A chance for change.

As we are nearing the end of 2015 we need to take a moment to sit down and reflect on all that has happened this year. The things you have faced and experienced both good and bad will lead you to the direction you want to go in the new year so you can make a plan. The New Year is a chance to make a change to make a difference between last year and what the coming year will be for you. If you don't change anything you do then it will be same old stuff just a different year.

Make a plan not a resolution

Christmas is over and the leftovers from all the food is gone. All the trash is set out for the garbage man to take away. As New Years approaches be sure to Flush all the garbage that has been weighing heavy on your mind all year just like you throw away the trash after Christmas. If you want to enjoy the New Year make a plan and stick to it not make a resolution that you have no intention of doing.

Happiness filled the air

Merry Christmas everyone! Every Christmas it seems we have to dig through the trash because something got thrown away in all the chaos. To avoid that we planned a spot for each person and stacked their presents. Each child was by a grown up who had a garbage bag. We quickly bagged the trash and took straight outside. We then bagged up everyone's gifts so they could open at home so they wouldn't lose part of it. As.my son was leaving he said you did get both.if those gift cards taped to the outside of your present didn't you? And there I go searching the trash to find my second gift card.

When will the Holiday shopping traffic jams end?

All this bumper to bumper traffic will come to an end as the shopping has to come to an end because tomorrow is Christmas Eve. Tomorrow as everyone gathers it is a time focused more on the conversations with family and friends. A time to catch up as you eat dinner while listening to some Christmas music. And no matter what the temperature is outside where you live, you can envision the snow as Elvis starts singing I'm dreaming of a white Christmas. The older you are the more you can't wait till Christmas Morning to watch everyone open their presents. Wishing everyone a Holly Jolly Christmas!

Pack your Silk Stockings!

There is a cold chill in the air reminding us it is almost Christmas. As you bundle up remember several thin layers will allow you to bend your arms while it keeps you warm. Did you know that back in the olden days they use to make a pair is stockings a part of a soldiers survival kit ? It's true. You see the different thin weaves prevented the wind from finding its way in. They had to remain mobile so no heavy thick coats that could prevent their swift movements that were necessary. Happy Holidays Everyone and stay warm!

Eye candy that is yummy for your tummy.

Someone gave me a recipe the other day to try on Christmas. It was a pretty normal recipe for a cake with whip cream instead of icing until she said to crumble the cake layers. When I asked why she said it was easier to just spoon out to serve. Also the punch bowl with all the different colored layers of ingredients made a festive look on your table. I don't own a punchbowl but I will get some kind of glassware and decorate my Christmas Dinner Table to give them "candy for their eyes" and "yummy for their tummy".

Be relaxed so you can enjoy it!

Christmas is just days away now. I want to remind all of you that it is not about going into debt or spending your bill money to buy presents. Everyone that is a grown up certainly doesn't need anything nor do they want you to nor expect you to. They do however expect some good food they can eat. They hope you will be in a jolly festive mood not stressed out about the cost of the presents you got them. The reason for the season is to spend time together enjoying each others company and of course the food.

Help them get unclogged

Far too many people are so clogged that they lose hope. Their minds are so full that they don't have room to even dream of a brighter future. You don't have to solve all their problems to help them. Just help them Learn "how to" FLUSH anything they can to help clear their mind some. Then they will have room to dream and they will have hope of a brighter future. Send a smile their way and it will distract them long enough to catch their breath so they have the oxygen they need to FLUSH AWAY A BAD DAY.

Should you or shouldn't you?

Most of the time if you have to keep thinking about whether you should do something or not then you probably shouldn't. Of course every decision you make you need to think about before you react to anything. But if you have to keep debating whether you should or shouldn't over and over again then deep down inside you know you shouldn't. When you feel it deep in the pit of your stomach it's not always gas it's your built in warning system trying to stop you from making a mistake. Sometimes what you are about to do could majorly affect your life in a negative way. Yet the warning goes off when you are Christmas shopping too to stop you from spending too much money for things that people don't need or even want.

Please no more gifts!

Now is the perfect time to do spring cleaning even though it is winter time. As Christmas approaches you realize your house is overflowing with stuff. While you are doing your shopping for others you realize now that they are all older even the grandkids have more toys then their parents have room for. Which makes shopping for them harder. It is time to start buying gift cards for everyone. When they ask me what I want I keep telling them PLEASE don't buy me anything because there is nothing I need and no where to put anymore Holiday Gifts. It's true when people tell you they don't want anything. All they want is for you to come by eat and spend time together.

A Christmas Scarecrow

Although there is no snow it is beginning to look a lot like Christmas. All the decorations are up and the presents are wrapped, at least the ones I have bought so far. But I can't put the presents under the tree again this year because my two year old lab hasn't stopped chewing things. Last year I had to keep them in another room. This year I have some large tall boxes that I can hide them away from her in. I am going to decorate each big box into a robot. I usually make smaller robots out of smaller gifts but this year as my lab has grown so big I have to make big tall robots to hopefully work like a scarecrow and keep her away from eating the presents.

It means something different

Although I live in one of the warmest states, I dread the cold front that is moving in. To my uncle who lives up north it is beautiful fall weather considering the temperatures barely get above freezing when it is winter there. But still to me it feels like winter. The same is true for the different circumstances we each face. A car repair to one person can be as devastating when you don't have the money to get it repaired as much as a stock market crash is to someone who is wealthy. What might seem manageable to one person may seem impossible to someone else.

Leave one to spread it

When you think of Christmas it brings such peaceful, happy, loving and compassionate feelings. Unlike the other Holidays of the year that we celebrate, you feel that jolly for two or three weeks not just for a day. If only those emotions could be felt all 365 days a year we would have World Peace. All it would take for World Peace is to simply be compassionate and loving which will make you feel peaceful and happy. I figured if we all try by leaving one small Christmas decoration up where everyone can see it all year long it would spread peace to one person at a time .

Be kind not foolish

Sometimes we push ourselves physically and mentally to help others. If it is something that really makes a difference in their quality of Life than it is worth it. But to push yourself doing things for others that really doesn't matter at all is definitely not worth it. You have to put your own health and time in making your quality of life better. If you run yourself ragged you won't be able to help those around you if they really need you. Be kind to others but don't be foolish.

Time to decorate

The day after thanksgiving its time to decorate the Christmas tree. Although you may be tired from all the turkey as you drag out the boxes of ornaments you get excited with energy to see them. Everyone has their favorites. Most of them have memories that pop up in your mind bringing a smile to your face. It is a trip down memory lane. As the colorful lights brighten up the whole room you can't help but enjoy them.

Your Health V.S. Saving Money

It's been a busy day for many people. Thanksgiving Dinner takes two days of cooking. By then you are tired enough to sleep till noon but you can't because you got to get up early to do it all over again. I can't imagine after all that hard work there will be millions out in the middle of the night to get the bargains. I would rather relax because I earned it and I am too tired to get up for it. But I am worth the money it will cost me that I could have saved because wearing your your body too far could cost you your Health.Happy Thanksgiving everyone. Enjoy those you love and be thankful you are alive to enjoy it.

Every day you have

It is easy to lose track of the time or even days when you got too much on your mind. With all the planning of the holiday and the kids out of school I lost another Monday. And as old as I am time is flying by fast enough without losing days. Every day becomes precious the older you get. But Monday wasn't totally lost I had a great day with the grandkids and enjoying every day you can with those you love is a good day.

How many times can you forget?

I have been to the store three times to do the Thanksgiving Dinner shopping yet there are still things I need. The first time I forgot my list. The second time I forgot to pull it out of my pocket while I was at the store. Now as I was making my list of what I was preparing I realize there were things I forgot to put on the list. Does this ever happen to anyone else? I seem to be wasting a lot of time and energy just buying the supplies. Now begins the Holiday dusting. I have decided since I was dusting shelves anyways for Thanksgiving I will just put out the Christmas decorations early to save my energy later to do all the Christmas shopping. Happy Holidays early!

He turned from being my son to a daddy

As I talked to my young granddaughter about the Thanksgiving Holiday we were discussing who all would be coming. Somehow the subject came up that her Daddy was my son. She became very upset and kept saying he isn't your son he is my Daddy. I tried to explain that he was her Daddy but he was also my son. The more I tried to explain it the more upset she got. She would tell me over and over again eventually almost crying that he was her Daddy. Finally I gave up and just agreed he was only her Daddy. Apparently if she agreed with me she thought he couldn't be her Daddy anymore. Her fear of losing her Daddy far outweighed trying to make her understand that he was a Daddy and a son.

