Wednesday, July 28, 2021

Don't carry sandbags

   On your Life's Journey you will learn as you go. 

  You never know what life has in store for you. But one thing is for sure and that is that you have to ENJOY Life while you are living it. 

  All you have is the TIME you have so ENJOY every moment of IT. 

  Don't carry your painful experiences from the past like sandbags on your life's journey. Learn what you need to from it then JUST FLUSH IT to lighten your load.

  Remember that the Rollercoaster of Life is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that's just LIFE.

  And sometimes in Life you may have to bend like a pretzel to stay on track, that's just LIFE.

 But you don't have to load yourself down with "SANDBAGS" making your life's journey harder, JUST FLUSH IT to lighten your load.

    

  

  

  

Monday, July 26, 2021

Staying true to what you believe

   The last year and a half have been challenging at times. We have had to get creative to accomplish even the smallest things. 

  As the covid-19 virus has mutated and is spreading we may have to consider going back into quarantine. 

  We have learned a lot as we have had to navigate through the challenges that the pandemic has caused. 

  We will get through this latest outbreak too by taking all that we have learned and taking all the necessary steps to stay safe.

  We all need to buckle down and do what we need to do to stop the spread of the covid-19 virus so we will be able to gather together to enjoy a Holly Jolly Christmas this year. 

  I was stunned when a local Walmart store closed for two days yesterday to disinfect to slow the spread of this more contagious variant.

 Although I had recently stocked up for hurricane season, I had to go back out today to stock up again on certain things that are specifically needed for quarantine supplies.

  Luckily what we learned as we navigated through the last year, will get us through the challenges we will have to face in the next few weeks.

  We can do this!

  


Friday, July 23, 2021

You may have heard what they said...

   You can hear what someone says yet not understand what they said at all. 

  How you interpereted what they said doesn't mean that is what they said at all.

  You may have heard every word they said yet not hear the meaning of their words at all.

  How you look at things determines what you see. 

  How you interpret what you hear will determine what you think was said.

  Your point of view is the only view you see that you have to base your opinions on.

  Yet when you take the time to see it from a different point of view, your opinion may change.

  Without knowing for sure you can't be sure so wait to form your opinion until you know for sure.

   Understanding what they meant to say is the only way to know what they are truly saying.

  Don't ruin a good relationship because you interpereted what they said or did all wrong. 

  Don't miss out on an opportunity because you didn't understand what an opportunity it actually is. 

  

  






 


  

Wednesday, July 21, 2021

Setting boundaries for yourself

   When you set boundaries for yourself you don't cross them.

  The boundaries you set are set by you to make sure you don't cross them.

  You are bound to encounter people who try to get you to follow them outside of your boundaries.

  You may even be tempted at times to go beyond your boundaries but remember WHY YOU SET THAT BOUNDARY.

  You set limits on yourself not to limit what you do but to limit any negative affects on yourself. 

  The boundaries you set for yourself are not meant to hold you back they are set to ensure nothing can hold you back.

  If it is against what you believe is good for you then make sure it is something you never do. 

  When you set boundaries for yourself DON'T CROSS THEM.

  

  

  

Monday, July 19, 2021

What we have in common....

   We can all be very different yet we can still also be the same in many ways at the same time.  What do we all have in common?

  We may not like the same kind of food but we all have to eat.

  We may not always see eye to eye or agree on things. But as long as we agree to disagree we can all get along.

  We have many differences but all that matters is that we all have common courtesy, common decency and common sense in common.

   Our uniqueness makes us each unique.

 You don't have to like what anyone else does. But if you want the freedom to be who you want to be then you have to let them have the freedom to be who they want to be.

 If you want others to respect your opinion then you have to respect their right to their opinions.

  Me and my family and friends don't always agree on everything. But we love each other enough that we all agree to not talk about subjects we disagree on. That way we can enjoy the time we have together.

  What you have in common with someone means more than how different you are on things.

  As long as you have common courtesy, common decency and common sense in common you can enjoy their uniqueness.

  

 


Friday, July 16, 2021

In life U-TURNS are allowed

   You may make the wrong turn in life and it leads you to a dead end. Luckily in life U-TURNS are not ONLY allowed but they are a natural part of life.

  You shouldn't be so hard on yourself that you chose a path that unfortunately led to nowhere.

  Not only do things change over time that determines where a path leads but as humans we change over time and where we want to be, also changes.

  What worked in the past may not work anymore. What worked for someone else may not work for you.

  Adapting to life is necessary to go with the flow. Doing a U-TURN when you hit a dead end is necessary to keep moving in the right direction.

  If you get knocked down in life you got to get up, dust yourself off and get started again. It doesn't matter how many times you have to "start over" all that matters is that you get up.

  Remember in life U-TURNS are not ONLY allowed but they are also necessary at times, that's just LIFE. 

  


Wednesday, July 14, 2021

The last thing they need is your negative energy

   When someone makes a mistake they don't need you to scream and berate them in order for them to learn from it. 

  As a matter of fact your negative words and insults make them cringe.  Which will stunt the natural growth they would have gained.

  People can call it tough love and pretend like it will help you. But kicking someone after they have fallen isn't love at all.

  Rubbing it in someones face so that they know that you know that they made a mistake is not helpful to them.

  If you want to help them then let them see for themselves and learn from it. We all make mistakes throughout our life, that's just part of life, it's growing pains.

  Give them encouraging words to help them get back on their feet. 

  

  

Monday, July 12, 2021

You don't miss what you never had

   It's true you may not miss it until it is gone. And it is also true that you don't miss what you never had.

  During over a year in quarantine there were many people and things that you knew you would miss a lot. 

  But there were also things that annoyed you that you never thought you would miss, but you do.

  As we slowly get back into being able to move freely about there are some things that we have realized that we didn't miss at all.

  The fast paced pre-pandemic lifestyle we had doesn't seem as appealing as it used to be. Having the time to STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES is something that we want to continue to have time for.

  Many people have had to learn to cook at home when the quarantine closed down the restaurants. 

  Some of the new dishes you have made and enjoyed during quarantine are ones you and your family want to continue to have at home.

  Your new normal is whatever feels good to you. 

  

  

Friday, July 9, 2021

Keep things as simple as possible

     The more elaborate your plans are, the more parts that you have to move to do it. If you keep things simple then you will have less you need to juggle to do it.

   The less you have to do the less stressful it will be for you. And those around you will benefit from a stress-free you.

  If you want to simplify your life you got to keep things simple. 

   Don't take on more than you can handle. If you can't do it then simply tell them no I can't help. 

  There is nothing wrong with giving someone an honest no. Know your limits and stay in your limits for your overall well being. 

  Just keep things simple. You will be less stressful if you have less to stress about.

  

  

  

Wednesday, July 7, 2021

Enjoying your Life's Journey

   Life's Journey is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns. It's called the ROLLERCOASTER OF LIFE.

  But the only way to ENJOY life is to ENJOY it while you are living it. 

  Like the plaque on my wall says..

  I asked God for all things that I might ENJOY LIFE, He gave me LIFE that I might ENJOY all things.

  If you look for the positive things as you go you will have a positive outlook, which will  lead you to a positive outcome.

  Life is how you look at it. You can see your glass as half full or half empty. 

  You can't have a feeling without first having a thought. If you want to feel HAPPY you have to think of HAPPY THOUGHTS.

  If you FOCUS on things that ANGER you then you will FEEL angry.

  If you FOCUS on things that sadden you then you will FEEL sad.

  If you FOCUS on things that inspire you then you will FEEL inspired.

  If you FOCUS on things that make you happy then you will FEEL happy.

  If you LOOK for trouble you will FIND it.

  If you LOOK for reasons to smile you will FIND it.

  If you LOOK for someone or something that inspires you then you will FIND it.

  If you LOOK for a positive outcome you will FIND it.

  WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

  Seek and you shall FIND. 

 


Monday, July 5, 2021

Don't let the negative vibes clog you up

   You already know that you can't please everyone so don't try.

  Since you can't please everyone don't let the negative words or actions from anyone distract you from what you want to do.

  I often wandered why those that disagree with you waste their time to make sure you know that they disagree with you. 

  They try to grab your attention to try to get you to be distracted because your positivity is something they wish they had.

 Instead of allowing your positivity to help them be more positive they would rather make you feel as negatively as they do.

  Which is exactly why you need to surround yourself with people who are positive and stay as far away from negative people and negative situations as you can.

  Don't let them steal your joy. Don't let a negative person or negative situation have any chance to clog you up. 

  Instead be thankful that their opinion doesn't affect your opinions. Your thoughts are your reality not what anyone else thinks. 

  You can't please everyone so expect there will be some people who won't be pleased.

  At the end of the day as long as you are proud of yourself it doesn't matter if anyone else is proud of you.

 

  

Friday, July 2, 2021

Independence is the freedom to be you

   Having independence means you are free to be yourself. 

  Freedom to be yourself means the freedom to choose for yourself.

  Don't let anyone take away your ability to be independent.

  As Independence Day approaches make a list of all the things that being independent means to you.

  Keep in mind that respecting other people's right to be independent is the only way that you yourself can enjoy being independent.

