Monday, December 30, 2019

It could change in an instant

You can't get too comfortable in Life because Life is always changing. As you have probably already experienced many changes, so you know that in an instant everything could change. Not all the changes you will have to make will be easy. But you know that you have to make the necessary changes no matter how difficult they may be. Although not all the changes come from out of the blue. Like New Year's resolutions, those you make on the last few days of the year. As you sit quietly reflecting on what happened throughout the last year. First count your blessings. Then decide what you want to do differently to make the New Year the best it can be. Keeping in mind that if something or someone held you back the last year, don't let it hold you back this year. You won't know exactly what the New Year will bring but you do know what not to bring. If we all make a New Year's resolution to do one act of kindness a week, the New Year would be better for everyone. Stay safe as you ring in the New Year.

Friday, December 27, 2019

Another year has flown by

Doesn't seem like it has already been a year since we celebrated the New Year. But regardless it is time to ring in the New year. Time sure does fly by. In the blink of an eye, weeks fly by. Before you know it fifty two weeks have flown by. That might be nice for a child but the older you get the more you realize that you wish you could slow down time. Young children don't stay young for long. Before you know it they are adults. And old adults certainly wish they could slow down time because they know they only have so much time to enjoy. Enjoying every moment you can throughout your life means you have to slow down whenever you can so you can enjoy it. Time won't wait. As we wind down 2019 let's take the time to count your blessings. And I would like to wish good health and happiness to you all in 2020. Be safe as you celebrate the New Year.

Wednesday, December 25, 2019

Memories of Christmas

Merry Christmas everyone. The presents have all been opened and enjoyed. Now the room looks bare. Short of a few scraps of paper that flew around as they ripped open the packages to see what was inside. The garbage man will have lots of trash to pick up this week. Now that Christmas has come, New Year's is just days away. Time to make plans about what the New Year will hold for you. Keep your resolutions realistic. Making unrealistic expectations and goals will only set yourself up for failure. As you reflect on the year gone by, take the time to count your blessings. If you want to start the New Year out with a fresh start then don't bring what didn't work last year with you. JUST FLUSH IT so that 2020 can be the best it can be.

Monday, December 23, 2019

Sometimes it's hard to choose

As I sat down to write a blog today, my mind was full of thoughts. They were all good thoughts about so many things. Memories from the last few days and excitement about the joy the next few days would bring. I was trying to quiet my mind so I could write a blog but I was enjoying all the happy thoughts. Out of the corner of my eye I saw the four fortune cookie papers from the other day. I read each one as I looked for inspiration for my blog. I couldn't choose just one because two of them were fighting to grab my attention. The first one said: Courtesy begins at home. And without a doubt this message needs to be spread. Teaching your child from a very young age to always say thank you and please will teach them to be thankful and appreciative later in life. Every parent is a teacher and their home is their classroom. Even if you don't have children remember it takes a village to raise a child. If we all teach the habit of Humanity it will replace the insanity we see in society. The second fortune cookie that grabbed my attention said: If you want people to like you, like yourself first. Immediately two things came to my mind. You can't be comfortable in the skin your in unless you are comfortable with what you are doing in the skin your in. And two, Let your conscience be your guide.


Friday, December 20, 2019

It's time to cheer, Christmas is almost here

I don't know about you but I have several mini Christmas parties with friends and loved ones that are not able to get together on the actual day of Christmas. My first one was yesterday. I have another one tomorrow. No matter if it's on Christmas Day or not, the love, peace, and joy is in the air. It truly is an amazing time of year. And unlike other Holidays that are only celebrated for twenty four hours, the love, peace and joy of Christmas last for thirty days or more. I can't wait to see the happiness on the faces of my grandchildren as they open the gifts I got them. They all gave me suggestions of things they would like to get for Christmas. They keep asking me, did you get this or that for me, with excitement and a big smile. I just keep saying I don't know you will just have to wait and see. Now after weeks of asking, they are just days away from finding out. They wake up at the crack of dawn at their house to see what Santa brought them.  Then they come over to our house to eat breakfast. And by then they are hungry and ready to eat. But they eat mighty fast so they can finally see what I got for them under my tree. For adults we surprise them before Christmas with their gifts to catch them off guard and bring a big smile on their face. Christmas day is all about the kids and enjoying the happiness that just glows on their faces. The smell of syrup as they run with excitement to give us a big loving hug, thanking us for the gifts. After they leave you can still smell the bacon in the air and enjoy the memories of the Joy on their faces. Enjoy every moment you can of the Christmas season before the season changes. And get ready to enjoy the changes that the New Year will bring. Happy Holidays to everyone.

Wednesday, December 18, 2019

In the beginning...

When you are very young, you see the World as a magical place where all of your dreams can come true. During your teenage years, you think you are invincible, so you have no fears. As you reach adulthood, you believe that everything you always wanted  is yours for the taking. Then you reach middle-aged and by then you know that you have to be realistic about what is possible for you. Then you get old. That's when you know that there are limits to what you can do. Every season in your life is different. Just like winter, spring, summer and fall are different. There is plenty to enjoy no matter what season it is.

Monday, December 16, 2019

You can't feel it unless you first have a thought about it

Obviously the moment it first happens you live it and feel it. Also Everytime you think about it, you relive it and feel it. After it happens you have to think about it to be honest whether it was positive or negative experience. If it was a positive experience, then you can plan on doing it again. But if it was a negative experience then learn what you need to do to make sure that it doesn't happen to you again. Then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind before it can hurt you again. There will be times when something triggers the thought making it pop up front and center trying to grab your attention. So you will have to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind at a quick glance, before you have to relive it and feel it again. It would be nice if as soon as you flushed it you would never think about it again. But realistically that is not possible. You will never forget what happened, but it can't hurt you again unless you choose to relive it over and over again. You can't have a feeling without first having a thought. That's why people say what you don't know won't hurt you. That is also why if it hurt you don't keep it fresh on your mind or it will hurt you again. Take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT so it doesn't stink up your future too.

Friday, December 13, 2019

A little bit of kindness goes a long way

I am so happy to see so many smiling faces everywhere I go. The holiday spirit is in the air. It's a shame that it doesn't stay with us all throughout the year. Could you imagine what a difference that would make? We have to enjoy it while we can. An act of kindness, no matter how small, makes a big difference to everyone you are kind to. Usually as we each go throughout our day,  we tend to whisk by each other so fast that there isn't a chance to connect with others. But during the whole month of December, we all slow down our pace just enough to at least make eye contact and share a smile. If you want to make a positive difference you have to do something positive.

Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Time to wrap things up

Just two weeks left to go until Christmas. Hopefully you have finished all your shopping. It's time to get everything wrapped up and put under the tree. You will be tempted to buy something for someone while you are out and about. But if you want to be done you have to resist the urge to buy anything else. If you get one person another gift it will only make you feel like you have to buy others another gift too, to stay even. I know because yesterday my granddaughter told me something she really wanted for Christmas. Problem is when I got it for her it made her have one more gift for than my other grandchildren. So there I was wondering around the store looking for something for my other grandchildren so they were even, again. Luckily I was able to find bargains and once again I was finished with shopping, again. The lines at the post office are getting longer and longer. You can't even find a parking spot so you can get in the long line. Luckily I am merely going there to check my P. O. Box but unfortunately I need a place to park to go in and check it. So I have decided from now until Christmas I will only go check it after the post office is closed so I can park right up front. To not get frustrated over the crowds that the holiday brings you have to think about how to avoid the busy times whenever you can. I have found that if I go early when the stores first open, I can avoid the crowds. When I need to go to post office, I go after they close to avoid the crowds. To stay Holly and Jolly you got to figure out how to avoid the crowds. Please remember that if you can't afford to buy it then don't buy it. The reason for the season is to have peace and joy, and there is no joy in going into debt for anything. Happy Holidays everyone.

Monday, December 9, 2019

You can't make a mistake more than once because....

We all make mistakes. Learning from our mistakes is a healthy part of our journey. Remember before you can learn anything from them, you have to first admit that you made a mistake. An honest mistake only happens once. Because if you repeat it again then it is a habit not an honest mistake. Your life's journey will be full of Life Lessons. You will have to make many choices and changes on your journey. And to know what choice is best for you, requires you to be honest with yourself. You can't make the necessary changes if you don't admit that anything needs to change. The New Year is starting soon. It's a perfect time to find some free time and find a quiet place to evaluate where you are and decide where you want to be, so you can make any changes that are necessary. The New Year is a chance for a fresh beginning. That is....If you don't bring what didn't work in the past with you. Take all the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Then you will have room for the positive thoughts of what 2020 will be like for you. Your thoughts will determine the reality you live in. Make 2020 the best it can be, by being the best you that you can be.

Friday, December 6, 2019

You shouldn't have to accept something that is unacceptable

If you ignore it then you are saying that it is ok with you. But if you ignore it then it will become a common occurrence. No one should have to accept something that is unacceptable. If you do nothing when it is happening to someone else then it won't be long before it happens to you or someone you love.  We have ignored things for so long that it has created the insanity we see in society today. Don't ignore it, don't let it become common. What happened to common courtesy, common decency, and common sense, being common? If you wouldn't want it to happen to you or someone you love, then don't let it happen to someone else.

Wednesday, December 4, 2019

If only you knew you would understand

You can think you know someone, yet have no idea what they are going through. Some things they choose not to discuss with anyone. You obviously can only base your opinions on what you see and hear. That is why you should be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. As the Christmas Season approaches it brings joy. But there are some people who are alone for the holiday, which brings them sadness. If you know someone who doesn't have plans for Christmas, invite them over during the season to share some Christmas Joy with them. You could bake some Christmas cookies and share some with them. I like to pay for the food for the car behind me in a drive thru a couple of times in the days leading up to Christmas. A random act of kindness can help spread the Christmas Joy. Remember the reason for the season is to to spread comfort and joy not go into debt buying gifts you can't afford. Sharing a smile won't cost you a penny. And being patient as you are out in the holiday crowds is the only way to stay Holly and Jolly.