Time to dust off the recipes

As Thanksgiving approaches it's time to bring out the Family Recipes. Strange how certain foods you only make at the Holidays even though they are some of everyone's favorite foods. But that is what makes Holiday Dinners something everyone can't wait to eat. Now that my children are grown and have families of their own, I even make extra pans of their favorites to take home. The family doesn't gather often to spend the day together which makes Holidays special. The Christmas season starts early the next morning as the bargain shopping begins at some places at 4:00 am.

Everyone is not a mind reader

They don't know if you don't tell them. You may assume that those around you know what you need but they don't. If they would have known I am sure they would have helped. If you would let those around you know then you can work together to make sure it works out for you. If you don't ask then don't get mad when they don't help because they assumed you had it all worked out and didn't need their help. Everyone is not a mind reader even though they are close to you. When they understand they will lend a hand.

Thanks to those who made freedom possible

Holidays are times when we finally take a moment to see why we should be thankful. But everyday you wake up in the morning is a reason to be thankful. Having a place to call home is a reason too. Don't wait till only on the holidays to be thankful. Say thank you to people that you are thankful for what they have done each day. Be thankful That you are alive to say thank you. Show your appreciation to our veterans each day because everyday is another day they have given you freedom.

You can postpone it till you miss it

There is always the chance that if you keep postponing what you need to do you will miss getting it done on time. For example I kept attempting to write my blog yesterday but I would get distracted and kept saying I will get it later. After three postponements I ended up going to bed forgetting that I never got it done. I had three chances to get my monday blog done but here it is Tuesday. If it is something that you need done don't postpone it just do it so it can be done on time.

Appreciate what you have

You may not have everything you want but if you have what you need you should be thankful for that. When times are tough it is tough to stay positive. But the mere fact that you are alive to deal with them is a reason to smile. Look for reasons to smile and you will find them. Look only at the things that are negative will only make life harder. Your point of view will determine your reality.

Wrinkles are forever

Like the saying goes if you don't have anything nice to say it is best to say nothing at all. When you are angry your words come out spewing anger on anyone within earshot. Even if you don't utter a word your face shows it. And your mom was right when she said don't make ugly faces before it sticks on you forever. And those deep wrinkles you make when you are mad don't go away. The next time you get angry look in the mirror and you will know why you need to flush.

World Peace is possible!

In order for there to be World Peace people need to have "Peace of Mind". In todays society that is hard. But it is possible. Peace of Mind is just a Flush away. It starts by learning how to first take the painful experiences from your past and Just Flush them out of your mind. Then learn how to flush away negative things as they come. There will always be things that you experience that will happen but as long as you flush them as they come you will have room to have peace of mind. World peace starts with one person at a time one flush at a time.

Make them Smile

Tomorrow is Halloween. Not many people decorate their yards for this holiday. To those that do I would like to Thank You. I enjoy looking at them as I drive by each day. It brings a smile to my face each time my eyes go directly towards them as soon as they get in my sight. Automatically and subconsciously my mind is focused on your decorations forcing me to Smile everytime I pass by. It reminds me that I need to be sure to decorate my front yard this Christmas season to force a smile on those that pass by. On Halloween night all the kids will be smiling as they dress up and get some candy.

It takes oxygen

There is always something that needs to be done. You work all week and work on your days off getting everything done that you need to get done. When you are making your"to do" list be sure and schedule in a break or two for yourself. Getting a break to relax and take in a few breaths of oxygen is just as important as any job you have scheduled for yourself. Each day in order to be able to get done with everything you have planned to do plan on getting the oxygen your body needs to be able to do it. Being too busy that you can't think straight will cloud your judgment making it impossible to get it all done right. It takes oxygen to your brain to function properly so take a break to stop and breathe throughout your busy day.

Why would you put yourself through it?

The first time you experience something painful is enough! Learn what you need to from it to make sure it doesn't happen again. But if you keep reliving it over and over again in your mind you have to feel it over and over again. It was bad enough the first time that someone else hurts you but why on earth would you put yourself through it over and over again? You can be your own worst enemy. You may not been able to prevent it from ever hurting you but you can prevent it from ever hurting you again if you stop reliving it over and over again in your mind. "Just Flush It" out of your mind over and over again every time it pops into your mindso you don't have to relive it over and over again.

You may have prevented it

When someone you care about ask you for your opinion you have to be honest. Sometimes it is a serious circumstance they are facing and they are looking to you for facts as you see them. You help by pointing out the facts and weighing out the consequences in their decision on how to react to it. If you are honest no matter if they take it to heart or form their own opinion and go down a path that in your opinion is wrong, you will feel good that you were honest. If you just agreed with their point of view and didn't give your honest opinion and they choose the wrong way you would honestly feel horrible because your honest opinion may have prevented it.

Time to go

Everyday is a new day. A day to enjoy your life. So when negative memories of your past pop up in your mind you got to FLUSH them out of your mind before they have a chance to fill your new day with problems from your past. If you plan on enjoying each day then plan on leaving your past behind you so you can. You can't change the past but you can change your thoughts to enjoy your todays. Peace of mind is just a flush away all you got to do is JUST FLUSH IT.

Care enough to help

Some things in Life you do over and over again a time or two throughout your Life's journey. It is definitely helpful to have prior first hand knowledge but it can still be challenging. Things are different then they were a decade or two earlier. Which means what worked back then may not work today. Nowadays with the technology of computers it is the only way to take care of almost everything. Knowing where to go or who to talk to is helpful but not how it is done today. Unfortunately technology takes away the Human connection which is needed sometimes to get someone to care enough to help get it done at times.

Look and you shall find

If you look for something positive in the circumstances you are in you will find them. If you look for something negative in the circumstances you are in you will find them. For example if you need to repair something in your home you can see both the positive negative in the situation. Of course you can be angry that you have to do it at all or you can be glad you have a home to work on. There are many people who don't have a home. I am positive if you look for something positive it will make it easier on you. I am positive if you focus on the negatives it will only make it harder for you.

What will your actions bring?

Once something is done it is what it is. It can't be undone. All you can do now is damage control. It is a lot easier to step back from the situation and thinks about how you should react to prevent the damage in the first place. If you can control yourself long enough to think about it you will give yourself time to realize that your first reaction would have done damage. Take a step back because you will make the best decision on how to react after you think about what your actions would bring.

It's a challenge

Boy how hard Life can be dealing with the endless challenges you have to face throughout your Life. It doesn't get easier the older you get either. Unfortunately no matter how many times you have faced the challenges nor how hard you try to avoid them they keep coming throughout your Life. But like the song says ...let the sun shine in and face it with a grin. Winners never lose and losers never win. Just grin and bear it and Just Flush It as it comes to keep smiling because its just Life and in the end its your Life so enjoy it while you are living it.

One day they will see

As you go through life the younger generations can not understand the older generations way of thinking. But one day when they get older and have experienced things they will. Until you experience it you can not possibly see it. If you are lucky you will live long enough to here them say now I understand what you were talking about. Until they do you just have to hear them say you are just grouchy and set in your ways.

Clear it before it floods

Too bad they can't take the excess water causing flooding in South Carolina and ship it to California where they are in a drought. I hear them debating putting pipe lines in for oil maybe they could consider pipelines to transfer the water. You can be flooded at times with too many thoughts but you have pipelines built in. It doesn't have to fly out of your mouth you can choose to flush it out of your mind so it can not do any damage. Because if you let all the negative thoughts fly out of your mouth or build up it can do devastating damage just like the floods in South Carolina.

You caused the damage

When you are too angry for your own good it not only affects you but also those around you. Even when you have had time to think about it and are able to"Just Flush It" the physical damage to your body can not be undone. Those around you that had to endure the anger that you spewed on them may not be able to"JFI" out of their minds. Whatever angered you has happened but the damage to you and those around you were caused by how you reacted to it. Learn how to"Just Flush It" quickly to prevent any damage.

With each blink

When the Halloween costumes fill the store you realize it is already almost the end of another year. It's been 10 months yet it feels like it was only a couple of months ago you were celebrating the New Year. The Dollar Tree Store has put out their Christmas decorations the same time as their Halloween. In the blink of an eye it seems another month has gone by. Here I am buying costumes for Halloween and Christmas wrapping paper at the same time knowing that before I blink twice it will be Christmas already. So hey guess I need to make my mind up now for my New Years resolutions because the third time I blink it will be New Years Day.

You learn as you go

Some things you won't understand until you experience it. Some things you learn through watching those you know experience it. You can't just assume you know. You can guess but without real knowledge it is a guess that won't necessarily be anywhere near the actual facts. And without the facts then I guess you may make the wrong decision. If you are in doubt then I doubt that getting the facts is no doubt the only decision you should make. If you don't learn before you get the facts then you will learn the hard way that your guess was wrong.