  Celebrating independence day this year is going to be a celebration also that quarantine is over.

  Freedom and independence go hand in hand. You can't have one without the other. 

  As you make your fourth of July plans make sure you plan on making safety a priority. 

  Fireworks sure are fun to watch but they are dangerous too. 

  Happy Fourth of July everyone. 

  

  

  

Wednesday, June 30, 2021

If we were all the same nothing NEW is possible

   We are all different. That is a good thing because if we were all the same nothing NEW would ever be possible.

  It takes a different point of view to see things others don't see.

  It takes a different way of thinking to think of NEW things.

  If we were all the same there wouldn't be anything NEW to talk about or anything NEW to experience.

  Our differences are what makes us each unique. Our uniqueness is what makes us different from each other.

  Our uniqueness is necessary to have unique ideas that create unique opportunities for each of us. 

  Could you imagine if we all looked the same? 

  Could you imagine if we all dressed the same?

  Could you imagine if we didn't have the freedom to think differently? 

  We can all be thankful that there are different strokes for different folks.

  Ten people can see the same thing yet see something totally different. And every single one of them are right, they saw what they saw.

  

  

  

  

Monday, June 28, 2021

You can be right but also be wrong at the same time

   You might be right about part of it but you can also be wrong about other parts of it.

  You may know certain parts of something yet there may be things you don't know.

  You may think you know what someone is going through yet have no idea about other things that they are going through.

  You can make the right decision considering what you do know yet you might  decide differently if you knew all the facts.

  Just because you think someone should do things differently based on what you know doesn't mean they did the wrong thing. 

  You can only base your opinions on the facts as you know them. That doesn't mean that you wouldn't change your opinion if you knew all the facts.

  There will be times when you thought you were doing things the right way yet later realize that you were wrong.

  That doesn't mean you knowingly did it wrong. It just means you did what you thought was right based on what you knew.

  It's hard to know if you are making the right decisions. As long as you do what you thought was the right thing to do then you know you made the right decision at the time.

  Everyone has the right to have their own opinion and just because you disagree with their opinion doesn't mean that either of your opinions is wrong. 

  

  

  

Friday, June 25, 2021

Spend your time wisely

   We only have the time we have so we can't waste it.

  We only have so many hours in a day to accomplish what we want to accomplish.

  We have to remember that we can't please everyone but we can and should make pleasing ourselves our priority.

  Before you fill up your schedule doing things for others, you need to start each day writing a schedule to get everything you need to do for yourself done.

  Then if you have time left over to help others you can squeeze it into your schedule. 

  It's nice to help others, IF YOU CAN. But  YOU CAN'T neglect taking care of yourself to do it.

  If you don't take care of yourself first then you won't be in any condition to help others when they REALLY NEED you. 

  Keep in mind that if your mind and body tells you that you need to TAKE A BREAK, then you better take a break before you BREAK DOWN.

  

  

  

Wednesday, June 23, 2021

What are you saying to yourself?

 How you look at it determines what you see. How you think about it will determine how you will feel about it.

  Your thoughts are the reality you live. If you keep telling yourself that you can't do it then you will never do it because you will never try to do it. FLUSH away your DOUBTS.

  If you tell yourself that you can do it and cheering yourself on by saying.. YOU GOT THIS, then you will be inspired to just do it.

  You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. Your thoughts are the reality that you live. 

  Instead of allowing a setback to hold you back, look at it as an opportunity to make your reality better. 

  Instead of dwelling on it as something YOU HAVE TO DO because of negative situations. Look at it as something you GET TO DO that you wouldn't have done if not for the situation.

  Instead of letting the pressure of the negative situations hold you down, use that pressure to bring out your strengths. 

   With the right way of looking at it, being under pressure can work to your advantage by bringing out THE BEST IN YOU.

  Remember PETER PAN could only fly if he THOUGHT OF HAPPY THOUGHTS. 

  So the next time you have to face a negative situation, remember all you got to do is THINK like PETER PAN.

 

Monday, June 21, 2021

One day it will be what you are grateful for

 You may not have enjoyed it when it was happening. But one day, you will look back and realize that everything happens for a reason and you will be thankful that it happened.

  It's hard to believe that having to endure the painful experiences in your life is all part of the process that was necessary to be who you are.

  Mistakes you make are also an important process necessary for you to grow. Keep in mind that to learn from your mistakes you have to admit that you made a mistake.

  Sometimes you may not see the sunlight because the storm clouds are blocking your view. But you don't have to worry because you know that the sun is still in the sky.

  Eventually the storm will pass and the sun will once again be shining bright.

 Unfortunately it may take a tornado in your personal life turns out to be necessary because it was the only way to get you where you need to be. 

  Life's journey is not always smooth. There will be bumps along your way. That's just LIFE. 

  The tough times are part of the process necessary for you to be able to have the good times. One day you will be able to look back and be thankful for everything it took to get you to where you are today.

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

Friday, June 18, 2021

Don't start a new habit that you know is a bad habit

 You may not always notice that you are starting a new HABIT.

  Of course some HABITS you start because you know you need to get in the HABIT of doing to have a positive impact in your life.

  And then there are some HABITS you know are very bad for you that you shouldn't get in the HABIT of doing.

  You need to look at the HABITS you have gotten into and be honest about which HABITS you need to BREAK. 

  It's going to take a conscious effort to BREAK THE HABIT but bad HABITS need to be broken. 

  First you need to make a list of the HABITS you need to break. Then one by one write ALL the reasons why you need to get out of that HABIT.

  When you read your reasons WHY, it will give you the willpower you need to BREAK THE HABIT. 

  Keep your list handy because you need to get in the HABIT of reminding yourself WHY you need to BREAK THE HABIT so you can BREAK THE HABIT.

  Remember a mistake only happens once. If you repeat it then it has become a HABIT that you need to BREAK.

 

  

  

  

Wednesday, June 16, 2021

If you want it then you will have to do whatever it takes to get it

 If you want it then it doesn't matter if anyone else thinks it is what you should want.

  If it is important to you then it doesn't matter if anyone else thinks it is important.

  You can't keep changing to please others because before you know it you won't even know who you are.

  We only have one life to live and to enjoy your life you have to enjoy it while you are living it. 

  It's okay and sometimes it can even be helpful to listen to other people's opinions. But in the end your opinion is the only one that matters. 

  Doing what makes you happy is the only way to be truly happy. 

  If you want to be comfortable in the skin you are in you have to be comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. 

 You can never please everyone so don't try to. As long as you are pleased with yourself that is all that matters at the end of the day. 

  We will not always agree but as long as we all agree to disagree we will be able to enjoy each other's company. 

  Stay true to yourself. Be the best you that you can be.

  


  

  

Monday, June 14, 2021

Well I never thought I would but here I go

 Since I started blogging over 11 years ago I wanted to make sure I always wrote about things to distract anyone from stress, not write about things that were stressful that would cause them any stress.

  Unfortunately I am so upset by recent events that I have to write about them. 

  I have been told repeatedly that social media is the best way to promote your business and products. 

  I opened many social media accounts like Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. I tried them all but quickly felt uncomfortable realizing that you never know who someone truly is because they can easily make up fake identities.

  Therefore I was never really active on any social media sites. But during a year of quarantine I began actively trying LinkedIn again. 

  I knew that Daymond John was for sure really him on LinkedIn. As well as several others like Gary Vaynerchuk, Matt Higgins and Kim Kaupe, they too were really who they said they were.

  I began to forget about all the fake profiles that had kept me away from social media. I let down my guard and started connecting with people.

  I had always wanted to write a song to spread the positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT. Because those three powerful positive WORDS would help people but they won't help anyone if they never hear about them.

  I wrote a jingle and sang it on YouTube as soon as I got my trademark. Unfortunately my video didn't get heard either. If you would like to see it go to YouTube and look for the JUST FLUSH IT song by Billie Bob.

  Anyway back to my experience recently on LinkedIn. 

  One day the country singer Trace Adkins popped up and I sent him a request to join his community. To my surprise he ACCEPTED it.

  I was then able to message him and asked him if he would be interested in writing the JUST FLUSH IT song. I was SHOCKED when a couple of days later he wrote back yes but we needed to meet in person.

  I knew he was hosting the Ultimate Cowboy show as well as touring and being a presenter at the awards so he was busy.

  So I wrote my version of the JUST FLUSH IT song and sent it to him on LinkedIn where we had been communicating. 

  Five weeks went by then.....he wrote back saying my song really impressed him and we needed to meet in person.

  I was on cloud nine. I called all my family and friends to tell them the good news. Finally the WORLD would hear those three powerful positive WORDS. 

  I was upset when my family and friends said I shouldn't meet a stranger and the chances that it was really him was unlikely. He was too rich and famous to want to meet an average person like me.

  I got angry that they didn't feel like my JUST FLUSH IT song and the message behind JUST FLUSH IT was so moving to him and that was why he wanted to meet me to collaborate.

  After months of hoping to team up with him it was finally about to happen. But I promised my family and friends that I would listen to them and somehow verify it was actually Trace Adkins that I was in communication with on LinkedIn.

  That was going to be hard to do but I started looking for a way. 