Monday, December 2, 2019

The calendar says fall but that didn't stop the freeze from coming

Just because it is supposed to happen doesn't mean it will happen. Just because it used to work that way doesn't mean it will work that way. In life you just can't get too comfortable with how things are. Because things are constantly changing. You can make plans, but your plans may need to change. You may not like the change but you have to make the necessary changes to keep up with whatever changes. Even though the calendar says it is Fall, it didn't stop the winter temperatures from coming. And you will have to change the clothes you had planned on wearing, to your winter clothes to stay warm outside. You can't predict what the future holds no more than you can predict the weather. Just don't get too comfortable in life because life is unpredictable.

Friday, November 29, 2019

A phone call away

A memory can keep them closer to you. As your children grow up, they may move to another state. Your friends may have to relocate to get a job. The distance between you may make it difficult to get together. Luckily your memories can warm your heart and allow you to feel closer to them. You can pick up the phone and feel as though they are sitting right beside you. Hearing their voice is the key to feeling them. Sending a text can keep you updated on things, but you can't feel a connection. But hearing their voice makes a human connection that you can feel. With all the new technology and gadgets, even being in the same room with them, it can prevent the chances of having any human connection with anyone. Without staying connected to your human side you can become desensitized to the point where you lose compassion for others. I was thankful that on Thanksgiving everyone stayed off their electronic gadgets and enjoyed each other's company. It felt like the good old days before cell phones. Do you remember when you had a two foot cord on your phone? Could you imagine if cell phones didn't exist? I was reluctant to get one but now I couldn't imagine not having one with me at all times. Technology is necessary nowadays but so is human contact. Spread some Humanity to replace the insanity we see in our society.

Wednesday, November 27, 2019

So much to do to be ready for our Thanksgiving feast

I didn't forget anything at the store this year, that I am thankful for. Even though I have been cooking for the last few hours, there will be a lot to do tomorrow. As I look at the mess in the kitchen from tonight's food I prepared, I know tomorrow there will be twice as many dishes to clean. Our China only comes out of the cupboard a couple of times a year. We have Currier and Ives from the fifties. I look forward to seeing it decorating the family holiday tables. I don't mind  washing them at all. As we each talk about what we are thankful for time slows down. I am so thankful for my family and friends. We can all be thankful that calories don't count tomorrow. Happy Thanksgiving everyone.

Monday, November 25, 2019

To change it you have to change

If you don't do things differently, nothing will be different then it is now. If you know that change will do you good, then you know you have to make the necessary changes. Habits are hard to break. But if it's a bad habit that you know is bad for you then you will be motivated to focus on changing your habit. As long as you stay focused on what you need to do and, or, what not to do, you will break the habit. Even things that used to work don't work anymore, things change. You have to change so you can go with the flow and that means you will have to learn what needs to change as you go. The older you get the more stories you have to tell about how things used to be. The first step to changing is to realize that it is something that needs to be changed. If you are not honest with yourself, then nothing will change. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make.

Friday, November 22, 2019

When it gets cold, you wear warm clothes

When it's cold weather outside, you find a way to stay warm. My fortune cookie today said, If the World seems cold, Kindle a fire to warm it up. You bundle up to stay warm before going outside on a wintery cold day. And unfortunately the World can be cold hearted. So a random act of kindness can warm your heart as well as the heart of the person you are kind to. If you spew your anger onto others, that is what you pass on. If you spew kindness onto others, that is what you pass on. And we all reap what we sow. What seeds are you planting in this World? To make a positive difference you have to do something positive to make a difference. The World won't get better on it's OWN, we all must do our part.

Wednesday, November 20, 2019

A Christmas present should not....

It's already Christmas Season again. This year flew by. Don't forget that giving Christmas presents shouldn't cost you for the next six months. If you can't afford it then don't finance it to buy it. Choosing what to buy someone shouldn't include choosing which credit card to charge it on. The reason for the season is the Joy it brings. And there is no joy in going into debt, nor is it necessary. The most important thing is that you relax and enjoy spending the day together. And of course making everyone's favorite foods that they only get on Christmas. I am not sure why I don't make certain foods but only one day a year. But it has become a tradition to only have them on Christmas. I guess because if I made them all throughout the year, they wouldn't be as special on Christmas. What you cook for Christmas, is the best present you could give to your family. So instead of spending a fortune buying presents they don't need, make an extra one of their favorite Christmas food that they can take home. They sure won't shove that in their closet with all the other gifts from past Christmases that they didn't need.

Monday, November 18, 2019

Patience is necessary

It is hard to wait but patience are necessary. Being impatient will raise your blood pressure which is not healthy. Getting frustrated because you have to wait is natural. But getting impatient will make waiting harder. Not to mention if you lose your patience, you will lose the chance for the positive outcome that you have been waiting for. Find ways to distract yourself while you are waiting to keep yourself from watching the clock and getting frustrated about how long you are waiting. My doctor's office is always a long wait, but since I love my doctor, she is worth waiting to see. They have a TV on and plenty of magazines to read. I try to face the window to watch the traffic go by to distract me. It isn't exactly what I want to be doing but counting a certain color of cars that passes is enough to help pass the time away. During the Holidays I know that there is going to be many traffic jams and long lines. I make sure I leave early so I don't get frustrated about the traffic making me late. If you know you have to wait then no matter how frustrating it is to wait, you know you have to wait. Make it easier on yourself and those around you by waiting patiently. In the old days they had fish aquariums in the waiting rooms to distract you from noticing how long you were waiting. Maybe there should be aquariums like back in the good old days.

Friday, November 15, 2019

If you don't know, do you really think they know?

No one knows you better than you do. It's okay to listen to the advice of others, it gives you a different point of view. Obviously though your point of view is the only one that really matters. You can't make your decision based on what someone else tells you is best for you because they have no idea what is best for you. That would be insane. To determine whether someone is legally insane or not is determined by if they can make sound decisions on their own. So you can see it may sound crazy to talk to yourself to figure out what is best for you, but the truth is, if you can't then you are legally insane. What works for someone else may not work for you. Because of our previous experiences, upbringing, culture, religious beliefs, and family values, we all make different interpretations of life circumstances we must face. You are the only one who has to live with the decisions you make which is why you should be the only one making decisions for yourself. That would be like being allergic to peanuts but because they are eating them, you do too. Every decision you make matters. Whether anyone else agrees with your decision, doesn't matter. You do what is best for you.

Wednesday, November 13, 2019

The reality is what you think it is, even when it isn't what you think it is at all

Your thoughts are not necessarily accurate but but your thoughts make up the reality you live in. Depending on your thoughts about anything, will determine how you feel about it. Your emotions that you feel will determine your behavior about it. Which will influence how you react to it. How you look at it determines how you feel about it. Being aware of the connection between your thoughts and your feelings is necessary to change a negative situation into a positive situation. Since thinking influences your feelings then it makes sense that if you want to change the way you feel, you need to change the way you think. The way you see it and the way you interpret it determines how you respond to it. You can't change the negative situation you had to face but you can change your negative thoughts and still have a positive outcome. You may have to look very hard to see anything positive but I am positive if you keep looking for it, you will find it. Like they say, when life gives you lemons you got to make lemonade.

Monday, November 11, 2019

Where did it all come from

As Thanksgiving approaches, it's time to dust from top to bottom. I started with the ceiling fans. I know those get done every couple of months and some how they always get pretty furry with dust. As I started on the top of the shelves, I began wandering where it all came from. How did I not see it flying through the air to get up here? Then as I took a break there was a bright ray of sunlight shining through my living room. And I could see millions of particles flying in the beam of light. So many tiny specks filling every inch of space. OMG I couldn't believe what was in the air I lived in, the air we breathe in our lungs.  When I looked elsewhere in the room where the beam from the sun wasn't shining, I couldn't see anything. I couldn't pretend like it wasn't there because every time I looked back into the bright ray of sunshine, it was clearly everywhere. I was sure all the dusting I was doing was sending dust particles back into the air. But I am still unsure where it all came from to begin with. With the dusting done I can start planning the feast. Before you know it Thanksgiving will be here. Time to make your grocery list. Make sure you go to the store soon so if you forget something, like usually everyone does, you will have time to go back and get it. Remember no diets allowed on Thanksgiving.

Friday, November 8, 2019

Round and round it goes

The circle of life goes on and on. Sometimes faster than we would like it to. When you are young it seems like it takes forever for Christmas to get here. But when you get old it seems like time is flying by, way too fast. One minute you got your whole future ahead of you, then all of a sudden you get old. You grew up hearing that when you are old they are your golden years. But when you get old you realize that it is merely fools gold. You realize what the phrase "Don't put off tomorrow what you can do today", really means. It means tomorrow you might be too old to do it so you better do it today. People make a Bucket List of things they want to do one day. But they actually should be doing all they can along the way so they can have a list of things they can reminisc about when they are old. You are only young once. No matter how young you feel when you get old your body will be too wore out for you to forget you are not as young as you used to be. Timing is everything.

Wednesday, November 6, 2019

When the Halloween stuff goes on the shelf in stores, so too the Christmas stuff gets put on a shelf near by

Along with all the spooky Halloween decor you can't help but notice the Holly Jolly Christmas cheer right by it. Thanksgiving doesn't have a chance of jumping in there to be seen. I have always noticed that but this year my teenage son noticed. He doesn't trick or treat anymore so the Halloween stuff doesn't catch his attention anymore. So as we walked past it the bright colored Christmas stuff did. He looked at me and said looks like they are jumping right over Thanksgiving as if it wasn't anything. Without Halloween to look forward to at his age, he had been looking forward to the Thanksgiving holiday with the family. It was nice that he noticed but also sad to admit the stores forgot a very important family holiday where you simply enjoy each other's company and talk about what each other is thankful for. We all need to think about what we are thankful for to be able to be grateful for what we have.

