Knowing, Seeing, Doing

If you can see clearly what the problem is then why is your judgment so cloudy? If you know that something is only hurting you then why are you letting it hurt you? If there is something that you know only you will have to do then why aren't you doing it? If you see what you need to do and you know what you need to do then what are you waiting for? Some people ask why it happened. Some people ask how it happened. Some people make things happen. Which one are you? Knowing and seeing what you should do should always be followed by doing whatever it takes.

Wisdom stops Insanity

I wish there was a way to explain to those that are younger then me or even those my age or older just what I have learned that will make their Life less complicated. Unfortunately just like many others from many generations before me no matter what I say they don't listen to and they learn the hard way. Learning from the experiences of others about what not to do is just as important as learning from your own mistakes. I know it is different for everyone but there are some things that we can learn from what we see happen to others that we can avoid. It is not only age that makes someone wise it is learning from your mistakes and from the mistakes of others that help us gain wisdom. To do something the same way or the same way as others before you have done and expect a different result is the definition of Insanity. Wisdom stops Insanity.

The Lights and Sounds of Jolly

Merry Christmas! In a matter of minutes my living room will be glowing. I don't mean the Lights. I mean there will be wide eyed kids of all ages with a smile from ear to ear. They know that the time to open those gifts they have been seeing under the tree is finally here. Their Laughter as well as their excited squeals will fill the room. Again and again as they tear through each gift they Light up my Life. After the Film is developed I will get to feel it again and again. May your Holiday be Bright!

From a comic book to a fairy tale

Some days it feels like...POW...SPLAT....KABOOM. You know like in the old Superhero comic books. There are some days from the moment you step out of bed it seems like you sure would have been better off to just have stayed in bed that day. We all have those days and it is best to just do only what you have to then head home and Flush Away the bad day. There is no other way to be done with a bad day except to "Just Flush It" so you can enjoy the rest of your day then instead of a Comic book it will feel like a fairy tale with a Happy ending to your day. Remember whenever you need to just Flush Away A Bad Day....."Just Flush It."

It simply requires you to be present

Just want to remind everyone that Christmas is about spending time with the people you care about. If you can't afford to pay cash for your gifts then it is something that you can't afford. When Christmas is over you should have tons and tons of happy memories that you hopefully caught on camera. But you shouldn't buy stuff they don't need then after Christmas be stuck with tons and tons of bills you don't need that you will be paying on. To enjoy Christmas with those you love doesn't require a present you can't afford it is only required that you be present to enjoy it. Happy Holidays everyone!

Just STOP and turn around

If you keep running into a dead end it is time to STOP whatever you are doing. Stop wasting your time and energy. You will simply have to stop long enough to figure out what you need to do to get moving again. Remember the definition to insanity is doing the same thing over and over again the same way and expect a different result. If you want a different result then STOP what you are doing and do something different. If you know where you are heading leads to a dead end then turn around and go a different direction.

We need a code word for it

I wander how parents are able to explain that Santa fills up the Stocking when everywhere you look and all you hear are the words "Great Stocking Stuffers." Really? Can we have a separate grown up word to give little children the chance to enjoy the magic of anticipating what Santa will leave them? It's only a few brief years that they might possibly enjoy it. Let's agree on a CODE word for it that can be used instead. To a young child it is the most magical time as they spend weeks trying to decide what special gift to ask Santa to bring. Don't take away the Christmas magic just take away the word "Stocking Stuffers" as a description by saying it in code.

"Chili with Attitude"

I always thought Hello had only one meaning and it meant the same in any language. You know like a Smile means peace in any language. Well it turns out that when my friend recently said "Hello" with Attitude in the middle of our discussion I realized that it also means "Are you kidding me?", "You can't see the obvious signs?" as well as "Wake up smell the coffee." You hear people say it is the tone of your voice and the way you say it more than the words you say that determines what it means. It's like all chili's are not alike. Some are mild and some are hot enough to burn your tongue called "Chili with Attitude."

Each adventure has risk

The adventures in Life that we take are all part of our journey in Life. Unfortunately some are not anything but scary. At times Life is like a roller coaster there are twist and turns as well as ups and downs. At such a fast pace it can be hard to see what is coming next. One thing is for sure it is not a slow easy ride. As you experience the downward path at times just try and remember that an upward one is ahead so don't do anything on your way down that will make your travel up any harder. Just like if you went on a trip to see the Wild Kingdom Safari from the safety of your vehicle your more likely to return from your trip. Each adventure has the risk of being scary.

Less time between sunsets

It's hard to believe it is already almost Christmas. Now that I am older and have slowed down I realize how fast a year goes by. And let me tell you it is scary when you are closer to the "Life Expectancy" age. It's easy to see now how precious every moment of every day really is. In the blink of an eye it seems it is already time for sunset and the day is over. I believe there are many things that our minds are spared from knowing when we are young so that we don't spend our youth worrying about it. Which then allows us to feel "young and free" for as long as we can until with age comes wisdom.

If you accept it then expect it to happen to you

If you just ignore the injustice to others because as long as it is not happening to you it is OK then it will become acceptable. Once it is accepted it will happen more often which will make it more likely to happen to you one day. If you stop it at first sign it is happening to someone else then you will stop it from becoming acceptable. Human injustice should not have to be accepted and if we set boundaries that is unacceptable behaviors and we make sure those boundaries are not crossed then we will all be treated humanely and there will be justice for all. If you accept it now then you will have to accept it when it happens to you.

No payments required it's free to enjoy

Try to remember that if you choose to buy someone a Christmas gift it should only cost you what you can afford to pay cash for. It is not suppose to cost you in credit card payments till next Christmas. It's suppose to be about spending quality time with family and friends. Your suppose to feel good inside not be cringing inside month to month paying for it. It is FREE to enjoy time with those you care about and it doesn't have to cost you financially especially month after month plus interest. You could relax and enjoy the Holidays like it is supposed to be if you just show up to enjoy it by knowing you brought only what you could afford to.

No one can give you the Moon

We have all heard the phrase "If it is too good to be true then it probably isn't true." But because we want it so much if someone comes along and assures us that they can make all our dreams come true we believe that it finally has happened to us. Then when reality sets in we realize that we had let down our guard. The higher the degree to which we felt that dream-maker would fulfill our dreams the harder it will hurt when we get smacked down with disappointment. If someone promises you the moon you got to simply remember that the Moon and the Stars can't possibly belong to anyone.

How did it fit in a tiny space?

Trying to hide the Christmas gifts so they don't see them means simply wrapping quickly and slapping on a name tag and stacking it in a closet. No name tag would mean you would have to open it later to see what it is. It usually doesn't work trying to remember the shape of the package because it is easy to forget just what shapes they are. Later on you can sit down and put the ribbons and bows on which will disguise how rushed it was wrapped. Till then they stack neatly all tightly in a corner but to protect the bows they will now have to be spaced out all over the place. As you look around enjoying all the beautifully decorated gifts it is always amazing that they all fit into that tiny closet. They are mesmerizingly beautiful despite that you had just shoved them in after they were quickly wrapped.

What if they were listening?

What would you say to someone if you could get them to listen? It is your chance to plant a positive idea or message in a World full of negative ones. I will include some of them in a future post. There is such an overwhelming need for positive ideas and messages in the World. Send yours to share to Billie Bob P.O. BOX 1493 Middleburg, Florida 32050. No one can ever learn something if it was never taught. Share your ideas, lessons and traditions to pass on to others. The World won't get better on it's own we all must do what we can so pass it on. What would you say to someone if you could get them to listen?

You will only get what you put into it

Sooner or later it is clear to you that you will reap what you sow. It is true that you will only get out of it what you put into it. If a farmer planted only trees instead of mostly vegetables then instead of harvesting food he would create a forest. The Three Little Pigs are a good example. Building a house out of material that won't withstand the Big Bad Wolf won't save them from the Big Bad Wolf. If you want to reap the benefit for all your hard work then you will have to make sure what you do will reap the benefits that you are after.

Nature is Yoga for your mind

Have you ever watched a cloud race? If you haven't you just got to watch one. There are some clouds that even though they look much bigger and heavier they just fly right on by those little ones. Whenever you are stuck sitting and waiting somewhere anyways you can just look up and there is usually a race in progress. It is Yoga for your mind and meditation all rolled into one. It is peaceful and relaxing leaving you feeling refreshed. If it is not a cloudy day you can just look down and see what bugs you can watch race about always in a hurry to go somewhere perhaps you can find out where that is. When you need refreshed just look around.

No matter "how" or "why"

If a change is necessary then make the changes that are necessary. If you know it is time for a change then what are you waiting for? It may not be comfortable and it may even be difficult but it is necessary if you want things to change. If it's time for a change in your life then does it really matter what time it is or how hard it will be? Some people spend all their time asking why things happen and some asking how it could even possibly have happened. Yet there are others who make things happen by realizing that no matter "how" or "why" it happened they will just have to do whatever is necessary to change it.

You might regret it

It is what it is. Without a doubt those words leave no room for "what if's?" It's as final as what's done is done. All the more reason why you got to stop and think long and hard about what you are about to do or say because once you do then...What's done is done. Taking a moment to think about it before you react is the only way to be sure once you act on it you won't regret it when you are done. The only regrets you have in life are for the things you didn't do and the things you wish you had not done. Try to live life with no regrets.