  I was heartbroken when I ran across an article from 2018 in which Trace Adkins said he wanted to let his fans know that there were many fake profiles on the different social media sites claiming to be him.

  He said in the article that he would never personally send a message to anyone through any social media accounts. 

  I sure wish I would have read this article before I spent months thinking I was talking to Trace Adkins. 

  I had seen many instances on the news where fans connected with celebrities on social media and got them to go to there high school prom with them. So it didn't seem totally impossible to reach a real person on social media. 

  But unfortunately I had let down my guard and started to believe it was possible even though I had given up years ago. 

  I painfully was reminded that anyone can set up a fake profile and pretend to be whoever they want to be, including pretending to be Trace Adkins. 

  I feel stupid that I really, with all my heart, thought that I was talking to Trace Adkins. I. Knew better but I still fell for it.

  I wanted to write about it to warn everyone that this could happen to you too. I want to spare you the heartache and disappointment that I just went through.

  I have always known that if it sounds too good to be true then it probably isn't true. 

  I found out a long time ago that anyone can hide behind a fake profile and pretend to be whoever they want to be.

  I have no idea how I let myself believe it was really Trace Adkins. I just wanted it to be him so bad that I became blinded and forgot everything I knew that should have protected me from being so vulnerable to scammers.

  Although I will always keep my guard up by reminding myself about this incident, I will continue reading post on LinkedIn.

  More than any other social media I have tried on over these last 11 years, their Post spread seeds of compassion for others and stories that uplift and inspire people. 

  And I know that if we all spread seeds of Humanity it will grow and replace the INSANITY we see in our society. 

  The World won't get better on its own we all must do our part. 

  World peace is possible by bringing peace of mind to one person at a time. 

    And to keep peace of mind you must NEVER FORGET that you can enjoy social media sites but you must NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN. 

    Please help me spread the powerful positive message behind JUST FLUSH IT so it can bring peace of mind to one person at a time. 

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

Friday, June 11, 2021

Don't focus on what is wrong or you will lose focus

   If you only FOCUS on what went wrong you will not see what went right. You can't build on your strengths if you don't FOCUS so that you see them. 

  No one is good at everything. But they can use what they are good at to accomplish what they want to.

  You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. 

  If you FOCUS on what you are good at you can build on your strengths. If you only FOCUS on your faults then you will weaken yourself. 

  Your thoughts are the reality you live whether it is based on facts or not. If you keep telling yourself that you can't do it then without a doubt you will never do it because you will never try to do it.

  Don't FOCUS on your faults and judge yourself so harshly. Remember NO ONE is good at everything. 

  Be proud and thankful for the things that you are good at. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done and acknowledge your hard work even if it doesn't turn out like you had hoped. 

  Remember the turtle won the race not because he was faster than the rabbit but because he stayed FOCUSED on getting to the finish line. 

  Stay FOCUSED and CHEER yourself on.

  

Wednesday, June 9, 2021

Proving you are right sometimes proves to be the wrong thing to do

   It feels good to know you were right about things. 

  There are times when you may need to prove you were right in certain situations. But there are also situations where fighting to prove you were right will hurt you in some way.

  Knowing you were right is very important but proving you were right is not always important.

  Just like when you tried to warn someone not to do something and they did it anyways, the last thing they want to hear when they are hurt is you saying I TOLD YOU SO. 

  There will be times when you are proud of yourself for something you did but no one else even noticed what you did. Just because they didn't notice doesn't, or at least shouldn't, change how proud you are of yourself.

  Sometimes letting the other person think they were right is way more important than trying to prove to them that they were wrong and you were right.

  In life sometimes you PROVE how smart you are by making the right choice for the best outcome by not fighting to PROVE you were right.

  

  

  

Monday, June 7, 2021

We have had plenty of time to learn

   Being in quarantine for over a year gave us all plenty of time to get to know our friends, families, neighbors as well as ourselves better.

  The fast paced World we all lived in never gave us a chance to STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES. There wasn't time for SMALL TALK. No time to just relax and enjoy quiet moments.

  Then came the pandemic. Suddenly our busy life's came to a screeching halt. We suddenly were in quarantine and had plenty of time on our hands.

  When the quarantine ends our lives will gradually get busier. But would you want it to get back into your old fast paced lifestyle where you didn't have time to even STOP AND SMELL THE ROSES?

  What have you done or had to change during quarantine that you will continue even after the quarantine is over?

  

  

Friday, June 4, 2021

You can die from thirst surrounded by water

   You could die of thirst even though you are surrounded by water if you don't take a drink 

  Your glass may only be half full but it will quench your thirst if you take a drink.

  You may not have everything you ever wanted but as long as you have everything that you need you should be grateful.

  If you expect things to go perfectly as you had planned then you better plan on being dissappointed because nothing is perfect.

  You can't wait on the perfect opportunity because it doesn't exist and you will miss the opportunities that come your way.

  Your dreams can't come true if you don't have dreams. Keep your dreams realistic or you will set yourself up for failure.

 Remember you can't please everyone so don't try. But at the end of the day as long as you are proud of everything you have done that is all that matters.

   

Wednesday, June 2, 2021

Don't JUDGE too harshly it will stunt their growth

 I know you have heard the phrase.....

  You can't JUDGE a book by its cover. Things are not always what they appear to be. 

   You shouldn't JUDGE others because you have no idea why they are who they are to understand why they choose to do what they do.

  You may think that they are making a mistake and maybe they are. But give people the right to make mistakes.

  We need to accept that anyone including ourselves won't always make the right decisions. 

  Keep in mind that our failures are a necessary step to being successful. It's growing pains.

 And if you JUDGE too harshly you can stunt the growth.

  

Monday, May 31, 2021

Treasured memories

   Today is full of memories of those that are no longer living. They are treasured memories that allow us to relive special moments we had with them. 

  I went through some old photo albums today which triggered old memories that were buried deep in my mind. 

  I sure noticed that our clothing styles were quite different back then. As we age our looks change so much that I had to take a moment to recognize people in old photos. 

  Photo albums are not as important or common in the last decade. Although we have our memories in our mind, I can't imagine not having a picture to remind me of all the little details.

  And although millions of memories are somewhere buried deep in our mind you can't ENJOY it unless it is triggered and you unbury the treasured memories. 

  There are many days in our lives that we think of those that are no longer with us. But today is all about going treasure hunting in our mind to ENJOY treasured memories that are buried. 

  Spend as much time as you can every moment you can making treasured memories with those you love.

  

  

  

Friday, May 28, 2021

You can't be you if you don't remain true to yourself

   Every person is unique in many ways. You may have some things in common but no two are exactly the same, not even identical twins.

  We can experience some of the same things as each other but there are way many more things that we each experienced that the other person didn't.

  You can't be you if you don't do what you want to do JUST because someone tells you that if they were you, they wouldn't do it. 

  Someone may think they know someone based on what they know about them. But they only know a small percentage of their lifetime of experiences it took to make them who they are.

  You know you best. So it is best that you decide what you should do. It doesn't matter what anyone else would do if they were you. 

  Remember what works for someone else may not work for you. 

   If you keep changing yourself to please other people, before you know it you won't even know WHO YOU TRULY ARE.

  You can't be you if you don't stay true to yourself. 

  To be the best you that you can be takes being YOU. 

  



  

  


 

Wednesday, May 26, 2021

It may be a feeling not a fact

   Your emotions may keep you from seeing the real facts. You may be too emotional to see it. That doesn't mean it isn't obvious to see. It means you can't see it.

   Your emotions can make you blind.

  I know that you have heard that love can make you blind. But did you know that every emotion can make you blind?

  When you are experiencing life you don't see everything you just are consumed by thoughts that evoke emotions that can keep you from caring about looking for the facts. 

  You mistake your emotions for facts. Have you ever got angry about something only to find out the facts behind it and realize that there was nothing to be angry about?

  Have you ever just jumped into an idea without having all the facts? Only to realize that you should have waited until you had the facts because you sure would have done things differently.

  When something happens that instantly evokes an emotion in you, stop before you react. Once you get the facts you will know exactly how you should react to have the best outcome.

  The fact is that without all the facts you have no idea what you should do or how you truly should feel about it.

  If you believe it is true then that will be your reality whether it is really true or not.

Don't let your emotions guide you, get the facts that can lead you in the right direction.


  


Monday, May 24, 2021

Do you realize the energy you waste putting it off?

   Have you ever had a fifteen minute job you needed to do but you kept putting it off for days? 

  Every day you would see it on your to-do list then spend the entire day procrastinating doing it. And PROCRASTINATION sucks up a lot more energy than the energy it would have taken to just do it.

  Ask yourself, Do I really want this to haunt me for another day? The guilt about NOT DOING it causes a lot of stress. 

  Thoughts of NOT DOING it weighs you down taking up all your energy. 

  Do your hardest jobs first in the morning so you don't waste your energy procrastinating. Being able to cross it off your TO DO LIST will give you peace of mind now that it is done.

  Don't put it off, JUST DO IT.

  

  

Friday, May 21, 2021

If it won't work then it won't work

 If it won't work then stop wasting your time and energy trying to make it work. Sometimes you have to accept that no matter how much you wanted something to work out if it don't work it just won't work.