The price you pay

There are times throughout your Life when you are your own worst enemy. Of course there are many things you go through that are due to no fault of your y. But how you react to even those will determine just how badly you are affected by them. If it is something that has hurt you or angered you then take a moment or two or three, to think about it before you react. Because your first reaction will be an angry defense reaction that can and will only make things worse for you. The damage you will have to endure won't be just from what happened to you it will be the price you because of how you chose to react to it.

Spend your time wisely

Time flies by and every moment you have you have to use wisely. To enjoy every moment you have to not waste your time thinking about what has happened in your past. Those moments are gone you can't change them no matter how often you think about them. You miss out on the chance to enjoy the moment you are living in now. Today is yours to enjoy so flush your painful past. Remember tomorrow may never come so enjoy Life while you are living it.

What do you see?

When you are waiting to see only the brightest star you over look the other well placed stars like the little dipper. When you search for only the faults of others you won't see the good things about them. When you look for trouble you will find it. You can only see what you look for. If you only think about the negative moments from your past you won't get a chance to remember any of the good memories. Things in life happen but how you look at them will determine what see. Look for the good things in a situation and that is what you will find.

You can't stop the rain

Instead of getting angry when it seems to rain every afternoon for months you need to learn when not to go out. You can plan your daily outside duties to make sure you don't make plans between 3-5. Getting angry that it rains everyday is stress that you could have avoided. Which less stress is a physically healthy choice since stress makes you physically sick. And when you see the devastating fires in California you should be thankful that it is raining every afternoon where you live. Accept the things you can not change because getting angry is not going to stop the rain it will only make you unhealthy.

What are you passing on?

As the Circle of Life rolls on you learn all you need to in the first half. The second half is when you have a chance to make Life easier for the next generation. Don't pass on your anger. Don't pass on your debt. Don't pass on your bad habits. Don't pass on nor excuse bad behavior. Pass on Love, compassion for others, Hope and make this World a better place. One random act of kindness can spread but only if we each choose to pass it on to others will it spread. The World won't get better on it's own we all must do our part.

Cross it off your"to do list"

There are times when your"to do list" is stressful just to even think about. You can feel physically tired by just thinking. To keep from being overwhelmed,separate your list into smaller list. What has to get done from what would be nice to get done and cross off anything that really doesn't matter if it gets done at this moment. You will be surprised how much you actually get done when you have less stress by simply concentrating on only one short list at a time. In Life some things are just mind over matter and it helps when you take what really doesn't matter and"JFI" out of your mind.

You can't take it back

Once it flies out of your mouth, you can't take it back. Thoughts that anger you should be flushed out of your mind before they spew out of your mouth onto others. They should be flushed before they fester inside you raising your blood pressure. Remember if you write it in cyberspace permanent ink it is still flying out of your mouth. You can hit delete all you want but it is permanent ink so remember that before you hit send.

What you spread we all sow.

The World won't get better on its own as we can all see as we watch the news. We all must do our part. There is no magic wand that can be waved to fix it either. It has to start with you and I. Every seed of kindness we plant as we go through our day will one day be a harvest that every person in the World can benefit from. Its true you reap what you sow. Remember that when you are angry and JUST FLUSH IT so it doesn't spread to others which will help to stop the insanity we see in society.

Get in the habit

There are some things that happen so fast there is nothing you can do about it. But the lack of empathy and compassion for other Human Beings is not one of them. For decades from one generation to another we have created it by passing on our anger, frustration and self centeredness. We are all born with compassion but are taught from those around us. Get in the Habit of passing along the compassion for others to replace the insanity we see in society. Teach the Habit of Humanity.

Everything leads to something

Every thing good and bad that happens leads you to where you will go in Life. And sometimes you have a tornado rip through it and it is hard to understand that even being uprooted and battered was necessary. It may just be the only way you could get where you were meant to be. Your actions during and after the storm will determine whether you grow where you have been planted. If you choose to stand there stomping your feet in anger because it happened you can't grow roots anywhere.

Your actions and your words are your choice

Your true character is judged on what you do and say. Your bad behavior is judged by what you have done and said. Your kindness can only benefit someone if you do or say something kind. No matter what has been done or said to you in your past you still have a choice about everything you do or say today. We all have had things that have been done or said to us that we could place blame. But you can only blame yourself for what you do and for the words that come out of your mouth that you say. What do your actions and words say about you?

No guarantee of tomorrow

Those that say 50 is the new 30 are lying. Your body feels like it is 50. One thing though when you are 50 you realize you are running out of time and having the physical ability to be able to do the things that you have put off since you were 30. So if there is anything you plan on doing hurry up and Just Do It! Without a doubt by age 50 you have seen enough to know that you can't keep putting it off till tomorrow because for some of those you have loved have died before tomorrow came. Yesterday has already gone and tomorrow may never come but today is yours to enjoy.

Slow down or you will lose it

In this fast paced World we live in don't forget about what is really important to you. Running around so fast your head spins making thinking clearly a little cloudy at times. Take the time and give the attention necessary to take care of the necessities in Life. You can hop off the fast lane and hop back on again unless you neglect to keep a place to be able to hop off and get some rest at. How fast you can go to keep up in this fast paced World depends on how smart you are to slow down long enough to take care of the necessities in Life.

Change the channel

Every time you think about it you feel it. So if you don't like the feeling it brings you then don't think about it. I know the thought may pop up in your mind over and over but you will have to"Just Flush It". Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts that never ends. But just because it pops up in your mind from and center trying to "grab" your attention doesn't mean you have to pay attention to it. Learn to "JFI" out of your mind at a quick glance without giving it a chance to make you feel it. Just like changing the channel at the first sign of a commercial.

Will you face the storms alone?

Are they a fair weather friend or a friend you weather the storms with? It is not hard to figure out. As you go through Life make sure you choose your friends wisely. The same is true no matter what age you are. The best friend you will ever have though is yourself. And keep in mind that you can also be your own worst enemy. So be true to yourself. Don't abandon your standards nor abandon your true friends when a fair weather friend blows in one season. Because the next storm that blows in they will follow the sun and you will be standing alone as the storm rages in.

Gets your boots on and climb

Once you become an adult the more understanding you have of Life in general. And unfortunately you may think the challenges you face seems a lot harder then what you saw your parents go through. But trust me it isn't. We all face challenges throughout our lives. It is just growing pains. There will be boulders thrown in your way as you go through your Life's journey and mountains to climb. You must learn to go around the boulders and put on your boots and start climbing. It is just Life and it is your choice whether you get angry and stay where you are or get up and get moving and enjoy your Life while you are living it.

I need you to help spread it

Have you ever saw a product and say why didn't I think of that? Or even worse to see a product that you did think of it and thought it was something that was needed by others yet you didn't do anything to be the first one to get it out to others. Thousands of people could also say they thought of it yet the first person to pursue it is the only one who can benefit from it. And then there are also those that acted on it and own it yet they haven't figured out how to grow it nor market it, like me. To anyone out there reading this who has any advice or ideas or who just wants to spread peace on earth by bringing peace of mind to as many people as possible please help me spread the message behind JFI. Peace of mind will be possible for them if they learn how to JFI out of their mind so it has room to get in.

Will you choose to think about it?

How important is a memory? A memory is never forgotten. A memory of something that hurt you or angered you will make you feel angry and hurt. A pleasant memory will make you smile. As a memory is triggered by a sight, smell or sound thoughts pop up in your mind. Choose quickly at a glance which memories you want to relive again. As the endless stream of thoughts goes through your mind learn which ones will evoke a negative feeling at a quick glance and "Just Flush It" out of your mind. Not all the memories you have in your mind are ones you want to remember but at least. You can choose to FLUSH away the bad memories. Peace if mind really is just a FLUSH Away so "JFI".

Watching your children grow up is confirmation your getting OLD

One day your kids are born and you get to hold them and rock them. Then they turn two and are squirming out of your hands to go exploring. Then comes the I am independent stage when they think they know everything. Then comes those teenage years when they think they are invincible and try everything. Then they fall in Love,get married and have their own children that you get to hold and rock them. It's the circle of Life so pass on the good things as you live it.

Your choice this time

How many times do you have to relive the same day over and over again? If it was a positive memory then the more times the better. But if it is a memory of something that hurt you then once is enough! It was bad enough the first time and why would you choose to relive it over and over again in your mind? It wasn't your choice to live it the first time but you can choose to "Just Flush It" out of your mind when it pops into your mind so you never have to relive it again.

A thought away

You miss out on a lot when you walk around angry all the time. You are too angry to see what is right in front of your face. You can be so angry that those in your path run away from you. When you are angry you raise your blood pressure causing physical damage to your body that can't be undone. You don't wake up angry but as soon as you think about something that angers you then you become angry. You got to "Just Flush It" as the angry thoughts come. Because one thought at a time can make a world of difference on how you feel.