Enjoy it while you are able to

When we are young we dream of being able to do things that we are just not old enough to do. When we are old we dream of being able to do things that we are just too old to do. Through each stage of our life what we are able to do changes. That is why it is so important to enjoy what we are able to do not wasting a moment of it thinking about what you are not able to do. The same is true for enjoying what you have not waste what you have spending your time complaining about what you don't have. Today is the only day you can enjoy because yesterday is already gone and tomorrow may never come. Enjoy each stage while you are living it.

Your body reacts to what the brain tells it

Being Heart Healthy takes more than just watching what foods you eat and making sure you get the right amount of rest and exercise. Negative thoughts that only leads to negative emotions that can do as much damage to your heart as greasy foods. Your heart as well as all your organs get squeezed and at times get overworked as they are forced to endure the stress you put them through. Even if what you had stressed over turns out that you didn't need to be stressed at all about your organs literally suffer the damage regardless of the outcome. When your heart is forced to work at a frantic pace it gets worn out doing damage that doesn't go away when it begins to beat at a healthy rate. Your body reacts to what the brain tells it.

It was more than a "little booth"

There are some things in life that you don't even know you would miss till they are gone. For instance we always looked forward to the County Fair each year. We get excited to enjoy the rides that thrill us and the games that entertain us. And of course the food like the corn dogs and funnel cakes that are without a doubt on my list to enjoy while I am there. Shortly after arriving we find the nearest vendor with that refillable Homemade Lemonade cup to quench our thirst. The Pig Race is the first attraction that we make sure to see. Before we let the kids get their faces painted we head to the little photo booth to get our refrigerator magnet photo to mark another year. What? Where is the "little photo booth?" Where did they move it? What? I found out the nice elderly couple had retired and took their booth with them. It may have been a "little booth" but it was a big part of our Fair experience to have a family photo to treasure.

Allow what was meant to happen to you happen

If it was meant to be it will happen does not mean you don't have to do anything it will just happen if it is meant to happen. It still requires you to do all you can do so it has a chance to happen. Even though you do all you can do to make it happen doesn't mean it is guaranteed to happen. Sometimes it is what you do along the way that will be what you needed to do to allow what was meant to happen to you happen. Opportunities may come your way but you still got to reach out to grab them because opportunities are never lost they are taken by someone else.

Childhood fantasies v.s. Grown up realities

Far too many people thought that Life would be lived like in a fairy tale and they are still waiting as if it were going to happen any minute. Well it's not so you will have to "Just Flush It" out of your mind. We all had that thought when we were young but.... It's not. I believe we were meant to believe that so we enjoyed every minute of our childhood not wasting one precious second of it worrying about how hard grown up Life really is. Being a grown up comes with a lot of responsibilities. It will only have a chance at a fairy tale ending if as an adult you don't act irresponsibly by waiting and you accept that it was merely a childhood fantasy.

Give them a November present

I have always been disappointed when the gift that I got someone for Christmas that was a "Holiday themed" gift couldn't have been enjoyed along with all the other Holiday décor they put out the day after Thanksgiving. If I purchased warm clothes and jackets to keep them warm in the winter season I knew it was something they needed at the first winter snap not on Christmas. Then I decided for now on if they need it in November then I will give them a November present. They smile just as big as big as they would have and who wouldn't want a November present.

So you won't be too tired to enjoy it

It's time already to plan your Thanksgiving meal and make your grocery list. Since this is a time where making sure you have all the little ingredients to make the dishes taste like have for generations. Making every ingredient necessary and a list is usually required. I have learned from past years that the best time to buy your special ingredients is weeks ahead so you will be sure to have them. And of course the cleaning for the Holidays has to be planned for those "only cleaned on Holidays" parts of your house like the ceiling fans. The older I get the years have taught me to start early so I don't have to use up all my energy just days before making me too tired to enjoy Family and Friends who visit only on the Holidays by getting things done earlier saving your energy for when it counts.

There is no doubt you could

There are times in your life when you face so many tasks that you doubt you can do it all. Well that's when you will have to flush away your doubts because if you got to do it then there is no doubt you will figure it out. You never know what you can do till after you are done doing it. You will just have to figure it out as you go and in the end you will know how you did it. You don't have to know how to do everything to have no doubt in yourself you just have to not doubt that if it is a task you need done then there is no doubt you can do it.

It shouldn't cost a fortune to enjoy the "little things"

It's official the dollar tree now has Christmas wrapping paper and the stacking of the wrapped gifts has begun. I remember when to my children the size of the box mattered. Now with all the "little new technology gadgets" they are looking for the smaller boxes. When they were little it didn't even matter what was in the box as long as it was the biggest. Now that they are grown the gigobytes or gigograms whatever they are called being as big as possible is important. It is a gift you can't buy months in advance because the technology changes rapidly. The old stories of only nuts and an apple or orange is all they got for Christmas reminds me that technology has changed what it cost to enjoy the "little things" in life.

No matter what you compare it to

I know you have heard the phrase "Life is like a bowl of cherries." But don't forget you got to take out the pits. Your life may be more like a bowl of fruit salad. Even so if one of your fruits turn rotten you got to take it out before it spoils the whole fruit salad. If you see your life as more of a vegetable tray you still got to wash them to remove the dirt before you eat them. Whatever you choose to compare your life to there are things your going to have to do if you plan on enjoying it. Even if you compare it to the finest steak you still got to cook it some if it's going to be edible.

Today is yours to enjoy

Time sure goes by fast. It doesn't matter whether you have a very busy schedule or not much to do time just flies. I am sure that it seems like yesterday I paid the bills and mailed them out yet they are due next week. For those of you who have children you can still see them as your baby but quickly realize that the years have flown by and you can see how fast they have grown. When we each begin our life the early years we spend wishing we were older yet from the middle of our life on we spend it wishing we were young again. We need to enjoy the moment we are living in because no matter how hard we wish we can only enjoy today for yesterday has already gone and tomorrow may never come.

You "sucessfully" got it done

How you define "success" will determine if you feel "successful." If you decide that you are not a "success" until you have achieved everything you had imagined or dreamed of then I am sad to say that in your eyes you will never be "successful." If you would look at each step along the way that you had "successfully" completed to get where you are then you will know that you did it "successfully." To be "successful" means what you did was a "success" and even though there is always more that you need to do you "successfully" got some things done.

Face Language is like Sign Language

Certain feelings show easily on your face. If you are Happy you smile looking relaxed not to mention ten years younger. Anger causes wrinkles that will make you look older forever not to mention you look pretty scary when you are angry. But I'm not so sure that your feelings are truly known when you have the look of "Are you kidding me why on earth would you do that?" I thought it was called the puzzled look. You know the one your parents gave you and you knew you better stop whatever you were doing but no one seems to notice it and stop what they are doing. They just continue as if my face said nothing at all. Perhaps we all should look in the mirror and practice the art of Face Language like we would Sign Language.

Your menal health affects your physical health

You know how after you overstuff yourself with so much turkey and all the fixings on Thanksgiving that you have to take a nap? Well when you overstuff your mind with too many thoughts you can't think at all and you get so exhausted you will have no choice but to lay down to take a nap because it is mentally exhausting. It will physically drain you to the point of physical exhaustion. Marathon runners collapse at the finish line from not only physical exhaustion but they mentally are exhausted and inside their head it is spinning. Mental stress leads to physical distress and being physically stressed will lead to mental exhaustion. To maintain your over all good health you'll have to maintain good mental health as well as your physical health.

It's like keeping the right tire pressure

Too much pressure under stress on your mind can cause damaging stress to your body. You can feel the squeezing ever tightening grip it has around your entire brain. As it tightens it stops the blood flow from getting to your brain. As the muscles begin to tighten in your jaw it soon squeezes causing the veins to pop out in your neck, then your torso begins to tighten squeezing every organ. Soon the pressure against your organs shuts down their ability to function under such tight restraint. Eventually your being squeezed literally to death just like you were being attacked by a giant python. Just like keeping your tires with the right amount of pressure prolongs the life of tire so to does maintaining your stress level prolong your life.

A normal routine that can prevent amnesia

Even if you usually are good at remembering important details and they are a part of your normal routine too much stress on your mind can cause temporary amnesia. Although our minds are capable of retaining tons of information we can only think of those that are within the fore front of our mind. In the blink of an eye if you allow a negative thought to pop up front and center letting it "grab your attention" it will open the flood gates bombarding you with negative thoughts that will take up all the room and push out the information causing temporary amnesia that blocks the important details. To prevent amnesia make it a part of your normal routine to at the first glance of a negative thought "Just Flush It" out of your mind.

Enjoy it before you get rid of it

As I sat on the porch late one evening I saw the start of a spider web. It was a tiny spider no bigger then a sesame seed. He had already attached the four corners and made his fourth out of many lines symmetrically and evenly placed. He just slowly spun his silk and attached it as he went around and around. After watching for a while I went back inside. The next morning as I headed out the door I saw a work of art as I noticed it's intricate detail. With row after row of precisely aligned rows. It's pattern was stunning. I can't help but wander how that little spider could even produce that much silk. Even though I know I will get rid of them both I still was amazed by his work of art.