 Things don't always turn out like we had hoped for. It doesn't matter how much hope, time or effort you put into it you have to FORGET ABOUT IT and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. 

  Because it didn't work doesn't mean that you didn't put the hard work in it to try to make it work. It just IS WHAT IT IS, and no amount of work can make it work. 

  You will never regret trying to make it work but if you never tried you would have regrets forever that you didn't try. 

  Even though the outcome would be the same it isn't something that you will have to wander what if.... and carry that burden of regret.

  If your attempts fail, it isn't failure. It's lessons learned that were necessary for you to grow. You will have pride in yourself as a result no matter if it works or not. 

  At the end of the day as long as you are proud of everything you did that is ALL that really matters. 

Wednesday, May 19, 2021

If you lose FOCUS you can't see

   You have to stay FOCUSED on what you are doing in order to do it right. 

  You have to stay FOCUSED on where you are going if you want to get there.

  You have to stay FOCUSED on what is most important if you want to make sure that the important things get done.

  You have to stay FOCUSED when you are driving to safely drive.

  You have to stay FOCUSED on what you want the end results to be so you can do everything that you need to do to get those results. 

  If you lose FOCUS you won't be able to see your dreams become your reality.

  Don't let anyone or anything distract you and steer you AWAY from FOCUSING on what you need to FOCUS on.

   

  

   

  

  


Monday, May 17, 2021

Hanging on to things you don't need to carry with you

   Have you seen something in your home that you had not seen nor even thought about in nearly a decade? 

  Do you really need to hang on to it anymore? Unless it is personally important, which if you forgot about it for a decade then it obviously isn't, then the answer is probably no. 

  So don't hang on to it just get rid of it.

  If a memory from your past of a painful experience is holding you back JUST FLUSH IT, don't let it drag you down.

  You will accumulate many, way too many things, on your life's journey.

  You will experience many things on your life's journey.

  You will meet many people on your life's journey.

  You will go through many challenges on your life's journey.

  You will go through many changes on your life's journey.

  You will make many choices on your life's journey.

  Don't drag anything from your past that will make your life's journey hard in any way. 

  If anything or anyone is dragging you down look at each one as a SANDBAG. Then ask yourself why would you choose to carry a heavy SANDBAG?

   

Friday, May 14, 2021

When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

   It's easy to see it in others but unless you look in the mirror, you can't see it in yourself. 

  If you find yourself going through a tough situation you need to look in the mirror to see that you are tough enough to get through it. 

  If you find yourself angry just look in the mirror and you will see just what other people see when you are angry. 

  The look on your face that other people see, will be what they will base their opinion of you to be. 

  When you walk in a room make sure your face says you are happy to be there. Because the look on your face says a lot.

  If you are angry just remember exactly what your angry face looked like in the mirror.  

  If you want to make someone smile all you have to do is smile. And if you look in the mirror when you are smiling you will look ten years younger. Because a smile is a FACE LIFT.

  When you want to encourage yourself just look in the mirror and say some encouraging words to yourself.

  It may sound crazy to talk to yourself but you have to be able to figure things out for yourself in life. And you know you best so it would be crazy not to talk to yourself and figure things out.

  But you have to be honest with yourself about everything and everyone. But most importantly you have to be honest with yourself about yourself, both the good and the bad that no one else sees. 

  You may be able to hide your true self from others. But you can't deny the truth when you honestly look at yourself in the mirror. 

 The Truth can set you free but sometimes the Truth can hurt. 

  

  

Wednesday, May 12, 2021

You can see what is coming

   If you see trouble coming then get out of its way. Don't wait and let it hit you head on. 

  If you feel it in your gut that something about it just isn't right, listen to your gut. It is not always gas, it's your built-in warning system. 

  If you want to avoid trouble you have to avoid it. Which means you have to keep your eyes wide open on your life's journey so you see it and be able to avoid it.

  You may even realize that there are things you thought were good for you that you will just have to change. They may have been good for you before, but just not anymore.

  On your life's journey you will go through many seasons of change. Each stage of life brings different changes and adventures as well as challenges you must face. 

  LIFE is like a rollercoaster and there will be ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that is just LIFE. Just keep your eyes wide open so you can avoid any trouble that may come your way.

  Remember that if you see TROUBLE coming then GET OUT OF THE WAY. 


  

  

Monday, May 10, 2021

Don't let it fall on deaf ears

 If you want them to hear you then say it in a way they can hear it. 

  If you start off with an angry tone they will not hear you. Because they will choose to not hear you. 

  Your words of wisdom won't help anyone if you say them with an angry tone. The minute they feel your anger they will tune you out in DEFENSE MODE.

  If you want them to listen to what you have to say then make sure you say it in a way that they want to listen. 

  It's not that they don't need to hear it. It's just in DEFENSE MODE they can't hear it. Your words might be exactly what they need to hear so say it in a tone that doesn't sound like an attack which sends them into DEFENSE MODE.

  Remember it's not only what you say but it is also how you say it. 

  Imagine a dog running up to you and barking aggressively at you. Would you want to pet him? 

  If you want them to hear you then make sure your tone doesn't make your words fall on deaf ears. They can't hear you if they are in DEFENSE MODE.

  

  

 

  

Friday, May 7, 2021

What are you looking for?

   What you see will depend on what you are looking for. 

  What you seek is what you shall find.

  If you look for trouble you will find trouble. If you look for the negative things in everything you will find them.

  If you look for the positive in every situation you will find one. 

  What are you looking for?

  It's all in how you look at it that determines what you see. 

  Just keep in mind that your thoughts make up the reality that you will live in. Whether they are really the reality or not.

  You may have to face negative situations on your life's journey but how you look at it and how you react to it, will determine whether you have a positive outcome.

  If you look for a way to have a positive outcome you will find a way to have a positive outcome. That doesn't mean it will be easy. It means you have to do whatever you have to do to have a positive outcome.

  What you see will depend on what you are looking for. What are you looking for?

  

  

Wednesday, May 5, 2021

Don't waste it

   All we have is the TIME we have so don't waste it. 

  Don't spend the TIME you have RELIVING the past. Spend your TIME enjoying your TODAYS. 

  Don't spend the TIME you have worried about things that may or may not happen. Even if the thing you worried about doesn't happen the damage from worrying is already done.

  Don't spend the TIME you have getting stressed over things that you can not change. You have to accept that it is what it is and adjust.

  Don't spend the TIME you have trying to figure out how or why because some things there are just no answers for, not even on Google. 

  Spend the TIME you have enjoying every moment you can. Don't put everything you want to do on your bucket list. Because some things you have to do when you are young. 

  Spend the TIME you have wisely because you only have the TIME you have, so don't waste it. 

  Spend every moment as if it were your last because it could be. 

  Yesterday is already gone and tomorrow may never come, but TODAY is yours to ENJOY. 

  ENJOY LIFE WHILE YOU ARE LIVING IT.

Monday, May 3, 2021

Everything has gone haywire today

   I don't understand how so many things can break in one day. I started out the day with one problem that I had been working on for days. 

  I thought I had a solution for it, although costly and time consuming. But after days of trying to fix it I had to accept that it was just going to be expensive but it needed fixed. 

  By the time I got back from fixing the one problem I realized it caused a more serious problem that I thought would be fixed once I took care of the first problem. Unfortunately not.

  Computers are not necessarily expensive to replace but all the information on it was impossible to recover. Especially the information on my customers for billing purposes. Definitely should have had a backup plan before it crashed and the information was hidden from me.

  As I struggled to try and research if there was anything I could do to recover it, the electricity went out. For hours. When it finally came back on the fish tank pump wouldn't work.

  Now besides my computer crashing my fish would die if I don't get a new pump right away. That became the priority even though my computer problem was seriously a big problem. 

  After driving 30 minutes to the closest fish store they don't have any pumps the size I needed. So off 30 minutes in the opposite direction to another fish store I go.

  So now the fish are okay and my first problem was solved but there just isn't any way I can fix the computer problem. Sure I can buy a computer but getting all the customers addresses was going to be a big challenge. 

   There are many challenges in life and some are simple but expensive and some are harder than others. But when you are too stressed over them it is best to JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND and get some rest and deal with it another day. 

  Like they say sometimes in life when it rains it pours and today it has rained so hard that it has caused a flood. But I know that soon the sun will be shining.

  

  

Friday, April 30, 2021

Talk is cheap

   Talking about it doesn't matter if you don't put action behind it. Talking about it is just chatter unless you walk the talk.

  You may have a great plan but if you don't follow through with what you have planned you just waste your time. It is bad enough if you waste your time but if you don't follow through with your plan you have with others, you waste their time too. 

  When someone ask you for help don't tell them yes you will help if you have no intentions of helping them. An honest NO does far less damage. 

  If you tell them yes then they won't look for anyone else to help them. If the answer is NO then say NO. 

  If you want to achieve what you have planned it is only possible if you execute your plan by actions. If you don't get up and get going you won't get anywhere.

  To GET 'R DONE you got to get up and do whatever it takes to GET 'R DONE.

