"New Years Resolution"

Throw out more than trash!
As you clean up the debris after Christmas getting rid of the things you don't need be sure and throw out all the painful experiences from your past so you can relax and enjoy life as you watch the New Year roll in. Make it a resolution to stop letting what has happened in your past stink up your future too! It's a New Year and the New You will be ready to make 2012 bring in some cheer. Happy New Year!

Minimize the damage

There is no way to explain why people do things to hurt other people. But it is even harder to explain why anyone would keep it fresh on their mind so they get hurt by it over and over again. It is not only the words and actions done to you by others that will rock your World it is the damage you will do thinking about it over and over again that will destroy you. Let it go "Just Flush It" out of your mind to minimize the damage.

Peace in America

We must take action now before it's too late. How many more tragedies will it take to see the violence is getting out of control. Kids are not safe in their own yards. Store parking lots are not even safe for adults. Even in your own home the danger is felt. Stress causes high blood pressure, strain on your organs, and brings on heart attacks. It causes your immune system to fail, migraines, and stomach ulcers. Find peace of mind so that you are healthy enough to fight for peace right here in America.

We all should feel it inside

As I listened to Susan Boyle's new song It says everything that we all should feel inside, it is so inspiring. My favorite lines were...."I'm free. I am who I was born to be." Let go of the stress that is weighing you down. Break free from your past and be who were meant to be. Let this Holiday season set you free from your worries filling you with love and joy allowing you to be who you were born to be.

Brighten up their Holiday

I recently learned that Christmas time was the highest rate for suicides. Wow I thought it was a time of year when everyone just oozed with a happy joy. A time when families and friends gather and love, kindness and the aroma of cooking filled the air. If you know someone who feels alienated by his family or doesn't have a family reach out and let them feel the joy that Christmas should bring. Bake them something special and take the time to make their Holiday bright.

Help them stand on their own

This economy has uprooted many families from their homes and sent them aimlessly wandering around searching for employment and a place to lay their head at night. There are no grand illusions of a palace just a place they can call home. If they land in your town please help them so they can stand loud and proud on their own two feet and they will be able to grow where they are planted. You reap what you sow in life and seeds of kindness can go a long way if you will plant them in your town.

Don't celebrate with higher bills

The love and joy of Christmas moves us to be kind to even those who we might otherwise see as unapproachable. The scrooges in life are even touched by the Christmas cheer. Although they still remain grouchy you can still approach them without their angry sneer. Make the most of the season and the benefits will be friendships and bonds that will grow stronger throughout the New Year. Let your heart guide you this holiday season not your credit balances and you will still be celebrating when the New Year rolls in not higher bills.

Don't let it define you

Don't let what has happened in your past keep you from enjoying today.
Don't let what someone has said to you or done to you keep you from being who you want to be today.
Don't let your mistakes define you, they were lessons learned that will help you someday.
Don't let a minor setback stop you from seeing the "big picture" that you will sit back and enjoy someday.
Don't let your mind be so full of bad memories that you have no room for good ones.
Don't let your past stink up your future too,"Just Flush It" out of your mind.

Over and over again

People walk around in anger trying to defend themselves only to destroy themselves in the process. Don't let what someone says or does make you so angry that it consumes you and destroys the very core of who you are from the inside out. It is not only the words and actions done to you that will rock your world but the damage you do thinking about it over and over again, putting yourself through it letting the anger guide your every move over and over again. It is not happening now to you, you are doing it to yourself over and over again. Let it go "Just Flush It" out of your mind.

Stick together like glue

The Family Bond use to be so strong that it was the glue that held it's members sane. It was a lifeline that kept it's members from personally falling too far. It kept each member from feeling like were totally alone in this World. In today's society there is no Family Bond, no Family Loyalty and in some cases there isn't even any Family Connections. There wouldn't be so much insanity in society if we would stick together like glue with our families.

Fear of retaliation

There was a time when people were ashamed of the very thought of doing something wrong to another human being and it kept them from doing it. Nowadays people feel no shame nor pay any consequences for their bad behavior therefore they have no built-in moral code of conduct that they live by. The terrorist attitude by which has kept people silenced for fear of retaliation rules the hearts and minds right here in America not just in the Middle East. We must stand up for what is right now before the bad outnumber the good like in the Middle East.

Your personal opinion

If you asked ten people their opinion on something they would all be different, they will give an answer based on their "point of view." If you change your opinion as they answer one by one you won't know what your opinion is by the time you are done. If you asked them together as a group at the same time their variety of answers would only give you things to consider but you will have to open your eyes to the fact that to every question there are many answers and not one is more important than your personal opinion that you will have after you consider all the facts. Your "point of view" is your opinion that will shape your reality.

Recognize that everybody is different

Respect goes a long way. If you do not respect the rights of others then you will react disrespectfully. If they have no respect for you then they will treat you disrespectfully. If you respect each other then it doesn't matter what your differences are you respect them simply because you recognize that everybody is different. You don't have to like someone or everything they do to respect them. If we all were the same we would have nothing different to talk about.