Now I see it

When I was younger I didn't understand nor did I even notice really. As I Look back now I see it clearly and I have many moments that I say oh yeah that was how they felt or now I remember. That is why when those that are younger question why I feel a certain way or do things they just don't understand I simply tell them one day when you are my age you will see. I used to try to explain my point but realized that some things you just can't see until you are older. You may not agree nor understand how anyone else see's things but don't harshly judge them just because you can't see it. We are all unique and our experiences are different so of course how we feel and think is gonna be different.

It's your choice how you choose to remember it

A recent phone call with a family friend brought up all kinds of memories. We laughed the hardest when we reminisced about the day we got drenched by a heavy down pour. She reminded me that if I hadn't forgot where my car was parked we would have got only a little wet not drenched. We laughed so hard at the fun we had stomping in the puddles since we were drenched anyways. From one end of the parking lot to a football field away at the garden center entrance. Now we could have been frustrated and forgotten about it over all these years but instead we cherish that memory more than any other one we shared. It really is all in how you choose to remember it.

take your time or waste it

When you have something that you need to get done take the time necessary to do it. Don't rush just to say you did it because if you skipped a step you didn't get the job done. The step you missed will cause you to eventually do it all over again because a staircase that is missing a step won't allow you to reach the top. It's like putting only three tires on your car knowing you can't drive anywhere till you put all the tires on.

The frustrating circle

Funny how "little things" happen that you know are just a part of "The Circle of Life". For example my teenage son had a friend over for a day of fun playing his new video game. As I was close by I could hear my son tell him "no you don't want to do that you will just lose a life. But his friend did it anyways and became frustrated when in fact just like my son had warned him he lost his life in the game. Over and over again I would hear my son warn him about dangers hidden in the game. After all it was his game that his friend was playing for the first time. Over and over again he wouldn't listen and he would lose a life. I mean hour after hour through all different levels he would warn his friend and his friend did it anyways. Well the point is we all have wisdom to pass on to spare others the turmoil in their life but just like my son those you tried to warn ignored the warning. The Circle of Life.....

You can enjoy it if you want to.

As you go through your Life be sure to enjoy the"little things". If you wait only for the"big things" to happen to enjoy you won't have much Joy in your Life. Because they are few and far between if any come at all. Like the plague on my wall says "I asked God for all things that I might enjoy Life, He gave me Life to enjoy all things". It's your Life to live and its your choice whether you enjoy it or not. You may not get everything you want in Life but to be Happy in Life all you have to do is be thankful you have what you need.

Pass it on!

Good hearted people all over the world are being silenced by the hurtful things that others have said and done to them. I am hear to tell you if you don't"Just Flush It" out of your mind you will never have"Peace of Mind". There can never be Peace on Earth if the good hearted people don't "JFI" so they can have peace of mind to be able to pass it on to others. If you want World Peace it will take as many people as possible to have peace of mind to SPREAD it. It begins with you and I and bringing peace of mind to OUR neighborhoods one person at a time.

Have a "Goid Belly Laugh" to refresh yourself

Do you remember the game of charades? That was a game that made a whole group of people laugh helping them flush away all their negative energy. You feel young and alive as you excitedly wait for the next attempt at a word. You laugh so hard you can feel like you are going to pee in your pants kind of belly laugh. The kind you feel from your head to your toes laugh that can relax you. Trying doing something that you know will give you a chance to have a "Good Belly Laugh" even if it is over something silly. Turn something simple into feeling refreshed like you just left a Spa.

Only what you can handle

Sometimes there just isn't enough hours in a day to get everything done that needs to get done. It begins to take its toll on you mentally and physically. Especially when the demands you have takes days of cramming too many tasks into each hour. Just make sure you don't over do it causing a physical overload that will force you to a grounding halt. Because then in the middle of all your unfinished projects you will break down and not finish any of them. Finish them one by one in order of importance to you then if you need a break you will be able to relax and take one knowing the most important things are done. You must realize that if it is more than you can handle then handle what you can and don't sweat the small stuff if you want to get the necessities' done.

Nothing is simple any more

Have you ever tried to make an old family recipe? Although you follow the instructions exactly as written yet it taste nothing like it did when they made it way back then. Well I have learned that the ingredients we buy today can be the difference not your baking skills. For instance three cups of flour back then is five cups today because of all the sifting done in making flour today. The same is true in many areas of life compared to back then. In simpler times life was simpler. In the 21st century things change from minute to minute and you got to bend like a pretzel to keep up with the flow just to simply survive.

No matter how many miles away

Family and friends move hundreds of miles away from each other. But no matter how many miles apart you are they live with you in your heart. Once you build a bond as long as you talk to each other as you both go through life experiences you will feel as if you were there experiencing it with them. As there children grow up you follow the changes and cheer their successes and comfort them through the bumpy times. Although emails and texts help you keep up it takes hearing their voices to stay bonded and feel them in your heart. Pick up the phone and stay connected with the human touch no matter how many miles apart.

Can anyone feel it?

What do you think people will remember about you? Now don't think it will be all the good intentions you had. It will be based on all the things you did do and say. If you only think about what you could've should've done then in reality all the could've and should've wouldn't have been felt by anyone. You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone see it or feel it?

A flicker of light

Sometimes they only need some encouraging words to get them moving in the right direction. From time to time even the most positive thinking people can feel like they are lost in the total darkness of despair over circumstances they may be facing. With a little encouragement they can see a flicker of light in their darkness that sheds light on their negative thoughts allowing them to clearly see they need to JUST FLUSH them out of their mind and it will get them moving again.

Enjoy it while you can

As winter turned to spring all the trees get covered with healthy green leaves in just a matter of days after spring begins. This year one of our trees didn't have new green leaves and one branch looked ready to be trimmed it was dead. Although it wasn't as full and green like the other trees in our yard some of its leaves from before winter were still there. Then out of the blue almost overnight the entire tree turned brown and had died. In Life the leaves on your tree of Life could just die for you or someone you love. Remember to enjoy the healthy green leaves each season because they could turn brown overnight.

It may not be your first choice

Things happen in life and you don't always get to choose what happens. But even if it isn't your first choice or your second you must choose to deal with it in a way that you don't have to regret how you chose to deal with it. If you choose to get angry then you may react angrily which will be a choice you make and you will have to deal with what happens when you do. You may not have chose the situation you are in but how you choose to react is your choice so choose wisely.

A healthy giggle

I enjoy spending time with the grandkids they sure do say the darndest things. I laugh at times and other times it leaves me puzzled for a moment then it makes me giggle. And since laughter is the best medicine it is easy to forget your aches and pains that comes from getting older. It feels good and makes you feel relaxed. It is Yoga for your mind and body. Try to laugh when you can to stay physically and mentally healthier.

Your wasting your time

As each day passes time seems to be going faster. And since each of us only have a limited amount of time we shouldn't waste it. If you spend time after time thinking about all the negative things that have happen to you in the past then you are wasting your precious time. You got to "Just Flush It" out of your mind so you can spend your time enjoying every precious minute you do have. What is done is done but you won't get past it if you keep reliving your past over and over again keeping it fresh on your mind wasting your time. "Just Flush It" it's the only way.

So busy you miss it

If you wait till the perfect opportunity to do something then you will never get to do it because there is never a perfect time or place or circumstances. For instance you can't wait to do things with your kids because before you know it they will be grown. You can't wait to enjoy life because Life will pass you by. You can't wait to spend time with those you love because now may be all the time you have together. As you go through life grab all the moments you can and spend it wisely. Don't put things off till tomorrow or you will never enjoy your todays.

They are not mind readers

How long will you wait? Especially when it is important you should try to get it done. Those that you are waiting on may not even know that you need it done right away unless you tell them. If you don't tell them they will assume you are choosing to wait. Whether it is an appointment or answers to questions you need right away don't keep waiting just let them know you need it and you won't have to wait so long. People don't know what you need unless you tell them.

If you only knew

You may think your Life is tough and feel as though your grouchiness should be acceptable under the circumstances. But you never know what someone else may be facing that could be just as devastating to them. That is why as you face tough times that you should still be kind to those you encounter because you never know what they may be facing. Your smile or your act of kindness may be what they need to help them get through it.

You will never know

You will never know unless you try. If you doubt it then without a doubt you won't try. You have to flush away your doubts it's the only way to get things done. You may not be a famous artist but if you like to draw then just draw. You may not be the best at something but if you try your best then you will be the best you can be and that is the best you can hope for. It may not be perfect but nothing is perfect but it will be the best it can be and that is perfect for you. Enjoy Life with all the imperfect moments because every moment is a chance to enjoy if you don't waste them complaining about what is not perfect about them. Just flush away your doubts and without a doubt you will find out that you can do it if you want to.