  

Wednesday, April 28, 2021

FLUSH away your doubts

   You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. You can do it if you stop telling yourself that you can't. You need to FLUSH away your doubts.

  If you keep telling yourself that you can't do it then without a doubt you will never do it because you will never try. 

  Now of course there will be some things that you try that you decide you don't like doing. It's a fifty-fifty chance. But you have zero percent chance if you don't try it.

  There will be times when you try something and it fails. That is part of the learning process that is necessary for you to figure out how you can do it.

  What works for someone else may not work for you. But that doesn't mean that you can't figure out how you are going to do it. That is as long as you don't keep telling yourself that you CAN'T and never try.

  The encouraging words that you say to yourself will give you the courage you need to try it. 

Monday, April 26, 2021

Letting go doesn't mean you will forget

   Letting go of it is necessary to move forward. It doesn't mean you will forget about it. You will remember it so you can protect yourself from it ever happening again.

  But at the same time you have to let it go to protect yourself from it. You can remember it without RELIVING it and letting it hurt you over and over again. 

  You may have had no choice when it happened to you but you do have a choice to not relive it so it can hurt you again. Once was enough.

  It is through your experiences, both the good ones and the bad ones that are both a part of what made you who you are today. Your past doesn't define you but it is what you learned from it that made you who you are.

  The wisdom that you learn on your life's journey will make you wise. Some life lessons are painful lessons and some of them are treasured memories.

 

  

Friday, April 23, 2021

Hard to imagine being thankful when you get knocked down

   When you are faced with negative circumstances that knock you down it is hard to be thankful. But as long as you can get back up on your feet, you have to be thankful.

  It may be a tough time for you but you have to be thankful that it wasn't worse. You have to be thankful that you can get back up.

  Just like it may be expensive if you have to replace your roof on your house, you still have to be thankful that you have a house to put a roof on. Because some people don't.

  Or like an expensive unexpected car repairs need done, you still have to be thankful that you have a car. 

  Sometimes in life one negative thing after another can happen all at the same time. I describe it "when it rains it pours" but you have to be thankful because it always could have been worse.

  I know everyone has experienced a time in life when we have complained to someone about all the "raining" we are dealing with. Only to then realize that the negative situations that they are facing make us feel embarrassed to even had complained about it at all. 

  We admire those individuals who triumph despite the many obstacles they face. You too can admire how you overcame all the obstacles that you face on your life's journey.

  Especially the obstacles that we are all facing while navigating our way during a pandemic. Times are tough but you have to be thankful because you can look around you and see that it could have been a whole lot worse. 

  Just waking up each day to face the obstacles is a reason to be thankful. 

  Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing.




 a whole lot worse. 

Wednesday, April 21, 2021

One thought can turn into an avalanche

   Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts trying to GRAB our attention. You have to learn to quickly recognize those that evokes negative thoughts and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind.

  If you let it GRAB your attention you will have an avalanche of negative thoughts that before you know it they are clogging up your mind. 

  It's like seeing a cockroach come out of your shopping bag. If you don't squish it immediately, before you know it your house will be infested with cockroaches. 

  So when a negative thought pops up front and center in your mind JUST FLUSH IT just like you should to prevent an avalanche.

  There is no way to prevent negative thoughts from popping up to GRAB your attention. You will have to just learn how to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind at a quick glance.

  Since your thoughts are the reality that you live make sure you GRAB on to the good thoughts and choose the reality you want to live. 

  And learn how to JUST SQUISH IT.

  

Monday, April 19, 2021

Being in the right place at the right time

   You can't get where you need to be if you don't get up and get going. You can't be right where you need to be at the right time if you don't get up and get there.

  You can't sit there and wait for something to fall into your lap. You have to be ready to catch it when it falls.

  You can't be there at the right time unless you make sure you are there on time. If the time is right then it doesn't matter what time it is as long as you are there in time.

  Whether you are one minute late or ten minutes late you will be too late, so don't wait until it is too late. Remember the early bird catches the worm.

  Don't waste your chance by not taking chances. Opportunities don't come often so don't miss your opportunity. Missed OPPORTUNITIES are never lost they are just taken by someone else who was waiting for the opportunity. 

  When opportunity comes knocking you have to be waiting to open the door to take advantage of the opportunity. 

  Timing is everything and everything takes time and effort. Be where you are supposed to be by being where you are supposed to be.

  

  

Friday, April 16, 2021

You won't know until you try

   Anything you do the first time you won't know if you can do it, but you decide to give it a try. You may not have an easy time the first time, you have to learn as you go.

  Now you may find that you don't like it at all and decide you don't want to do that again. But since you tried it you know for sure that it isn't something that you want to do.

  It may also be something that you like to do and realize you are good at it. You would have never known if you hadn't tried. 

  The only way to know is to try it so you will know. You may assume you know or guess but you won't truly know until you try it.

  It may be hard but you have to put the work into it if you want to truly give it a try. Just like you  knew when you were young that learning how to ride a bike wouldn't be easy but you knew that you wanted to learn so you kept trying. 

  Keep in mind that even some kids learn how to ride a bike but decide they didn't like it so they never ride a bike again. But then they can proudly say they know how to ride a bike but they just choose not to. 

  Many adults try out careers then decide that they just don't like it and go on to another career. That doesn't mean that they weren't good at it. It simply means that they tried it but they didn't like it. 

  They don't have regrets for learning it because they thought they would like it but they didn't. You only regret things that you never tried that you wish you would have.

  To live life with no regrets make sure you try it so you won't have regrets that you didn't try it. 



  

Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Did you read your fortune cookie?

  My favorite part of getting Chinese food for dinner is reading the fortune cookies. To me they are food for thought.

  In nearly fifteen years of collecting them I have only got the same one twice. They make you stop and ponder what the meaning is to you. 

  For fun occasionally I have shared a few of the fortune with others to see what the sentence says to them.

  It's amazing that their interpretation is so different than mine yet when they tell me what it says to them, I can see how they could think that.

  Just like art or anything else, it is all in how you look at it that determines what you see. Ten people could see the same thing or read the same fortune cookie, yet see totally different things.

  And every point of view that each person sees is there to see. Not every one sees the same thing because we each look at things differently. 

  Nobody is wrong and everyone is right. Just because you see things from a different point of view doesn't change what they see. 

  

Monday, April 12, 2021

Don't let something someone did destroy the friendship that you treasure

  No one is perfect so don't don't judge anyone so harshly that you forget how special they are to you. Don't let your anger destroy the friendship.

  If you do something wrong to anyone just let them know you are sorry for doing it. If someone apologies to you, accept their apology.

  A misunderstanding doesn't mean that they did it on purpose and they understood what they were doing. 

  Just because you burn your meatloaf once by accident doesn't mean you will never eat meatloaf again. You will just have to make sure you don't burn your meatloaf next time.

  Whoever said that being in love meant you never had to say you are sorry apparently has no idea what true love is. 


Friday, April 9, 2021

You may be wilted like a flower with no water but....

 You may be wilted like a flower without water but when something comes along that replenishes you with water, you will stand straight and tall again. 

  During your lifetime you will go through times of drought but eventually it will rain again. Don't give up when times are tough because just around the corner you will be able to quench your thirst.

   Life is like a rollercoaster and there will be ups and downs. Just don't do anything when you are down that will keep you down. Because it will go up again.

  There will also be twists and turns that you will have to navigate through. You may even have to bend like a pretzel but hang on and before you know it you will be smooth sailing.

Wednesday, April 7, 2021

Some of the changes we have had to make during a pandemic are changes we will be glad we made

 As I have had more time on my hands during quarantine, I find myself just glancing through cyberspace. I read things I never would have read about if I didn't have to be in quarantine.

  I must admit that it has been fun. I also have learned a lot of things that are inspiring. Some things I have learned will be life changing for me in a positive way that I am so grateful for.

  After a year of all the negative and heartbreaking events that the pandemic has brought, we can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.

  It's time to get out some pen and paper to write down the things that you couldn't do that you are looking forward to doing again. You also need to write a list of all the things you couldn't do that you have no interest in doing again.

  Write a list of all the new things that you have had to change to get by that you will be thankful to change. And a list of all the things that you had to change that you look forward to continuing doing.

  There are many more list you need to make as well as a list of people you can't wait to see again.

   What was a positive change you had to make that you are glad you made?

Monday, April 5, 2021

You never know what will come blowing in the wind

 Throughout your life you will have brief encounters with a lot of people and see many things. They just appear and dissapear as they are blowing in the wind.
  
You have to be careful that you don't throw away your stable life for someone or something that will eventually flow out of your life when the wind blows.

  It's okay to enjoy the brief times with someone or something when they show up, but don't let it mess up the important people and things that are forever staples of your life.

  Remember if it sounds to good to be true then it probably ISN'T true. It's okay to have fun every now and again but life is not only about all fun and games.

  You have to keep your feet planted firmly in the ground and grow wherever you are planted, while you enjoy the fresh breeze as it is blowing by you.

  


Friday, April 2, 2021

It's important to be proud of yourself

 What other people think about you doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that you are proud of yourself.

  At the end of the day as long as you are proud of everything you do then you should be proud of yourself. So before you react to anything and everything you should ask yourself will I be proud of myself?

