Friday, May 14, 2021

When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

   It's easy to see it in others but unless you look in the mirror, you can't see it in yourself. 

  If you find yourself going through a tough situation you need to look in the mirror to see that you are tough enough to get through it. 

  If you find yourself angry just look in the mirror and you will see just what other people see when you are angry. 

  The look on your face that other people see, will be what they will base their opinion of you to be. 

  When you walk in a room make sure your face says you are happy to be there. Because the look on your face says a lot.

  If you are angry just remember exactly what your angry face looked like in the mirror.  

  If you want to make someone smile all you have to do is smile. And if you look in the mirror when you are smiling you will look ten years younger. Because a smile is a FACE LIFT.

  When you want to encourage yourself just look in the mirror and say some encouraging words to yourself.

  It may sound crazy to talk to yourself but you have to be able to figure things out for yourself in life. And you know you best so it would be crazy not to talk to yourself and figure things out.

  But you have to be honest with yourself about everything and everyone. But most importantly you have to be honest with yourself about yourself, both the good and the bad that no one else sees. 

  You may be able to hide your true self from others. But you can't deny the truth when you honestly look at yourself in the mirror. 

 The Truth can set you free but sometimes the Truth can hurt. 



Wednesday, May 12, 2021

You can see what is coming

   If you see trouble coming then get out of its way. Don't wait and let it hit you head on. 

  If you feel it in your gut that something about it just isn't right, listen to your gut. It is not always gas, it's your built-in warning system. 

  If you want to avoid trouble you have to avoid it. Which means you have to keep your eyes wide open on your life's journey so you see it and be able to avoid it.

  You may even realize that there are things you thought were good for you that you will just have to change. They may have been good for you before, but just not anymore.

  On your life's journey you will go through many seasons of change. Each stage of life brings different changes and adventures as well as challenges you must face. 

  LIFE is like a rollercoaster and there will be ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that is just LIFE. Just keep your eyes wide open so you can avoid any trouble that may come your way.

  Remember that if you see TROUBLE coming then GET OUT OF THE WAY. 



Monday, May 10, 2021

Don't let it fall on deaf ears

 If you want them to hear you then say it in a way they can hear it. 

  If you start off with an angry tone they will not hear you. Because they will choose to not hear you. 

  Your words of wisdom won't help anyone if you say them with an angry tone. The minute they feel your anger they will tune you out in DEFENSE MODE.

  If you want them to listen to what you have to say then make sure you say it in a way that they want to listen. 

  It's not that they don't need to hear it. It's just in DEFENSE MODE they can't hear it. Your words might be exactly what they need to hear so say it in a tone that doesn't sound like an attack which sends them into DEFENSE MODE.

  Remember it's not only what you say but it is also how you say it. 

  Imagine a dog running up to you and barking aggressively at you. Would you want to pet him? 

  If you want them to hear you then make sure your tone doesn't make your words fall on deaf ears. They can't hear you if they are in DEFENSE MODE.





Friday, May 7, 2021

What are you looking for?

   What you see will depend on what you are looking for. 

  What you seek is what you shall find.

  If you look for trouble you will find trouble. If you look for the negative things in everything you will find them.

  If you look for the positive in every situation you will find one. 

  What are you looking for?

  It's all in how you look at it that determines what you see. 

  Just keep in mind that your thoughts make up the reality that you will live in. Whether they are really the reality or not.

  You may have to face negative situations on your life's journey but how you look at it and how you react to it, will determine whether you have a positive outcome.

  If you look for a way to have a positive outcome you will find a way to have a positive outcome. That doesn't mean it will be easy. It means you have to do whatever you have to do to have a positive outcome.

  What you see will depend on what you are looking for. What are you looking for?



Wednesday, May 5, 2021

Don't waste it

   All we have is the TIME we have so don't waste it. 

  Don't spend the TIME you have RELIVING the past. Spend your TIME enjoying your TODAYS. 

  Don't spend the TIME you have worried about things that may or may not happen. Even if the thing you worried about doesn't happen the damage from worrying is already done.

  Don't spend the TIME you have getting stressed over things that you can not change. You have to accept that it is what it is and adjust.

  Don't spend the TIME you have trying to figure out how or why because some things there are just no answers for, not even on Google. 

  Spend the TIME you have enjoying every moment you can. Don't put everything you want to do on your bucket list. Because some things you have to do when you are young. 

  Spend the TIME you have wisely because you only have the TIME you have, so don't waste it. 

  Spend every moment as if it were your last because it could be. 

  Yesterday is already gone and tomorrow may never come, but TODAY is yours to ENJOY. 


Monday, May 3, 2021

Everything has gone haywire today

   I don't understand how so many things can break in one day. I started out the day with one problem that I had been working on for days. 

  I thought I had a solution for it, although costly and time consuming. But after days of trying to fix it I had to accept that it was just going to be expensive but it needed fixed. 

  By the time I got back from fixing the one problem I realized it caused a more serious problem that I thought would be fixed once I took care of the first problem. Unfortunately not.

  Computers are not necessarily expensive to replace but all the information on it was impossible to recover. Especially the information on my customers for billing purposes. Definitely should have had a backup plan before it crashed and the information was hidden from me.

  As I struggled to try and research if there was anything I could do to recover it, the electricity went out. For hours. When it finally came back on the fish tank pump wouldn't work.

  Now besides my computer crashing my fish would die if I don't get a new pump right away. That became the priority even though my computer problem was seriously a big problem. 

  After driving 30 minutes to the closest fish store they don't have any pumps the size I needed. So off 30 minutes in the opposite direction to another fish store I go.

  So now the fish are okay and my first problem was solved but there just isn't any way I can fix the computer problem. Sure I can buy a computer but getting all the customers addresses was going to be a big challenge. 

   There are many challenges in life and some are simple but expensive and some are harder than others. But when you are too stressed over them it is best to JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND and get some rest and deal with it another day. 

  Like they say sometimes in life when it rains it pours and today it has rained so hard that it has caused a flood. But I know that soon the sun will be shining.



Friday, April 30, 2021

Talk is cheap

   Talking about it doesn't matter if you don't put action behind it. Talking about it is just chatter unless you walk the talk.

  You may have a great plan but if you don't follow through with what you have planned you just waste your time. It is bad enough if you waste your time but if you don't follow through with your plan you have with others, you waste their time too. 

  When someone ask you for help don't tell them yes you will help if you have no intentions of helping them. An honest NO does far less damage. 

  If you tell them yes then they won't look for anyone else to help them. If the answer is NO then say NO. 

