Monday, April 30, 2018

Sometimes when you are being honest about the situation you can't help but feel embarrassed

With my friends blessing I will share the experience she had just had. It all started when one of her children recently had their dryer stop working. With two young children they really needed a dryer. Like many people they couldn't afford $500 to buy a new one. So my friend and her daughter in law started posting on social media that they were in need of a used dryer. My friend found one for twenty dollars and it was located only 10 miles away from them. She made arrangements with the seller and told him they will excitedly be by to pick it up right away. She called her son to tell him she found one and she would loan him her truck and give him the twenty dollars to get it. She assumed he would be as excited as she was that finally they would have a dryer again. But instead of saying that is great mom thank you I will be right over his reaction was I can't do it today. He continued with it is my only day off this week and I am relaxing having a family day. She told him the man was waiting for them and the only day he could do it was his day off. But to her surprise he refused to go pick it up. Reluctantly and feeling embarrised she called the man who was selling her the dryer to tell him she was sorry she couldn't physically pick up dryer herself and her son was being lazy and ungrateful and didn't show any interest in helping. So she appreciated the opportunity to help her son and his family but he should put it back up for sale. To my friends surprise the gentleman told her don't be embarrassed and he would help her to help her son and his young family just like she had intended. He told her it would be his good deed for the week. He said I will deliver it to his house at no charge and I will even hook it up for them. Within minutes the gentleman showed up at her sons door and hooked up the dryer and disappeared like Santa in the blink of an eye. Her story is a great way to inspire all of us to get into the habit of doing like that kind gentleman and do one good deed a week. What a positive difference that would make in someone's life. She may never see him again but his kindness she will never forget. And thanks to that gentleman she can feel pride that she was able to make sure her son and his family had a dryer. On behalf of them all I would like to thank that gentleman for helping my dear friend.

Friday, April 27, 2018

You won't know until you are old

The older I get the more I understand what those before had to endure. I have realized that there are so many things you can't understand until you have experienced them for yourself. Like until you are a parent you will not understand what being a parent is really all about. Just because you have children doesn't mean you know what it is like to be a parent to grown children until your own children are grown. Now that I have experienced it I have a whole new respect for the type of parent my parents were.  It has made me want to say so many things to them but i can't because they have passed away. I understand the circle of life a whole lot better now that I am old. If your parents live long enough after you experience life for you to talk to then you are very lucky. Because there are millions of people who can't. I understand so much that I watched many of my family members and friends go through and it would be nice if I could talk to them now. I judged them so unfairly back then. I seriously understand why older people can seem a little grouchy at times. What they have had to endure throughout their life only to have their health deteriorating and those around them not old enough to understand them. I know that is frustrating. The choices they made that I criticized I now see what a smart choice it was. Those who are lucky enough to have the chance to talk to  their loved ones after they get old ought to record their conversations and share them with the World to at least let younger people know that one day they will understand everything. Perhaps it would get people to talk about your stories and find some kind of peace knowing that you shouldn't judge people because you have no idea what they are really going through. Which is why we all should be kind to everyone we encounter because we have no idea what they may be facing.

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Be honest with yourself if you want to have an honest chance

No matter how long you have known someone they don't nor could they possibly know everything about you. Your inner thoughts are what make up the reality you live. Besides that we all have our little things that we don't want anyone else to know about. So if you aren't honest with yourself when making important decisions through out your life then you are honestly in trouble. You need to sit down alone in a quiet comfortable space and be totally honest with yourself. Making your solution something you know darn well you are not going to do will only make things worse. You can only do what you can do and if you are honest with yourself you will know just how you are going to do it.

Monday, April 23, 2018

Just flush it so you can relax

Life is full of ups and downs. There will be good days and bad days. Luckily you can FLUSH away a bad day. Every day is a day you can decide to enjoy. All you have to do is decide to enjoy every moment of every day. By making sure you don't keep negative thoughts fresh on your mind so it can't stink up your day.  Instead of waiting for something big to happen which is rare in your lifetime make sure you enjoy the little things that happen everyday. If you look for the good things in life to enjoy they are easy to find. Your thoughts are your reality.

Friday, April 20, 2018

What are you spreading?

One thing leads to another. Which is why everything you do and everything you choose not to do is important. If you found mold growing in your home you would quickly do whatever it takes to get rid of it before it spreads any further. Because you know if you ignore it that it won't go away on it's own. The same is true for ignoring bad behavior. It will spread quickly if you don't stop it immediatly. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make. Unfortunately unlike mold you ignore in your home which only you have to deal with if you choose to ignore bad behavior you see happening in our neighborhoods we all have to suffer the consequences for it. You may not care unless it happens to you or someone you love but if you ignore it then it will eventually happen to you or someone you love. In order to insure that it won't happen you have to stop it from happening at all.