  Peace of mind is only possible if you did what you thought was best. 

  

Wednesday, March 31, 2021

Surround yourself with people who will inspire you

 If you want inspiration you need to surround yourself with people who inspire you. If you surround yourself with people who pull you down you will stay down.

 Even if you have to go it alone it is better to swim alone then be swimming with sharks waiting to attack you. Of course that is UNLESS they are sharks from SHARK TANK who want to swim along side you to share in your success.

  WHO AND WHAT you surround yourself with in life plays a huge role in where you go in life. To be inspired to be the best that you can be you need to surround yourself with people who will inspire you to do your best.

  Don't let anyone steal your JOY nor hold you back from being the best that you can be.

  Remember anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if you keep adding dirt. No matter what difficult circumstances you find yourself in don't make it more difficult by letting anyone else convince you that there is no way to have a positive outcome.

  The outcome is not determined by the negative circumstances you may face but by how you REACT to the circumstances you may face. 

  

Monday, March 29, 2021

Stay true to yourself as you navigate through life

   When you face rough situations make sure that you stay true to yourself to get through them. You will pay the consequences both the good or the bad for every thing you do. 

  Don't do anything to simply get through it that at the end of the day you will regret. Sometimes it may seem like there is no positive outcome but as long as you did what you thought was the right thing to do, you will have a positive outcome. 

  Because having PEACE OF MIND about what you did is the only way to have true PEACE OF MIND. 

  It's not about whether you win or lose it is about how you handled it. The circumstances that you face doesn't determine the outcome, it is how you reacted to your circumstances that will determine the outcome. 

  At the end of the day will you be PROUD of what you did? That is the question you should always ask yourself before deciding how you are going to react. 

  There are many choices you will have to make on your life's journey. Remember that choosing to do NOTHING is still a choice you make. 

  

Friday, March 26, 2021

Nothing nor no one is perfect

   Nothing is perfect so don't wait until everything is perfect to take any action. You can't sit there and wait for the perfect opportunity and miss out on your opportunities. 

  No one is perfect either. If someone is TOXIC for you then without a doubt you definitely have to get away from them because they are toxic. 

  But don't throw away people in your life because they aren't perfect. In healthy relationships there will be quirks about each and every one of your relationships that they might do that annoys you.

  Accept that no one nor anything is perfect. 

  Accept that you are not perfect. You will make mistakes in life. But don't judge yourself so harshly because we all make mistakes. Our mistakes help us to grow.

  There will be tough times and tough decisions you will have to make during your lifetime. That's just LIFE. No matter if you are rich or poor or old or young or male or female or where you live, Life is tough at times.

  But regardless the only way to ENJOY life is to ENJOY it while you are living it. Pandemic or not. There will be good days and bad days. Every day you wake up is a good day even if you have to face tough circumstances. Being alive to face them is a reason to smile.

  The rollercoaster called LIFE is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that's just LIFE. And you have to accept that nothing is perfect so you can ENJOY life while you are living it.

Wednesday, March 24, 2021

If it doesn't matter then JUST FLUSH IT

   If it doesn't matter in the "BIG PICTURE" in your life then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Because at the end of the day it doesn't matter.

  Sometimes we worry ourselves sick over things that are out of our control. We stress over things that at the end of the day they don't even matter.

  Sometimes we keep negative things from our past FRESH on our minds and it has a negative affect on our today's. Take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind.

  If it doesn't matter in the "big picture" in your life then it doesn't matter, so JUST FLUSH IT so you can enjoy life while you are living it. 

  Yesterday is already gone, tomorrow may never come but TODAY is yours to enjoy so enjoy it. 

  

Monday, March 22, 2021

You don't have to be scared of the dark if you...

   You aren't scared of the dark as long as you know you can turn the lights on. If your electricity goes out during a storm you know you can grab your flashlight so you are able to see.

  When you are going through dark times in your personal life you can find comfort if you can see a light at the end of the tunnel. If you can't see a light then you will feel nothing but despair. 

  It may be hard to find a glimmer of hope during dark times. But if you look for it you will find it. Surround yourself with people who can shed a light of hope so that you will have hope.

  Avoid people who spew nothing but negativity because that will make it harder for you to see the light of hope. If you don't have anyone physically around you that can inspire you then you need to search your social media or Google for positive quotes. 

  If you see someone going through dark times be there for them to say something or do something to give them a glimmer of hope. Be the beacon of light that they need. Give them the strength they need to get through the dark times so they then can be the beacon of light for others. 

  PASS IT ON. Every random or planned ACT OF KINDNESS is a chance to make a positive difference in someone's life. Share a smile with them because the natural response is to smile back. Your smile AT A SOCIAL DISTANCE will HUG their face without fear of it spreading the coronavirus.

  DON'T FORGET IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING. Don't spew your hate onto others. 

  Unfortunately there are some people who don't care and they will suck the JOY out of you if you let them. Don't let anyone or anything suck the JOY out of you. 

  There is a light at the end of the tunnel it just may be hard to find at times. Let your light shine on to others and be their beacon of HOPE. PASS IT ON.

Friday, March 19, 2021

Your encouragement gives them the courage they need

 Encouraging words build the courage they need. Pointing out someone's weaknesses will only make them weaker. Pointing out someone's strengths will make them build on the strengths they have. 

  If you come at someone harshly they close their ears so they can't hear you. Even if later you try to give them encouraging words, it will fall on deaf ears because they already shut you out.

  Berating someone else does nothing but have a negative affect on them and you. But encouraging words will have a positive affect on you both. 

  If you want to comfort someone after a negative situation you definitely can't say I told you so or you should have known better. You won't comfort them if you point out the things they did wrong.

  If you want to encourage someone it is only possible if you give them words of encouragement. 




Wednesday, March 17, 2021

It's not ALWAYS ABOUT YOU

 Not every situation is ALL ABOUT YOU. 

  When other people are involved or are affected by your decisions, then you need to consider what is best for EVERYONE. Of course you have to make sure that you are in NO WAY affected NEGATIVELY in every and any situation. 

  But making sure that they, them, everyone else benefits, then you will benefit too. Making sure that they see you have their best interest at heart, will surround yourself with people who have your best interest at heart.

  KARMA IS REAL.

  The only way to have true happiness takes you having and showing kindness, fairness, respect and compassion for others in everything and anything you do. It's beneficial for your personal life as well as your professional life.

  Every seed of kindness you plant into your "COMMUNITIES" will grow and spread. Plant seeds of HUMANITY every chance you get to STOP the INSANITY we see in our SOCIETY.

  


Monday, March 15, 2021

Times are tough but..

 We all have good days and bad days. But no matter how tough a day may seem you have to be thankful that you are alive to deal with it. Just waking up each day makes it a good day even if it is a bad day. 

There are many people who we admire because despite the many things going against them they push through it.

  You may not have everything you could ever want but as long as you have everything you need, you have to be thankful. When times get tough for you, write a list of all the things that you are thankful for to get you through the tough times.

  The climb up the mountain of life is hard enough without carrying sand bags of all the negative things you can think of with you on your journey. Just accept it for what it is and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind to lighten your load.

  Don't focus on what you don't have or the negative situations that you have to face. Don't judge yourself too harshly for things that you have no control over just focus on what you can do and do it.

  You only have one LIFE to live so enjoy it while you are living it on the good days and the bad days. Like the plaque on my wall says, "I asked God for all things that I might ENJOY life. He gave me LIFE that I might ENJOY all things."

  

Friday, March 12, 2021

It doesn't mean you failed just because what you tried didn't work

 You didn't fail because what you tried didn't work. You learned that it just can't be done that way. A mistake is not a mistake it is part of the learning process that you must go through to be successful at doing it.

  When you were learning how to ride a bike there were many times when you fell. But you knew that if you kept trying you would eventually be able to ride a bike. So you kept trying and before you knew it you were an expert at riding a bike.

  We encourage children to not give up but we also need to encourage adults to not ever give up. Every failure is a growing spurt that was needed to succeed.

  You can never fail as long as you learn from it and keep trying. You only fail if you quit trying. Every failure teaches you what you need to know to be successful. 

Don't set yourself up for failure by making your expectations and dreams too high to achieve. Be realistic and keep focused no matter how many times your attempts may fail. As long as you never give up you eventually will accomplish whatever you set out to do. 

  Don't judge yourself so harshly. You can either be your biggest chearleader or your worst enemy. Keep reminding yourself that whatever you are doing it's just like riding a bike. Accept that you will fall but as long as you keep trying you will be riding a bike before you know it.

Wednesday, March 10, 2021

Kids aren't the only one that says the darndest things

 Kids definitely say the darndest things because they say what they feel. Sometimes it is funny. But there are times when you sure wish they didn't say it out loud because it's details you didn't want others to know. It's easy to forgive them because it was an honest mistake.

  The older you get the more you understand that not everything that pops in your mind should pop out of your mouth. At least it shouldn't. Unfortunately I have heard a lot of angy words flying out of a lot of adults mouth.

  I often wander do they not realize how hurtful their words are or do they just don't care? It has become so common anymore especially on the internet to see. Didn't their Mom teach them that if they didn't have anything nice to say then they shouldn't say anything at all?