You'll have to climb to get it

Although you knew it wouldn't be easy some task are harder then you could have ever imagined. If it is worth having then the hard work will be worth it. When you make a plan you just have to plan on doing whatever it takes for as long as it takes. If you give up when the going gets tough then when you don't get what you had planned it will not be because it was impossible. It will be because you gave up and quit trying and without trying it will be impossible. In Life there are mountains to climb and if you want what's at the top you'll have to climb to the top to get it no matter how high the climb is.

Don't be a pig

"Don't be a Pig" now that statement can mean many things. It's all in how you look at it. Of course if someone says it while you are eating they are referring to either the way you are eating or the amount you are eating. It can mean don't be a gluten for punishment by letting it hurt you over and over again. It can also be a reminder to see the glass half full instead of selfishly ignoring what you have and not enjoying anything till you have everything you feel you should have. Which in reality makes you a gluten for punishment because it is never possible to have everything. "Don't be a Pig" and you will be able to enjoy life while you are living.

We all reap the benefits

Well there are just way too many reasons why we should all plant as many positive seeds in society as we can. Just look around you. If you want to see something positive in society then pass on something positive. We can clearly see that all the negative seeds planted in the last few generations have grown into a society with a negative outlook that has created a negative outcome. In order for compassion for one another to grow back into society we will have to plant seeds of compassion wherever, whenever and to whomever we can. We all reap the benefit from every positive seed that is planted.

Really? Christmas in September?

Along with the Halloween Decorations going on the shelves there are several stores putting out a few Christmas items also to get you shopping early for Christmas. At first I thought they were just being greedy then I realized it was a good idea. If you buy what is on sale a little at a time from September to December you will be less likely to spend too high of a price waiting to buy it all in December. As well as saving money you will avoid the Holiday rush and crowds. You will actually be able to sit and relax the days leading up to Christmas when you get the shopping done early. And that is a priceless gift for yourself that you will enjoy.

We are all uniquely different

Maybe if we opened our minds our eyes could see and appreciate the uniqueness in each individual. It is OK to disagree with their way of thinking, we are all unique. Through unique and creative thoughts your reality will be formed. If we were all the same there wouldn't be anything new or different to talk about. Uniqueness is what it took to create new things we enjoy today. Since the issues we each may be facing are unique and may take creativity to solve we all must do it in our own unique way which makes us all uniquely different.

Your choice whether to sit down or breakdown

Every now and again you got to give yourself a break both physically and mentally. Over exerting yourself either physically or mentally will affect your over all well being. A circuit overload similar to an electric current will cause a system breakdown to the entire system. When you need a break then take one. Listen to your body and mind when it sends out a warning to prevent a circuit overload breakdown. It's your choice to either sit down or breakdown. It is a lot easier to take a break when you need it than it is to breakdown when you have a lot to do.

Stimulate your "Human Side"

The internet has it's drawbacks. Socially we are taking the "Human Connection" out by eliminating even the very basic interactions with humans and it is no longer thought of as a basic need. That is just not good! Without stimulating the need and desire for "Human Connections" the Human Compassion for one another that is necessary by staying connected to our "Human Side" we will become stone cold beast behind that computer in a connection with the made up relationships in the cyber space world. Be sure and spend some time with those Human Connections you have so that you can stimulate the "Human Side" of yourself by feeling a real hug not a cyber space poke.

You are going to need a toolbox

The challenges of the twenty first century are more complicated then ever before. Simple answers are a thing of the past. A simple Life is but a dream that reality shatters as we face complex problems that there are just no answers for not even on Google. It's a time when you will have to find a way by using every tool you can just to keep up with all the twists and turns. In simpler times you simply looked straight ahead and moved forward. Nowadays you got to bend like a pretzel. Learning how to Just Flush It out of your mind is a TOOL that will help you survive the challenges of the twenty first century.

Learn to work together

It's Love Bug season here and they are everywhere. Thank goodness they don't bite or it would be scary instead of just creepy. I watch them land and take off over and over again only to stop just long enough to take a few steps to rest their wings. You can see the difference in those that had been together for a while. Much like being married for a long while they had learned to work together as they were on their journey through our town it was effortless. Those that were newly bound together were not getting very far when they were trying to each be the leader going in different directions. Soon they realized if they took turns leading and carrying the heavy load they could enjoy the scenery as they went on their Life's Journey.

"Just because" ...Then and Now

"Just Because" Now....Just because that is what is supposed to happen does not mean that it will happen. Just because you earned it does not mean you will get it. Just because you deserve it does not mean that you will get what you deserve. Just because it's the right thing to do does not mean they will do the right thing. "Just because back" then.... Just because I said so. Just because that is the way it is. Just because you want it does not mean you will get it. Just because it's the right thing to do. Just because if it was you then you would want someone to do it for you.

What a difference " 't " makes

Believing you CAN is the first step to getting anything done. Believing you CAN'T means you will never get up and make any effort at all to get it done. Saying "I CAN" means you will. Saying "I CAN'T " means you won't. What a big difference adding "'T" makes. Give yourself a chance to try before you say it can't be done. There are many things that we use everyday that was once an Idea that someone had that others said just can't be done. Simply because they believed that they could and did not listen to those who said it can't be done they kept trying till they did it.

Greeted by the neighborhood animals and insects

Just like people choose which state and which city to live in so too do the animals and insects. Depending on where you live you will figure out real quick what your neighborhood has to adapt to live with the animals and insects who also call it home. In Maine the first bite from a black fly that leaves blood dripping from the wound let's you know that you don't go outside when it's their time. The deer were a beautiful sight but the skunks that came out at night you knew to get out of his sight because of his smell not his bite. One thing is for sure Happiness is just a state of mind no matter what state you live in.

Instead of getting angry she said Thank You

I have seen money and greed turn Humans into savage wolves. Most Business Owners would not take a chance to lose a sale to stand up for a Grandmother who's grandson had been verbally disrespectful to her as they shopped. Yesterday at my favorite local second hand shop the owner did just that. As they reached the counter with their purchases the grandson selected a candy bar then threw it down and told his grandmother you can buy me that too. The owner threw the candy bar across the room and said nothing on this counter will I sell to your grandmother till you apologize for how you have treated her while you have been here. The grandmother could have walked out angrily never to return instead she said "thank you."

It will turn into an avalanche

When you get stuck waiting use your time to explore ideas you never have time to think through. It's a good time to plan the details for the weekend or the vacation that you dream of taking one day. Whatever you do keep your mind occupied with thoughts you choose to explore. Even watching a fly as he explores the room will keep you from letting the thought of how long you are waiting turn into an avalanche of all the negative thoughts of what you could be using the time to do instead of waiting because once the avalanche starts you will bury any chance you have of having a good day.

What you discover after you are knocked down

It may not seem like what is happening could possibly be good for you but sometimes it was the only way you could possibly get where you needed to be. It actually can take getting knocked down to find out just what strengths you had buried inside you. Learning your strengths and weaknesses will help you make a plan and carry out that plan to be the best you can be. You may not have planned on falling but unless you plan on staying down you will have to look deep inside to find the strength if you plan on getting up.

A smile is contagious

It's true.... A smile is worth a thousand words. It's also true that a smile means peace in any language. And just look in a mirror as you smile and you will see it is an inexpensive way to get a face lift and look years younger. With a smile you send to others you can watch it hug their face as they can't help but smile back. Without saying a word your smile can distract them from their thoughts interrupting them just to say " hello there." In an instant your smile can turn their frown upside down as it is contagious and they can't help but smile back. To help someone smile all it will take is a smile that you send there way.

Get busy to distract them

Staying busy will help you stay healthy. When you have too much time to sit and think the more thoughts you will think of. Our mind is an endless stream of thoughts both positive and negative that pop up trying to "grab your attention." If you stay busy focusing on the task you are doing less thoughts have a chance to distract you. So when you find yourself being bombarded with too many negative thoughts just get up and get busy doing something to distract you from them which will just Flush them out of your mind.

I owe thanks to those who deceived me

As I sit and ponder to who I owe thanks for who I am today even I am surprised who comes to mind. Among the obvious ones that pop into my mind are those who did me wrong. At first I thought "no way they deceived me." Then I realized what my subconscious already knew. Had they not, I really wouldn't be where and who I am today. Go figure those that hurt you deeply at the time are a big part of how and why you had to dig deep inside you to find what you needed to be the best you can be and for that I agree, I am thankful.

Make the one a day pledge

Hey what if you and I make a pact to do one random act of kindness everyday. With each kind act we can make someone's day brighter. Can you imagine if we pull together how many times those random acts of kindness would be passed on? The more times we spread it the more it will spread. One day at a time we will light up the World. Someone said to me once if your own family won't listen then spread your light on another family. Every now and again do a random act of kindness for yourself to keep your light going.

Be your biggest fan

You can be your own worst enemy or you can be your biggest fan. It is truly all in how you look at it that will determine whether you are a friend or foe. You can't be a fair weather friend with yourself no more than you already know that you can't count on the fair weather friendships that you have with others. In the end if you see yourself in a positive way you will encourage and support what actions are necessary to be your biggest fan. If you only see your faults then it is obvious that you can be your worst enemy because you know all your secrets.

In spite of everything

A good day doesn't mean everything is going your way. It means in your mind in spite of everything that is going on around you it is a good day. Learning how to flush away a bad day will help you say it is a good day. If you think it you will feel it. How you look at it will determine whether it is a good day or a bad day in your mind. I'm sure you have heard the phrase mind over matter before. It means if it doesn't matter then "Just Flush It" out of your mind. Happiness is just a state of mind no matter what state you live in. Sometimes you got to Flush Away A Bad Day so you can have a good one. Peace of mind is just a Flush away so "Just Flush It."