Monday, November 4, 2019

Trapped in your web of thoughts

Being trapped in your own web of thoughts can keep you from recovering from what happened. Relieving it over and over again in your mind, means you are getting damaged by it over and over again. Before you can begin the process of recovering from a negative situation, you have to accept it. Then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so it can't cause anymore damage to you. You can't move past what happened in your past if you don't let go and leave it in the past. If you want to enjoy today stop reliving yesterday so you can. It was bad enough that you had to endure the painful experience once through no fault of your own. Why would you choose to make a choice to relive it over and over again? Why would you choose to put yourself through it again and again? You can be your own worst enemy. Once was enough. Yesterday is already gone, tomorrow may never come, but TODAY is yours to enjoy. It is your choice whether you will enjoy it or not.

Friday, November 1, 2019

Seeing is believing

You may not believe it until you can actually see it. And once you see it you can't believe that you never saw it before. It was there all along hidden in plain sight. Have you ever lost something even though you know right where you left it? Like yesterday I lost my car keys. I looked where they always were, but couldn't find them. I started running all around the house looking for them. Even in places I knew I would never put them. Panic sets in knowing I won't make it to my appointment on time if I don't leave. As I frantically look everywhere, I ask my son to please come help me find them. He walks straight over to where I always keep them and says here they are. As he is holding up the keys I am happy yet confused. I had looked there at least 3 times in my fifteen minutes search. How on Earth could that even be possible that they were right there all along? How could I have not seen them? I will never know how I couldn't see them but luckily my son could. It can be right in front of your face but you can't see it. Which reminds me of a couple of friends of mine. We all had been friends and hung out for years together. We had been there to support each other through the ups and downs we each faced. Then out of no where the Sparks flew between two friends and they were soon married within a month. They had never looked at each other in that way before, then Bam. My own daughter just married her best friends brother whom she had known for over a decade. She only saw him as her friends brother. Then bam. You never know until you see it from a different view. It can be right in front of you yet you can't see it. How you look at it determines what you see. Not sure how I couldn't see my keys but my son could. But luckily they were found so I was thankfully able to get to my appointment on time. What you need may be right in front of your face and I hope you find it.

Wednesday, October 30, 2019

You are worth it

It may not be necessary but if it makes you happy then do it. You do what makes everyone around you happy all the time. You deserve to be happy too. I have to remind myself that I am worth it. Those around you are worth everything you do for them, and you are worth pampering yourself every now and then too. You have to put yourself first from time to time. You can't be there for those around you if you don't take care of yourself. It doesn't mean you do anything or everything, it means there are times when you do something for yourself. Like when you have dental work done, even though the laughing gas is extra money, your worth it. It is okay to say no I can't, when you can't. And if you're exhausted it is okay to take a quick nap before you take care of everything everyone needs you to do. It is okay to share but don't leave yourself with nothing to do it.

Monday, October 28, 2019

Take notes then decide

Keeping track of how you are affected by someone or something, will help you decide if you are going to let it affect you. Many things have to be considered, but first be honest whether it had a negative or a positive affect on you. Keep in mind that a negative affect can only bring a negative outcome. A positive affect can only bring a positive outcome. So being honest from the start is the most important decision you have in making sure you have any chance of a positive outcome. If you know a certain place brings up negative thoughts, then don't go there. If a person brings negativity in your life, then stay away from them. If you know you are always running late, then for now on leave earlier. If you don't want to regret something, then don't do anything that you might regret. We all make mistakes but you can only learn from your mistakes, if you are honest with yourself when you make one. Whether it is a person, place or thing that affects you negatively, you have to avoid it so it can't affect you. There are songs that I absolutely love but the negative thoughts that they bring up means I can't listen to them. There are many foods that taste delicious but the heartburn it causes makes me choose not to eat them.

Friday, October 25, 2019

You will waste your leftovers if you don't eat them

After a good meal, you put the leftovers in the fridge so you can enjoy it again. Having a meal that only needs heated up, means no shopping, cooking, or cleaning up any day you choose. That is going to save you time and money. I watched a show of Oprah's two decades ago that showed you had to eat leftovers within a few days. I have never forgotten the test she did on bacteria in leftovers in the fridge. Chinese food had less than twenty four hours. Everything else was mostly still edible up to five days. When you put away your leftovers you have every intention to eat it. But sometimes you put it off so long that it gets buried deep in the fridge. I got so tired of wasting food so we have a scheduled left over day at least once a week. If there is something in there that we just aren't going to eat our dogs get an unexpected leftovers day too. Saving time and money as you clean out your fridge. If it's important to do, you got to make it important to make a plan and just do it.

Wednesday, October 23, 2019

You can become immobilized by it

When negative thoughts are weighing heavy on your mind, they immobilize you. You can't move past what has happened in your past. You have no physical energy to get up and get moving because when you are mentally exhausted you automatically become physically exhausted too. To maintain your overall good health you have to be both physically and mentally healthy. Your thoughts make up the reality you live. There unfortunately will be many times throughout your life when you are faced with a negative situation that you must endure. That's just life. But you must learn how to accept it, learn what you need to from it, then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind before it immobilizes you. To have a positive outcome you have to have a positive outlook. And if you keep it fresh on your mind there won't be a possibility of a positive outcome for you. You will become immobilized with an avalanche of negative thoughts. You can't flush away what happened but you can JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so it can't do anymore damage mentally or physically to you. Choosing your thoughts is just as important as choosing what you eat.

Monday, October 21, 2019

You can't fix it until you acknowledge that it is broken

Admitting that you have a problem is the only way you know you need to fix it. If you don't see it as a problem then no matter how many times someone else tells you that there is problem, you can't see it. Therefore you will not do anything about it and the problem will continue. Once you see it as a problem then you know that dealing with the problem is the only way the problem will go away. Have you ever known someone who has an anger problem? When you ask them why they are so angry all the time, they get even angrier. As they angrily try to tell you why they are angry they have a long list of reasons. The list can go back months, years or even a decade ago. Instead of dealing with the situation when it angered them, they have carried it with them. If they would have dealt with it at the time it happened and JUST FLUSHED IT then they wouldn't be still angry about it. You can't change what happened that angered you, what's done is done. Carrying the anger with you will only add fuel to the fire when you get angry over anything else. And that is dangerous to yourself and anyone else who you spew your anger on. Let go of the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Peace of mind is just a FLUSH away.

Friday, October 18, 2019

What would my loved ones say to the Long Island medium?

When our loved ones pass away we are left behind to try and pick up the pieces. Nothing will ever be the same yet we long for things to be like they used to be. As I watched the show Long Island Medium tonight, I wandered what the spirits would say to Theresa to me. Although my tears are flowing for those on the show, part of them are for my own sadness for the passing of those I have lost. I find myself zoning out unable to hear the show, as I wander what message my loved ones would have for me. After the show ended I was wandering if their spirits were watching me from beyond. Then I began to wander when I pass away what will everyone remember most about me? Since I don't think they will see a medium for me to say what they need to hear, should I write them a letter that lets them know how much I love them? Someone I know found many little notes that their Mother left scattered everywhere throughout her house. She knew they would have to go through her belongings after she passed away. She wanted to make things easier for them by finding the notes to distract them with a pleasant thought to ease their pain of her passing. As they found each little note it brought a happy memory that made them smile. I started thinking about what I would say to them in a little note. Then I decided to make a plan to get together with them more often and tell them in person how much I love them. After an hour or so of wandering if their spirits were always watching me, I suddenly realized that there were some things that I had to admit, I hoped they didn't see.

Wednesday, October 16, 2019

A camping trip is not ruined by rain

You spend time picking a good day for you to go camping. You spend time gathering the supplies that you will need for your camping trip. You excitedly wait for the day to come so you can go on your camping trip. Then the morning finally comes. But before you can even start to pack the car, it starts raining. Now you have to wait for the rain to stop to pack your car. You are hoping that it isn't raining at the campground. As you are waiting, you check the weather forecast for that area. Unfortunately there is a widespread area of rain there too that is expected to be around the whole weekend. There wasn't even a chance of rain predicted but it is going to be a rainy weekend. Before you get angry be thankful you didn't get all the way there and get your tent set up, then the rain started. Now that would be agrivating. Could you imagine not only was it raining but you also had to pack everything up in the rain and bring home the wet stuff. Now that would have been horrible. Be thankful that not only did the rain start before you left but it started before you packed the car, so nothing got wet. Your family may be disappointed but you have to be thankful you and your belongings are dry. Now you can still go camping as a family, you just have to camp out in your house. You can create memories of building a tent together indoors. Obviously not what you had planned or that you had ever thought of doing. But a once in a lifetime adventure of camping that none of you will forget. Instead of letting it anger you and ruin your weekend, let it inspire you to get creative. You probably will go on many camping trips throughout your lifetime but this may be the only time you will get to do it indoors. It might not have been the plan but you can make a plan to enjoy your time together. The weather is always unpredictable despite how well you had planned it.

Monday, October 14, 2019

Keep your guard up so you can protect yourself

You have to look out for yourself because you can't count on anyone else to. It's easy to assume that those around you want what's best for you. But the truth is they will always do what is best for themselves. You can't blame them. So if you don't protect yourself, you have no one to blame but yourself. You have to look out for your best interest not be so niave to get caught in the end unable to stand on your own. You will have many adventures throughout your life with others. But the path you choose on your journey is the path that is best for you in the long run. It's not being selfish, it's being smart enough to know that you have to protect yourself from whatever life may throw at you. Your future will always be the results of what you did yesterday.