  If you want to achieve what you have planned it is only possible if you execute your plan by actions. If you don't get up and get going you won't get anywhere.

  To GET 'R DONE you got to get up and do whatever it takes to GET 'R DONE.


Wednesday, April 28, 2021

FLUSH away your doubts

   You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. You can do it if you stop telling yourself that you can't. You need to FLUSH away your doubts.

  If you keep telling yourself that you can't do it then without a doubt you will never do it because you will never try. 

  Now of course there will be some things that you try that you decide you don't like doing. It's a fifty-fifty chance. But you have zero percent chance if you don't try it.

  There will be times when you try something and it fails. That is part of the learning process that is necessary for you to figure out how you can do it.

  What works for someone else may not work for you. But that doesn't mean that you can't figure out how you are going to do it. That is as long as you don't keep telling yourself that you CAN'T and never try.

  The encouraging words that you say to yourself will give you the courage you need to try it. 

Monday, April 26, 2021

Letting go doesn't mean you will forget

   Letting go of it is necessary to move forward. It doesn't mean you will forget about it. You will remember it so you can protect yourself from it ever happening again.

  But at the same time you have to let it go to protect yourself from it. You can remember it without RELIVING it and letting it hurt you over and over again. 

  You may have had no choice when it happened to you but you do have a choice to not relive it so it can hurt you again. Once was enough.

  It is through your experiences, both the good ones and the bad ones that are both a part of what made you who you are today. Your past doesn't define you but it is what you learned from it that made you who you are.

  The wisdom that you learn on your life's journey will make you wise. Some life lessons are painful lessons and some of them are treasured memories.



Friday, April 23, 2021

Hard to imagine being thankful when you get knocked down

   When you are faced with negative circumstances that knock you down it is hard to be thankful. But as long as you can get back up on your feet, you have to be thankful.

  It may be a tough time for you but you have to be thankful that it wasn't worse. You have to be thankful that you can get back up.

  Just like it may be expensive if you have to replace your roof on your house, you still have to be thankful that you have a house to put a roof on. Because some people don't.

  Or like an expensive unexpected car repairs need done, you still have to be thankful that you have a car. 

  Sometimes in life one negative thing after another can happen all at the same time. I describe it "when it rains it pours" but you have to be thankful because it always could have been worse.

  I know everyone has experienced a time in life when we have complained to someone about all the "raining" we are dealing with. Only to then realize that the negative situations that they are facing make us feel embarrassed to even had complained about it at all. 

  We admire those individuals who triumph despite the many obstacles they face. You too can admire how you overcame all the obstacles that you face on your life's journey.

  Especially the obstacles that we are all facing while navigating our way during a pandemic. Times are tough but you have to be thankful because you can look around you and see that it could have been a whole lot worse. 

  Just waking up each day to face the obstacles is a reason to be thankful. 

  Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing.

 a whole lot worse. 

Wednesday, April 21, 2021

One thought can turn into an avalanche

   Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts trying to GRAB our attention. You have to learn to quickly recognize those that evokes negative thoughts and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind.

  If you let it GRAB your attention you will have an avalanche of negative thoughts that before you know it they are clogging up your mind. 

  It's like seeing a cockroach come out of your shopping bag. If you don't squish it immediately, before you know it your house will be infested with cockroaches. 

  So when a negative thought pops up front and center in your mind JUST FLUSH IT just like you should to prevent an avalanche.

  There is no way to prevent negative thoughts from popping up to GRAB your attention. You will have to just learn how to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind at a quick glance.

  Since your thoughts are the reality that you live make sure you GRAB on to the good thoughts and choose the reality you want to live. 

  And learn how to JUST SQUISH IT.


Monday, April 19, 2021

Being in the right place at the right time

   You can't get where you need to be if you don't get up and get going. You can't be right where you need to be at the right time if you don't get up and get there.

  You can't sit there and wait for something to fall into your lap. You have to be ready to catch it when it falls.

  You can't be there at the right time unless you make sure you are there on time. If the time is right then it doesn't matter what time it is as long as you are there in time.

  Whether you are one minute late or ten minutes late you will be too late, so don't wait until it is too late. Remember the early bird catches the worm.

  Don't waste your chance by not taking chances. Opportunities don't come often so don't miss your opportunity. Missed OPPORTUNITIES are never lost they are just taken by someone else who was waiting for the opportunity. 

  When opportunity comes knocking you have to be waiting to open the door to take advantage of the opportunity. 

  Timing is everything and everything takes time and effort. Be where you are supposed to be by being where you are supposed to be.



Friday, April 16, 2021

You won't know until you try

   Anything you do the first time you won't know if you can do it, but you decide to give it a try. You may not have an easy time the first time, you have to learn as you go.

  Now you may find that you don't like it at all and decide you don't want to do that again. But since you tried it you know for sure that it isn't something that you want to do.

  It may also be something that you like to do and realize you are good at it. You would have never known if you hadn't tried. 

  The only way to know is to try it so you will know. You may assume you know or guess but you won't truly know until you try it.

  It may be hard but you have to put the work into it if you want to truly give it a try. Just like you  knew when you were young that learning how to ride a bike wouldn't be easy but you knew that you wanted to learn so you kept trying. 

  Keep in mind that even some kids learn how to ride a bike but decide they didn't like it so they never ride a bike again. But then they can proudly say they know how to ride a bike but they just choose not to. 

  Many adults try out careers then decide that they just don't like it and go on to another career. That doesn't mean that they weren't good at it. It simply means that they tried it but they didn't like it. 

  They don't have regrets for learning it because they thought they would like it but they didn't. You only regret things that you never tried that you wish you would have.

  To live life with no regrets make sure you try it so you won't have regrets that you didn't try it. 


Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Did you read your fortune cookie?

  My favorite part of getting Chinese food for dinner is reading the fortune cookies. To me they are food for thought.

  In nearly fifteen years of collecting them I have only got the same one twice. They make you stop and ponder what the meaning is to you. 

  For fun occasionally I have shared a few of the fortune with others to see what the sentence says to them.

  It's amazing that their interpretation is so different than mine yet when they tell me what it says to them, I can see how they could think that.

  Just like art or anything else, it is all in how you look at it that determines what you see. Ten people could see the same thing or read the same fortune cookie, yet see totally different things.

  And every point of view that each person sees is there to see. Not every one sees the same thing because we each look at things differently. 

  Nobody is wrong and everyone is right. Just because you see things from a different point of view doesn't change what they see. 


Monday, April 12, 2021

Don't let something someone did destroy the friendship that you treasure

  No one is perfect so don't don't judge anyone so harshly that you forget how special they are to you. Don't let your anger destroy the friendship.