Wrinkles or no wrinkles?

A smile is a natural facelift. Remember to look years younger all you got to do is Smile. You should also remember that when you are angry it shows in your face. Not only will anger cause wrinkles and make you look older you can also look like a crazed lunatic. Anger causes your face to distort and your teeth to grit while veins swell not allowing blood to flow normally. Every organ of your body will be squeezed as every muscle in your body tightens which is not healthy. Flush out your anger before it can cause any wrinkles and give yourself a facelift by smiling.

Take pride in making it from payday to payday

Times are tough and being creative and thrifty will become common again. In this fast paced World we live in we have forgotten or in some cases were never taught how to use creativity to get by just to get what we need. Being thrifty can determine whether you have the money to get the basics you need. Instead of feeling defeated when money is tight start being proud of yourself when you make it from one check to the next. One meal at a time, one bill at a time and one gallon of gas at a time only you know how creative and thrifty you had to be to do it.

Flush away your doubts

If you doubt yourself then I doubt anyone else will believe you can either. If you don't try then there is no doubt you won't do it. If you don't get up and get started then without a doubt you won't get anything done. If you believe you can do it then you will keep trying till you get it done because there was no doubt you could. There is no doubt if you try to see the positive in every situation you will learn to see how the little joys in life can be your biggest blessings and that will leave you no doubt feeling positive.

Be thankful you have what you need

I believe some people are not happy because they expect that to be happy means they have everything they ever wanted or dreamed of. That is not possible and unless you change your way of thinking it will be impossible for you to ever be happy. We all face issues we have to deal with and life didn't turn out to be what we thought. The only difference between being happy or not is whether you choose to enjoy what you do have and be thankful for having at least what you need.

The circle of Life through the eyes of a square

The older I get things that I didn't understand when I was younger become clearly obvious. The circle of Life and my role in it leaves me scrambling to round the corners off the square that I had been bouncing around in all my Life. As the elders of our families die we find ourselves holding on to each end of the circle knowing that if we let go that everyone inside it will be lost in space. Now I can clearly see just how hard it was for those before me to hold on to both ends and keep the circle from breaking. A good family bond with the squares and triangles throughout Life will help you smooth out the edges to keep the circle unbroken.

Follow the U-Turn signs and stop signs

If you are heading down the wrong path in life that is leading you nowhere then turn around before you go too far. If you are doing something that hurts you then stop doing it. It is not important how you got off the right path what is important is that you do what is necessary to get back on track and figure out how to stay on track. If it hurts you then why on Earth would you want to do it? Some things you just naturally know what you need to do so just get up and get 'r done. It may not be your circumstances that is the problem. It may be the U-turn signs and stop signs in life that you are not following.

Enjoy a blast from your past

A walk through a flea market is like a walk down memory lane. With just a glance at an object that you remember from your past in an instant you go through a time warp of memories. It triggers memories that sometimes you had no idea they had even happened till you relived them in your mind. You walk down each isle darting your eyes from one table to another just looking for an old treasure to enjoy it's secret memory buried deep inside your mind. Without spending a dime you can take a trip down memory lane and enjoy a blast from your past. When you need a mini vacation from the present visit a flea market to see the memories it holds for you.

The possibility for Peace on Earth

It seems like more and more people have opened their eyes to the wrong doings going on around them. Problem is it has been ignored and let go on so long that it is going on all around them. If you see it happening you got to stop it quickly before it quickly spreads. Just like a gardener has to get rid of the weeds that pop up in his garden before they spread all over his vegetables and destroy them. We all must get rid of the negativity that just like the weeds in a garden will take over and destroy the possibility of Peace on Earth. We are all gardeners on Earth and we reap what we put into it. It is our job to keep the weeds out.

The wise child within you

When my young grandson steps on a toy and gets hurt his first reaction is to get rid of it. When he runs into a piece of furniture and gets hurt he says grandma you got to move it. When his sister misbehaves he reminds me she needs to go to time out for her actions. When it rains and going to play outside is impossible he just says now we can play mission impossible on Nintendo 64. Kids are born with the ability to see clearly what hurts them should go away so it doesn't happen again. They understand if you misbehave there are consequences. When they can't do what they want they just play with something else. If adults can connect to the child within themselves they will find wisdom.

A Hobby may help

Do you have a hobby? If you answered no or you had to think long and hard to find even a possible Hobby you may have then this blog is for you. Hobbies are tools to help bring you peace of mind. They distract you when you need to clear your mind. They bring out your playful and creative sides. They not only help you to relax and smile but they also make you a nicer person that makes those around you relax and smile. Painters zone in on the brush strokes, Writers zone in on the words, Race car drivers zone in on the track, etc......A Hobby may be just what you need. Those of you reading this who have Hobbies perhaps you would like to share it to give ideas to those that need one. Send your ideas to Billie Bob P.O. BOX 1493 Middleburg Florida 32050

A pinata has candy inside

In life at times you get treated like a piñata but you got to remember it is full of candy. Sometimes it takes the hard times to bring out the best in us all. Other times the tornado in your personal life is what was necessary to get you where you need to be. It may be unclear how on Earth the painful experience you are facing could possibly lead to a positive outcome but they are growing pains that you will one day say helped you and you will believe everything happens for a reason. Remember a piñata is full of candy inside.

One tired dog

As the children were running and playing on the circle driveway the dog would follow close behind. First she followed them on a scooter for a while. Then she ran back and forth as they tossed the giant red ball back and forth. She ran for miles in the few hours they played outside. You could see her panting as she stopped for a break. This time when the kids started running in circles in the driveway again she just sat and watched their feet looking under the car watching them all the way then ran to catch up only when they ran close by. As tired as she was you should have seen how fast she ran away when they got out the hose to cool off.

May not be what your after

You never know the outcome till the end. All the research and planning along with the hard work is all you can do then you wait. Although it is not guaranteed to bring the outcome you want, it is necessary if your going to have any chance at all. There are even times when the outcome wasn't anything you were after yet it is a better outcome. There are also times where it's a bad outcome despite all your hard work and all I can say is Everything happens for a reason and one day you'll say....that wouldn't have happened if the outcome had been different.

It's for anyone and everyone to enjoy

Have you ever had a young child point out what shape the cloud is? If you don't see it they describe it and point in a confused tone as if saying come on you have to see it. But a dog shape with no tail nor any legs? You got to admire the brilliant imagination they have. If adults could only see the simple joyful happy shapes that exist in the sky with a little imagination for anyone and everyone to enjoy. You believe what you see and imagination is part of some peoples "peace of mind." While there are others who see only the storm clouds in the distance.

It is up to you

If you stay bundled up in the winter you will prevent the cold from blowing on you. If you choose not to wear a coat you will be colder. Not a good idea to wear pants on a hot day but if you do you will be hotter. If you know you are always running late then you should set your alarm or you will be late again. If it hurt you once chances are it will hurt you again so don't do it. There are many choices we must make each day and doing what we know means taking a brief moment to stop and think of why you should or shouldn't. It is up to you to choose.

You are worth every penny of it

Don't ignore it when you know you are physically in distress. If you need medical attention then pay attention to the warning signs and go to the doctor. You may not have insurance or the money to pay but you will pay with your life if you don't. Being alive is priceless. The cost to get better is far more important then the price you pay to avoid the cost of a doctor. You are worth every penny of it. The longer you put it off the longer the bill will be cause the sicker you will be. Take care of yourself before your finances.

A tornado in your personal life

As the storm is rolling in you can hear the thunder and feel it shake the ground. It is a warning to be prepared because it is coming. We have seen the devastation that these severe storms have caused so we know to get out of it's way if we want to be safe. Although when someone's built in warning system goes off sounding an alarm that what we are about to do is dangerous and can produce a tornado that can have a devastating outcome to our personal lives there are those who ignore it. If you know a deadly storm is approaching you should get out of the way cause a tornado in your personal life can be just as devastating.

Choose wisely and you will smile

Since your thoughts whether they are negative or positive will determine whether you will feel negative or positive then it makes sense to think of happy thoughts. If you want to change the negative feeling you are having then you see that you need to change the thought to change the way you feel. If you only think of negative thoughts then guess what? You will feel negatively and respond negatively. Choose how you will feel one thought at a time.

There is NO magic wand

You can't just wait for what you need. There is no magic wand that you can wave. Knowledge, Awareness and Free Will are powerful tools that are at your disposal but it is up to you to utilize them. There is no magic pill that will take away all of Life's troubles and there will always be issues on your life's journey. As you learn to deal with each issue you will have personal growth. It takes all the triumphs that are a part of life's journey and all the hard work to get you where you need to be and grow up to be the best you can be.

Sharks and dolphins live together

You can't always judge a book by it's cover even though first impressions mean a lot. Not all Politicians are crooked just the good ones never get to be heard. There are Doctors who don't care about their patients yet they went to school long enough to earn a degree. In every aspect of Life you will find a variety of people in every position. Just realize that even as you watch a peaceful school of dolphins swim by in the ocean without a doubt there are man eating sharks swimming close by too.