Friday, October 11, 2019

You may not always know what to do, but you can do whatever you need to do to find a way to do it. Just because you don't exactly know what to do, doesn't mean you can't do it. There is a first time for everything. You may make a mistake along the way, but you learn from your mistakes. You may want instant gratification but that's not realistic. You will have to put in the time, the effort, and the hard work before you can reap what you sow. Like I read the other day, overnight success can take 10 years of dedication and work. To me that meant the first nine years was a learning phase that was necessary to achieve it. You can only get where you want to be if you keep moving forward on the path you have to take to get there. When you stay focused on the end goal you want to achieve, you will remain focused on getting it done.

Wednesday, October 9, 2019

Change your bad attitude...

To change your bad attitude just have some gratitude. When you are feeling sad, disappointed or mad you can change your attitude by thinking of things you are grateful for. There are going to be times when things don't go the way you had hoped. Personally I think about how lucky I am that my children and grandchildren are healthy. Once when I was in a car wreck and I was so angry that the other driver had hit me. I was stuck waiting for the police to come make a report when I had no time to wait. Then I thought about all the time I would be inconvenienced while getting my car repaired. Then I realized I needed to be thankful I didn't get hurt. It didn't change the facts but it did change my attitude which made the time waiting easier. You can't change your circumstances but you can change how you feel. And that is something you will be thankful for.

Monday, October 7, 2019

When you need to, you may have to Force yourself

We obviously choose what we are going to do. But there are times in life when the only way you are going to do what you know you have to do, is to force yourself to get up and do it. If it is a necessity that has to get done then force yourself by reminding yourself that if you don't do it, it won't get done. After you get it done you feel so empowered because you now know that you can do anything you need to do. You will be so thankful that you got it done, even more so because you almost didn't do it. Then the next time you need something important done and you are procrastinating, remember you just might have to Force yourself to do it. Take all your excuses of why you can't do it and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind.

Friday, October 4, 2019

You plan a retreat to have a peaceful and trouble free time

In our busy schedules we get so overwhelmed with too many things to do. We wear ourselves out, day in and day out. We look forward to the time we hopefully manage to get away for a relaxing retreat to rejuvenate ourselves to be able to continue with our busy life. But unfortunately our busy schedules don't allow us to do that more than once a year. Once a year is great to go to an ocean resort or a mountain retreat. But we need a mental and physical break many, many times throughout the year. Luckily in your mind you can find a peaceful trouble free retreat anytime, anywhere, at a moment's notice. All you got to do is take a deep breath and clear your mind so peace of mind has room to get in. When something doesn't quite go as you had planned JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind and you will have a moment to enjoy a mini retreat to relax and get moving again. When you are trying too hard to figure things out, you clog yourself up and then you can't think straight at all, let alone figure it out. Take a deep breath and clear your mind. Then you can relax and enjoy a mini retreat for a moment and then you will be able to clearly think about it, making it easier to figure out how you are going to do it.

Wednesday, October 2, 2019

A fortune cookie away from a fresh outlook

For many years I have been collecting fortune cookies. Surprisingly I have never gotten the same fortune. I am fascinated by the fact that they make you stop and ponder what it means. My blogs are a lot like them. They are simply random thoughts to give you a break from a hectic day. A chance to FLUSH away your stress and get a fresh breath of oxygen. My fortune cookie today said " He who laughs, lasts." I literally had to keep reading it over and over again to figure out what it meant to me. Usually I instantly get sent into a direction of thought. This one sent me in two different directions. What does it mean to you? In the fast paced World we live in catching a fresh breath of oxygen is a rare occurrence. But oxygen is necessary to think clearly and stay healthy. Find ways to stop throughout your day to take a deep breath and collect your thoughts. Even a fortune cookie can give you a fresh outlook.

Monday, September 30, 2019

Is it wishful thinking or make believe?

If there is no chance at all, then it is make believe. If there is at least a slight chance, then it is wishful thinking. It's okay to Hope for the best, having hope is necessary to staying hopeful. But being realistic will keep you in touch with reality. Being optimistic is good as long as you are realistic in your optimistic view. Making the best of a situation can only happen if you are honest with yourself about the situation you are in. It's nice to get some helpful advice but they don't know everything that you have to consider. Even those we are close to only know what you tell them. And let's be honest, we don't tell our deep dark secrets. Talking to yourself sounds crazy but if you don't then you won't be able to figure out what is best for you. To determine whether someone is insane or not is whether on their OWN they can make sound decisions for themselves. Not what others tell them. So talking to yourself may sound crazy but obviously if you don't, then you are legally insane. Since you alone will have to live with the consequences for the decisions you make, then obviously you alone should make the decision. Get all the facts so you can make the right decision, otherwise you will be making an uneducated guess.

Friday, September 27, 2019

Is it just a coincidence?

Is it fate or is it just a coincidence? Weird things happen throughout your lifetime. Usually we tend to just dismiss it and keep moving. But every now and then when something happens, down the road you realize that it was destined to have happened. You realize that if it hadn't happened you wouldn't have gotten where you are. It didn't seem like a big deal when it happened but it turned out to be very significant in your life's journey. Can you imagine just how many "coincidence's" that had to happen to lead you to where you are today? All your experiences in life is what made you who you are today. The good and the bad, the happy and the sad, it was your journey. Everything happens for a reason even if you never know what the reason was. Sometimes you were part of someone else's "coincidence" to get them where they needed to be. A "coincidence" that was necessary, I call that fate.

Wednesday, September 25, 2019

Chances come along but if you don't take it you have no chance at all

You never know when or if you will get a chance. If you do then consider first if it is a chance worth taking. As long as you can't be hurt by taking a chance, go for it. But if there is a chance it could have a negative outcome, then don't take a chance on it. Always remember that if it sounds to good to be true then it probably is too good to be true. Opportunities may come knocking on your door and you will have to open the door to see if you need to take a chance or shut the door quickly. Don't miss out on the many important "little things" in life because you are too busy trying to catch a "big thing" that you may not be able to catch at all. It's okay to dream big but dreaming about something that is impossible is setting yourself up for failure. Be honest about your chances before you take a chance. Little by little, one step at a time you will get where you need to be as long as you don't stray too far away from the path you need to be on.

Monday, September 23, 2019

Are you spreading germs?

When you hear a cough close by, you can't help but look to see just how close you are to them. As I was out shopping recently I happen to be standing right next to someone who apparently was looking for the same thing I was. Out of the blue, as I was reaching to grab what I needed. The person next to me sneezed then started coughing. I could literally feel the spray from their sneeze on my arm. I didn't know how to react. Especially as they were having a coughing fit right as it happened. I had no tissue anywhere near that I could use to wipe my arms. Yuck. I hurried away as quickly as possible trying not to breath in the cloud of germs they were filling the aisle with. If you got the flu, don't spread it. The same is true if you are so full of anger that you are spewing your anger onto others, don't spread it.  Then I hurry through the store to find a bathroom to wash their sneeze off my arm. As I am wiping my arm I start to get angry that they didn't have the decency to turn their head as they sneezed. I realized it was probably all over my back too but I couldn't get those germs off. Then as I drove home it would get all over my car seat. The more I thought about it, the yuckier I felt and the angrier I was getting. Then I realized I needed to JUST FLUSH IT out of my mind. Because I was already in the bathroom cleaning my arms, I went into the stall to FLUSH the toilet so the sound could soothe my anger away. I was then able to finish my shopping but before I turned down any aisle I made sure I wasn't going to run into them again.

Friday, September 20, 2019

It's ok to be you

We are all different. And like they say, different strokes for different folks. You do things differently because that is what you need to do. Don't try to keep up with the Jones's because your name isn't Jones. You have to be comfortable with what you are doing in the skin you are in if you want to be comfortable in the skin you are in. Changing to please someone else means you aren't yourself anymore. If you want to be happy you have to do what makes you happy. No one knows what you need except you. If you just follow others you will have no idea where you will end up. Playing follow the leader when you are young is one thing but as an adult you should only follow your dreams, and your conscience. Just because other people are doing it doesn't mean it is the right thing for you to do. You can be who you want to be but only if you are doing what you know you should do, will you be all you can be. You can and you will if you take control. Don't be a follower, be the leader.

Wednesday, September 18, 2019

Your ego can get so big that it .....

Having pride in what you do and who you are is very important. But pride and ego are two different things. When you swell up with pride inside it motivates you to do even better. But when your ego gets too big it can make you behave in a way you can't be proud of. If you judge things that are said or done to you as an attack against your character, your ego can feel attacked. Then your ego goes in defense mode and tries to convince you that you have no choice but to defend yourself. Even though what was done or said wasn't worth going to battle over, let alone a full out war. Like they say "don't sweat the small stuff." If it's not a Life or Death situation, don't make it one. JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind before your ego feels offended. Take pride in being able to keep your ego from getting too big for your own good.

Monday, September 16, 2019

Weighing your options

Keep your options open so you can have an option. You never burn your bridges. You may not ever need to choose to cross to the other side, but it will be there if you need to cross it. Having a back up plan is necessary. No one plans on needing to use a back up plan. You just make sure you have other options if things don't go exactly how you had planned. Even well thought out plans can fail. But don't fail yourself. All you have to do is make sure you have a back up plan so you will have something to fall back on. You can hope for the best but life is life, so you also have to plan for whatever could happen. Weighing your options is only possible if you have options. Keep all your options open. Unfortunately things don't always go as planned.