  It's okay to disagree with someone. It's okay to just not like someone. But it is not okay to spew your hurtful words on others. I don't care what anyone says words do hurt. 

  What happened to common decency, common courtesy and common sense? Teach the Habit of Humanity by treating others the same way that you would want to be treated even in cyberspace. 

  

  

  

  

  

  

Monday, March 8, 2021

You should write many TO DO LISTS

 Sure we all know about the "TO DO LIST" but what about the other "TO DO LISTS?" There are "TO DO LISTS" of chores that you need to do. There are "TO DO LISTS" of things we put on our "BUCKET LIST" of things we plan to do one day.

  But there are many other "TO DO LISTS" that we need to make. Like the "TO DO LISTS" of things we need TO DO for ourselves because you have to enjoy life while you are living it. 

  There is always things you have TO DO or need TO DO but taking care of yourself should be at the top of your list. You can't do your best if you are too busy for yourself.

  You can't be there like you want for everyone and everything unless you take time out for yourself to maintain your overall well being. You won't be able to help anyone if you don't take care of yourself.

  If you need a break, take one before you breakdown. Make time TO DO things you need TO DO for yourself just like you make time TO DO everything else. 

  You can only do what you can do no matter how long your "TO DO LISTS" are. So if there are things that you just can't do then put it on a "NOT GOING TO DO LISTS" so your "TO DO LISTS" isn't more than you can handle. 

  But to maintain your overall well being taking care of yourself should always be at the TOP of your LIST. 

  

  

  

 

Friday, March 5, 2021

How do you know if you really know them?

    Social media is complex. You can easily socialize by the touch of a button without leaving home. But it is extremely hard to know just who you are really socializing with. 

  When someone builds a bio they can write down anything they want to. So keep that in mind as you bounce from one social media to another. They could be a seasoned chef named Joe as well as also they can be an investment advisor named Jane.

  I watched a documentary where I learned people could buy likes, followers and even comments so they can look reputable. I had no idea. Did you know that?

  It's okay to be entertained by these cyberspace friends but don't let them have any chance to negatively affect you in your real life. Just because they have a million followers doesn't mean you need to follow in their foot steps. 

  A real friendship is not necessarily real if they only exist in cyberspace. Perhaps they send you a POKE because you can't get a real hug from a fake bio in cyberspace.

  

Wednesday, March 3, 2021

First time I saw it from a doctors point of view

   After not going to the doctor for a long time due to covid-19, there was a lot to talk about. I had written down a list of things that I needed to discuss with her. 

  She patiently listened and responded to them one at a time as I went through my list. Suddenly when I had checked off every question I had, it was her turn to ask the questions.

  With the look of exhaustion on her face she said I did a lot of work to determine what you needed to do to stay healthy.  But you didn't do what I told you to do. 

  I felt terrible that I hadn't followed her instructions. I started to see things from a doctors point of view. If you have any chance of making a patient better they have to do what you tell them to do. 

  All their hard  work to study your chart and tests is wasted time and energy if you don't do what they tell you. We all have helped certain people over and over again yet they repeat what made them need help. After a while you quit helping them because it is a waste of time. 

  It doesn't only matter whether you got a good doctor or not. It won't make any difference unless you do what they say. We all judge our doctors but I learned they also judge their patients. And the look of exhaustion on her face told me I wasn't being a good patient.

  Like they say You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink it. I think my doctor today was saying I was a horse. At least I don't think she was calling me a donkey. 

  You are going to a doctor to get their advice so take it. 

Monday, March 1, 2021

When triggered it comes out from nowhere

 There are millions of memories buried deep in our minds. We can easily recall a few hundred memories but there are millions that we have no memory of at all.

  But with a song, or certain places or sounds it can trigger a memory that you had no memory of. When it pops up front and center in your mind you suddenly remember every little detail. If it hadn't been triggered by something it would have remained hidden from you. 

  It makes you wander just how many special memories are buried deep in your mind that you might never remember in order to enjoy. It takes something to trigger it. It's not something you can search your mind for and find. 

  When I hear a song I listened to as a teenager, I instantly get transported back in time. The memory is so vivid that I almost feel like a teenager. There are also songs that trigger painful memories so I don't listen to them because I don't want to be transported back in time to relive them again.

  The more "small talk" you have with others the more chances you have of triggering a memory to enjoy. I spoke to an aunt that I hadn't talked to in years. I got transported to so many places as we talked. 

  When a memory gets triggered make a quick decision on whether it is a memory that evokes happiness or pain. Then choose to relive the good ones and take the painful ones and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you don't have to relive them. 

  

  

  

Friday, February 26, 2021

What makes someone a hero?

 We know that rescuing someone from a burning car obviously makes them a hero. We know that anyone who has invented a cure for an illness is a hero. There is a whole list of obvious heros we could name.

  This pandemic has been adding to the list of heroes like grocery workers, delivery truck drivers, Mail workers, car repair shops the list could go on and on. Working in public places so that we all can keep moving, knowing you are possibly putting your health at risk from covid-19 makes so many people HEROES. 

  Although many people can work from home they are thankful that those who work in the public are there so they can get things they need. There are a lot of everyday HEROES out there that we all are thankful for, or at least we should be.

  I know throughout my life I have had obvious heroes like my family but there were many people who I considered to be important HEROES to me. It may have only been a brief encounter that a simple statement they made had a huge positive impact on who I am today. 

  Your simple kind words of encouragement can have a huge impact and make a positive difference in that person's life. They may not remember your name but they will never forget your kind words or actions. 

  Spreading kindness as you go is how you spread kindness that will grow in your community. Your words matter more than perhaps you know. 

  You reap what you sow and spreading kindness brings a harvest that we all can benefit from. The next time you go out to take care of your necessities, be sure and say thank you to those taking a chance during a pandemic to be there so you can.

   Like they say one thing leads to another so pass on a random act of kindness that will lead to another and another. Keep it going so it can keep going. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. 

  

Wednesday, February 24, 2021

Missed opportunities are....

 Missed opportunities are never lost they are taken by someone else. Opportunities don't come often which is why missing one brings such disappointment. It doesn't matter why you missed it, even if it was through no fault of your own. 

  Today I had plans at 1:00 pm that I had been looking forward to for days. I felt for sure it would be an opportunity to learn important stuff that would be very helpful to me. Unfortunately at 12:30 something came up that was a necessity that just couldn't wait. 

  Two hours later when I got back home I had to deal with the feelings of disappointment. Although it was disappointing, I was thankful for getting something important done. Which helped me take the nagging feeling of what I missed and JUST FLUSH IT out of my mind. 

  I believe everything happens for a reason and therefore I have to think that it wasn't the opportunity that was meant for me. Even our disappointments and our failures are also a part of what it takes to get the right opportunities. 

  Things don't always go according to what you have planned. But a change in your plans is sometimes necessary to achieve what you want. You have to be flexible to get what you want. 

  

Monday, February 22, 2021

You can't look forward to....

 You can't look forward to anything if you keep looking back in the past. You can't move past it until you leave it in the past. Learn what you need to from it then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can move forward. 

  To see clearly where you need to go, you have to clear your mind so you have ROOM to figure it out. Don't CLOG yourself up with thoughts of what has happened in the past.

  You already know what happened you don't have to keep RELIVING IT. JUST FLUSH IT so you can move on. You can't stop the thoughts from popping up trying to GRAB YOUR ATTENTION but you can JUST FLUSH IT at a quick glance so you don't have to relive it. 

  If you want to be able to look forward to what the future holds for you, don't let the past hold you back. JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can get moving. 

  

Friday, February 19, 2021

Understanding isn't the same as accepting

 Many things will happen on your life's journey that you can't UNDERSTAND why or even how they could have happened. You just have to ACCEPT that there are some things that there just is no answer for, not even on Google.

  This last year we all have struggled in some way as we try to navigate through the many obstacles the pandemic has created. Since there is no way to know let alone UNDERSTAND, all we can do is ACCEPT that we have to learn as we go. 

  Quarantine gives us a lot of time to think and we can't clog up our minds with a list of all the negative situations this pandemic has caused. It's not healthy physically or mentally. 

  You can't keep it fresh on your mind, you have to ACCEPT it then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. With a clear mind you can see clearly how to ADJUST to get through it.

  Just UNDERSTANDING that there will be things you experience on your life's journey that you won't UNDERSTAND, will help you ACCEPT them when they do.  

  Things just happen in LIFE, that's just LIFE. To ENJOY life you got to ENJOY it while you are LIVING it.


Wednesday, February 17, 2021

You can't have a FEELING without a THOUGHT

   Your thoughts make up the reality that you live. Whether what you believe is true or not, if you believe it is true then to you it is true. Every decision you make will be decided by the truth as you see it. 

  Have you ever had the facts completely wrong and then realized that you made a bad decision? We all know that there is consequences for every decision we make.  Unfortunately your actions can hurt others. 

  Before you react STOP and think about what your reaction would bring. Give each situation you face a chance to have a positive outcome for everyone involved. Once you react you can't take it back.