Independence means Freedom

As we celebrate Independence Day it is a time to reflect back on all that America stands for. It will not just be what we talk about with words but how proud deep down inside we feel to be able to stand united today to keep America standing loud and proud. We all must do our part because we are all part of what it takes to keep the America we grew up in for our children and grandchildren and so on and so on. It is a day to celebrate not only Americas Independence but also celebrate what each and every one of us have....."Freedom." We must also remember that our freedom isn't free. We are free to do what we want to do but we will only stay free if we all be the best we can be.

Once is enough

I'm sure many of you have noticed that when times get tough there may not be anyone there to catch you if you fall. The mess you may be facing may not be due to any fault of your own but you alone will have to deal with it. Don't make things harder on yourself by wasting your time, energy and emotions on convincing others nor yourself that it was not your fault, you already know that. You just need to figure out how to get out of the mess you may be facing because when the going gets tough the tough get going. Always remember....If it happens once shame on them. If it happens twice shame on you.

Don't waste a perfectly "good day"

We all have good days and bad days on our journey called life. Where we may differ is can we flush away a bad day so that we can have a good one. If you only focus on what has happened that caused you to have a bad day yesterday then you will create an avalanche of bad feelings. You will bury yourself. You got to get up and "Just Flush It" out of your mind and move on so you can enjoy the good days that are waiting ahead on your journey through life. We all only have so many days on Earth so why on Earth would you relive a bad day wasting a perfectly good day?

If it is Broken.....Fix It

Don't be in such a hurry to throw away what is broken, "Just Fix It." You don't throw away your future because you have been hurt by your past. You don't give up on your dreams because they are harder to reach than you thought. If you give up when the going gets tough then you won't get anywhere. Back in the "Good old days" they fixed it if it was broken. Nowadays people fill our Dumps with things that still work just because they want something different. Unfortunately it is not only material things people just throw away. They throw away people and their values dumping emotional distress like it was just trash. If it is broken then Fix It.

Young mind but old Body

I keep hearing people say age 50 is the new 30. What the heck is that suppose to mean? I am about to turn 50 and I sure don't feel like nor look like I am 30. I think others who have turned 50 say that to distance themselves from "old age." In my opinion now that I am almost 50 , it really means I sure wish I was turning thirty. Funny how no one wishes to be a teenager again. Those years most of us definitely lived through some scary stuff so we pick 30 because we don't want to have to live through it again. Your mind might try to say your 30 but your body functions at the age of 50 so remember that before you pull a muscle and then you will feel like your 80.

Cross it off if it's not necessary

Often it seems as if no matter how many things I cross off my "to do" list it never ends. As I am working on one thing I realize that there is something else that needs to get done so I have to add it to the list. I decided to add "cross off anything that is unnecessary" to the list to help lighten my load. Each time you cross something off you will smile as you feel refreshed now that you can "Just Flush It" out of your mind. There are always things on your "to do" list that is part of life. Take the time to add it to your list so that you can enjoy life while you are living not stressed out over anything that is unnecessary.

Reach out and touch someone

With a helping hand you can help them stand on their own. You don't have to solve any problem they may be facing simply lending a hand to help them stand so they can be on solid ground to solve it on their own. If you think that what they are facing is too big of a problem for you to help them with you clearly underestimate how far an act of kindness can go. It's like seeing a stranded motorist and saying.....I cant afford to buy them a new car so you leave them stranded when all they needed was a little bit of gas. All they may need is a helping hand so reach out and touch someone.

Don't let them "steal your joy"

Why do people try to "steal the joy" from other people? If it makes them happy then why do they care? From "your point of view" you see things in a positive way yet there are those who insist you see it their way and they suck the joy right out of you. Even worse when they convince you that their is a negative point of view that brings you way down they smile and say "things aren't as bad as they seem" as if they suggested a positive view to it. People will "steal your joy" and suck the life out of you if you let them. Don't let them "steal your joy!"

You can be your own worst enemy

Did you know that you can be your own worst enemy? It's true. You don't have to be diagnosed with split personality to talk to yourself. We all do it or at least we should because that is how we talk ourselves out of doing something crazy. If you keep looking at yourself in a negative way and keep reminding yourself of all the negative issues you have had to face then you will defeat any chance you have of a positive feeling. It is bad enough when you are hurt by others or had to live through a tough situation but to do it to yourself over and over again will make you your worst enemy.

Just waking up everyday is a reason

The fact that you are alive and reading this is a reason to smile. Lets face it there are days when we experience some tough things that make it hard to find a reason to smile. That is why I said there is always one reason and that is the simple fact that your alive is a reason to smile. Anytime you need a second reason you can visit my home page and flush the Virtual Toilet to hear the sound to make you giggle as you smile. Everyday you have is precious but that doesn't mean every second you will smile because everything is going your way. I'm just saying waking up every day is a reason to smile and you should enjoy every precious second of it.

Here's an Idea..."Don't Do It"

If you start to think about doing something and you suddenly feel sick to your stomach it doesn't mean you have gas nor the flu. It is your built in warning system that is trying to stop you from making a "big mistake." When you are about to do something and a little voice in your head called your conscience starts telling you that you shouldn't do it then you need to stop to listen. If you ignore all your built in warning signals and do it anyways you will eventually say "I knew this was a bad idea." If you knew then why did you do it? If your built in warning system goes off and you know it is a bad idea then here is an idea "Don't Do It."

"JFI" so you can get up and get-r-done

The most inspiring people are the ones who are facing the most dreadful circumstances. It inspires you to tackle hard issues you may be facing by making you realize that compared to their issues you have no reason to not be able to figure it out. Everyone has to do what they got to do even those facing dreadful circumstances. As issues arise in your life from time to time remind yourself that it is OK to sit on your pity-potty every now and again just be sure and flush when you are done so you can get up and get-r-done.

You have to adjust as you go

As we grow older our vision grows weaker but our minds see much better because by then we have seen so much more. With age comes all the aches and pains that slow us down yet we get more done because we save time and energy by knowing the importance of reading instructions. Unfortunately as we grow older we have seen those before us pass away far too young which makes us realize how precious everyday and every moment really is. Just like you have to adjust your thermostat from one season to the next or even twice in the same day so too will you have to adjust as you grow older.

Despite whether anyone else believes it

As I struggle while trying to market "Just Flush It" with all the negative outcomes I stay motivated by imagining how they will feel when JFI is successful. I hope like Vivian from "Pretty Woman" I can one day return with tons of order slips in my hand and say "Big Mistake." My Billie Bob Dream has at times felt like a nightmare. I am sure glad that I have learned how to "Just Flush It" so it didn't clog me up and I am able to keep flowing along so I can fulfill my Billie Bob Dream. I believe that your dreams can come true as long as you believe in yourself despite whether anyone else believes it.

Will you have a choice to go somewhere else?

It is really annoying when you pay good money to be treated like you are annoying them. What the heck is wrong with this picture? As the small "Mom and Pop" businesses one by one close their doors in this economy the businesses that are left without competition can get away with being annoying. Help keep the small businesses open which will ensure that if you get annoyed you will have the choice to go somewhere else. Competition is needed to keep them competing for your business. When supplies are limited and the demand is high if you need it then you will have to accept the price to get it no matter how annoying it is.

You will stunt your personal growth

If you only view yourself in a negative way then you will talk yourself out of doing what you need to do. You will stunt your personal growth. Once you begin to see yourself in a positive way you will know that you can do it and knowing you can is the first step that is necessary to get you up and started. What other people think about you does not determine your personal growth it is how you view yourself that will decide whether you personally grow where you are planted. If you keep reminding yourself about all your faults you will bury yourself and your future.

There is nothing wrong with an Honest NO

Although I am always hoping the answer to my question is a YES I at least hope if the answer is NO I get an Honest No. Telling someone that you will try to get it done when you know you have NO intentions of doing it is down right dishonest. If they are waiting for you it means they are not looking for anyone else. There is nothing wrong with telling someone NO I can't help you. The truth won't hurt anyone. An Honest NO will keep them searching till they find what they need. Don't say YES when you know good and well you really mean NO WAY.

Try flushing your high blood pressure away

Lots of people suffer from high blood pressure. But did you ever think about when you are worried or angry you tighten your muscles not allowing your blood to flow normally. All your blood has to rush to your brain and muscles instead of nourishing all your body parts so they can perform normally. If you realize how negative thoughts cause physical distress to your entire body then you know that for your over all Well Being you need to learn how to "Just Flush It." Get in the Habit of maintaining Good Health by flushing away negative thoughts before they do physical damage.

It doesn't mean sit there and do nothing

Some people get the wrong impression about the meaning behind the phrase "Good things come to those who wait." It doesn't mean sit there and do nothing just wait till it falls in your lap. It means do all the hard work that is necessary then be patient and you will reap the benefit for what you have done. It takes effort on your part to be where you need to be at just the right time. Some people ask how things happen. Some people ask why things happen and some people make things happen. Which one are you?

Your Heart will reward you with time

We are all starting to pay attention to the fact that a Healthy Lifestyle is the key to living longer. But there is more to Healthy Living than watching what you eat and getting plenty of exercise. Your Body reacts to negative thoughts which will cause serious Physical distress making you not only unhappy but also unhealthy. For example if you suddenly feel scared to death your brain will cause your Heart to race 100 miles per hour as an alarm getting ready to battle. Every time you put your Heart through another battle you do damage to it. By learning how to be emotionally Heart Healthy your Heart will reward you with time.