Friday, September 13, 2019

To do or not to do, that is the question

When you feel the tension deep in the pit of your stomach, it is not always gas. We all have a built in warning system. When you feel the tension growing, let that be a warning that you need to stop and think about what you are about to do or not do. Every choice you make has consequences, either good or bad. Stop long enough to decide if you are choosing the decision that is good for you. If it's not, then heed the warning. There are times in life when you have no control over what you must face. But when you are in control of what you do or don't do, then you know you will pay the consequences of whatever you choose. So choose wisely. Remember once you make a decision and act on it, you can't take it back. Because then it is what it is. And whatever it is, you will reap what you sow.

Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Will you admit it?

You can learn from your mistakes, but only if you admit that you made a mistake. You can blame it on the moon. But if you do, then you will not learn what you need to from your mistakes. All that will do is leave you lost in space. To keep yourself grounded so that you can stand loud and proud on your own, you need to be honest with yourself. In order to learn what to do so you don't repeat a mistake, you have to first admit that you made a mistake. A mistake only happens once because if you repeat it then it is called a habit. If you are in the habit of always blaming it on someone or something else, then you need to change your habits. Habits are hard to break but if you recognize it as a bad habit then for goodness sake, stop doing it. If you get burnt by a stove you learn not to touch the stove when it is hot.

Monday, September 9, 2019

Following without knowing where it will lead you

You can't just jump on any "band wagon" that comes rolling in. Whether it is financial, political, or personal it may sound like something you would like to try, but that doesn't mean you should. Deciding on a whim that it is a good idea without thinking about the long term effects it could have later for you, is something you may regret. It's not only foolish but it is a risk that you unknowingly could be risking everything you have for it. Mistakes do happen in life but risking everything is a mistake that you can avoid. Never risk everything on a fly by night chance at anything. You can build on what you got to get ahead but you never put all your eggs in one basket. If you fall losing one egg it is bad enough but if you lose all your eggs, then what? Taking advantage of opportunities is one thing but keeping your feet firmly on the ground is the most important thing of all. Knowing your limits will limit the chances of you risking more than you should.

Friday, September 6, 2019

Just look without ignoring it and you will see it

It's time we start focusing on what is right in front of our faces. You don't have to fly to a place that is remote to find a person who's hungry or in need of a helping hand. Just look around without looking the other way. Ignoring it shouldn't be so easy to do. But for far too many people, it is. Even kind words can make a difference but you have to stop long enough to say it to make a difference. Which will require you to not ignore it. You may not have anything to offer them but acknowledging them will help. Distracting them from their problems even for a brief moment gives them a chance to take a deep breathe of fresh air. Even if you are in too big of a hurry to stop you can look into their eyes and share a smile as you hurry past. Which will simply require you to not ignore them. In the cyberspace era we live in, the lack of human contact is a dangerous thing. Without human contact people get lost in despair because no one can see the pain in their eyes. Unfortunately nowadays even here on Earth we are so busy ignoring each other that we can't see the pain in their eyes either. To stop the insanity we see in society we need to show some humanity. Join me in bringing peace to our neighborhood, one person at a time.

Wednesday, September 4, 2019

Taking chances are one thing, ignoring a hurricane is another

Although it seems that Florida has been very fortunate that hurricane Dorian has made a North easterly turn, danger is still lurking around. You will still have to deal with heavy rain and dangerous wind gust. After the ground gets soaked it won't take a hurricane to knock down trees, a mighty gust of wind could send it crashing down. My grandchildren wanted to go outside because the rain had stopped. I took them outside to show them that no matter where they played outside there was no where that if a tree fell that they would be safe. They looked at me as if I had two heads. They didn't believe me at all. To them I was being overly cautious. Finally I told them it was better to be safe than sorry. Children see a hint of sunshine and quickly forget that a hurricane is swirling all around. All they know is there is no school and the rain has stopped for now and they want to go out to play. Luckily I had bought some games that could be played inside. After they got started playing them they forgot about being stuck inside safe from the hurricane. I had plenty of snacks and drinks from the hurricane supplies turning an indoor day into a hurricane party. As we enjoyed ourselves we soon could hear the rain pouring down and the wind a howling. We will have a sleepover party and camp out in the living room far away from the path of any trees. Don't let the sunshine fool you because in the blink of an eye the storm can be deadly close. Stay prepared and ready until the hurricane is too far away to come knocking on your door.

Monday, September 2, 2019

Finding a rainbow after a thunderstorm

It can be cloudy and rainy one minute then when it stops a rainbow appears that was hidden under the dark rainy clouds. After a hurricane you may not see a rainbow but through the destruction you can see the kindness of strangers reaching out to help. That is as beautiful as a rainbow. Even in your personal life there are many "storms" that you will encounter on your journey. But just like the hurricane that is here one minute and gone the next, leaving damage behind, your personal "storm"will pass. And just like after a hurricane you do an assessment of the damage after the "storm" has passed and do what you need to do to get back on track. Life is just as unpredictable as the weather.  All you can do is hope for the best.

Friday, August 30, 2019

Preparing for a hurricane

Here we go again running around gathering supplies and finding empty shelves.  Even though you have a weeks notice it's hard to stock up when every store in the area gets cleaned out of supplies a week before it gets here. It's still four days before it hits so hopefully they restock. I bought most of it days ago but water and bread have been hard to find. I filled up my gas tank but running around looking for water and supplies have used half a tank. So hopefully I can get some gas tomorrow before that runs out too. I have already seen my snack piles go down since I bought them days ago. Now with four days to go I guess I will have to get more. First it was coming on Sunday now they are saying the hurricane will hit us Tuesday or Wednesday. Staying prepared might not seem hard but it sure isn't easy. I figured it would pass Sunday and by Monday I would be back out taking care of business. Now I am not sure I can make it to the doctors appointment Tuesday if the hurricane is here beating down on us. I am guessing the doctor won't be there during it. Trying to reschedule along with many other people will be a challenge for them to squeeze us all in. A delay by three or four days makes a big difference in being prepared for it or not. And whether you are prepared or not, it's coming. Hopefully everyone stays safe from the hurricane and it loses its strength when it touches land.

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

When you find yourself stuck waiting somewhere, find a way to entertain yourself

There will be a time, actually many times throughout your life when you will find yourself stuck waiting. Whether at a doctors office, a traffic jam, or if you are  lucky you will be stuck at home waiting for something. It is frustrating but you got to distract yourself before you get so frustrated that your blood pressure rises. You may not think about just how much physical damage your body goes through when your blood pressure rises. As your frustration grows so does your blood pressure. You can feel your jaw tightening up and veins appear on your neck as a sign that you are so tense you are causing your muscles to squeeze so tightly that they alter the blood flow through your veins. That is a warning sign that you need to calm down and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. If not your frustration grows and your blood pressure rises and a Sudden Cardiac Arrest can come on suddenly, as your organs are literally being squeezed to death. If it's not a Life or Death situation you are in, DON'T make it one.

Monday, August 26, 2019

If you want the best outcome you will have to do your best

If it takes three steps to do it, then you have to do all three of them to do it successfully. Sometimes a short cut will lead you just short of where you need to be. It's like building only half of a bridge. You know it won't get you to the other side unless you build it all the way to the other side. If you are in a hurry you may not take the time to do it right. So wait until you have all the time you need. If you are not going to do it right you will just waste your time rushing through it. And you may waste the only opportunity that you have to do it. Doing what you need to do the right way is what it takes for things to be done the right way. If it is important to you then it's important for you to do it the right way so that it turns out alright. You will reap what you sow.

Friday, August 23, 2019

To hide the truth, you have to lie

Sometimes the truth hurts. Unfortunately if you try to hide from the truth, the lies you have to tell can hurt you more. One lie leads to another and another until the truth can't help you anymore. If you are just truthful from the beginning then in the end the truth will set you free. A web of lies is a sticky situation that you don't want to be in. Just accept that it is what it is and it ain't what it ain't. And while we are on the subject, a two face snake is a two face snake, and a liar is a liar. A person is only as good as his word so don't say it unless you mean it. If it isn't true then no matter how many lies you tell, you still have to live with the truth.

Wednesday, August 21, 2019

As I tried to explain it they seemed to look more confused as I talked

I was trying to explain how to do the math problem to my grandson.  But I could see by the look on his face that he had no idea what I was talking about. So I tried to start over and explain it a different way, but he kept thinking about what I said before and it was all jumbled together leaving him more confused. I got out a new paper and said forget everything I said before and start fresh. Well after Two new papers and fresh starts, I could see a lightbulb go off in his head and he says oh you mean just do blank blank and blank to get the answer. Finally he understood what I was saying. But I had to say it four different ways until he could understand it. The point is that until he could see it he couldn't understand it so I had to keep showing him a different way to look at it until I found a view that he could see. Painting the same picture a different way until he could see it. How you look at something determines what you see. And if you know it is important that you see it then keep looking at it from different angles until you see what you are looking for.

Monday, August 19, 2019

Oh no, you do it too!

When you are young you are sure you are not going to be anything like your parents. It's not until you get older that you realize you are a lot like your parents in many ways. I have seen kids who looked nothing like their parents the first three decades of their life, then slowly but surely over time they morphed into looking just like them. I don't know how that is even possible but it's true, I witnessed it right before my very eyes. You begin to think like your parents too. If you are young and reading this you probably won't believe me. But if you are as old as me, I am sure you have seen it too. The weirdest thing I saw someone develope, the same constant clearing of their throat sound. It used to annoy them the most about their Mom yet here they are  annoying me with that constant sound. Deep down inside you know how much you admired your parents so being a lot like them is a compliment.

Friday, August 16, 2019

Knowing is only half of the answer

You may know what to do but you still got to do it. You can have the best plan on how to do it but you have to do what you had planned. Thinking and planning has to be followed by doing it if it's going to get done. If you are not going to be able to do it then find someone who can. Don't give up and say it just can't be done. If it is important to you to get it done then JUST DO IT. If you keep putting it off until tomorrow then it will never get done. Getting started is the only way to get'r done. When it's done you can enjoy what you did and start planning on what you can do with your free time tomorrow. The sooner you get started the sooner it will get done. Getting started may be harder than you thought but you know you can do it so JUST DO IT.