Wednesday, April 18, 2018

There is a beginning and a middle and an end

You have to stop in the beginning before you react so you can decide what is the best way to react. Because if you don't you sure won't stop in the middle once you are reacting. And in the end you won't be able to stop the consequences for how you reacted. And let's face it your first reaction to something happening that is negative is very negative. So unless you want it to have a negative outcome for you in the end you need to stop and think about what your actions will bring. The outcome of the situation is determined by how you react to your situation not the situation itself.

Monday, April 16, 2018

Putting yourself first is being smart not selfish

Helping others feels nice but you shouldn't do it if helping would hurt you in any way. You can't give till it hurts you. You give what you can, if you can and only when you can. If you need to put yourself first just remember it's not being selfish it's being smart. The smartest thing for yourself and for everyone around you is for you to take care of yourself. You can't be there for others if you don't take care of yourself. To be the best you can be you have to do what is best for you. It is ok to tell someone I would if I could but I can't. You would be surprised to learn that even if you say no I can't that they can figure it out on their own. But if you always say yes then they figure you want to and they don't have to figure it out on their own. Why would they.? It is much easier to just let someone else do it. Don't wear yourself down doing more than you can handle especially if they don't even need you to. Instead of just doing it to help you need to wait until your help is needed.

Friday, April 13, 2018

Sometimes you just have to sit back and wait

Don't spend your time stressing out over what MIGHT happen. Even if it turns out ok you will have suffered the damage on so many personal levels for nothing. The damage can't be undone. The stress on your mind and body will weaken your overall well being for as long as you live. And it was UNNECESSARY because in the end what your thoughts were that you lived through wasn't even what happened in reality. Be careful not to worry about anything until when and only if it is something to worry about.

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Saying thank you goes a long way

When someone makes you feel thankful for what they did then say thank you. Those words they will be thankful to hear. Being thankful for all the little things in life makes a big impact on your outlook. The more you feel like you are making a positive difference with your random acts of kindness the more you want to spread it to others. Which is why saying thank you for what someone did for you is your way of helping it spread all around the world.

Monday, April 9, 2018

Proving that you are right may prove to be a problem

Some people from their point of view may think they are right. But from the other persons point of view they believe that they are right. It therefore can mean that you both are right. It may seem impossible that you could both be right about it. But if you view it from each each other's point of view you would see that it is possible. Unfortunately there are people who demand that they are right and refuse to even consider any point of view but theirs. They will simply close their minds and create problems as they argue to prove to you that they are right. But sometimes if you want to get along with each other you need to do the right thing no matter if in your point of view you are right. Being right with each other makes both of you feel alright about where your relationship is. Neither of you have to admit you were wrong just admit that you each have a valid point.

Friday, April 6, 2018

What else can you do with it?

Life sure can be full of negative boulders that appear out of no where and block your path in Life. Sometimes you can see it coming and you have time to get out of it's way by being able to quickly go around it. Sometimes it appears without any warning and you run smack into it and get knocked down Obviously either way you have no choice but to accept it and JUST FLUSH IT so you can continue moving down your path.
   JUST FLUSH IT.........FLUSH it as it comes.
   JUST FLUSH IT.........FLUSH away your doubts.
   JUST FLUSH IT.........It's the only way.
   You got to JUST FLUSH IT out (to keep moving)

Peace of mind really is just a FLUSH away!

Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Is it really something that should be ignored?

Even though you shouldn't ignore it that doesn't stop it from being ignored.  If you wouldn't want it to happen to you or someone you love then you have to stop it from happening to anyone. Because if you ignore it then it becomes acceptable which leads to it becoming a common occurrence. So when you choose to ignore it then get prepared for it to happen to you or someone you love. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make. Unfortunately the choices that adults make now will determine what children will live with forever.

Monday, April 2, 2018

In the heat of the moment

It is hard to explain the thoughts you say out loud in the heat of the moment. Sometimes you don't even know where the thought even came from. It doesn't even sound like any thought you would have. But there are times when even though you usually try to think before you say it out loud there are times when it flies like a speeding train right out of your mouth. After you say it out loud you instantly say to yourself with regret why on earth did I say that. When you do you sure can't deny that you said it. You can't take it back so you have to accept that you are human and you sure didn't say it out loud on purpose. You will just have to accept it for what it is and unfortunately live with the regret. Take it as a reminder why you should always try to think before you say it out loud.