  If you do something wrong to anyone just let them know you are sorry for doing it. If someone apologies to you, accept their apology.

  A misunderstanding doesn't mean that they did it on purpose and they understood what they were doing. 

  Just because you burn your meatloaf once by accident doesn't mean you will never eat meatloaf again. You will just have to make sure you don't burn your meatloaf next time.

  Whoever said that being in love meant you never had to say you are sorry apparently has no idea what true love is. 

Friday, April 9, 2021

You may be wilted like a flower with no water but....

 You may be wilted like a flower without water but when something comes along that replenishes you with water, you will stand straight and tall again. 

  During your lifetime you will go through times of drought but eventually it will rain again. Don't give up when times are tough because just around the corner you will be able to quench your thirst.

   Life is like a rollercoaster and there will be ups and downs. Just don't do anything when you are down that will keep you down. Because it will go up again.

  There will also be twists and turns that you will have to navigate through. You may even have to bend like a pretzel but hang on and before you know it you will be smooth sailing.

Wednesday, April 7, 2021

Some of the changes we have had to make during a pandemic are changes we will be glad we made

 As I have had more time on my hands during quarantine, I find myself just glancing through cyberspace. I read things I never would have read about if I didn't have to be in quarantine.

  I must admit that it has been fun. I also have learned a lot of things that are inspiring. Some things I have learned will be life changing for me in a positive way that I am so grateful for.

  After a year of all the negative and heartbreaking events that the pandemic has brought, we can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.

  It's time to get out some pen and paper to write down the things that you couldn't do that you are looking forward to doing again. You also need to write a list of all the things you couldn't do that you have no interest in doing again.

  Write a list of all the new things that you have had to change to get by that you will be thankful to change. And a list of all the things that you had to change that you look forward to continuing doing.

  There are many more list you need to make as well as a list of people you can't wait to see again.

   What was a positive change you had to make that you are glad you made?

Monday, April 5, 2021

You never know what will come blowing in the wind

 Throughout your life you will have brief encounters with a lot of people and see many things. They just appear and dissapear as they are blowing in the wind.
You have to be careful that you don't throw away your stable life for someone or something that will eventually flow out of your life when the wind blows.

  It's okay to enjoy the brief times with someone or something when they show up, but don't let it mess up the important people and things that are forever staples of your life.

  Remember if it sounds to good to be true then it probably ISN'T true. It's okay to have fun every now and again but life is not only about all fun and games.

  You have to keep your feet planted firmly in the ground and grow wherever you are planted, while you enjoy the fresh breeze as it is blowing by you.


Friday, April 2, 2021

It's important to be proud of yourself

 What other people think about you doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that you are proud of yourself.

  At the end of the day as long as you are proud of everything you do then you should be proud of yourself. So before you react to anything and everything you should ask yourself will I be proud of myself?

  Peace of mind is only possible if you did what you thought was best. 


Wednesday, March 31, 2021

Surround yourself with people who will inspire you

 If you want inspiration you need to surround yourself with people who inspire you. If you surround yourself with people who pull you down you will stay down.

 Even if you have to go it alone it is better to swim alone then be swimming with sharks waiting to attack you. Of course that is UNLESS they are sharks from SHARK TANK who want to swim along side you to share in your success.

  WHO AND WHAT you surround yourself with in life plays a huge role in where you go in life. To be inspired to be the best that you can be you need to surround yourself with people who will inspire you to do your best.

  Don't let anyone steal your JOY nor hold you back from being the best that you can be.

  Remember anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if you keep adding dirt. No matter what difficult circumstances you find yourself in don't make it more difficult by letting anyone else convince you that there is no way to have a positive outcome.

  The outcome is not determined by the negative circumstances you may face but by how you REACT to the circumstances you may face. 


Monday, March 29, 2021

Stay true to yourself as you navigate through life

   When you face rough situations make sure that you stay true to yourself to get through them. You will pay the consequences both the good or the bad for every thing you do. 

  Don't do anything to simply get through it that at the end of the day you will regret. Sometimes it may seem like there is no positive outcome but as long as you did what you thought was the right thing to do, you will have a positive outcome. 

  Because having PEACE OF MIND about what you did is the only way to have true PEACE OF MIND. 

  It's not about whether you win or lose it is about how you handled it. The circumstances that you face doesn't determine the outcome, it is how you reacted to your circumstances that will determine the outcome. 

  At the end of the day will you be PROUD of what you did? That is the question you should always ask yourself before deciding how you are going to react. 

  There are many choices you will have to make on your life's journey. Remember that choosing to do NOTHING is still a choice you make. 


Friday, March 26, 2021

Nothing nor no one is perfect

   Nothing is perfect so don't wait until everything is perfect to take any action. You can't sit there and wait for the perfect opportunity and miss out on your opportunities. 

  No one is perfect either. If someone is TOXIC for you then without a doubt you definitely have to get away from them because they are toxic. 

  But don't throw away people in your life because they aren't perfect. In healthy relationships there will be quirks about each and every one of your relationships that they might do that annoys you.

  Accept that no one nor anything is perfect. 

  Accept that you are not perfect. You will make mistakes in life. But don't judge yourself so harshly because we all make mistakes. Our mistakes help us to grow.

  There will be tough times and tough decisions you will have to make during your lifetime. That's just LIFE. No matter if you are rich or poor or old or young or male or female or where you live, Life is tough at times.

  But regardless the only way to ENJOY life is to ENJOY it while you are living it. Pandemic or not. There will be good days and bad days. Every day you wake up is a good day even if you have to face tough circumstances. Being alive to face them is a reason to smile.

  The rollercoaster called LIFE is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that's just LIFE. And you have to accept that nothing is perfect so you can ENJOY life while you are living it.

Wednesday, March 24, 2021

If it doesn't matter then JUST FLUSH IT

   If it doesn't matter in the "BIG PICTURE" in your life then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Because at the end of the day it doesn't matter.

  Sometimes we worry ourselves sick over things that are out of our control. We stress over things that at the end of the day they don't even matter.

  Sometimes we keep negative things from our past FRESH on our minds and it has a negative affect on our today's. Take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind.

  If it doesn't matter in the "big picture" in your life then it doesn't matter, so JUST FLUSH IT so you can enjoy life while you are living it. 

  Yesterday is already gone, tomorrow may never come but TODAY is yours to enjoy so enjoy it. 


Monday, March 22, 2021

You don't have to be scared of the dark if you...

   You aren't scared of the dark as long as you know you can turn the lights on. If your electricity goes out during a storm you know you can grab your flashlight so you are able to see.