Your organs shouldn't be squeezed

Imagine for a moment all the juice and pulp that you squeeze from an orange to make orange juice. After you squeeze out all the insides you have to throw the rest away it is inedible. Every time you get angry or stressed out you tighten your muscles and squeeze tightly around your organs. You are literally squeezing the life out of yourself. Whatever has angered you or that is stressing you out can not possibly be worth dying for. If you want your organs to keep you alive then don't squeeze them to death.

You can "Win it in a minute"

If the prize you are going after is to make someone smile then think of all the ways you can "Win it in a minute." Opening the door for someone will automatically make them look straight at you and smile. Reaching up to get something for someone at a store that they were struggling for will sure make them smile. Taking the time to say Thank You when you feel someone deserves it will certainly make them smile. Letting someone know that you noticed their hard work by telling them what a good job they did will definitely make them smile. In less than 60 seconds you can brighten someone's day by making them smile. How many times today can you "Win it in a minute?"

You can bring World Peace if you stop a minute

Listening to someone when they need to "Just Flush It" out of their mind so they can move on is a "Big Help." Once they can clearly think they can figure out a solution on their own. Don't just say "There is nothing I can do" and walk away because sitting quietly while they talk doesn't require but a simple minute of your time. It is just a simple act of compassion that will help them for a lifetime if you will simply STOP a minute to listen. A minute at a time we could bring Peace to the World one person at a time simply by taking a minute to stop and listen so people can "Just Flush It" making room for "Peace of Mind" to get in.

It will be impossible if you think it is

You know the phrase "You are what you think you are?" Well that is the key that you need to make a positive difference in your life. If you could only understand that if you view yourself in a negative way then you will have a negative outlook which can only lead you to a negative outcome. By the same token if you view yourself in a positive way your positive outlook will lead you to a positive outcome that your positive attitude leads you to. If you tell yourself you can't do it then you won't because you won't try. If you believe you can do it then you will try until you get it done. If you think you can you will. If you think it is impossible then it will be impossible for you.

Just squash it like a bug

I realized it would be hard to explain to others by choosing to entertain a negative thought they would be bombarded in an instant with negativity that will immobilize them. My analogy to help.... It's like bringing home a roach from the store in your grocery bag. If you squish him quickly you will not be affected by it. On the other hand if you let it get away it will have 1000 babies that will then be overwhelming. They say roaches could survive a nuclear bomb which is similar to the endless stream of negative thoughts that run through your mind. It is easier to squash out any chance of a roach infestation when it's only one just like you should flush out a negative thought before it takes over just as quick. "Just squash it like a bug."

Spring don't start until there are leaves

Seems like yesterday the trees in my front yard were bare with no leaves now today nearly every inch on their limbs are covered with leaves. It's as if a button was pushed and thousands of leaves simultaneously popped out. All the birds are flying around picking and choosing where their nest will be built. There was family after family of insects coming from every direction as the sign of leaves means they can come out of their underground spots to make a new home. I watched a woodpecker easily pecking devouring a buffet of insects as they trailed up the tree. Spring may have officially started weeks ago but for the animals and insects it starts when they see new leaves they can hide in.

Make room for "Peace of Mind" if you want it

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to find a little "Peace of Mind" among all the endless stream of thoughts that run through your mind? Well you can! You don't have to try and figure out how to stop the flow of thoughts entirely to accomplish this. You merely have to get in the habit of flushing them out of your mind as they come to make room for "Peace of Mind" to get in. You don't have to solve all the issues you are facing either to find it. It is possible even if it is only in your mind and you are surrounded by real life chaos. One moment at a time you can "Just Flush It." "Peace of Mind" is really just a flush away so JUST FLUSH IT.

You should "Stop and smell the roses"

In the blink of an eye it seems another day has gone by. It's as if you start your day with a plan then next thing you know there isn't enough time in the day to get done all you had planned. A fast paced World seems to make time go by even faster. It doesn't allow you to take the time to "Stop and smell the roses", so to speak. As you spend all your time at a frantic pace you are too busy to enjoy the "little joys" in life as you chase after some big thing in life that you might enjoy later. You have to slow down long enough to enjoy life while you are living because Happiness is in the "little joys" along the way.

Without the setback you could still be lost

Not every step you take in the right direction is monumental but every step you take is just as important as the "big ones" to keep you on course. There are times when you feel as if you take one step forward only to fall two steps back. The setbacks are a necessary part to get you where you need to be which you would not have realized had you not fallen two steps back. It forces you to look with your eyes wide open so you could see which way to go to stay heading in the right direction which will make it monumentally important because otherwise you could still be lost.

"I" can only and always be "you"

Whenever you say "I give", "I can't" or "I won't" then you can't place blame on anyone but "you." Whenever you say "I did" you are taking ownership for it. When you say "I will" you know that you are the one who will have to do it. When you say "No I won't" then you are letting everyone know you personally will not be doing it. Whenever you use the word "I" you have to take ownership for it because "I" can only and always be "You." You will be the only one responsible whenever you say the word "I."

It's not a "staircase" till you build steps

The phrase "slow and steady wins the race" is about a Life Philosophy. The race between the tortoise and the rabbit is an example to remind you that taking your time and staying focused will get you the positive outcome you want. Anything worth having is worth your full attention to make sure you stay focused. Don't waste your time or energy on finding a short cut that like the rabbit it will lead you just short of where you planned to be. Each step in Life that you take is just as important as each step in a staircase is to get you where you want to be. It's not a "staircase" till you build the steps.

Only a small fraction are worth grabbing

It is easy to get distracted by all the thoughts that stream through endlessly in your mind trying to "grab your attention." If you lose focus and choose to give any of them a second thought then be prepared because once it has "grabbed your attention" it will bombard you with thoughts that will consume your entire thinking process. If it is a positive thought then it will have a positive outcome. Problem is if it is a negative thought it can only lead you to a negative outcome. Although the number of positive thoughts are only a small fraction in the endless thought stream they are the only ones you should grab on to which means you will spend most of your time flushing all the negative ones.

Start every day with a chance to have a good day

As you wake up in the morning remember it is a New Day so don't jump out of bed thinking about all the negative things that happened yesterday. Why? Well if you want to have a clear fresh mind to start your day off right you'll have to not fill it with things that were clogging it up last night. Every day is a chance to have a "good day" but you will have to "Flush Away A Bad Day" if you are going to have any chances at all. Yesterday you can not change and tomorrow may never come. You see today is the only one you can enjoy so don't spend it thinking about yesterday.

Choose NOT to say it out loud

Screaming and yelling at each other is not Healthy nor is it considered communicating with someone. The energy that is used to be the one who's doing the yelling or to be the one being yelled at is mind boggling. As your blood pressure rises and your muscles tighten your organs get squeezed turning the Mental Anguish into Physical Distress. The old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all" seems to be something we need to say more often because people have been letting whatever pops in their mind fly out their mouth. Don't let your anger spew on to others by simply choosing to NOT say it out loud.

Would've, Could've, and Should've never helps anyone

Don't be the one that says..... I wish I WOULD'VE .....helped. I COULD'VE ......at least... I SHOULD'VE .....done something. Would've, Could've, and Should've never helps anyone. A spontaneous reaction to help needs to happen when you feel it. Your first thought of a random act of kindness that you spontaneously think of must be acted on so you can say... I did what I COULD. That SHOULD help them a little. I simply did what I WOULD hope someone WOULD do for me if I needed it.

It spreads to people who you will never know

They may not remember your name nor even what you look like but they will never forget your kindness. A random act of kindness will not only be remembered, it is a seed that you planted which will grow and help them to pass it on. One thing leads to another so as long as you get it started with the first random act of kindness your seed will grow spreading kindness to people you will never know. As time goes on the list will grow of those who's lives were touched by your simple act of kindness. They don't have to know where it started all they know is they are simply glad it did.

A Happy Feeling that is un-describable

I wish I could find the right words to describe what it feels like to do a random act of kindness. The best ones are the ones you do for a total stranger. There are times when in passing through our busy day we cross paths with someone and you can just feel their pain. Your random act of kindness no matter how small can be just the thing they need to help them Flush away a bad day. What it feels like to be the one to be doing the act of kindness is what I wish I could describe to you. It will fill you from head to toe with a Happy Feeling that is un-describable. What you do to make others happy will make you Happy.

A Healthy Lifestyle includes maintaining Mental Stress

After you have a stressful argument with someone your body and mind feel like you just ran a marathon. Chances are if you were arguing then you really didn't come up with a workable agreement. In the end you made matters worse not only the relationship with the person you were arguing with but your Overall Health as well. Relationships usually recover in time but the Physical damage is done and that you can never fully recover from. You must realize that Mental Stress leads to Physical Distress. Maintaining Good Physical Health is more than watching what you eat and getting plenty of exercise you must also avoid Mental Stress as well for your overall Physical Well Being.

Don't let it literally Bug you to death

There is One reason alone that should be enough to not let any person or any thought affect you in a negative way.... Physically it will kill you! If you let it bug you to death then it will be the death of you. NO ONE nor anything is worth dying for. Stressing your Heart out by squeezing tightly in reaction to the negativity is literally squeezing the life out of you. Your organs can not function properly as your muscles tighten around them as you grit your teeth tightly in anger. Next time you feel your jaw tightening out of anger ask yourself "Is this worth dying for?" Don't let it literally Bug you to death.

