Friday, May 31, 2019

How many sand bags do you plan on carrying as you climb the mountain?

The climb up the mountain called Life is going to be hard. But if you want to get to the top of the mountain you will have to do the hard work that it will take. Through your journey to get to the top you will face some unpleasant obstacles. Even though they may cause you pain or knock you down, you can only get to the top of the mountain if you get back up and get moving. You have to take the painful experience and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. If you don't flush it you will carry it with you like a sand bag, making your journey up the mountain harder. As you continue on your life's journey you will face many obstacles along the way. How many sand bags do you plan on carrying as you climb the mountain? At any time you want to ease your heavy load, remember you can get rid of a sand bag by taking the painful experience and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Once you feel the relief after letting go of a sand bag you will want to FLUSH IT in the future as it comes and not carry it on your journey. When something is weighing heavy on your mind remember it is a sand bag and all you got to do is JUST FLUSH IT to lighten your load. Peace of mind is just a flush away so JUST FLUSH IT!

Wednesday, May 29, 2019

I am too young to be so old

Growing up I thought you didn't feel old until you were almost seventy. But I realize now it happens when you turn fifty. My father in-law told me that one day when he was fifty he looked in the mirror and saw an old man looking back at him. I too looked in the mirror and said oh my you look like you are fifty years old. And I bust out laughing because I was fifty. He was also right about feeling in your mind that you were still a teenager. He told me this thirty years ago, when I was still in my twenties. He just didn't tell me that your body hurt like you were old. I am telling you this so if you are still young you know what to expect. So by the time you turn fifty make sure you do all the physically demanding things you want to do because when you are old you can't physically do them. When you buy your forever home make sure you don't have a bunch of stairs because you will have trouble climbing them. Build on a mother in-law suite so when you are old and you don't want to take care of a big house or need help you can live in it.  Don't collect a bunch of stuff either because then you are overwhelmed with junk you don't need or want to deal with. Your family doesn't want to have to do something with all the junk you have spent decades collecting either. I tried to get mine to take anything they wanted of my collections now so I could get rid of it, but they didn't want any of it. I have seen family members throw their parents belongings in the trash after they passed away. I couldn't believe they didn't at least take it to Goodwill so someone else could enjoy the junk. And I have to admit I myself am tired of all the junk I have. Unfortunately I can't bring myself to just drag it to the Goodwill. I don't know why because I don't want it. I wish I would have collected money or jewelry instead of Knick knacks. That for sure my family would want. Heck even I would want it. But all this pottery, glass, and trinkets are just junk that nobody wants, not even me. Because all your collections will be junk that collects dust that one day you will be to old to want to dust them.

Monday, May 27, 2019

A day to remember

Today we celebrate the life of those who have passed away. Your memories of them  come flooding into your mind. Every memory you relive is a chance to feel close to them. It also brings up the painful reality that they are no longer here with us. It is a day to reflect on how thankful and how lucky you are to be alive to celebrate Memorial Day. It reminds you how important it is to spend time with those around you all year long, creating happy memories. While you are gathered for your grill out today make plans to get together more often, not just on holidays. Happy Memorial Day.

Friday, May 24, 2019

Will you give a compliment just as fast?

You never know what will fly out of someone's mouth these days. I know I am surprised about the thoughts that quickly pop up in my mind that fly out of my mouth too quickly. The second I finish saying them I wander why on Earth I said it out loud. Your first thought about a negative situation is definitely too negative and you definitely shouldn't react until you think about the consequences your actions would bring. Without a doubt if someone does something negative everyone is quick to let them know. But rarely does anyone take the time to give someone a compliment when they deserve it. Do you take the time to compliment someone? I have been trying to make sure I do it whenever I can. Also I  was trying to not react when I encountered some pretty rude people.  On those days I had to bite my tongue. I had to remind myself of the old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all." Remember be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea the struggles they may be facing. Without saying a word you can bring a smile to someone's face, all you got to do is smile at them. It is a natural reaction they will smile back at you. A smile means peace in any language. 🌝

Wednesday, May 22, 2019

Meet in the middle

Every relationship takes give and take. It doesn't matter if it is a business relationship or a personal relationship. You need to meet in the middle if it is going to work out. Call it compromise, negotiation, fairness, meeting in the middle, or whatever you want to call it. It won't work out unless both sides are happy with the outcome. You will have to listen to what each of you need then you will know how you can meet in the middle. Also you listen so you know where exactly the middle is or if a middle could even be possibly reached. It's like each side building half of the bridge to meet in the middle without deciding together where to start so each side lines up together. Starting a mile away from each other will leave both of you with a bridge half built that leads both of you nowhere. To work it out you got to work out a compromise that works for everyone.

Monday, May 20, 2019

If you are going to get started you will have to get up and get moving

It takes work to get what you want done. So get up and get'r done. Things don't just happen, you have to do what it takes to make it happen. It may be harder than you thought but if you want it done you will have to do whatever it takes to get it done. You can't stop when things get tough. Because if you do it will never get done. Besides that if you don't finish then all you did was waste your time and energy. That's like building a bridge half way knowing it won't get you to the other side where you need to be. If it is something that you want then do whatever you have to in order to get it done. The sooner you get it done the sooner you can enjoy getting it done. So make a plan of what you need to do and get up and get'r done.