  When you are going through dark times in your personal life you can find comfort if you can see a light at the end of the tunnel. If you can't see a light then you will feel nothing but despair. 

  It may be hard to find a glimmer of hope during dark times. But if you look for it you will find it. Surround yourself with people who can shed a light of hope so that you will have hope.

  Avoid people who spew nothing but negativity because that will make it harder for you to see the light of hope. If you don't have anyone physically around you that can inspire you then you need to search your social media or Google for positive quotes. 

  If you see someone going through dark times be there for them to say something or do something to give them a glimmer of hope. Be the beacon of light that they need. Give them the strength they need to get through the dark times so they then can be the beacon of light for others. 

  PASS IT ON. Every random or planned ACT OF KINDNESS is a chance to make a positive difference in someone's life. Share a smile with them because the natural response is to smile back. Your smile AT A SOCIAL DISTANCE will HUG their face without fear of it spreading the coronavirus.


  Unfortunately there are some people who don't care and they will suck the JOY out of you if you let them. Don't let anyone or anything suck the JOY out of you. 

  There is a light at the end of the tunnel it just may be hard to find at times. Let your light shine on to others and be their beacon of HOPE. PASS IT ON.

Friday, March 19, 2021

Your encouragement gives them the courage they need

 Encouraging words build the courage they need. Pointing out someone's weaknesses will only make them weaker. Pointing out someone's strengths will make them build on the strengths they have. 

  If you come at someone harshly they close their ears so they can't hear you. Even if later you try to give them encouraging words, it will fall on deaf ears because they already shut you out.

  Berating someone else does nothing but have a negative affect on them and you. But encouraging words will have a positive affect on you both. 

  If you want to comfort someone after a negative situation you definitely can't say I told you so or you should have known better. You won't comfort them if you point out the things they did wrong.

  If you want to encourage someone it is only possible if you give them words of encouragement. 

Wednesday, March 17, 2021


 Not every situation is ALL ABOUT YOU. 

  When other people are involved or are affected by your decisions, then you need to consider what is best for EVERYONE. Of course you have to make sure that you are in NO WAY affected NEGATIVELY in every and any situation. 

  But making sure that they, them, everyone else benefits, then you will benefit too. Making sure that they see you have their best interest at heart, will surround yourself with people who have your best interest at heart.


  The only way to have true happiness takes you having and showing kindness, fairness, respect and compassion for others in everything and anything you do. It's beneficial for your personal life as well as your professional life.

  Every seed of kindness you plant into your "COMMUNITIES" will grow and spread. Plant seeds of HUMANITY every chance you get to STOP the INSANITY we see in our SOCIETY.


Monday, March 15, 2021

Times are tough but..

 We all have good days and bad days. But no matter how tough a day may seem you have to be thankful that you are alive to deal with it. Just waking up each day makes it a good day even if it is a bad day. 

There are many people who we admire because despite the many things going against them they push through it.

  You may not have everything you could ever want but as long as you have everything you need, you have to be thankful. When times get tough for you, write a list of all the things that you are thankful for to get you through the tough times.

  The climb up the mountain of life is hard enough without carrying sand bags of all the negative things you can think of with you on your journey. Just accept it for what it is and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind to lighten your load.

  Don't focus on what you don't have or the negative situations that you have to face. Don't judge yourself too harshly for things that you have no control over just focus on what you can do and do it.

  You only have one LIFE to live so enjoy it while you are living it on the good days and the bad days. Like the plaque on my wall says, "I asked God for all things that I might ENJOY life. He gave me LIFE that I might ENJOY all things."


Friday, March 12, 2021

It doesn't mean you failed just because what you tried didn't work

 You didn't fail because what you tried didn't work. You learned that it just can't be done that way. A mistake is not a mistake it is part of the learning process that you must go through to be successful at doing it.

  When you were learning how to ride a bike there were many times when you fell. But you knew that if you kept trying you would eventually be able to ride a bike. So you kept trying and before you knew it you were an expert at riding a bike.

  We encourage children to not give up but we also need to encourage adults to not ever give up. Every failure is a growing spurt that was needed to succeed.

  You can never fail as long as you learn from it and keep trying. You only fail if you quit trying. Every failure teaches you what you need to know to be successful. 

Don't set yourself up for failure by making your expectations and dreams too high to achieve. Be realistic and keep focused no matter how many times your attempts may fail. As long as you never give up you eventually will accomplish whatever you set out to do. 

  Don't judge yourself so harshly. You can either be your biggest chearleader or your worst enemy. Keep reminding yourself that whatever you are doing it's just like riding a bike. Accept that you will fall but as long as you keep trying you will be riding a bike before you know it.

Wednesday, March 10, 2021

Kids aren't the only one that says the darndest things

 Kids definitely say the darndest things because they say what they feel. Sometimes it is funny. But there are times when you sure wish they didn't say it out loud because it's details you didn't want others to know. It's easy to forgive them because it was an honest mistake.

  The older you get the more you understand that not everything that pops in your mind should pop out of your mouth. At least it shouldn't. Unfortunately I have heard a lot of angy words flying out of a lot of adults mouth.

  I often wander do they not realize how hurtful their words are or do they just don't care? It has become so common anymore especially on the internet to see. Didn't their Mom teach them that if they didn't have anything nice to say then they shouldn't say anything at all?

  It's okay to disagree with someone. It's okay to just not like someone. But it is not okay to spew your hurtful words on others. I don't care what anyone says words do hurt. 

  What happened to common decency, common courtesy and common sense? Teach the Habit of Humanity by treating others the same way that you would want to be treated even in cyberspace. 







Monday, March 8, 2021

You should write many TO DO LISTS

 Sure we all know about the "TO DO LIST" but what about the other "TO DO LISTS?" There are "TO DO LISTS" of chores that you need to do. There are "TO DO LISTS" of things we put on our "BUCKET LIST" of things we plan to do one day.

  But there are many other "TO DO LISTS" that we need to make. Like the "TO DO LISTS" of things we need TO DO for ourselves because you have to enjoy life while you are living it. 

  There is always things you have TO DO or need TO DO but taking care of yourself should be at the top of your list. You can't do your best if you are too busy for yourself.

  You can't be there like you want for everyone and everything unless you take time out for yourself to maintain your overall well being. You won't be able to help anyone if you don't take care of yourself.

  If you need a break, take one before you breakdown. Make time TO DO things you need TO DO for yourself just like you make time TO DO everything else. 

  You can only do what you can do no matter how long your "TO DO LISTS" are. So if there are things that you just can't do then put it on a "NOT GOING TO DO LISTS" so your "TO DO LISTS" isn't more than you can handle. 

