive to replace but all the information on it was impossible to recover. Especially the information on my customers for billing purposes. Definitely should have had a backup plan before it crashed and the information was hidden from me.

  As I struggled to try and research if there was anything I could do to recover it, the electricity went out. For hours. When it finally came back on the fish tank pump wouldn't work.

  Now besides my computer crashing my fish would die if I don't get a new pump right away. That became the priority even though my computer problem was seriously a big problem. 

  After driving 30 minutes to the closest fish store they don't have any pumps the size I needed. So off 30 minutes in the opposite direction to another fish store I go.

  So now the fish are okay and my first problem was solved but there just isn't any way I can fix the computer problem. Sure I can buy a computer but getting all the customers addresses was going to be a big challenge. 

   There are many challenges in life and some are simple but expensive and some are harder than others. But when you are too stressed over them it is best to JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND and get some rest and deal with it another day. 

  Like they say sometimes in life when it rains it pours and today it has rained so hard that it has caused a flood. But I know that soon the sun will be shining.



Friday, April 30, 2021

Talk is cheap

   Talking about it doesn't matter if you don't put action behind it. Talking about it is just chatter unless you walk the talk.

  You may have a great plan but if you don't follow through with what you have planned you just waste your time. It is bad enough if you waste your time but if you don't follow through with your plan you have with others, you waste their time too. 

  When someone ask you for help don't tell them yes you will help if you have no intentions of helping them. An honest NO does far less damage. 

  If you tell them yes then they won't look for anyone else to help them. If the answer is NO then say NO. 

  If you want to achieve what you have planned it is only possible if you execute your plan by actions. If you don't get up and get going you won't get anywhere.

  To GET 'R DONE you got to get up and do whatever it takes to GET 'R DONE.


Wednesday, April 28, 2021

FLUSH away your doubts

   You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. You can do it if you stop telling yourself that you can't. You need to FLUSH away your doubts.

  If you keep telling yourself that you can't do it then without a doubt you will never do it because you will never try. 

  Now of course there will be some things that you try that you decide you don't like doing. It's a fifty-fifty chance. But you have zero percent chance if you don't try it.

  There will be times when you try something and it fails. That is part of the learning process that is necessary for you to figure out how you can do it.

  What works for someone else may not work for you. But that doesn't mean that you can't figure out how you are going to do it. That is as long as you don't keep telling yourself that you CAN'T and never try.

  The encouraging words that you say to yourself will give you the courage you need to try it. 

Monday, April 26, 2021

Letting go doesn't mean you will forget

   Letting go of it is necessary to move forward. It doesn't mean you will forget about it. You will remember it so you can protect yourself from it ever happening again.

  But at the same time you have to let it go to protect yourself from it. You can remember it without RELIVING it and letting it hurt you over and over again. 

  You may have had no choice when it happened to you but you do have a choice to not relive it so it can hurt you again. Once was enough.

  It is through your experiences, both the good ones and the bad ones that are both a part of what made you who you are today. Your past doesn't define you but it is what you learned from it that made you who you are.

  The wisdom that you learn on your life's journey will make you wise. Some life lessons are painful lessons and some of them are treasured memories.



Friday, April 23, 2021

Hard to imagine being thankful when you get knocked down

   When you are faced with negative circumstances that knock you down it is hard to be thankful. But as long as you can get back up on your feet, you have to be thankful.

  It may be a tough time for you but you have to be thankful that it wasn't worse. You have to be thankful that you can get back up.

  Just like it may be expensive if you have to replace your roof on your house, you still have to be thankful that you have a house to put a roof on. Because some people don't.

  Or like an expensive unexpected car repairs need done, you still have to be thankful that you have a car. 

  Sometimes in life one negative thing after another can happen all at the same time. I describe it "when it rains it pours" but you have to be thankful because it always could have been worse.

  I know everyone has experienced a time in life when we have complained to someone about all the "raining" we are dealing with. Only to then realize that the negative situations that they are facing make us feel embarrassed to even had complained about it at all. 

  We admire those individuals who triumph despite the many obstacles they face. You too can admire how you overcame all the obstacles that you face on your life's journey.

  Especially the obstacles that we are all facing while navigating our way during a pandemic. Times are tough but you have to be thankful because you can look around you and see that it could have been a whole lot worse. 

  Just waking up each day to face the obstacles is a reason to be thankful. 

  Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing.

 a whole lot worse. 

Wednesday, April 21, 2021

One thought can turn into an avalanche

   Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts trying to GRAB our attention. You have to learn to quickly recognize those that evokes negative thoughts and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind.

  If you let it GRAB your attention you will have an avalanche of negative thoughts that before you know it they are clogging up your mind. 

  It's like seeing a cockroach come out of your shopping bag. If you don't squish it immediately, before you know it your house will be infested with cockroaches. 

  So when a negative thought pops up front and center in your mind JUST FLUSH IT just like you should to prevent an avalanche.

  There is no way to prevent negative thoughts from popping up to GRAB your attention. You will have to just learn how to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind at a quick glance.

  Since your thoughts are the reality that you live make sure you GRAB on to the good thoughts and choose the reality you want to live. 

  And learn how to JUST SQUISH IT.


Monday, April 19, 2021

Being in the right place at the right time

   You can't get where you need to be if you don't get up and get going. You can't be right where you need to be at the right time if you don't get up and get there.

  You can't sit there and wait for something to fall into your lap. You have to be ready to catch it when it falls.

  You can't be there at the right time unless you make sure you are there on time. If the time is right then it doesn't matter what time it is as long as you are there in time.

  Whether you are one minute late or ten minutes late you will be too late, so don't wait until it is too late. Remember the early bird catches the worm.

  Don't waste your chance by not taking chances. Opportunities don't come often so don't miss your opportunity. Missed OPPORTUNITIES are never lost they are just taken by someone else who was waiting for the opportunity. 

  When opportunity comes knocking you have to be waiting to open the door to take advantage of the opportunity. 

  Timing is everything and everything takes time and effort. Be where you are supposed to be by being where you are supposed to be.



Friday, April 16, 2021

You won't know until you try

   Anything you do the first time you won't know if you can do it, but you decide to give it a try. You may not have an easy time the first time, you have to learn as you go.

  Now you may find that you don't like it at all and decide you don't want to do that again. But since you tried it you know for sure that it isn't something that you want to do.

  It may also be something that you like to do and realize you are good at it. You would have never known if you hadn't tried. 

  The only way to know is to try it so you will know. You may assume you know or guess but you won't truly know until you try it.

  It may be hard but you have to put the work into it if you want to truly give it a try. Just like you  knew when you were young that learning how to ride a bike wouldn't be easy but you knew that you wanted to learn so you kept trying. 

  Keep in mind that even some kids learn how to ride a bike but decide they didn't like it so they never ride a bike again. But then they can proudly say they know how to ride a bike but they just choose not to. 

  Many adults try out careers then decide that they just don't like it and go on to another career. That doesn't mean that they weren't good at it. It simply means that they tried it but they didn't like it. 

  They don't have regrets for learning it because they thought they would like it but they didn't. You only regret things that you never tried that you wish you would have.

  To live life with no regrets make sure you try it so you won't have regrets that you didn't try it.