Sometimes even old people do it

I was sitting in a crowded waiting room at the doctors not feeling well just trying to patiently wait. There was all ages of people ranging from 3 to 70. All the young mothers were working hard to keep their little children quiet so they would not disturb all those around them. But right up front was an elderly lady playing a game on her phone. I too enjoy playing those kinds of games and I too am old. But she played her slots game and kept the sound up loud. And when you are sick or even if you are well any sound over and over again is torture. All I kept thinking was too bad her children weren't here to tell her to turn off the sound.

Wisdom doesn't prevent it

I never dreamed that the wisdom you gain after decades of Life experiences you could find yourself in situations that you could have avoided. But it is hard to be in"Lookout Defense Mode" every moment in your Life. But what I have learned in all my years of living is things happen in Life that's just Life and if you want to enjoy the rest of your Life you got to"Just Flush It" out of your mind.

You can't go without wheels

When you start to make a plan you can't focus on only one part of it. You have to consider everything that needs to be done so that you at least know what needs to be done. If you focus on only one thing even if it is the most important part you won't do everything it takes. And while you're planning be sure to plan on all the hard work as well as all of the steps to get there. Even if the one thing you focus on you did well it would be like building an engine to a car yet you have no wheels.

what did they do before electricity?

Well the power has been out for only an hour yet it feels like an eternity. At first I realize my shows would be on soon. Then I realized the internet isn't available because it runs off the electricity. I stumble to find a flashlight only to find when I get there it wasn't where it was supposed to be. Then I stumble into the kitchen to get a drink and realize I shouldn't be opening the refrigerator because it would let out the cold air spoiling the food. Its not long before I realize how hot it is getting inside with no air or fans going. It had only been a short time and I was miserable. I couldn't help but wonder what people endured before electricity was invented.

It may be Your only chance

When you are given a chance will you take it? Or will you think it will be too hard or impossible to do and miss out on your chance. It could be your only chance to get you where you were supposed to be. And you could talk yourself out of having any chance at all to get there. You can be your own worst enemy. It may not be your circumstances that are holding you down it may be your way of thinking. If you get a chance take it and make it work.

The Older the faster

Time sure is flying by and the older you are the faster it seems to be going. You realize when you are older that none of us know exactly just how much time we have on Earth. The old phrase "Enjoy Life while you are Living it" takes on a whole new meaning. So don't spend your time thinking about the past and miss out on moments you could have enjoyed. Learn how to "Just Flush It" out of your mind so you can enjoy every moment of your time. Peace of mind really is just a FLUSH away so "Just Flush It".

Maps don't show road construction

It's amazing that the steps to reach your goal is like a road map. It may look like only an inch but as you start working towards your goal you realize it is a long journey. And just like a road trip it can encounter road construction that slows you down. As well as detours that steer you in the opposite direction that eventually gets you back on the right course. As long as you stay focused and follow the signs. Life will throw you boulders and you just have to go around them to reach your goals.

A second of annoyance

Road rage has gone from giving someone the bird to let them know how feel to physical violence. People are even killed because they didn't like it that the driver cut them off. We all get annoyed over inconsiderate drivers. But if you would consider the dangers in your blood pressure rising over it you would realize that it is not worth doing damage to your mental and physical health. Remember if you don't make it a long term problem then it will remain a second if annoyance if you would Just Flush It and let it go.

It may not take three strikes

I got caught outside when an unexpected storm blew in. As it began to sprinkle a loud lightning bolt landed close enough to me to feel its impact as the ground beneath my feet shook sending a quiver of energy through my entire body. The power of that one bolt of lightning made me realize that in a flash you could be powerless to avoid its deadly aim. Just another reason to enjoy every moment you are alive because you don't always get three strikes before your out and it could strike at any moment.

Our real lives are like soap operas

I personally haven't watched a soap opera since I was a teenager. I watch those around me have to rush home to see with real emotional attachment about the situation unfolding. When I pick up the phone and talk to friends and relatives to keep in touch or even strangers that really feel better after talking about their real life situations that unfortunately have the same issues at times as the soap operas. If you stay in close contact and ask about their friends and family you see a "soap opera" that you actually can interact with not the made up ones. Your friends and family need to tell you to help them Just Flush It so they can smile.

Roads to no where

There is that aggravating road work going on all around me to add another lane of traffic. Both the little roads around me and a highway road going over through what was woods. Property owners along the road are loosing at least 15 feet of their yards with now a busy road with roaring cars right outside there windows. And what was once barely a yard for both the dog and kids to each enjoy is turned in to a lot of poop on their shoes if you don't poop scoop fast enough. I don't even live in a big city just a little country town with just enough stores to accommodate us and five stores in our two little strip malls are empty. So why are they spending all the budget making more lanes?

It starts with you

Teachers play an important role in children's lives. They have them 9 months out of a year for 13 years. Each teacher has them for 9 months just like they stay in a mothers womb. Unfortunately schools have become full of bullies that no one seems to notice or they choose to pretend they don't see it. Our children should be safe while they are there. In society we have ignored so many wrong doings that bad behavior has become accepted therefore bad behavior is something we all have to expect. It starts with each one of us and if you want a safer and caring society then don't ignore the bad behavior and be a savior to the victim and Stop it.

Did you remember?

Hope you enjoyed your Memorial Day as you remembered all your loved ones who have passed away before you. I live too far away from the graveyard where my family is buried so taking flowers are not an option. I think about them just the same. I assigned certain insects that I see in nature so I can think of them spontaneously throughout the year. Although I miss them it brings me a smile when I see the particularly bug from time to time that I smile as I see it in natures beautiful setting. When I die I have decided a red head woody wood pecker.

Anger can literally squeeze the Life out of you

It's OK to be disappointed and even angered by situations you are forced to face especially when they are through no fault of your own. But if you let anger build inside of you then you will only disappoint yourself and it will simply make you angrier. And as that anger squeezes tight on your organs you cause physical damage. What happened to anger you is still there and you have to deal with it yet you have made yourself too sick to deal with it. Remember"It's OK to sit on your pity potty every now and again just be sure to FLUSH when you are done". FLUSH away your anger before it literally sqeezes the LIFE out of you.

Halfway up Mt. Everest

When the going gets tough don't give up. You will only waste all the hard work that you put into it already. That work was what it took to get you to this tough stage which is just a part of what it takes to get you where you have been working so hard to get. It's like those who's goal it is to climb Mt. Everest. It takes a lot of hard work to get to the middle of the mountain and they know the last half Will be their hardest. Whatever goal you are working toward will take hard work to achieve but if it is what you want then you will have to work as hard as it takes to achieve it. If you keep stopping halfway and give up then you won't get anywhere.

Should have bit your tongue

I wish you had a built in system that could keep your mouth shut not allowing you to "react" to a negative situation until you have had time to think about it. Because your first reaction to something negative is full of anger as you go in defense mode and once you say it out loud or in permanent cyberspace ink you can't take it back. Then you have the consequences of your actions on top of the original dilemma you were having to face. What you were going to have to deal with would have been hard enough if it angered you. But when you go off spewing your anger out then you can obviously see that the problems you created for yourself are far worse then it would have been if you would have just had taken the time to think about what your negative"reaction" would cause.

The five year limit

I saw a show on hoarders the other day and they suggested if you haven't used it in five years then without thinking throw it out. I started laughing because in the last couple of weeks I have found many baskets and cabinets filled with things that I said I had not seen in over five years. I bet if you looked around your house you would also find those collections of items that bring back memories from five years ago or more. So I have made a plan to bring out when the kids are out for summer break and use whatever we can and before the end of summer drop. It all off at goodwill. We all have things that we have Hoarded

Stop or keep moving?

Those who always thought the grass was always greener on the other side and one day they cross the line to see don't get to come back across when they see that it was an illusion. Too many people are quick to throw away their jobs, homes and even their family these days. Instant gratification and believing in something that they know is not right is crippling family unity and stability everywhere. They need to consider that they will lose everything they have worked hard to build that takes years to build. If they don't stop somewhere and work on keeping their own grass green then they will have to keep moving from grass to grass each time they just let the grass die wherever they are.

Instead of a present give them a break

I hope all you Mothers enjoyed your special day yesterday. Being a Mother is a very important job. Now that my children are grown and they want to buy me something special it stresses me out knowing they can't afford it and there is nothing I need. Finally my grown son heard me. This year he brought his son over and cleaned and vacuumed my car out. Now that I needed. The best gift you can give anyone especially your Mom is to just spend time together and help them out with a task to give them less to do. Now that is a present that gives them the break they need.