  But to maintain your overall well being taking care of yourself should always be at the TOP of your LIST. 





Friday, March 5, 2021

How do you know if you really know them?

    Social media is complex. You can easily socialize by the touch of a button without leaving home. But it is extremely hard to know just who you are really socializing with. 

  When someone builds a bio they can write down anything they want to. So keep that in mind as you bounce from one social media to another. They could be a seasoned chef named Joe as well as also they can be an investment advisor named Jane.

  I watched a documentary where I learned people could buy likes, followers and even comments so they can look reputable. I had no idea. Did you know that?

  It's okay to be entertained by these cyberspace friends but don't let them have any chance to negatively affect you in your real life. Just because they have a million followers doesn't mean you need to follow in their foot steps. 

  A real friendship is not necessarily real if they only exist in cyberspace. Perhaps they send you a POKE because you can't get a real hug from a fake bio in cyberspace.


Wednesday, March 3, 2021

First time I saw it from a doctors point of view

   After not going to the doctor for a long time due to covid-19, there was a lot to talk about. I had written down a list of things that I needed to discuss with her. 

  She patiently listened and responded to them one at a time as I went through my list. Suddenly when I had checked off every question I had, it was her turn to ask the questions.

  With the look of exhaustion on her face she said I did a lot of work to determine what you needed to do to stay healthy.  But you didn't do what I told you to do. 

  I felt terrible that I hadn't followed her instructions. I started to see things from a doctors point of view. If you have any chance of making a patient better they have to do what you tell them to do. 

  All their hard  work to study your chart and tests is wasted time and energy if you don't do what they tell you. We all have helped certain people over and over again yet they repeat what made them need help. After a while you quit helping them because it is a waste of time. 

  It doesn't only matter whether you got a good doctor or not. It won't make any difference unless you do what they say. We all judge our doctors but I learned they also judge their patients. And the look of exhaustion on her face told me I wasn't being a good patient.

  Like they say You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink it. I think my doctor today was saying I was a horse. At least I don't think she was calling me a donkey. 

  You are going to a doctor to get their advice so take it. 

Monday, March 1, 2021

When triggered it comes out from nowhere

 There are millions of memories buried deep in our minds. We can easily recall a few hundred memories but there are millions that we have no memory of at all.

  But with a song, or certain places or sounds it can trigger a memory that you had no memory of. When it pops up front and center in your mind you suddenly remember every little detail. If it hadn't been triggered by something it would have remained hidden from you. 

  It makes you wander just how many special memories are buried deep in your mind that you might never remember in order to enjoy. It takes something to trigger it. It's not something you can search your mind for and find. 

  When I hear a song I listened to as a teenager, I instantly get transported back in time. The memory is so vivid that I almost feel like a teenager. There are also songs that trigger painful memories so I don't listen to them because I don't want to be transported back in time to relive them again.

  The more "small talk" you have with others the more chances you have of triggering a memory to enjoy. I spoke to an aunt that I hadn't talked to in years. I got transported to so many places as we talked. 

  When a memory gets triggered make a quick decision on whether it is a memory that evokes happiness or pain. Then choose to relive the good ones and take the painful ones and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you don't have to relive them. 




Friday, February 26, 2021

What makes someone a hero?

 We know that rescuing someone from a burning car obviously makes them a hero. We know that anyone who has invented a cure for an illness is a hero. There is a whole list of obvious heros we could name.

  This pandemic has been adding to the list of heroes like grocery workers, delivery truck drivers, Mail workers, car repair shops the list could go on and on. Working in public places so that we all can keep moving, knowing you are possibly putting your health at risk from covid-19 makes so many people HEROES. 

  Although many people can work from home they are thankful that those who work in the public are there so they can get things they need. There are a lot of everyday HEROES out there that we all are thankful for, or at least we should be.

  I know throughout my life I have had obvious heroes like my family but there were many people who I considered to be important HEROES to me. It may have only been a brief encounter that a simple statement they made had a huge positive impact on who I am today. 

  Your simple kind words of encouragement can have a huge impact and make a positive difference in that person's life. They may not remember your name but they will never forget your kind words or actions. 

  Spreading kindness as you go is how you spread kindness that will grow in your community. Your words matter more than perhaps you know. 

  You reap what you sow and spreading kindness brings a harvest that we all can benefit from. The next time you go out to take care of your necessities, be sure and say thank you to those taking a chance during a pandemic to be there so you can.

   Like they say one thing leads to another so pass on a random act of kindness that will lead to another and another. Keep it going so it can keep going. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. 


Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Missed opportunities are....

 Missed opportunities are never lost they are taken by someone else. Opportunities don't come often which is why missing one brings such disappointment. It doesn't matter why you missed it, even if it was through no fault of your own. 

  Today I had plans at 1:00 pm that I had been looking forward to for days. I felt for sure it would be an opportunity to learn important stuff that would be very helpful to me. Unfortunately at 12:30 something came up that was a necessity that just couldn't wait. 

  Two hours later when I got back home I had to deal with the feelings of disappointment. Although it was disappointing, I was thankful for getting something important done. Which helped me take the nagging feeling of what I missed and JUST FLUSH IT out of my mind. 

  I believe everything happens for a reason and therefore I have to think that it wasn't the opportunity that was meant for me. Even our disappointments and our failures are also a part of what it takes to get the right opportunities. 

  Things don't always go according to what you have planned. But a change in your plans is sometimes necessary to achieve what you want. You have to be flexible to get what you want. 


Monday, February 22, 2021

You can't look forward to....

 You can't look forward to anything if you keep looking back in the past. You can't move past it until you leave it in the past. Learn what you need to from it then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can move forward. 

  To see clearly where you need to go, you have to clear your mind so you have ROOM to figure it out. Don't CLOG yourself up with thoughts of what has happened in the past.

  You already know what happened you don't have to keep RELIVING IT. JUST FLUSH IT so you can move on. You can't stop the thoughts from popping up trying to GRAB YOUR ATTENTION but you can JUST FLUSH IT at a quick glance so you don't have to relive it. 

  If you want to be able to look forward to what the future holds for you, don't let the past hold you back. JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can get moving. 


Friday, February 19, 2021

Understanding isn't the same as accepting

 Many things will happen on your life's journey that you can't UNDERSTAND why or even how they could have happened. You just have to ACCEPT that there are some things that there just is no answer for, not even on Google.

  This last year we all have struggled in some way as we try to navigate through the many obstacles the pandemic has created. Since there is no way to know let alone UNDERSTAND, all we can do is ACCEPT that we have to learn as we go. 