Subconsciously you hid it from yourself

Sometimes what you thought you saw that was stressing you out turned out to be a "horse of a different color." Take for instance when viewing a home to rent you thought the countertops were yellow and thought it was a horrible kitchen you would have to live with. Truth is when you moved in the countertops were mostly black in it's marbled look. Now how is that even possible? Perhaps your mind subconsciously knew that it would be a pleasant surprise that you would need the first day you moved in to help you love it even more.

You could regret putting it off

We can all debate on what happens to those that are dead after they leave this Earth. One thing is for sure that we all can agree on is the fact that the ones that are left to grieve must live with the would've, could've and should've list we regret. The fact is that once they are gone so are your chances to have no regrets of what you wish you would have said or done. If there is something that you know you would regret if you did not do then Just Do It! Putting off what you can do today might be what you regret you didn't do tomorrow.

We all must do our part

There are many problems that people are facing that are through no fault of their own. This World has become desensitized to wrong doings to the point where they have become acceptable. The basic simple trait of being Human is to be compassionate. Unfortunately common courtesy, common decency, common sense and compassion are not so common anymore. The problem is we all keep waiting for the World to get better on it's own but as you can see it can't. We all must do our part. If everyone would just Show therefore Teach the Habit of Humanity this World would be a better place to live in.

Do the right thing just because....

Just because..... ...you can does not mean you should. ...everyone else is doing it doesn't make it right. ...it works for someone else does not mean it will work for you. ...you heard it was true does not make it true. ...you deserve it does not mean you will get what you deserve. ...it sounds too good to be true is a reason to doubt that it is true. ...it is morally wrong should be the only reason you need to NOT do it. ...your alive is a reason to smile.

Your outlook will determine the outcome

If you have to ask yourself how many times you have let the same negative thought bring you a negative outcome then you know it is time to prevent it from doing anymore damage. You will have to get in the habit of recognizing a negative thought and quickly "Just Flush It" out of your mind before it grabs hold of your attention leading you to the same negative outcome. If you want a positive outcome you must only entertain positive thoughts that will lead you to a positive outlook that leads you to a positive outcome. Negative thoughts lead to a negative outlook that will lead you to a negative outcome.

You will drop the ball juggling too much

Thinking about too many issues to the point it gives you a headache can't be healthy or wise. Physically you are immobilized by the headache and if you can't think clearly then it would NOT be wise to think you will find the words of wisdom to follow. The best thing to do is to stop, take a deep breath and clear your mind so you can focus. Don't juggle more than you can handle or it will wear you down and you will drop the ball on the things that are most important to you by juggling too many things. Don't lose focus on what is most important because you are thinking about things that don't matter at all.

You'll find "peace of mind" when you are done

If you don't ask you won't know the answer. If you don't start it you won't finish it. If you need something done then just do it or find someone to do it because it needs to get done. If you don't look for a way to have "peace of mind" among all the obstacles in life then the reality is you won't find it. If you know it is up to you to enjoy life while you are living then why don't you make room for it by learning to just do what needs to get done so you will have "peace of mind" just from knowing it is already done.

A relaxing distraction

I was trying to relax outside and read a little to enjoy the fall like day when a bee kept distracting me making understanding what I was trying to read impossible. I put down my book and got up to walk away from the bee. When I was safely away that bee started gathering pollen from the flowers that were below the bench I was just sitting at trying to read. I realized he was just trying to relax and gather his pollen and I was distracting him. As I was standing there I was watching him gather pollen till both his cheeks were bulging with bright yellw pollen then fly away back to his home. As I grabbed my book to head back inside I sighed in relief as I felt relaxed after spending an enjoyable fall like day outside distracted by that bee.

Hard Work V.S. Hard Life

Will you get the opportunity to fulfill your long time dreams? Although just because you try does not guarantee that you will it is a 100% guarantee that you won't if you don't try. No matter how hard you work you won't always get everything you want but with hard work you will at least get everything you need. It is up to you to make your dream come true which includes not giving up on your dream even when it is harder than you ever dreamed. A life worth living takes hard work but if you don't do the work that is necessary you'll have a hard life to live.

You must see it to feel it

Showing that you care so they can see it is the only way they can feel it. You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone see it or feel it? Your intentions may be good but if it is not followed by actions then it will do no good at all for the person it was intended for. A simple show of kindness can go a long way. By teaching them how important being kind to others is first hand they will show therefore teach others and that is how a simple show of kindness can spread.

Don't let it stink up your future too

Even after you finally get over something the thought may pop in your mind again and again trying to "grab your attention." You will have to get in the habit of just flushing them as they come. Don't let them stick around long enough to do any damage. When others bring it up you must simply tell them you have already flushed it out of your mind and you don't want to talk about it. If you keep it fresh on your mind then it will have a negative effect on you. It is bad enough when it happened but the more times you think about it the more damage it can cause. Don't let what happened in your past stink up your future too.

As you slow down you realize

Time goes by faster the older you get. When you are young, healthy, and full of energy you are so busy staying busy that you don't notice how fast time flies by. When you get older and you are forced to slow down you have time to notice that in what seems like a few months another year has gone by. That doesn't seem like something to worry about when you are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. When you get older you realize you have already lived for a long time and you notice how fast time is flying by.

A sparkle that caught my eye

It's that time of year when the leaves need raked and the tree needs trimmed. Unfortunately it also means that it will cause many animals and insects to lose their homes. There was an abandoned birds nest on a limb that was cut that caught my attention from across the yard. The sun beat down just so that a red ribbon scrap sparkled brightly catching my eye. The nest was full of lawn debris as well as tiny treasures of trash that it found in my yard. It even gathered pine straw with clumps of tree sap from my neighbors yard that held it together like glue. I decided to leave a small strand of shiny blue ribbon on the ground below that tree in hopes that I will see a new nest that it will be in that sparkles and catches my eye.

Go figure, you can miss what annoys you

It's funny how the people or things that annoy you are something you would miss if they weren't there. The same is true apparently for animals. Our neighbors got a new dog that my dog would angrily get in confrontations with daily, each fighting from their side of the fence. You would have thought she would be happy when they moved yet she seems to miss him. For a couple of days she would take off barking as she charged to the fence in attack mode. As time went on she realized the dog was not going to run to the fence to greet her. Now after she roams the yard she sits right next to the fence looking and hoping to see the annoying dog charging at her. Go figure.

One less second to live

When you have hate in your heart for someone or something it does permanent damage. We all know the dangers of clogging your arteries with fatty foods will cause your heart to pump harder. Anger also causes your heart to work harder as it causes it to tighten and clog up. Staying away from too many fried foods as well as too much negative emotions, which both can be avoided, is a Healthy Heart Choice. Don't let what angers you stay in your mind long enough to grow roots that reaches your heart squeezing the very life out of you. Every second that your heart has to work twice as hard to sustain your life is one less second it will be able to keep you alive. Every time you can "Just Flush It" you gain a second. When you skip the fries, another second.

Prevent a circuit overload

There will be many challenges that you will have to face in life. In order to prevent a circuit overload which will negatively effect your over all well being you should STOP till you decide if it is even a "challenge" you need to face. If you first eliminate those that would be a waste of your time and energy you will have lightened your load of challenges. Next you should put the remaining challenges in a list of priority and face the most important ones head on. Don't overwhelm yourself with a dead line that pushes you to the limit and you will prevent a circuit overload.

Wisdom to avoid the hardships

Trying to pass on the information to save someone from having to face the same negative outcome as you had seems to be a challenge these days. The lessons you learn in life are lessons learned whether it is through your own experiences or from the mistakes you saw others face before you. A wise man will always choose to learn by observing as opposed to suffering the hardship that could have been avoided. Just by paying attention and by listening to others with your ears and eyes wide open you will learn many lessons. Wisdom does not have to be painful. It can be as easy as you make it and if you would simply learn what you can from others you will have the wisdom to avoid the hardships.

Despite the outcome

When all is said and done will you feel comfortable with what you have done? Feeling good about what you did in certain situations is more important than the outcome of the situation. If the outcome is in your favor yet you damaged your character to get the outcome then you won't be able to comfortably enjoy it. The best things in life are not the ones with the best outcome but the ones you are proud of how you handled them despite the outcome. It's like being rich the outcome being an enormous income but that won't make you happy. You won't be comfortable even in your own skin if you are not comfortable with what you are doing in the skin your in.

Don't just walk away

When you see other people who are facing major issues that you know you can not help them with in any way, don't just walk away. They know that there are times when there is nothing that can be done so they are not looking for an answer from you. Just lending an ear to let them say outloud that it can not be solved is all they need so they can "Just Flush It" out and move on. Just suggesting that they let it go because you can see that there is nothing they can do about the issue is just what they need to help them flush out the negative emotions so they can have room for positive thoughts to get in.

Have you ever noticed.....

Have you ever worried yourself sick stressing out over what might happen? Have you ever noticed that the "issue" you thought you would have to face that you had been stressing over turned out to be nothing you needed to worry about? Have you ever noticed that you are not only mentally but physically wore out despite the positive outcome? Don't make yourself explore every negative outcome to an "issue" that is doing real damage not because they are happening but because your worried they might happen.