Wednesday, August 14, 2019

Where is your built in filter?

You never know what will pop up front and center in your mind. Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts that run through our mind. But not every thought that pops up is a positive one. Which is exactly why it shouldn't fly out of your mouth just as fast. We all have a filter to prevent it from flying out of our mouth. But nowadays they don't seem to use it. Recently a houseguest from the show Big Brother was shown clips of some of the hurtful things that he said and had been  recorded on the live stream. What most people say without thinking isn't recorded to see a clip of how hurtful their words were. Nor do you get to see the impact it has on the person you said them to , like on a TV show. They always say words can't hurt you, but that just isn't true. Unfortunately people that say negative comments to someone doesn't care if it hurts them. A lot of times they don't even remember, yet those they said it to never forget. If a negative thought pops up in your mind JUST FLUSH IT before it hurts you or anyone else. You can't control what pops up in your mind but you are in control of what flys out of your mouth.

Monday, August 12, 2019

What is your duct tape made of?

What works for someone else may not work for you. Just like what works for you doesn't work for everyone. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. You just have to do what works best for you. As long as it works, it works. No one knows what will work for you but you. We all have our own way of coming back together after a negative situation has broken us like Humpty Dumpty. All the king's horses can't miraculously put you back together. You have to get your own "Duct Tape" out and pick up the pieces. Only you know how the pieces need to go together to feel whole again. Learn what you need to from the negative experiences so they don't happen again, then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Then use the "Duct Tape" that works for you no matter what "Duct Tape" anyone else tells you that you should use. It doesn't matter if it works for anyone but you. We all have our own way of coming back together again.

Friday, August 9, 2019

You can give advice but you can't tell them what to do

You may know what someone should do but that doesn't mean they will do it. If you tell someone what to do they will tone you out and it will fall on deaf ears. If you give them advice and explain why you think they should consider doing it a certain way, they will at least consider it. You have to remember that what works for someone else doesn't mean it works for everyone. And honestly what worked in the past probably won't work in the twentyfirst century. Things change, especially in this ever changing World we live in. For goodness sake, if you give someone advice and they don't take it, if they fail don't say I told you so. They already know you told them. If you want them to take your advice in the future, don't say I told you so. We all make mistakes that someone tried to warn us about sometime throughout our life. All you can do is warn them and try to support them in the decisions that they make. Love means never say I told you so. If you take a wrong turn in your life all you got to do is  get back on track.

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make

What you do is up to you. What you decide not to do is up to you. Every choice you make matters. Would you choose to help someone from being mistreated? Or would you choose to ignore it. Your choice not only affects you, it will affect everyone. Ignoring bad behavior makes it acceptable behavior. Therefore it becomes a common occurrence. And eventually it will happen to you or someone you love. If you don't want it to happen to you then don't let it happen to anyone else. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make. The World won't get better on it's own, we all must do our part.

Monday, August 5, 2019

You can't get over it if you keep it fresh on your mind

You are not going to be able to move past what has happened until you accept what has happened and JUST FLUSH IT. Things happen in life , that's just life. You will not always know why it happened or how it could have happened, it just is what it is. Remember the serenity prayer. God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Like the church sign that inspired me said. "It's ok to sit on your pity-potty every now and again just be sure and FLUSH when you are done." We have all had negative things happen throughout our lifetime, that's just life. Some people know how to JUST FLUSH IT, and others choose to carry it like a sandbag making their life's journey harder. Learn how to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind as it comes to be able to enjoy life while you are living it.

Friday, August 2, 2019

The little things make a big difference

You can make a difference without giving more than you can. Giving someone a reason to smile is free. Just sharing a smile with them they instinctively will smile back at you. If you open the door for someone it will automatically make them smile. Giving someone a listening ear will help them FLUSH out there concerns and reduces their stress so they can smile. You don't have to solve their problems, they just need a break from stress so they can get a fresh outlook. A moment to catch their breath so they can get the oxygen they need to figure things out for themselves. The least we each can do is not make their day more stressful. Be kind to everyone you meet for you have no idea what they may be facing. A smile means peace in any language. 😄

Wednesday, July 31, 2019

If you don't believe it is possible then for you, it will not be possible

If you don't believe you can do it then you will not try to do it, therefore you won't be able to do it. You would be surprised yourself at what you can do if you just gave it a try. FLUSH AWAY your doubts then there is no doubt you can do it. Sometimes the only thing holding you back is you yourself. You can be your worst enemy or your biggest cheerleader. If you try it but can't do it, at least you can take pride in knowing you tried. There's no shame in trying but if you don't try that would be a shame. Knowing if you can do it or not is determined by trying to do it to see if you can. If you tried but just can't then find someone to help you get'r done. It may not be easy to do, but that doesn't mean you can't do it. Just means you have to put in the work to get'r done. Don't give up without trying, just keep telling yourself that you can do it. Anything is possible if you believe it is possible.

Monday, July 29, 2019

Make room for it

If you want it you have to make room for it first. To make room for your new furniture you will have to get rid of your old furniture. When you have too much weighing heavy on your mind it leaves no room to have peace of mind. Take the negative thoughts that are clogging you up and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so peace of mind has room to get in. Peace of mind really is just a FLUSH away so JUST FLUSH IT. There are many challenges that we all must face during our life's journey. Learning how to JUST FLUSH IT as it comes will make the difference in whether you will have a good day or a bad day. You can FLUSH AWAY A BAD DAY if you take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind.

Friday, July 26, 2019

What are you looking for?

What you see depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking for trouble, you will find it. If you are looking for the negatives in your situation, you will find it. If you are looking for something positive about the situation you are in, you will find it. You can't have a positive outcome if you don't have a positive outlook. Your thoughts make up your reality. You are what you think you are. Your point of view determines how you see things, as well as what you are looking for. How you look at it determines what you see. You could see things differently if you looked at it differently. If you have a positive outlook, you can have a positive outcome. It's all in how you look at it. For instance, you may have to fix a leaky roof but still be thankful you have a house because some people don't. You can be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy.

Wednesday, July 24, 2019

You can still enjoy it, you will just have to enjoy it a little differently

There will be times throughout your lifetime when things don't work out like you had planned them to. Although you will have to come up with a new plan, you may realize that things worked out for the best in the end. The direction that you are going now will get you right where you need to be. And had you not have had to change your plans, there is no telling how you would have ended up where you are. Sometimes it takes a tornado in your life to get you where you need to be. You face hard times throughout your life, that's just life. If you don't take each painful experience from your past and JUST FLUSH IT as it comes, you will carry them with you like sandbags on your life's journey. Life's journey is hard enough without carrying sandbags making it harder to enjoy life while you are living it. JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can ease your load.

Monday, July 22, 2019

Mourning the living

We have all experienced the mourning of a loved one when they pass away. You miss them so much. But have you ever had to mourn over someone when they are alive still? Well unfortunately there are sometimes when you realize that you have to let go of them, because it's what is best for you. You will miss them. But you will remember why you have to mourn them even though they are alive. You had to, so you could enjoy life while you are living it. There are a lot of decisions you will have to make throughout your lifetime, and some of them are painful decisions. Knowing why you had to do it will help you get through it. So if you know it is in your best interest to let them go, then you know it is the best thing to do. Swimming alone is better than swimming with sharks.

Friday, July 19, 2019

Please and thank you

When someone says please, you are happy to do it. When someone says thank you, you are glad you could do it. But when someone is demanding you do it, it is hard to want to do it. When someone doesn't even acknowledge that you did it, it makes you wander why you even bothered to do it for them. Being thankful and grateful for something that someone does for you makes them feel appreciated. If you want help doing it , then say please. If you are thankful for what they did, then say thank you. They say words can't hurt you, but they can. And just in case you didn't know it, a kind word means a lot.

Wednesday, July 17, 2019

You forgive them for your sake not theirs

Holding a grudge against them allows them to hurt you over and over again. Forgiving them you do for yourself not for them. You have to forgive them, so it doesn't eat away inside you. You can't have peace of mind if you keep it fresh on your mind. Forgiving them doesn't mean what they did was okay. It means you are not going to let them hurt you anymore. It means you love yourself more than you hate them for what they did. There are so many times when they don't even remember or care what they even did. You can not get over it if you keep reliving it over and over and over again. JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so it can't hurt you anymore. Once was bad enough. You forgive them so you can JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind, so it can't hurt you anymore. Peace of mind is just a FLUSH away, so JUST FLUSH IT!

Monday, July 15, 2019

Your life is literally in their hands

If you have to seek medical attention you know you are literally putting your life in their hands. And if you or someone you love has to face a medical emergency you can only hope the medical professionals you see will do everything to treat them. Unfortunately it is easy to be seen merely as patient number 99 and slip through the cracks. You have to be your own advocate and fight for the right treatment. Your test results may make it to your file but that doesn't mean that the doctor will ever see those results to know what you medically need to stay alive let alone healthy. You have to get the results and bring it to your doctor's attention. Your doctor can be a great doctor but they are too busy to keep up with every patient. I love my doctors but there is a particular nurse at the office that just at the sight of them raises my blood pressure to a dangerous level. They might have passed all the written test to get their degree but no one bothered to test them on compassion for other human beings before they gave them that degree. There honestly should be a necessity to have compassion or you can't be in the medical field because patients litteraly put their lives in their hands. How you are treated personally is just as important to your health as having a good doctor. Be kind to everyone you meet for you have no idea what they may be facing.