  Quarantine gives us a lot of time to think and we can't clog up our minds with a list of all the negative situations this pandemic has caused. It's not healthy physically or mentally. 

  You can't keep it fresh on your mind, you have to ACCEPT it then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. With a clear mind you can see clearly how to ADJUST to get through it.

  Just UNDERSTANDING that there will be things you experience on your life's journey that you won't UNDERSTAND, will help you ACCEPT them when they do.  

  Things just happen in LIFE, that's just LIFE. To ENJOY life you got to ENJOY it while you are LIVING it.

Wednesday, February 17, 2021

You can't have a FEELING without a THOUGHT

   Your thoughts make up the reality that you live. Whether what you believe is true or not, if you believe it is true then to you it is true. Every decision you make will be decided by the truth as you see it. 

  Have you ever had the facts completely wrong and then realized that you made a bad decision? We all know that there is consequences for every decision we make.  Unfortunately your actions can hurt others. 

  Before you react STOP and think about what your reaction would bring. Give each situation you face a chance to have a positive outcome for everyone involved. Once you react you can't take it back.

  How you look at things will determine what you see. You know like whether you see the glass half empty or half full. Ten people could see the exact same thing yet they all see something different. 

  Your point of view is based on what you see. If you look at it from different points of view then you may change your point of view. If you don't then your narrow view will keep you from seeing what is right in front of you. 

  Like Elvis Presley said in one of his songs: You got to STOP LOOK AND LISTEN that's my philosophy. 



Monday, February 15, 2021

Taking a sick day

 When you don't feel good get rested so you can get better. 

Friday, February 12, 2021

What is that nagging feeling that just won't go away?

 Have you ever had a nagging feeling that something just ain't right? You could have done all the research of what you needed to  do, yet still have a nagging feeling that something just wasn't right. 

  As you proceed to to do everything just like the plan was to get you where you want to be, the nagging feeling that something just ain't right continues. You go over your plans to make sure that the research you did was accurate and proceed.

  You keep ignoring the warning signal making you feel like something just ain't right. Then suddenly after all your hard work something happens that makes you clearly see that things weren't meant to turn out like you planned.

  You can't look at it as darn I just wasted a lot of time and energy for nothing. Hopefully it didn't cost you to much. What you learned on that journey was what it took to SEE where you needed to go. Otherwise you might have never seen it. 

  I believe that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the journey to get you where you need to be will take you first going on a scenic route to get there. 

Wednesday, February 10, 2021

Time is flying by even though you are stuck

It's hard to believe that we have been living in quarantine for nearly a year now. Even though we may have been stuck idly in our homes, time has been flying by.
  We have had to spend every holiday in 2020 in quarantine. Here we are at the start of 2021 still in quarantine. Although the 2021 start of the holidays is just around the corner, there is no certainty that we can safely gather to celebrate. 
  The experiences of 2020 will make us better prepared to get creative to enjoy the holidays. When we are finally able to gather we will appreciate it so much more. There are many things we took for granted that we could no longer do that we will appreciate now.
  I had always heard that you won't miss it until it is gone and boy is that true. Even things that annoyed you. Our experiences this last year have forever changed us all. It's been tough but we have learned a lot while we have had a year in quarantine giving us plenty of time to think about everything. 
  One thing is for sure this pandemic has made us all realize our own mortality. We have learned that you have to enjoy life while you are living it pandemic or not. 

Monday, February 8, 2021

If you can't be honest with yourself nothing will change

 You won't know what will work best for you if you aren't honest with yourself. Getting advice from others can be helpful to get you to look at things from different points of view. But you know you best so your decision should be made by you.

  You can't just do what other people think you should do. If you change to PLEASE others before long you won't know who you are. Other people may think that they know you but no one knows everything about you except you. 

  Talking to yourself may sound crazy but you are legally insane if you don't. To determine if someone is legally insane or not it is based on whether they can make sound decisions on their own not having to be told what to do. 

  You must be totally honest with yourself about everything and everyone in your life in order to know what you should do. You alone should decide because you alone will have to live with the consequences for everything you do. 

  Keep in mind that if you are honest with yourself there might be things that you will have to give up because it is what is best for you. There may even be people that you will have to walk away from no matter how painful it is. 

  Everyone struggles throughout their life so don't think you are any different than anyone else. But to be comfortable in your own skin you have to be comfortable with everything you do in the skin you are in. As long as you did the best that you could, it doesn't matter what any one else thinks.

  You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. If you did what you thought was the right thing to do then give yourself credit for what you did even if you fail. Learn from it and try again.

  Remember talking to yourself may sound crazy but you are legally crazy if you don't. Although you might want to keep the conversation with yourself silent in your head because if others hear you they may think you are crazy. 



Friday, February 5, 2021

You can't keep it from popping up but..

 Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts that pop up trying to grab our attention. There is no way to prevent a thought from popping up over and over again.  But you can JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind at a quick glance so it can't keep hurting you over and over again. 

  When a negative thought pops up you don't have to open yourself up to the avalanche of thoughts that would pour in if you JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. It's like seeing a cockroach come out of your grocery bag. If you don't squish it immediately your house will be totally infested with roaches. 

  You may have had no choice to live through the negative situation the first time, but you can choose to not relive it over and over again in your mind. So at a quick glance JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND So it can't hurt you over and over again.

  The rollercoaster of life is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns. You will have good days and bad days. If you want to enjoy life you have to enjoy it while you are living it. Which means to have a good day there are times when you have to FLUSH AWAY A BAD DAY so you can enjoy life while you are living it. 

  The past is already gone, tomorrow may never come but TODAY is yours to enjoy.


Wednesday, February 3, 2021

It's not what you start with .....

It isn't what you start with that determines the outcome. It is whether you get up and get started that will determine the outcome. Just like it isn't the circumstances that you must face but how you react to them that determines the outcome. 

  If you give up without ever trying you can't say you tried. If you want it you will have to do whatever it takes to get it. Keep in mind that to grow there are growing pains. 

 Sometimes it may take a tornado in your personal life to get you where you need to be. You have to grow wherever you are planted throughout your life. You just have to accept that there are many things that happen in life that there are just no answers for, not even on Google. 

  Every day you should make a list of the things that you are thankful for to make you realize just how lucky you are. You may not have everything that you want but as long as you have everything you need you should be thankful. 

  Your thoughts are the reality you live. So just like Peter Pan, you need to think of happy thoughts. What you look for is what you will find. If you look for trouble, you will find it. If you look for a way to have a positive outcome then the outcome will be positive. Seek and you will find. 