The courage to accept it

Just because you decide that you will have to accept what is happening does not mean that you are OK with it. It simply means that you have decided to "JUST FLUSH IT" and move on. It means that it wasn't worth fighting about nor stressing yourself out about it. From the moment you accept that it is what it is you will feel relieved not because of the outcome but because you don't have to think about it anymore. You won't feel defeated if you accept it and just walk away. Having the courage to accept the things you can not change and having the wisdom to know the difference makes you very WISE.

You need to get on solid ground

Going with the flow in life with all it's twists and turns makes it hard to see an opportunity let alone grab on to it. But if you don't reach for it and try then you are not taking advantage of the opportunities that you had to find solid ground to plant your feet firmly to grow. How you got where you are if you are treading on thin ice is not a reason to stay there. The fact that you are treading on thin ice now is the only reason you need to get on solid ground so you can grow where you are planted but to grow wherever you are you will have to plant your feet firmly on solid ground.

If you get the facts

If they believe something is true then there is nothing anyone can say, even if is backed up by facts, that will convince them that it is not true. Their "point of view" is the only one they can see even if their narrowed view is surrounded by the facts. They can not see what is right in front of their face only what they choose to see. The fact is your "point of view" is your reality and things may be different if you would look at all the facts before you accept at a quick glance and form an opinion that blocks you from seeing the facts. An opinion that is not based on facts is called a guess. Your reality could change if you get the facts.

Bad things can lead to "good things"

Sometimes if it weren't for bad circumstances I realize I would not be where I am today. It takes the good and the bad (especially these days) to get one step ahead. One day when you look back at how you got where you are you will realize that before each set back you were heading in the wrong direction. You will be able to see that the "bad thing" you had to face was actually a "good thing" because it made you figure out the right path for you. Everything happens for a reason and timing is everything. There are times when you will get knocked down and you will have to get up, shake it off and "Just Flush It" so you can move on.

All you can do is "Your Best"

What can you do when there is nothing you can do? What can you say when everything you say just makes things worse? There are some situations when it is just necessary to walk away to minimize the damage. Not every situation has a solution nor does every question you have will there be an answer to, not even on Google. Just because it is not fair does not mean that somehow, someway, someday that in the end the right thing will be done because life isn't always fair. All you can do is do the best that you can and find "peace of mind" no matter what the outcome is that you did the best that you could.

A facebook poke is not a hug

The only way friends and family stay in contact and connected thesedays is through e-mail, text or facebook. Where is the Human Contact that is needed? Society has been altered by all the technology. The closest thing most people get to a hug is a poke on facebook. It is hard to imagine that the only Human Relationships that many people have is the imaginary made up profiles of friends that are not always real people or real stories yet they really feel loved and content. If you can't reach out and touch them then you won't know if they are really real. Go visit a relative or friend and you will see what a real HUG feels like. Don't just poke them on facebook.

Worrying yourself to death

No matter how things turn out the time you spend worrying about it will do damage that can't be undone. Make sure you don't stress your heart out by learning that stress on your mind is bad enough but if you don't JUST FLUSH IT quickly it can suddenly bring on a Sudden Cardiac Arrest. Nothing is so important that it is worth worrying yourself to death about. If it is not a life or death situation then don't make it one. If you keep your mind clear of stressful thoughts they won't hve a chance to stress your heart out. A healthy mind is part of maintaining a healthy heart.

Take what you got

It may not be your first choice but it may be your only choice. It may not be what you wanted it to be but it may be all you are gonna get. You can see the glass half full and enjoy what you do have or you can see it half empty and spend all your time complaining about where the other half went. Take what you got and make the best of it. If you want a positive outcome you will have to think of positive thoughts. If you look for a way to have a positive outlook you will but if you are only thinking about all the negative that it will bring then you won't see the positive bcause you are too angry to see.

Naturally happening or Man made

Some situations we must deal with leave us almost speechless short of saying "What the heck?" and "How on Earth could this even be possible?" Yet we must deal with it just to continue on with our daily lives. Somethings are just life but unfortunately there are times when it is other "Human Beings" who get away with behaving badly. The truth is whether it is naturally happening or it is man made it is part of your lifes journey. It will not matter who, what, when, where nor why. The only thing that matters is that you must do whatever is necessary to deal with it so you can "Just Flush It" and move on.

If you just get out of the way

Some of the decisions that we must face on our journey on the roller coaster of life may be hard and personally painful but they are a part of life. There will be many ups and downs that we will encounter along the way. Learning how to make the best of the good times and how to survive the bad times are a part of life. There are times when life's journey is interrupted by giant boulders that block your path and you will just have to learn how to go around them. There are many issues you will have to deal with on your journey but you will make it easier on yourself if when you see trouble coming you would just get out of the way.

All the pieces to the puzzle

Life is complicated. It is made up of many pieces that must come together like the picture of a puzzle. You need all the pieces to the puzzle before you can see the "big picture." Even if you have the big pieces in your life in place you will still have an incomplete puzzle. The less pieces you need the easier your life will be to keep track of all the pieces to the puzzle making sure they fit together to keep the big picture from being hidden not allowing you to enjoy it. Every aspect of your life that is a necessary part of your life is a piece of the puzzle that makes up the "big picture" in your life. Every piece is important.

A set of standards they will live by

Children are not born with a built in set of standards that they will live by. It is something they learn from those around them. If you want happy kids be happy when you are with them. They will do what is expected of them if you let them know what you expect. They will accept the boundaries you set if you set boundaries and let them know that you won't accept them being crossed. Kid's pick up their parents habits so teach them the habits that you want them to follow. Make time to spend with them guiding them when they are young to get them on the right path with a set of standards that they will live by.

They don't need mouth to mouth

A simple show of kindness can be a breath of fresh air to someone who is feeling smothered by all the issues at hand they may be dealing with. Be kind to everyone you encounter throughout your day for you have no idea the problems they may be facing. A smile as you walk by will naturally subconsciously cause them to smile back which may distract them long enough to let them take in a breath of fresh air. If they take in enough oxygen throughout their day they will be able to have the energy necessary to deal with the issues they are facing. They don't need Mouth to Mouth to survive they just need a chance to catch their breath.

It brings a relaxing feeling

As the wind blows you hear the sound of the dry leaves rolling across the ground which brings a relaxing feeling. The birds sing as the wind blows through their feathers and their song brings a relaxing feeling. The gentle breeze blows by the hanging wind chimes creating music that brings a relaxing feeling. With a breeze in the air it sweeps past you blowing the wind through your hair bringing you a relaxing feeling. If you take advantage of the simple things in life that can bring you a relaxing feeling it will help you to relax enough to not feel so stressed out leaving you feeling relaxed and rejuvenated to face the challenges of the twenty first century.

Just like Humpty Dumpty did

There are many people today who thought they made all the right decisions and put in all the hard work to make sure they would always be able to take care of themselves who now need help to survive. Some people got lucky and found the support they needed through the tough times and they are doing just fine now. Others were not so fortunate and they sit silently suffering having lost hope just like Humpty Dumpty that not even all the kings men could fix the situation they are in. If they cross your path reach out and help them if you can, it just might be the super glue that keeps them from falling apart.

Deal with the fruit salad

I have heard people say that you can't compare apples to oranges. Life is not always a "bowl of cherries" and your basket of life that you must live in harmony with is full of all kinds of fruits and nuts. You must compare how important each one is and figure out how to enjoy life dealing with the fruit salad that is your life. If it must remain a part of your life then you must figure out a way to make it work together with all the other parts that must remain in your life instead of ignoring it because that would be like adding one piece of rotten fruit to the mix which will cause the rest of the fruit to go bad.

At the end of the day

At the end of the day you will have to live with the outcome that your actions will bring. It will not matter that after you have had time to see that had you done things a little differently it could have had a better outcome by then it is too late, what is done is done. It will not matter if you accept the blame in the end you will face the consequences at the end of the day no matter who you blame. Your tomorrows are determined by what you have done today. When you wake up you will start the day where you were at the end of the day today.

Keep it simple

As you face the challenges of the New Year keep in mind that your attitude about the challenge will determine the outcome and decide how challenging it will be. There may be a simple solution but if you react out of anger it will make it more challenging. This year face each challenge by taking a step back from any situation that angers you till you have had time to think about what your reaction should be to get the best outcome. Don't turn a simple challenge into a complex problem just simply walk away till your anger is gone and KEEP IT SIMPLE.

Only a certain number of years

As you grow older time seems to go faster. You realize that you will only be around for a certain number of years and you wish you could slow down time so that you can enjoy your time for as long as you can making every second count. When you are very young you can't wait to be a teenager. When you are a teen you can't wait to be an adult. As an adult you realize how much easier life was when you were young. When you get into middle age you panic and send yourself into mid life crises. When you get even older you enjoy every moment when you can while you can.

More motivated the first few days

As time goes by at such a rapid pace before you know it 2014 will be here. By this time you have made your "New Years Resolutions" and made a goal that youn plan on accomplishing this year. Don't wait to get started because you are more motivated the first few weeks of the New Year. Therefore you will be more likely to reach your goal when as we all know you will need to be motivated to face the obstacles that pop up along the way. The best outcome will come from your actions that the first days of the New Year motivates you to achieve to make sure 2013 will for you be personally a Happy New Year!