Friday, July 12, 2019

The more you try the easier it gets

You may realize that it is going to be harder than you thought. But the more you do it the easier it gets. Sometimes it seems like you take two steps forward and then you fall one step back. But you are still one step closer to getting it done. You may find along the way that there are more steps that are necessary to be able to do it. But you have to be thankful that you know what you need to do. It may be harder than you thought and take longer than you thought but you can do it. That is unless you give up and quit. Quitting is easy. But if you quit it will never get done. A life worth living takes hard work, but it is worth the work it will take to get'r done. As long as you keep working at it you will get it done. You reap what you sow. Don't give up when the going gets tough because you are tough enough to do whatever is necessary to get it done. You can if you think you can. Stay focused on what you want to do and before you know it you will be done.

Wednesday, July 10, 2019

Don't count on it

You will have questions throughout your life that there simply is no answer to, not even on Google. Everything happens for a reason even if you may not ever know why it happened. So don't waste your time and energy on looking for the answer. Sometimes you just have to accept that it is what it is. You have to make the most out of the situation you are in regardless of how you got in the situation you are in. You have to "bloom" wherever you are planted. It's your life and you have to enjoy life while you are living it. Being happy in the skin you are in is only possible if you are happy about what you do in the skin your in. You may not have had a choice about the situation you are in but you do have a choice whether you make the best of the situation you are in. It's all in how you look at it. Your glass may be only half full but it will still quench your thirst.

Monday, July 8, 2019

Think about the good things because your thoughts are your reality

Stress can do physical damage even if in the end you had nothing to stress about. Worrying about something that might happen puts unnecessary stress on your mind and body. When you start to stress over something that may or may not happen, quickly JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind before it can do any damage. You may not have had anything to worry about but you can worry yourself to death over nothing. Too much stress on your mind can do as much damage as too many fries. Even if it turns out that there is nothing to worry about the damage is already done. Your thoughts are the reality you live so think of positive thoughts so you can have a positive outcome. Don't worry unless you actually have something to worry about or you will have to worry about the damage your unnecessary worrying has caused. Like the song says Don't worry be happy.

Friday, July 5, 2019

You got to start somewhere

Making the plans for a project requires a lot of thinking. But it is a task that can be creative and fun. Going shopping for the supplies is like playing a hide and seek game. But then you know how much work it is going to take to do it and you dread getting started. As you were making your plans you knew that there would be many things that you would have to do. But now as you look at all there is to do it seems overwhelming. Making the plans and getting the supplies took work but they were the easy parts. Now you have to get up and no matter how hard it is you have to get started. Getting started is the hardest part of the job ahead. But once you get started you will be motivated and get'r done. If you don't start then you will never get it done. The more you think about how hard it is the harder it is to get started. If you got to do it then just do it. The sooner you get started the sooner it will get done and you can enjoy it. So stop dwelling on the work ahead, JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind and get started. Thinking about it so much can litteraly wear you out leaving you with no energy to get started.

Wednesday, July 3, 2019

Celebrate your way

Tomorrow is a day to celebrate our Independence. The freedom to do it your way. Not everybody likes fireworks but those that do will light up the sky and if you want to see them you are free to watch them, or not. Having the freedom to do it your way is a reason to celebrate. Having a right to choose how you celebrate every day is a choice we are all thankful for. We must remember that in order to have the freedom to do it your way, means you have to respect how everyone else chooses to enjoy it their way. The moment you start telling others what to do or how to do it, is the moment that we all lose our Independence. Unfortunately the weather may make the decision on what time you  can grill out or if you have to eat indoors.  Everyday we celebrate our Independence and are thankful for it. But on the fourth of July we gather together to remind ourselves just how lucky we are to have our Independence. Like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz says, there is no place like home. Celebrate your way but celebrate responsibly, don't drink and drive.

Monday, July 1, 2019

Short version

Today I am passing a kidney stone and will be resting. Overworking myself the last week on vacation has took it's toll on me. As soon as it passes I will get back on track. They say stress doesn't cause kidney stones but I disagree. And a vacation they say is relaxing but I disagree. I will be able to JUST FLUSH IT out of my mind as soon as I can JUST FLUSH the kidney stone out of my body. Have a happy and safe fourth of July.

Friday, June 28, 2019

I thought a vacation was a time that you could relax

Aren't you supposed to get rest on your vacation? I was looking forward to my vacation to finally get some much needed rest. But here it is the last evening of vacation and I am exhausted. I am more exhausted then I was before my vacation. Now I have to get back in the swing of things and catch up on the things I didn't do because I was on vacation. That wasn't really a vacation at all, it was a lot of work. It will take me days to catch up and get back on track. Next time I will tell myself that it isn't a vacation it is sick days and I have to stay home and rest. No trips, no company, and no wearing myself out. When your mind and body are begging for a break, you have to take a break or your going to have a breakdown. Instead of buying clothes to wear out of town I am going to buy me a robe and a new set of sheets for my bed. After all a vacation should be me getting comfortable and relaxed.

Wednesday, June 26, 2019

Even if you get a good night's rest you can still feel exhausted

Being physically exhausted and emotionally exhausted go hand and hand together. No matter how much rest you get if you are emotionally stressed out you can feel like you still need more rest. If something weighs heavily on your mind it weighs you down physically as well. Everyone knows how important exercise and healthy eating is to maintain good health. But it's not only what you eat but what is eating you that determines your overall well being. Just like you flush the toxins out of your body by drinking water, you got to take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. And remember a good belly laugh is a FLUSH for your mind, body and soul. When is the last time you had a good belly laugh? They say laughter is the best medicine, so make someone laugh to help them feel better.

Monday, June 24, 2019

Not exactly homemade but .....

My granddaughter had to write a paper for class on her favorite place. When it was my house that she said was her favorite place,  I just couldn't help but feel loved. The first thing she mentioned about why it was her favorite was funny but ... Not what I expected. She said I made the best Pop tarts and chocolate milk. Obviously I can't take credit for being a great Baker, because Kellogg made them. She mentioned many other things that made my heart fill with love but I can't stop laughing about the Pop tarts. It just goes to show it is the little things that mean the most to people. Not just children but to everyone no matter what age, what gender you are, nor what country you live in. Every person will appreciate the little things just as much as the few and far between big things. You may think that it was no big deal but to them it might be a big deal. Although I thought my homemade lasagna was her favorite apparently I was wrong. Thank you Kellogg for making me the best chef ever in my granddaughters eyes.

Friday, June 21, 2019

If the shoe fits then wear it

You never truly know what someone is going through unless you walk a mile in their shoes. Even then you would have no idea all of the circumstances they have to face. You may think you know everything about them including their shoes size. But they are who they are because of a lifetime of reasons. Even your siblings that grew up together don't have a clue to how the other ones feel. Ten people can experience the same exact thing yet they all describe experiencing something different. Their point of view is the only thing they saw. Like the fortune cookie I got said, "Every person is the creation of himself, the image of his own thinking and believing." Your thoughts determine your reality. Peter Pan learned that he could only fly if he thought of happy thoughts. When you are with someone facing a negative situation make sure you help them see a positive part of it so they are more likely to have a positive outcome. You can only find what you are looking for. Remember anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt.

Wednesday, June 19, 2019

Why do it if it doesn't seem to matter?

In life you find yourself at times,  wandering if what you are doing or could do will really matter in the end. It may not seem to matter but it for sure won't matter if you don't. For instance you may run across someone who's circumstances have devastated them and they need more help then you can give them. Although you can only help them a little bit, it will matter to them. You can't solve all their problems but you can make things a little better. You may not think it matters if you just pick up a piece of trash as you walk by it at a park and put it in a trash can. It doesn't sound like much but if everyone else would pick up one piece of trash while at the park, it would keep it clean. Everything you do matters to someone even if it only matters to you. Now when you have more to do on your "to-do list" then you can do that's when if it doesn't matter then don't do it. Because not stressing over things that don't matter in those circumstances is what matters most.

Monday, June 17, 2019

Can anyone feel it?

You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone feel it? You may have good intentions but will you do what you had intended to do? You may be able to and know what you could do, but will you do it? If you want to make a difference you will have to actually do something that will make a difference. Those around you can only feel your love if you spend time with them so they can feel it. Your wisdom may help someone but only if you say it will it help anyone. So just do it unless you want to be saying a bunch of would'ves, could'ves, and should'ves later in life. Remember choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make.

Friday, June 14, 2019

The sky looked deep dark blue as if a Bermuda triangle was forming

I was on my way to the grocery store when the sky in the distance was dark blue. So dark blue that it looked like a Bermuda triangle was forming. As I drove towards the store, the thought crossed my mind that I should just turn around and get back home before the storm hits. But I decided to go go to the store but get less stuff, so I can quickly get in and out of the store before the storm hits. A storm can look far away but you never know how fast it is moving. So I raced through the store grabbing the bare necessities. Then as I am walking to my car in a rush to beat the rain, I see the sun shining and hear the birds chirping. I looked all around in the sky and all I could see as far as I could see was beautiful light blue sunny skies. I got home and was putting away the groceries when I could hear thunder in the distance. Literally five minutes later it was pouring buckets of rain outside. When I looked out the window the sky was deep dark blue and the thunder and lighting was shaking the ground. All I could think about was how on Earth could it have been hidden while I was loading my groceries and driving home and unloading my car. Where was it? How is that even possible? Hurricane season just started and that was an eye opener of how fast it can be upon you. Definitely need to get all my hurricane supplies. Although no storms were reported to hit us that day, out of no where one did. Our neighbors across the street had a tree uprooted and we had large branches break off our trees. You never know when, where, why, or even how it can pop in and out of no where. I felt like Chicken Little did when he kept telling them the sky was falling, but no one would believe him, until the aliens invaded them. No one believes me either that the black sky hid from me when I came out of the store then out of no where it was suddenly over my house.

Wednesday, June 12, 2019

Are you going to make some lemonade?