Monday, February 1, 2021

Looking forward to the future is not possible if you live in the past

 As we all are looking forward to the end of the pandemic, we know that things will never be the same. What worked in the past won't work quite the same because the pandemic has forever changed things. 

  We will have to adjust how we do things because things are forever changed. Like the plaque on my wall says, SO THIS ISN'T HOME SWEET HOME, ADJUST. 

  It's going to take a lot of patience, time and a whole lot of creativity to make the "new normal" feel normal. You can't look forward nor move towards the future if you keep waiting for things to go back to like they were in the past. 

  Since we are still living in a pandemic, we have to hang on while we bend like a pretzel to get through it. But we will get through it. Just make sure you don't do anything to get through it that you will regret. Because pandemic or not there are consequences for every thing you do. 

  Doing the right thing is not always easy but it's the only way that things for you will turn out alright at the end of the pandemic. Keep in mind that times are tough on everyone so be kind to everyone you meet. 

  I have had a lot of time during this pandemic to look at the plaques on my walls that have hung for decades. They have taken on a profound meaning during the pandemic. 


Friday, January 29, 2021

Sometimes the sun shines in the dead of winter

 In our personal life we go through seasons just like mother nature has her seasons. Even in the dead of winter there are sunny days. On a rainy day it is not all gloomy there are rainbows of color to enjoy.

  You know when it is cold outside you need to put on a jacket. When you go through a rough season in your personal life you must stay true to your core values to stay protected to weather the storm. 

  When there is a sunny day in the winter you get to go outside to get some much needed fresh air. When you have a season of harvest in your personal life you get to enjoy the rewards of your hard work. You really do reap what you sow.

  When it's thundering and lightning outside you know you have to stay indoors to be safe. When you are faced with a negative situation in your personal life, you know you need to STOP and think before you react if you want to have a positive outcome. 

   Life is just as unpredictable as the weather. But one thing is for sure, yesterday is already gone, tomorrow may never come but TODAY is ours to enjoy. We may not like getting wet in the rain but we know we need the rain. Just like in life we know a life worth living takes hard work. 


Wednesday, January 27, 2021

You don't have to change to be a better you

 There has been a lot of time during this year long quarantine to reflect on our personal  life. You may have discovered a few things about yourself both good and bad. Having to make the most out of what you got let you also discover many things that you are thankful for. 

  There may have been changes that you have had to make, as well as many hurdles you have had to climb. But make sure that whatever you do to get through it is something you can be proud of. 

  You may have discovered some things you need to change to be the best that you can be. But that doesn't mean you have to change who you are. 

  Being comfortable in the skin you are in takes being comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. Just do unto others what you would want them to do to you. 


Monday, January 25, 2021

Don't let your guard down but don't build a wall without a door

 To protect ourselves we have to put up walls and barriers. We have to even put on disguises at times so that we are less vulnerable. And during this pandemic we need to wear face masks and keep a social distance on top of that.

  Although you can't let your guard down, don't build Walls all around yourself without building a door. Isolation is not healthy physically or mentally for anyone. You can be safe without fear taking away the freedom to live. 

  Be aware of the dangers and do what you need to do to be safe. To enjoy life, pandemic or not, you have to enjoy life while you are living it. The things we learn from the tough times in life are the things that steers us in the right direction to be able to experience and enjoy the good times. 

  The ROLLER COASTER OF LIFE is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that is just LIFE. Just put on your seatbelt and enjoy the ride. To enjoy life you just got to enjoy it while you are living it. 



Friday, January 22, 2021

Looking forward to the future is only possible if....

 Looking forward to the future is only possible if you stop looking at your past. Just like you can not safely drive your car forward only looking in your rearview mirror!

  You can't move past something if you don't put it behind you as you move on. Learn from it so that it never happens again, then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Reliving it over and over again in your mind only allows it to hurt you over and over again.

  There will be many times during your life's journey that life will throw boulders in your path. Don't just stand there complaining about why it is there, just go around it and keep moving. If you find yourself in a deadend on your journey then just turn around. 

  The path you must take to get where you want to be may be bumpy at times. But just because a different route may be smoother that doesn't mean it will lead you to where you want to be. 

  Sometimes the path that looks like the most traveled isn't the way to go. It's worn simply because it led to a deadend and everyone had to turn around and choose a different path. 

  Sometimes in life in order to have a good day, you will have to learn how to flush away a bad day. Take all the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can enjoy life while you are living it. 


Wednesday, January 20, 2021

During quarantine the "little things" get noticed

 We have all been in quarantine for nearly a year now. There was plenty of time to get projects at home done that you had put off doing because you never had the time or even the energy to do them. 

  While you are getting all the big jobs done that is when you notice all the little things that you realize you need to do. You also find a lot of things that you had forgotten you had and half of them you don't even need.

  As you declutter your house by discarding what you don't want and organizing what you want to keep, you will feel better. The same is true if you clear the clutter of negative thoughts out of your mind you will feel better. 

  I still have a few little things that I need to do but since quarantine isn't going to end for a while I should have plenty of time to get them done. One good thing that came out of the quarantine is a lot of things got done around the house. It sure looks good and it feels good inside as you pat yourself on the back for all the things you got done. 

  JUST FLUSH IT to Spring clean your mind just like you spring clean your house by clearing out all the clutter.



Monday, January 18, 2021

Your hidden talents are waiting for you to discover

 We each have talents that we have not discovered yet. That is why it is important to encourage people, especially children, to try everything you can. Unless you try to draw you will never know if you are good at drawing. If you don't ever sing you won't know if you are a good singer.

  Your hidden talents will stay hidden unless you try many things to discover what they are. Keep in mind you don't have to be the best there ever was at something to be talented at it. If you always wanted to do something you should try it, you just might be good at it. If not you can at least mark that off your bucket list of things you want to do.

  I wrote down some of the things my grandkids were good at as we experienced things throughout the years. One day when they get older I will remind them of their talents that they may have forgotten that they even had. Who knows they might be able to base their career choices on the forgotten talents that they each have.

   To discover your hidden talents remember you will have to try as many new adventures you can to discover them. You may try something that you didn't like doing so you will know you don't want to do that again. Or you may try something and discover how much you like doing it and make it a career or at at least plan on doing it again.


Friday, January 15, 2021

True friendship is hard to find

 Friendships when you are young are merely based on whether you have fun when you are with them. Finding a friend was easy then. As you become a middle aged adult you not only look for someone you have fun with but who also is honest. The crowd you surround yourself with becomes smaller.

 By the time you start nearing your fifties you begin to realize that a true friendship is not based on fun as much as it is their honesty, loyalty, compassion for others as well as their integrity. By this point you aren't out looking for new friendships, you are thankful for the few true friendships you have already made. 