Keep it innocent for as long as you can

When you are young your vision is narrowed to only the things that look fun or interesting to you. Oh the innocence of that way of thinking makes for a less stressful day. Unfortunately as you grow so too does your vision of the things you are able to see and they are no longer innocent fun. The World seems more like a big open space where you are surrounded by some scary facts. So let children enjoy their childhood by keeping their narrowed view of their homes, schools and neighborhoods an innocent happy view not throw the cold hard facts for them to be frightened by what they live in. Keep it innocent for as long as you can and let the kid inside of you see it too.

The season of change

When it was time to trim the trees in the yard I sat on my porch that early morning to admire how luscious and big they had grown that year. I was thinking about all the cool breezes that they brought as the leaves swayed about in the wind. Then it began, the sawing and cutting as big limbs were falling to the ground with a thud. It was an awful sight as they were all laying all around. We drug them to the back to burn another day. And luckily just as we had done every year the day before the cutting began, we had picked out all the plants for each space. They were always beautiful with their bright vivid colors and the smell that fragranced the air. Seasons are going to change,that's just Life si adjust. In your personal Life there are also seasons of change and you just have to adjust if you want to enjoy Life.

Choosing to do nothing is still a choice

When you doubt yourself then the truth is there is no doubt you won't succeed at whatever it is because without a doubt you won't even try. Problem is most people blame it on someone or something else instead of accepting full responsibility for not even trying. There is a big difference between being unable to do something and being able to do it but just not trying. No matter who or what you blame you are where you are and that is where you will stay. Its your Life to live but admit it is a choice you made that lead you there because choosing to do nothing is still a choice.

We all have a role in it

If everyone would do what is right, which what each of us do is part of the overall make up of our society, then no one will be left behind to face this cruel world alone. Even though you may not be the one being cruel to them if you simply ignore it while someone else is doing it to them or anyone else then you are a part of making it an acceptable behavior that makes our society a cruel world that we are all forced to live in. No matter what generation you are from it will take people from every generation to clean up the overall mess society is in because it took many generations to get to the state it is in. The World won't get better on its own we all must do our part.

Being comfortable in your own skin

You can't please everyone but you can make yourself miserable trying to. Look the only way you can be pleased with what you are doing is if you consider all the facts and how it will affect your Life. If after careful thought you decide it is right for you then you will do the right thing for your Life and since it's your Life to live you will be pleased with yourself. If you constantly decide your Life based on what other people THINK is right for you then you can't feel comfortable. The only way to feed comfortable in the skin your in is to be comfortable with what you are doing in the skin you are in.

Start them young

Today with all the technology there is an endless sea of shows and movies to watch. Along with all the not so Family Friendly ones they also show everything that has ever been on TV. Now the weekly shows from past decades are readily accessible to pass on to young children and older ones. My son loves to watch "Full House" and the old Batman weekly series and they have years of episodes to go back to and enjoy a new episode. Whatever you put on for the younger ones they watch so choose the old Family Friendly ones and they will grow up watching the Family Friendly ones. Some choices you make now make a positive difference for your family.

It comes out of no where

As you watch those around you face incredibly difficult circumstances it makes you see that the hard circumstance you are facing is just a bump in your Life's Journey. When you look at those around you that you have even a brief encounter with remember that you have no idea what they may be facing. It is a reminder that you should always be kind to everyone you meet. Greet them with a smile that can distract them for a brief moment allowing them to catch their breath as they contagiously are compelled to take a deep breath before smiling back at you. Try it some time smile and watch a smile come out of no where back at you.

Adjust as necessary

On a hot day you look for a shady spot to enjoy the outdoors. On a rainy day you stay indoors to stay dry. When it is cold outside you bundle up if you have to go outdoors. If a hurricane was coming your way you would stock up, get ready and get to a safe place to wait for it to pass. You already know that you have to adjust according to the weather so adjust in your personal life too as you weather the storms that happen throughout life. Things happen and all you can do is adjust as you go.

Situations you can handle

There are many things in Life that just happen and you don't have a choice it just happens. You do however get to choose how you react to it. You may have to deal with terrible situations but if it doesn't involve devastating Health issues then you should be thankful. Although your situation may be hard to deal with as long as you are healthy you can regroup and keep on enjoying Life. Life is hard but as long as you are healthy you will be able to adjust to the situation. Your situation may be difficult but be thankful you are alive and well enough to be able to deal with it.

It's a colorful gray cloudy day

Today it has been gray and a cloudy overcast all day. But it sure feels wonderful outside. Doing errands went faster and easier since the car wasn't an oven in between them. It was so cool out and breezy that outside chores were a breeze today. If it was one of those postcard picture days of the blue sunny sky it would be miserably hot. So a gray cloudy day doesn't mean you will feel all gloomy and doomy. Its the same in your personal Life,it may not be a perfect Life but it can be a good Life if you choose to enjoy it.

Move along with it

There are days when you are so busy running around taking care of a list of things. You make a plan before you start your day of the best order in which to accomplish all your tasks. Then something unexpected comes up that throws your whole plan off track. Now you will have to regroup and design your plan for the day to get done what you can which may mean leaving something off your list. If you get angry over your plans being off track you won't get anything done so Just flush whatever you have to so you can keep moving because Life goes on despite the change in your plans so adjust and move along with it.

You can prolong your Life

When you become physically sick they look for something you are or not eating that could have caused it. Or they blame your lack of exercise. But the truth is that mentally being stressed could be the cause of preventing your organs from producing the right amount of endorphins and performing at a healthy pace. Every organ is affected when you are stressed out. Your veins even get squeezed preventing proper blood flow. And what it does to your heart is wearing it out! To maintain good over all health relieving your stress by flushing it out of your mind is just as important in deciding your physical health and just how long you physically will be alive. "Just Flush It" to prolong your Life!

Say it so someone can hear it

What is most important to you changes with your age. What priorities you have changes with your age. Your point of view changes with your age. If only you had known what you know now that you are older your sure would have done things differently. Unfortunately wisdom comes as you age. What is done is done and all we can do is try to pass on what we have learned as we have experienced Life as we aged and hope someone listens and learns from it. What lessons in Life or words of wisdom would you like to pass on? Write a comment here so that others can hear it.

You choose the outcome

Mistakes happen that's just Life. But you can never make the same mistake twice because the second time you make it, it's a choice. There are situations you may face throughout your Life's Journey that were through no fault of your own. But how you choose to"react" to them will be a choice you make. Your first "reaction" will be anger and frustration so STOP, step back and think about"how to react" to minimize the damage it can do to you. But if you just"react" without thinking then you are choosing the negative outcome you will have to live with.

It was bound to happen

Well I knew that there was always a chance I would miss a day of blogging. I have been blogging every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for over five years. Well it happened I missed blogging yesterday. Rather then ignore it and go about my schedule I wanted to write on today on a Tuesday so at least I get three in this week. In Life things happen and all you can do is "Just Flush It" and go on. Knowing that things just happen in life and accepting it is all you can do makes it possible to enjoy Life. Have a nice Tuesday!

There is no other way

We all face life shattering circumstances in our lifes journey. No matter how unfair nor how unbelievable it is you have to get over it because it is what it is. You will only cause yourself more pain and mental distress trying to figure out how it even happened. The only way to move on is to "Just Flush It" there is no other way. Your Life goes on but whether you will move on with it depends on you. Peace of mind is just a flush away all you got to do is FLUSH IT.

Let them enjoy it!

Your "point of view" from things in your childhood sure is different from how you view them as you get older and experience them. A child is born with a special ability to accept, adapt and enjoy Life with a limited view of their circumstances. Unfortunately the older you get with the wisdom of years of living your"point of view" includes some scary facts that you have to consider. Since you know what a happy carefree view that a child is meant to have then make sure you let them enjoy it and try to enjoy it with them because we are all a kid at heart.

Same time same schedule

Funny how you know you are on time when you head out in the morning the school bus is just rounding the bend heading for the stop sign. Followed by when you reach the end of the driveway the same black car passes by. You get behind the same school bus that stops to pick up kids three times along the way. I often wandered if those that I see when I am on time see me and that helps to know they are on time. I had been on this schedule for years but had only months ago realized that the bus, myself and the lady in the black car had the same schedule. I wander had they noticed me on that schedule for years? I bet if you pay attention you will see that your schedule is the same as others in your neighborhood.

It's all in how you look at it

Now to some people a fortune cookie is merely something to eat. To others they look forward to reading them hoping to hear some words of wisdom that gets them thinking. And for a few they play the lotto numbers hoping they were given the winning numbers. Every day in Life is like a fortune cookie. You can choose to look forward to any moment of it to get out of it what you want to get out of it. You have a chance each moment to enjoy it or not and if you decide to look for what's wrong each moment then you will find it. What does a fortune cookie bring to you? What will you look for as you go through your day?