  How you look at things will determine what you see. You know like whether you see the glass half empty or half full. Ten people could see the exact same thing yet they all see something different. 

  Your point of view is based on what you see. If you look at it from different points of view then you may change your point of view. If you don't then your narrow view will keep you from seeing what is right in front of you. 

  Like Elvis Presley said in one of his songs: You got to STOP LOOK AND LISTEN that's my philosophy. 

  

  

Monday, February 15, 2021

Taking a sick day

 When you don't feel good get rested so you can get better. 

Friday, February 12, 2021

What is that nagging feeling that just won't go away?

 Have you ever had a nagging feeling that something just ain't right? You could have done all the research of what you needed to  do, yet still have a nagging feeling that something just wasn't right. 

  As you proceed to to do everything just like the plan was to get you where you want to be, the nagging feeling that something just ain't right continues. You go over your plans to make sure that the research you did was accurate and proceed.

  You keep ignoring the warning signal making you feel like something just ain't right. Then suddenly after all your hard work something happens that makes you clearly see that things weren't meant to turn out like you planned.

  You can't look at it as darn I just wasted a lot of time and energy for nothing. Hopefully it didn't cost you to much. What you learned on that journey was what it took to SEE where you needed to go. Otherwise you might have never seen it. 

  I believe that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the journey to get you where you need to be will take you first going on a scenic route to get there. 


Wednesday, February 10, 2021

Time is flying by even though you are stuck

It's hard to believe that we have been living in quarantine for nearly a year now. Even though we may have been stuck idly in our homes, time has been flying by.
  We have had to spend every holiday in 2020 in quarantine. Here we are at the start of 2021 still in quarantine. Although the 2021 start of the holidays is just around the corner, there is no certainty that we can safely gather to celebrate. 
  The experiences of 2020 will make us better prepared to get creative to enjoy the holidays. When we are finally able to gather we will appreciate it so much more. There are many things we took for granted that we could no longer do that we will appreciate now.
  I had always heard that you won't miss it until it is gone and boy is that true. Even things that annoyed you. Our experiences this last year have forever changed us all. It's been tough but we have learned a lot while we have had a year in quarantine giving us plenty of time to think about everything. 
  One thing is for sure this pandemic has made us all realize our own mortality. We have learned that you have to enjoy life while you are living it pandemic or not. 
  

Monday, February 8, 2021

If you can't be honest with yourself nothing will change

 You won't know what will work best for you if you aren't honest with yourself. Getting advice from others can be helpful to get you to look at things from different points of view. But you know you best so your decision should be made by you.

  You can't just do what other people think you should do. If you change to PLEASE others before long you won't know who you are. Other people may think that they know you but no one knows everything about you except you. 

  Talking to yourself may sound crazy but you are legally insane if you don't. To determine if someone is legally insane or not it is based on whether they can make sound decisions on their own not having to be told what to do. 

  You must be totally honest with yourself about everything and everyone in your life in order to know what you should do. You alone should decide because you alone will have to live with the consequences for everything you do. 

  Keep in mind that if you are honest with yourself there might be things that you will have to give up because it is what is best for you. There may even be people that you will have to walk away from no matter how painful it is. 

  Everyone struggles throughout their life so don't think you are any different than anyone else. But to be comfortable in your own skin you have to be comfortable with everything you do in the skin you are in. As long as you did the best that you could, it doesn't matter what any one else thinks.

  You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. If you did what you thought was the right thing to do then give yourself credit for what you did even if you fail. Learn from it and try again.

  Remember talking to yourself may sound crazy but you are legally crazy if you don't. Although you might want to keep the conversation with yourself silent in your head because if others hear you they may think you are crazy. 

  

  

Friday, February 5, 2021

You can't keep it from popping up but..

 Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts that pop up trying to grab our attention. There is no way to prevent a thought from popping up over and over again.  But you can JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind at a quick glance so it can't keep hurting you over and over again. 

  When a negative thought pops up you don't have to open yourself up to the avalanche of thoughts that would pour in if you JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND. It's like seeing a cockroach come out of your grocery bag. If you don't squish it immediately your house will be totally infested with roaches. 

  You may have had no choice to live through the negative situation the first time, but you can choose to not relive it over and over again in your mind. So at a quick glance JUST FLUSH IT OUT OF YOUR MIND So it can't hurt you over and over again.

  The rollercoaster of life is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns. You will have good days and bad days. If you want to enjoy life you have to enjoy it while you are living it. Which means to have a good day there are times when you have to FLUSH AWAY A BAD DAY so you can enjoy life while you are living it. 

  The past is already gone, tomorrow may never come but TODAY is yours to enjoy.

  

Wednesday, February 3, 2021

It's not what you start with .....

It isn't what you start with that determines the outcome. It is whether you get up and get started that will determine the outcome. Just like it isn't the circumstances that you must face but how you react to them that determines the outcome. 

  If you give up without ever trying you can't say you tried. If you want it you will have to do whatever it takes to get it. Keep in mind that to grow there are growing pains. 

 Sometimes it may take a tornado in your personal life to get you where you need to be. You have to grow wherever you are planted throughout your life. You just have to accept that there are many things that happen in life that there are just no answers for, not even on Google. 

  Every day you should make a list of the things that you are thankful for to make you realize just how lucky you are. You may not have everything that you want but as long as you have everything you need you should be thankful. 

  Your thoughts are the reality you live. So just like Peter Pan, you need to think of happy thoughts. What you look for is what you will find. If you look for trouble, you will find it. If you look for a way to have a positive outcome then the outcome will be positive. Seek and you will find. 


 

  

  

  

Monday, February 1, 2021

Looking forward to the future is not possible if you live in the past

 As we all are looking forward to the end of the pandemic, we know that things will never be the same. What worked in the past won't work quite the same because the pandemic has forever changed things. 

  We will have to adjust how we do things because things are forever changed. Like the plaque on my wall says, SO THIS ISN'T HOME SWEET HOME, ADJUST. 

  It's going to take a lot of patience, time and a whole lot of creativity to make the "new normal" feel normal. You can't look forward nor move towards the future if you keep waiting for things to go back to like they were in the past. 

  Since we are still living in a pandemic, we have to hang on while we bend like a pretzel to get through it. But we will get through it. Just make sure you don't do anything to get through it that you will regret. Because pandemic or not there are consequences for every thing you do. 

  Doing the right thing is not always easy but it's the only way that things for you will turn out alright at the end of the pandemic. Keep in mind that times are tough on everyone so be kind to everyone you meet. 

  I have had a lot of time during this pandemic to look at the plaques on my walls that have hung for decades. They have taken on a profound meaning during the pandemic. 

  Like one of them says, I ASKED GOD FOR ALL THINGS THAT I MIGHT ENJOY LIFE, HE GAVE ME LIFE THAT I MIGHT ENJOY ALL THINGS.

Friday, January 29, 2021

Sometimes the sun shines in the dead of winter

 In our personal life we go through seasons just like mother nature has her seasons. Even in the dead of winter there are sunny days. On a rainy day it is not all gloomy there are rainbows of color to enjoy.

  You know when it is cold outside you need to put on a jacket. When you go through a rough season in your personal life you must stay true to your core values to stay protected to weather the storm. 

  When there is a sunny day in the winter you get to go outside to get some much needed fresh air. When you have a season of harvest in your personal life you get to enjoy the rewards of your hard work. You really do reap what you sow.

  When it's thundering and lightning outside you know you have to stay indoors to be safe. When you are faced with a negative situation in your personal life, you know you need to STOP and think before you react if you want to have a positive outcome. 

   Life is just as unpredictable as the weather. But one thing is for sure, yesterday is already gone, tomorrow may never come but TODAY is ours to enjoy. We may not like getting wet in the rain but we know we need the rain. Just like in life we know a life worth living takes hard work. 

  


Wednesday, January 27, 2021

You don't have to change to be a better you

 There has been a lot of time during this year long quarantine to reflect on our personal  life. You may have discovered a few things about yourself both good and bad. Having to make the most out of what you got let you also discover many things that you are thankful for. 

  There may have been changes that you have had to make, as well as many hurdles you have had to climb. But make sure that whatever you do to get through it is something you can be proud of. 

  You may have discovered some things you need to change to be the best that you can be. But that doesn't mean you have to change who you are. 

  Being comfortable in the skin you are in takes being comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. Just do unto others what you would want them to do to you. 

  

Monday, January 25, 2021

Don't let your guard down but don't build a wall without a door

 To protect ourselves we have to put up walls and barriers. We have to even put on disguises at times so that we are less vulnerable. And during this pandemic we need to wear face masks and keep a social distance on top of that.

  Although you can't let your guard down, don't build Walls all around yourself without building a door. Isolation is not healthy physically or mentally for anyone. You can be safe without fear taking away the freedom to live. 

  Be aware of the dangers and do what you need to do to be safe. To enjoy life, pandemic or not, you have to enjoy life while you are living it. The things we learn from the tough times in life are the things that steers us in the right direction to be able to experience and enjoy the good times. 

  The ROLLER COASTER OF LIFE is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that is just LIFE. Just put on your seatbelt and enjoy the ride. To enjoy life you just got to enjoy it while you are living it.