Wednesday, January 13, 2021

A big idea from a little bit of "small talk"

 In the fast paced world we live in there never seems to be any time for "small talk" to take place. Back in the good old slow moving times there was always time to sit around and talk to people. Having "small talk" brings up all kinds of topics that just flow out as you pass the time. You learn a lot of things that you will remember later in life that will be helpful to you. As you talk about circumstances that you are struggling with, you can figure out a solution to your problem without them saying a word. The human connection helps you stay connected to your human side. With all the technology overtime we feel connected but it is with people who only exist in cyberspace disguised as anything they want to be. Try to remember that it is okay to visit cyberspace friends but a human hug can't be replaced by a cyberspace poke. 

Monday, January 11, 2021

Meditation can help you maintain your overall good health

Meditation helps you both physically and mentally stay healthier. Not only does it help you at the time you are doing it, but it benefits you throughout your day. Meditation may sound complex but remember there is no right way or wrong way to meditate. Meditation is just focusing your attention on something to block out the never ending stream of thoughts in your mind. Some people go to "their happy place" in there mind. Pick a place, any place, that you want to choose and focus on every little detail about your place. Focus untill you can feel as you are physically there. If you focus long enough you will be able to have a sense of the smells even. Other people focus purely on their breathing. Whatever you find works for you that is what your way of meditating is. What works for someone else may not work for you. Whatever it takes to distract all the thoughts that are streaming through your mind is what you will have to do so that PEACE of MIND has ROOM to get in. While you are meditating it is natural to lose focus from time to time. But as soon as you do, you have to start all over again focusing on the details to get back to your "happy place" again. Scientist may debate about whether meditation truly can help with things such as cancers. But they will all tell you that meditation helps with both your physical and mental well being. Maybe your meditation is listening to a song that makes it impossible to do anything but feel the tune throughout your mind body and soul. Before you know it your feet will start tapping. Or your legs and your pelvis start moving like Elvis's. A moment to get away from the never ending stream of thoughts is another moment of peace of mind. If you want to have PEACE OF MIND you have to make ROOM FOR IT to get in. Peace of mind is just a FLUSH away all you got to do is JUST FLUSH IT. 

Friday, January 8, 2021

You don't have to walk a straight line to succeed but you can't cross the lines you set for yourself

 In order to succeed in life you don't have to do everything successfully. But you do have to draw lines that you don't cross if you want to be successful. Set limits and boundaries for yourself on a personal level, on a professional level and on a moral level that you let guide you through life. Keep in mind that it's true that you reap what you sow in life. If you want to have good karma in life, you have to do what is right to others to have good karma on your side. Because as we all know karma will be with you on your life's journey and it will determine what kind of journey it will be. Doing the right thing may make things harder to do but as long as you do the right thing everything will work out alright for you. At the end of the day as long as you did the best that you could do then you can enjoy the peace of mind that it will bring you. You can't feel comfortable in the skin you are in unless you are comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. Be kind to everyone one you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. 

Wednesday, January 6, 2021

Learning from your mistakes is only...

 You can't learn from your mistakes if you don't admit that you made a mistake. But a mistake only happens once because you should learn from it what not to do the next time. Every experience you have in life, both the good and the bad, help you grow to be the best you can be. Without a doubt we each are dealt a different hand in life. And for some life is harder. But when life gives you nothing but lemons you can learn how to make lemonade. How you react to every experience you have is up to you. It isn't the circumstances you face that determines the outcome. It is how you react to it that will determine the outcome. So before you react STOP and think about what you can do to have the best possible outcome for yourself. Remember that once you react you can't take it back, you will have to live with the consequences for your actions. Obliviously your first reaction to a negative situation will be negative. If you don't STOP before you react the outcome can only be negative. Even though a negative situation can still affect you negatively, your reaction can either make things worse or make things the best they can be for you under the circumstances. How you look at things determines what you see. It could be right in front of you but you won't see it if you don't look for it. To have a positive outcome sometimes may be as difficult as finding a needle in a haystack. But if you want a positive outcome you will have to grab a magnifier and look until you find that needle. Looking for a bright side to every negative situation is the only way to see that there is light at the end of the tunnel to help you get through the negative situation that you are in. You may not have been able to prevent the situation you are in but you can react to it in a way that can possibly prevent a negative outcome for you. It's your choice how you react but choose wisely because you have to live with the consequences for every choice you make. 

Monday, January 4, 2021

Sometimes in life you got to bend and twist like a pretzel

 The roller coaster of life is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns. The pandemic has added a few more moves to our lives that we have to maneuver through. Sometimes we will have to bend and twist like a pretzel to get through the circumstances and situations we must face due to the pandemic. It definitely brings out our creative side as we have had to take whatever we got or can even get, and make it work. The saying on a plaque on my wall that has hung up for decades takes on a whole new meaning during this pandemic. It says "So this isn't HOME SWEET HOME, ADJUST." 

Friday, January 1, 2021

Your opinion can hold you back from seeing things

 Your opinion is the only opinion that matters. But your opinion can keep you from seeing the "big picture" because it narrows your point of view. You can form an opinion without knowing all the facts. Perhaps if you would look at things differently you would change your opinion. Unfortunately once you form an opinion on something you close your mind preventing you from seeing it differently. You may not like apples but still like warm apple pie. But you will never know unless you try a piece of apple pie. You may hate being out in the cold weather but still love skiing. But you will never know unless you try skiing. Your opinion about it may change but only if you are open minded. Getting all the facts about something may change your opinion but will you choose to get the facts? I had an opinion about someone whom I had worked with decades ago. Recently I learned about their circumstances in Life that totally changed my opinion about them. I understood now but I wish I would have known back then. Some people keep their life situations private because they don't want anyone to know. Unfortunately not knowing can make someone form an opinion about you without them really knowing you at all. I am not saying anyone should tell everyone everything about themselves. I am just pointing out that without knowing all the facts, you should stop and consider what is your opinion based on? If you knew all the facts would you have a different opinion? It can either change your opinion or confirm that your opinion was right. But it is better to get the facts so you can make an informed decision than to regret the decisions that you made because your opinion was wrong. How many times throughout your life have you said "If I would have known that I sure would have done things differently"? Don't decide without knowing what the facts are so you can make the right decision. If you thought you were picking six Powerball  lottery numbers assuming that the numbers range from 1-30, you would be cutting your chances to win. Because the fact is the range is 1-69 and you would never have picked any number from 31-69 because you never bothered to get the facts before you picked your six numbers. Happy New Years Day everyone.