Friday, May 17, 2019

It is turning people away from human interactions

It is not good or healthy to not have human interaction. We live in a time when if you want to know anything then all you have to do  is look it up on the internet. If you get bored you can always play with your electronic devices. Instead of talking to someone you just send them a text or an email. People don't always answer when you call their phone but they will respond quickly to your text. Instead of going out to go shopping at the store all you have to do is order it online and have it shipped to your house. Heck if it is a gift to someone you don't even have to see them in person you can just have it mailed to their house. Instead of getting a hug from someone they "poke" you. Making time to have human interaction is necessary to keep you human. Otherwise you are like a ferral cat who doesn't know how to interact with anyone. If your only "friends" and "family" live in cyberspace, that's a problem. Since anyone in cyberspace can pretend to be who they want to be, do you really think you even know them at all? You are surrounded with many friends and family that you know are human that would love to spend time with you. So put down your devices and keep your feet planted firmly here on Earth and spend some time with them. Gathering together 'in person" to just have "small talk" is important to keep you connected to your "human side" that gets "lost in cyberspace."

Wednesday, May 15, 2019

Here we go again

Being old has it's advantages and it's disadvantages. Your body ages and your health and energy level makes it hard to keep up with the pace others are going. But your experience can help you. Like when you have a chance to change up the fun little things you used to do. You know now what worked good about them and add the things you realized afterwards that you could have done differently to make it even funner.  It's not what you have but what you do with what you have. Take what you got and enjoy it the best you can. It is up to you whether you enjoy what you have. You can see the glass half full and quench your thirst or die of thirst because you won't take a drink until it is full.

Monday, May 13, 2019

They may not know you but you help mold their life

Sometimes my grandchildren act just like their parents. Their way of looking at things and how they react to things. Then I started realizing that a lot of how their parents are is due to how they were taught by their parents. So I definitely had an influence indirectly. I then wandered how many generations had been passing it on. Although you may not have met your great grandparents or your great great grandparents, they planted the seeds decades before you were even born. If you want to make a positive difference in your grandchildren and your great grandchildrens lives make sure what you teach your children today,  is what you want to have passed down. The circle of life gets better with each generation adding something positive to pass on. What you do today affects what the future holds.

Friday, May 10, 2019

What can you count on?

They say don't count your chickens before they hatch. And as we all have learned you can't count on what use to be nor what should have been. Going with the flow is necessary these days. So don't let yourself get clogged up over things that have already happened. You can't change what happened, what is done is done.  Throughout life you will have to bend like a pretzel at times to keep flowing. You will have to learn how to JUST FLUSH IT as it comes to keep moving along. It is what it is and it ain't what it ain't. Accept it for what it is so you don't waste your time trying to figure out how it even happened. Yesterday is already gone and there is no guarantee that tomorrow will even come but today is yours to enjoy.

Wednesday, May 8, 2019

Will you remember?

It is impossible to remember everything. When an old memory pops up out of the blue, you suddenly remember so well that you get to relive it again. Now if it is a good memory then that is a good thing. But if it is a painful memory you have to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind before you have to relive it again. Sights, sounds, smells, people, places and conversations can trigger a memory. You can not prevent any memory from popping into your mind that gets triggered but you can prevent yourself from having to relive it again and again. When you know it would be painful to relive then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you don't have to relive it. Your thoughts are your reality so grab on to good thoughts and just FLUSH the bad ones.

Monday, May 6, 2019

You can if you think you can

You will not try if you don't think you can. Which means you won't because you will not try. That doesn't mean that you couldn't have done it. Because unless you try you will never know if you could have. You probably could have but you didn't bother to even try. You can be your own worst enemy. You should always be open to trying to do it so you have a chance to do it. After you try is the only way to honestly know if you can. You can only if you think you can. It may not be easy for you to do. You may have to work hard to achieve it. You may have to do it differently than others. But you will never do it if you never try. Give yourself a chance to do it before you sabotage any chance you have of doing it. Remember the "little engine" who reapeated to himself I think I can, I think I can, the whole time he was doing it.

Friday, May 3, 2019

You do what you think is best so you will not have any regrets

There are many ways to handle it. You may not be sure that you are doing it the right way but as long as you do what you think is best then it is the right thing for you to do. People may offer advice but that doesn't mean they know what you should do. They base their opinion on what to do on what they think they know about your situation. But they have no idea exactly everything about your situation. What works for someone else may not work for you. As long as you do what you think is best for you then you will have no regrets. But if you do what someone tells you to do then you may regret not doing what you thought was the right thing to do. As long as you can say you did what you thought was best then you know you did the best you could. You can't regret it if you did what you thought was best. You may not always know what to do but you should always do what you know is the best decision for you. You will have to live with the choices you make so make sure you can live without regret by knowing you did what you thought was best for you.

Wednesday, May 1, 2019

Are there things you just wish you would never have to say to someone you love?

You always try to make sure you give a positive response to those around you, especially children. You try to ease the tension someone you love has when they are facing uncomfortable circumstances. You make sure to find some positive way for them to look at their situation. Although the negatives may far outweigh the sliver of a positive outcome, it still helps them a sliver. They need to have that sliver of positivity to stop the endless negative thoughts that is spiraling in their minds. Just a second to breath and clear up some space to think clearly about how they are going to make a positive outcome possible. Give them the gift of oxygen.