That Bee was laughing at us

Have you ever had a Bee run you off your porch and stand guard so you can't get back to your front door to get away from it? Every time it flies away and you make a move it appears out of nowhere making you retreat to the yard. After I waited for what seemed like an hour my son came out to see what was taking me so long. As the front door closed behind him and he was standing at the edge of the porch and he started to ask what was taking me so long, there just inches from his nose the large bumble bee hovered stopping his words in mid sentence and sent him running in the yard now trapped there with me. I can only imagine the huge laugh the Bee was having that at only one inch big he could scare off two five foot humans.

When it rains it pours

The weather sure is unpredictable. Especially when you are working on an outdoor project around your house. It sounded like a quick weekend project to tear down the porch rail paint it then put up a new one. But every time my husband got the saw out to make the rail it would rain. Every time he had the time to paint the porch it rained. And here we are again with half of the rail up and here comes the rain. Life is just as unpredictable as the rain. Things happen in Life to alter what you had planned. Like the saying says when one negative thing seems to happen after another in someone's Life, "When it rains it pours!" But you just got to keep getting up and shaking it off and move on.

Life expectancy

People run around at such a fast pace thinking they have plenty of time to relax and enjoy life later when they are old. They see the life expectancy is 72 and assume they have time. Well I Know first hand that you never know what age you or someone you love will die unexpectedly. My brother was 19 my Mom was 25 my sister 43 and my dad 57. In the last month I have had to endure the pain of three deaths and none of them expected to die in their early to mid fifties. So that is why you need to slow down rest your mind and body as well as take the time to sit and enjoy those around you that you love. Life expectancy may be 72 but anyone at any age could die unexpectedly.

Your "To Do List" can make you sick

Don't make a "To Do List" that is so long it stresses you out to the point where you get immobilized and get nothing done. If it is something you can quickly do then "Just Do It" to keep your list doable. If it doesn't really matter then put it on your maybe list not your"To Do List." If it is something you can't do then don't put it on any List, "Just Flush It" so you can focus on what you need to do. Stress is harmful to your mental and physical health. So don't make a "To Do List" so long that all you do is stress yourself out making it impossible to do anything.

Luckily you know how

As you go through your Life's Journey there will be good times and bad times. You will witness births and deaths. You will experience happiness and sadness as well as disappointments and triumphs. Unfortunately no matter how well you plan nor how hard you work in Life you will still have UPS and DOWNS. Its just Life. But how you react to the negative situations you must face will determine the path your Journey will take you. As you live your Life enjoy it and that means you will have bad days but Luckily you know how to Flush Away A Bad Day so when you need to "Just Flush It" and you can enjoy Life while you are living it!

Clear out the clutter

Its officially spring, the clocks have sprung forward and the kids are on spring break. Time to do the spring cleaning. Time to dust and get rid of all the clutter that has been piling up everywhere. Don't forget to get rid of all the clutter weighing heavy on your mind too so you can think clearly. If you want to feel refreshed you got to clean out your mind as well as your home so you will have spring in your steps to keep up with a new year full of things you need to do.

Let it go!

If only you knew how much time you were wasting thinking about how or why negative things had to even happen. There are times when those that have hurt you don't even realize they had hurt you. Other times they don't care that they hurt you. And sometimes it had to happen to get you where you needed to be and it was the only way you could get there. No matter how or why or by whom you were hurt you hurt yourself over and over again by keeping it fresh on your mind. You got to be like Elsa and "Let it go!" Just Flush It out of your mind.

Will you choose to enjoy it?

The most precious memories we have with those we love can come from unexpected moments that happen while we deal with unexpected circumstances. During even negative circumstances you can experience a moment that you both look back on one day and share a laugh over. Getting full of anger over the negative circumstance will only prevent either of you from enjoying any moment of it. Things happen in Life that are unexpected negative circumstances and how you react to them determines the outcome. It is what it is but what you do will determine the outcome for you. As you live it make the most of it because Your Life is what you make of it as you live every moment of it as you live every good moment as well as the bad moments. It's your Lifes Journey and your choice whether you enjoy it or not.

If it is not important

In the big picture in your Life very few things are really important. The basics are all you need and all you really have to make sure you have. When you try to make every detail important you will lose focus on what is most important. If you stress over all the unnecessary small stuff then you get so clogged with unnecessary stress. And just like a backup in your sink it will cause a big mess. Life is hard enough without making it harder on yourself by worrying about things that don't even matter in the "big picture" so if it doesn't matter then forget about it so you can concentrate on what's most important to you.

Take a break or break down

People have gotten use to staying so busy in the twentyfirst century that they don't even look forward to nor plan a few moments to relax. Your mind and body need regular time to regroup and relax to be able to keep going. If you don't plan to take a break when you have run your body ragged then you will cause your mind and body to break down. So either take a break or break down. If your car was low on gas you know you need to fuel up to keep your car running. It is the same for your mind and body. When your body is tired you need to take a few moments to give it the rest it needs or it will break down. Your mind and body screams give me a break or I will break down.

Don't waste it

Don't waste your time complaining about what just happened or you will waste the time you have to enjoy. It was bad enough when it happened the first time so reliving it over and over again in your mind wasting your energy and time again and again. Enough is enough don't put your self through it again and again. Acknowledge it then "Just Flush It" out of your mind so you can enjoy today instead wasting it. You only have so much time on this earth so don't waste it.

The Bulk of the conversations

Funny how when you get older you begin to sound like your older relatives. I don't mean just how your voice sounds or even how you have adapted a lot of their "point of views" on subjects. I mean how talking about your physical ailments becomes the bulk of your conversations. But as you reach a half of a century old your ailments affect everything you do and when you do things you feel every single physical ailment you have. And it becomes the bulk of your thoughts because the level of intensity worsens as you do things. So just like your older relatives, for the rest of your Life you live your Life talking about your ailments and be GLAD you are alive to talk about them.

Don't fail yourself

When all else fails don't fail yourself. Getting angry and raising your blood pressure will not do anything but make you unhealthy. Screaming at those around you won't make you feel better but it is hurtful to those around you. If your actions are done out of anger you will only make matters worse for yourself. It is natural to be upset when something negative happens but remember "It's OK to sit on your pity-potty every now and again just be sure to FLUSH when you are done" because being angry about it will only cause a failure on your part to "Get over it." So "Just Flush It" and move on.

Bend and twist to get where you need to be

You never think it can happen to you but in Life you just never know what challenges you will face. You have to be flexible on your Life's Journey because there will be times when you will have to bend and twist like a pretzel. Although when you are dealing with circumstances that are emotionally or physically painful you can't see any way for happiness you have to keep an open mind. Don't keep your mind clogged with negative thoughts or you won't be able to think clearly to actually deal with the negative circumstance you are facing. Sometimes what you must face is necessary to get you where you need to be in Life but it was the only way to get you there. "Just Flush It" out of your mind so you can move on and enjoy Life.

Open their mind to help them escape

Have you known someone who's whole world as they know it has just been shattered by a painful unexpected circumstance? Most of us have at one time or another throughout our lives watched as someone we care about be personally tortured deep in their heart and soul to the point their eyes appear to be merely windows to an endless pit of emptiness and sadness. Their point of view is nothing but seeing no hope to repair even their very soul.They go through the motions of living daily but you can not do or say anything to ease their pain but you can distract them at least long enough to give them a chance to open their eyes and mind to the possibility that they can one moment at a time escape the darkness and feeling of loneliness and despair. Point out things in their life that they need to distract them by getting them to focus on the other plans or people or projects that are already in their life that the deep pain is blocking their view from being able to see them.

Experiences first hand

It's hard to have experienced something first hand and you try to share it with someone you care about yet they choose to go through the same painful experience. What the heck good does it do to know it yet it doesn't help them to see what you know is coming. As I watch those I care about get hurt as they experience it for themselves I can clearly see my warning fell on deaf ears as I can see their tears. Although my experience didn't save them from experiencing it for themselves it does however give me first hand knowledge of just how painful it is. Which helps them hear my comforting words from someone who has experienced it and knows exactly how painful of an experience it is and brings them comfort to know they too will smile again.

is it Monday already?

Somewhere along the way I lost a whole day. Has that ever happened to you? Either way 24 hours were lost. Now I will spend the rest of the week catching up. Although that explains my lazy Sunday I apparently enjoyed it two days in a row. It is what it is and in case you lost a day today is Monday.

Stop before you blow your engine

What the heck are you suppose to do when the pressures of your lifes circumstances creates a pressure cooker inside your body? If you don't relieve some of the pressure fast your very vital organs in your body will be squeezed to a halt. When your car starts flashing when the temperature gage is at a critically hot stage you know you better pull over immediately to let it cool down. If you don't your engine will blow it is that simple so you pull over and park. Well it is the same for your body. If you don't STOP Long enough to FLUSH some of the stress out of your mind your very organs that are your engine will just STOP. Unlike your car you can't just buy a new one. So when you feel your blood pressure rising STOP and "JUST FLUSH IT" before the pressure on your heart brings on a Sudden Cardiac Arrest bringing your Life to a halt. Maintain your Blood Pressure by FLUSHING IT as it comes.