The roller coaster of life is full of ups and downs and there are many twists and turns. You can choose whether you ride a roller coaster at a theme park. But in life you don't get to choose, it is what it is and life is a roller coaster. You may not like it but like it or not, life will be hard at times. Sometimes you will have to bend like a pretzel. I am sure you have heard the phrase, when life gives you lemons you will have to make lemonade. We all know someone who seems to face tremendous obstacles in life, yet they are happy. You can't help but admire them for keeping a positive attitude despite their circumstances. When you are feeling discouraged just remember that there are many people who have it worse than you. It will remind you to be thankful your situation isn't worse. You may not like lemonade but you can make it and then trade it for something you do like. Or you can sit on your pity-potty and let your lemons rot, then you will be there stuck with rotten lemons. You may not get everything you want in life but you can still enjoy what you have. Your glass may only be half full but it will still quench your thirst. But if you refuse to drink it until it is completely full then you will die of thirst. It's not what you got but what you do with what you got.

Monday, June 10, 2019

The minute you give up was one minute too soon

In this fast paced world we live in we are always looking for instant gratification. But things don't always happen in an instant. You can't reach your goals if you give up on them because they don't happen fast enough. Just when you are almost there is not the time to loose patience. Quit expecting it to happen in an instant and you will have the patience you need to wait for it. If you tell yourself it may take a while then you will not expect it in an instant. How you look at it will determine the outcome. The time it will take is worth your wait but only if you will wait for it will you have it to enjoy it. You won't get very far if you keep turning around half way there.

Friday, June 7, 2019

It's not always easy but as long as it is doable then you can do it

When you find yourself dwelling on what has happened, remind yourself it could have been worse. It may not be easy but as long as it is doable you have to be thankful that it wasn't worse. It's like being thankful your roof is leaking because some people don't have a home. It is what it is but how you react to it will determine how it will affect you. I am sure you have heard the old saying "Anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt." It's all in how you look at it. Once it has happened, ask yourself, what positive outcome could there possibly be? Keep searching for all the positive that could possibly result from it and you just might one day say I am glad that happened or I would not be where I am nor who I am today. It may at times throughout your life feel like a tornado when negative situations hit you all at once. But sometimes it takes a tornado to get you where you need to be because you weren't going to get there any other way. Seasons come and seasons go in our lives just like it does in nature. There are reasons for the seasons and everything happens for a reason. What you see will be determined by what you are looking for.

Wednesday, June 5, 2019

Getting ready for company gets things done that you had put off

My uncle visits once a year and it motivates me to go through the stuff that had slowly piled up throughout the year. It's amazing how much you accumulate. To prepare for his visit it all gets put up making room for company as well as room for the stuff I will accumulate throughout the year. I straighten up the house for my family to gather but it is easy to tuck things in another room out of sight. But when my uncle comes to visit for nine days I know I can't hide anything. Spring cleaning happens to prepare for his visit even though it isn't spring. I am thankful he makes me spring into action because I know my house will get organized at least once a year. When he is here each year we go to a certain restraunt twice during his visit. The rest of the year even though we could go there anytime. We only go when he is in town so it will be something we look forward to all year long as we wait for his return. The conversations we have throughout the year on the phone are nice. But in person, you can have a lot more chances to have "small talk" that neither of you will forget. You can listen to each other without any distractions and really understand what each other is really saying and feeling. You have time for "small talk" when you talk for hours that you can't say in a ten minute phone call. You can't do it in a text or two either, so no chance of "small talk" there. Memories that are tucked away in our minds have a chance to get relived the more "small talk" you have. It's hard to pass something on if no one stops long enough to listen. And for sure you can't pass anything on if you dont stop long enough to talk. In this fast paced world we live in we are in too big of a hurry to get together to just talk. And the closest some of us get to a real hug is a text or a poke from cyberspace. Stay connected to your human side.

Monday, June 3, 2019

To enjoy the simple things in life you got to keep things simple

The more complicated you make it the more complicated it will be. Keep things simple so you can simply do it. Like your car may simply need washed not a new paint job. Don't schedule more things than you can possibly do. There is a difference between what you need to do and what you would like to do. Making a to-do list of both your needs and wants will be overwhelming if you feel like it all has to get done. Making goals that are unreachable will simply set you up for failures. Be realistic about what you can do. It's okay to dream big but realistically it may never come true. Allow yourself to enjoy all your "small dreams" along the way that you accomplish. If you are going to enjoy life you have to enjoy it while you are living it. You will never have everything you want but you can enjoy everything you got. Keep it simple so you won't be too busy and you can enjoy the simple things in life.

Friday, May 31, 2019

How many sand bags do you plan on carrying as you climb the mountain?

The climb up the mountain called Life is going to be hard. But if you want to get to the top of the mountain you will have to do the hard work that it will take. Through your journey to get to the top you will face some unpleasant obstacles. Even though they may cause you pain or knock you down, you can only get to the top of the mountain if you get back up and get moving. You have to take the painful experience and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. If you don't flush it you will carry it with you like a sand bag, making your journey up the mountain harder. As you continue on your life's journey you will face many obstacles along the way. How many sand bags do you plan on carrying as you climb the mountain? At any time you want to ease your heavy load, remember you can get rid of a sand bag by taking the painful experience and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Once you feel the relief after letting go of a sand bag you will want to FLUSH IT in the future as it comes and not carry it on your journey. When something is weighing heavy on your mind remember it is a sand bag and all you got to do is JUST FLUSH IT to lighten your load. Peace of mind is just a flush away so JUST FLUSH IT!

Wednesday, May 29, 2019

I am too young to be so old

Growing up I thought you didn't feel old until you were almost seventy. But I realize now it happens when you turn fifty. My father in-law told me that one day when he was fifty he looked in the mirror and saw an old man looking back at him. I too looked in the mirror and said oh my you look like you are fifty years old. And I bust out laughing because I was fifty. He was also right about feeling in your mind that you were still a teenager. He told me this thirty years ago, when I was still in my twenties. He just didn't tell me that your body hurt like you were old. I am telling you this so if you are still young you know what to expect. So by the time you turn fifty make sure you do all the physically demanding things you want to do because when you are old you can't physically do them. When you buy your forever home make sure you don't have a bunch of stairs because you will have trouble climbing them. Build on a mother in-law suite so when you are old and you don't want to take care of a big house or need help you can live in it.  Don't collect a bunch of stuff either because then you are overwhelmed with junk you don't need or want to deal with. Your family doesn't want to have to do something with all the junk you have spent decades collecting either. I tried to get mine to take anything they wanted of my collections now so I could get rid of it, but they didn't want any of it. I have seen family members throw their parents belongings in the trash after they passed away. I couldn't believe they didn't at least take it to Goodwill so someone else could enjoy the junk. And I have to admit I myself am tired of all the junk I have. Unfortunately I can't bring myself to just drag it to the Goodwill. I don't know why because I don't want it. I wish I would have collected money or jewelry instead of Knick knacks. That for sure my family would want. Heck even I would want it. But all this pottery, glass, and trinkets are just junk that nobody wants, not even me. Because all your collections will be junk that collects dust that one day you will be to old to want to dust them.

Monday, May 27, 2019

A day to remember

Today we celebrate the life of those who have passed away. Your memories of them  come flooding into your mind. Every memory you relive is a chance to feel close to them. It also brings up the painful reality that they are no longer here with us. It is a day to reflect on how thankful and how lucky you are to be alive to celebrate Memorial Day. It reminds you how important it is to spend time with those around you all year long, creating happy memories. While you are gathered for your grill out today make plans to get together more often, not just on holidays. Happy Memorial Day.

Friday, May 24, 2019

Will you give a compliment just as fast?

You never know what will fly out of someone's mouth these days. I know I am surprised about the thoughts that quickly pop up in my mind that fly out of my mouth too quickly. The second I finish saying them I wander why on Earth I said it out loud. Your first thought about a negative situation is definitely too negative and you definitely shouldn't react until you think about the consequences your actions would bring. Without a doubt if someone does something negative everyone is quick to let them know. But rarely does anyone take the time to give someone a compliment when they deserve it. Do you take the time to compliment someone? I have been trying to make sure I do it whenever I can. Also I  was trying to not react when I encountered some pretty rude people.  On those days I had to bite my tongue. I had to remind myself of the old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all." Remember be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea the struggles they may be facing. Without saying a word you can bring a smile to someone's face, all you got to do is smile at them. It is a natural reaction they will smile back at you. A smile means peace in any language. 🌝

Wednesday, May 22, 2019

Meet in the middle

Every relationship takes give and take. It doesn't matter if it is a business relationship or a personal relationship. You need to meet in the middle if it is going to work out. Call it compromise, negotiation, fairness, meeting in the middle, or whatever you want to call it. It won't work out unless both sides are happy with the outcome. You will have to listen to what each of you need then you will know how you can meet in the middle. Also you listen so you know where exactly the middle is or if a middle could even be possibly reached. It's like each side building half of the bridge to meet in the middle without deciding together where to start so each side lines up together. Starting a mile away from each other will leave both of you with a bridge half built that leads both of you nowhere. To work it out you got to work out a compromise that works for everyone.

Monday, May 20, 2019

If you are going to get started you will have to get up and get moving

It takes work to get what you want done. So get up and get'r done. Things don't just happen, you have to do what it takes to make it happen. It may be harder than you thought but if you want it done you will have to do whatever it takes to get it done. You can't stop when things get tough. Because if you do it will never get done. Besides that if you don't finish then all you did was waste your time and energy. That's like building a bridge half way knowing it won't get you to the other side where you need to be. If it is something that you want then do whatever you have to in order to get it done. The sooner you get it done the sooner you can enjoy getting it done. So make a plan of what you need to do and get up and get'r done.