Speak up to Stop it

You have heard the saying "Speak now or forever hold your peace." This is not merely applicable to stop a wedding but to stop bad behavior that you see. If you don't speak up to stop it then it will become acceptable behavior and that will create a society where no one can have "Peace of mind." So when you see bad behavior Speak up to Stop it bringing peace to the victim and as we all speak out we will all have a chance to forever have "Peace of Mind."

Accept it and Just Flush IT

Life doesn't always turn out the way you plan it to. When something negative happens that you must face you got to learn how to "Just Flush It" so you can move on. The bumps and turns in Life are "Just Life." Sitting on your pity-potty every now and again is natural but to move on you got to learn how to "Just Flush It" out of your mind so you can move on. What happens happens but what you do when it happens is up to you. Peace of mind is just a flush away so "Just Flush It."

Don't eat your boogers

Peer pressure starts at a very young age. I told my granddaughter who is two to stop picking her nose that it was grouse. I went to get her a tissue only to return to see her eat the booger on her finger. I said ooh yucky why did you do that? She said her brother does it all the time. Just like many other things that people are doing around you that you know are not right that you shouldn't do that hurt others. You shouldn't eat your boogers either! Just because other people do it doesn't make it the right thing to do.

Quickly just flush it!

Looking back at all the good memories will bring you a smile from ear to ear and warm your heart. But looking back at all the painful memories will bring you nothing but pain and break your heart. That is why it is important when a thought pops up in your mind that at a quick glance you know will evoke a negative feeling then "Just Flush It" out of your mind before you have to feel the negative emotions. There are some events from your past that hurt you and if you don't flush it at a quick glance and you give it your attention it will cause an avalanche of negativity to flood your mind and it will hurt you again and again so quickly flush it.

Your Life depends on it

It is scary when your medical care is determined by whether or not the doctors and nurses who have literally your Life in their hand feel like taking care of you. Because of the lack of interest in treating you the results could be devastating health wise and possibly lead to death. Really? There should be more supervision and those who are neglectful to their patients treatment should be held accountable by loosing their Job. If they knew their Job depended on it as much as you know your Life depends on it then they will take care of you as if their Job depends on it and then patients would all be treated with the proper care because our Lives depend on it.

Keep your own grass green!

I don't understand why relationships and marriages are taken so lightly. Over and over again probably every second people are walking away. Being older I know how important it is to have those relationships that it takes time to build over the years. Knowing people that have your best interest at heart is huge. More on that subject in my next book. Meanwhile it seems like starting over and over again looking for that greener grass will only lead many people traveling from grass to grass only to one day find themselves alone in an abandoned field with overgrown dead grass. Maintain the lawn you got which takes regular watering and cutting to stay green.

Flush to prevent a clog

Sometimes in Life you have to deal with one thing after another. All you can do is deal with those things that you can one by one. Those things that you can't fix or make better you just have to deal with the complications they bring you and move on. By the time you deal with them all there may be more to deal with but everything you dealt with already won't be weighing heavy on your mind. Don't let things build up as you have a pity party over all that you have to deal with. "Just Do It" so you can move on to the next thing because otherwise all the "crap you got to deal with" will keep you clogged."Just Do It" so you can "Just Flush It" after you "Get 'R Done."

You may not be able to avoid it

The cold is bearing down on everyone this week. If you have to go out in it to the store you might as well stock up with everything you need to warm your belly to help you stay warm and cozy for the long week of the winter storm. Don't go out in it if you can avoid it because every time you go out you will not be able to avoid being freezing cold. In your personal life there are stormy situations that you must weather. They can come during spring summer and fall too and all you can do is try to avoid it if you can but if you can't then get prepared to weather out the storm.

Hurry before they grow up!

I laugh at the things my Grandkids do but as a parent when my kids were little I was too frustrated to laugh when they were doing the same kind of things. It is funny just how different you see things when you are the parent then you do when you are the Grandparent. Sure wish I would have relaxed and enjoyed their childhood more but you can't go back. That is why Grandparents laugh more, play more and enjoy every moment when they are with their Grandkids while they are young enough to want to play and laugh more and spend more time relaxed enjoying them, We realize when children are little you got to enjoy them before they grow up and don't spend time with you anymore.

Sad but you got to "Just Flush It" and move on

As a parent you want to protect your children from everything. Yet when they are older you just can't fix everything. It is so hard to watch them go through incredibly tough times. And although I love the words and meaning behind "Just Flush It" it doesn't ease their pain to say "Honey you got to Just flush It and move on." But all you can do is tell them the only thing you can do is "Just Flush It" out of your mind and move on. Later in Life they will be thankful that they were able to "Just Flush It."

The same applies no matter where you live

People are always saying if only this or that would happen I could be happy. But the truth is the only way to be truly Happy is to learn to be Happy with what you do have. You could be rich and buy everything you want or get that promotion and you can still be Unhappy. Happiness is a "state of mind" and it doesn't matter what you have or don't have nor does it matter what country or state you live in. The only thing that matters is whether you choose to be Happy with who you are and what you do have.

What are you waiting for?

You only get one chance at Life so make sure you enjoy Life while you are living it! You don't get do overs so whatever you do enjoy it because when your Journey is over it is over. Life is a roller coaster that is full of ups and downs and dangerous curves but it is your Life's Journey and whether you enjoy it or not is up to you. It's like my plaque says..."I asked God for all things that I enjoy Life He gave me Life to enjoy all things." There is no guarantee that tomorrow will come but it is guaranteed that every moment you are alive is another moment that you have a chance to enjoy Life while you are living it.

What will you look for Today?

Just because the weather looks gloomy outside doesn't mean you will feel all gloom and doom today. It isn't raining and the temperature is calm and cool which makes it a good day to be out and about to get things done. It really is just all "In How you look" at it. Because as you know your "point of view" is the only one you can see. The difference between a "good day" and a "bad day" sometimes is only how you view them and if all you choose to see is a "bad day" it is the only reason all you can see why it is bad about Today. If you looked for the good things about Today then you will see reasons to have a "good day."

We all expect it but...

When you are in your forties and fifties you don't expect to be facing the Health problems of someone who is old. But it turns out your body is old and if you are lucky enough to live to the "Life expectancy" age you will have to live with all the health problems along your Life's Journey. But it is something you will gladly do to live to the "Life expectancy" age because it is better then dying twenty years earlier than you expected to. Watching the news and those around you it is clear that there are many people that die before they expected despite what the "Life expectancy" age is.

It is Human Nature

I have noticed that those individuals that had a not so loving childhoods grow up to be extremely caring compassionate adults. They know what it feels like so they make sure all their interactions with others, especially children, leaves them feeling cared about. You don't have to have lived that kind of childhood to know that every person wants and deserves to be treated with compassion. We are all born with the natural instinct to be compassionate it is Human Nature. Somewhere along the way there are far too many people who are so clogged up with negativity that it is buried beneath years of crap. "Just Flush It" so we can all be treated Humanely.

A "Headline" can say a lot

Why is it that negative behavior goes viral yet positive behavior is known only to those around it? Even our "Headlines" and News is about negative situations that can remain front and center day after day sometimes even month after month yet positive behavior is barely mentioned and hardly ever repeated. Perhaps if we start talking about positive actions then we can spread a more positive behavior instead of spreading negativity. If we want a more caring positive society then we all need to do things that create "Headlines" that are about positive situations to pass on things that are positive.

Keep hold of your Life Lines

Choosing who to surround yourself with has never been more important then it is today. Do yourself a favor and be more choosy as you go through Life because in the end you will only have those around you that you surround yourself with. If you abandon the Loyal Relationships with family and those you know in your community for those "fly by night" friendships of those that come and go in Life or a cyberspace friend then it will only be a matter of time before you find yourself alone. For some people that comes at an age when all you need is a small helping hand that isn't there. Enjoy those you meet in Life but hold on to your Life Lines while you are doing it.

Built in suit of Armor

Having someone around that you know has your back if you need it is like having a built in suit of Armor to protect your mind as well. The "peace of mind" that it brings stays with you every step of the way on your Life's Journey. I am not talking about someone that is always around at your beck and call to take care of your every need. That is unrealistic. They are someone that you know if there was ever anything you really truly needed they wouldn't hesitate for a second without a doubt they would be there to help. Protecting yourself is your First Line of Defense to protect you but if you are lucky you will have someone else you can count on that gives you that extra built in suit of honor to give you "peace of mind."