If you don't get up

It may be hard to find but you will never find it if you don't look for it. It could be right in front of your face but if you don't open your eyes you won't see it. There is always a chance but there will be no chance at all if you don't take a chance at something. You will get a little further in life if you take a step in the right direction but you won't get anywhere if you don't get up and take a step at all.

Don't encourage them

Don't waste your time, money, emotions, or energy on things that don't really matter nor on people who your kindness and generosity just reward their bad behavior. When you want to help make sure what your giving is a helping hand that they need to stand on their own NOT a hand out that keeps them comfortable enough till the next hand out. There are those that feel no shame, to them the hand outs mean they are winning the game of life without working hard to get it. Give a helping hand but don't give hand outs that encourage anyone to stay down.

Till the anger is gone

"Too angry to see straight" means exactly that, you can't see clearly to stay on the right track. Don't make a decision or react when you are angry that you will have to live with even after your anger has calmed. Even an angry word can do damage that will never go away. So if you find yourself too angry just relax a moment quietly being still and silent till the anger is gone for if you don't you will deal with the damage for far too long. A moment of silence may calm the storm and spare you from a lifetime of damage.

Breath of fresh air

As the cool breeze blew in and rolled across my face the feeling and sound of the leaves blowing in the wind consumed my entire body demanding my attention. The peaceful feeling and relaxing sound distracted me from hectic thoughts that were weighing heavy on my mind. Replacing the tired feeling with a refreshed calm breath of fresh air. Sometimes our thoughts may weigh us down so stop to enjoy the cool breeze while it's blowing and let the moment of peace refresh you. Relax this Thanksgiving and soak up all the feelings of what you are thankful for.

Honesty is worth it

It is worth the extra money if they will stand behind their product. Too many times a bargain on something will cost you more in the end when you end up replacing it when it doesn't last like it should and they won't replace it like they should. An honesty company is worth the extra money when the extra will give you the security that is worth it's weight in gold. Don't run the honest business man out of business for all we will be left with is not what you can depend on. You get what you pay for.

It doesn't make it right

You do not have to agree nor even like what others do but you have to live with the consequences for the things you choose to do whether you like it or not. Try telling the authorities that others were doing it and they felt it was OK so you are not responsible for the problems it caused while you were doing it and see if they agree. Just because others are doing it doesn't make it right. Do the right thing no matter what others may do and you will enjoy the reward not pay the consequences for doing what you know is wrong.

Halfway there

Doing things right the first time will lead you to the best outcome. Trying to take shortcuts will only lead you to an outcome that is just short of where you need to be. Doing only half of what is necessary will only lead you halfway there. Doing things wrong to save time could even make your outcome impossible to reach. If it is important to you then it is important enough to do right. If you are not willing to give it all you got then you will only get what you get not what you need.

Don't let it stink up your future too

If you give up on your dream of a brighter future then you will have no one else to blame but yourself. As you flush away all the dark painful memories from your past one by one you will be able to see clearly what steps you will have to take to lighten your heavy load of stress, doubt, fear, and anger from your past. Every step we take and every move we make will determine where we go in life it is not determined by the crap in our life that has happened in our past. Flush all the crap in your life before it stinks up your future too!

Stressed out over nothing

Did you know that if you think something is happening even if it is not, but you believe it is happening then your mind, body, and soul will live it? The damage is done physically, mentally, and personally even though it never even happened. There is enough real crap that happens that takes a negative toll on your overall well being without making it worse on yourself by living through those things that are not even happening. Don't be stressed out over things that are not even happening.

Don't make things tougher

If all else fails don't fail yourself. We are living in tough times don't make things tougher on yourself. If you don't find a way out of the mess you are in then you will stay in the mess you are in. It is up to you to make a change if anything is going to change. Opportunities may come your way but you will have to grab them before they go away. You must first make a plan on getting out of the rut you are in. If you make a plan, stick to the plan and plan on all the hard work it will take to get there.

Pros and cons

Sometimes when you get what you always wanted you find out just how hard it will be to keep it. Nothing is that easy nor is it totally free. You may want the money and prestige that go along with being a doctor or a lawyer but the many years of hard work in college and the 100 hour a week schedule doesn't work for everyone. If you reach your dream be ready to accept the cons along with all the pros that come with it.

Nothing is perfect

Quit expecting everything to be perfect. You can't give up and get angry every time and walk away. Even the best jobs still requires you to go to work. Even your Family and friends can't always be there. Many things happen in life that are just not fair but that's life.You have to take the good with the bad because nothing is perfect. If you look at the hard lessons you have learned in life as growing pains they will help you grow. If you use them for an excuse to keep walking away then you won't learn a thing.

What seeds will you plant today?

Why can't people just think about what they are about to say or do before they start spewing their hate onto others. If all we pass along is anger then anger is all that will grow. Plant a see of kindness as you go through your day and Humanity will grow to replace the insanity we see in society. Show others compassion and they won't feel so alone. You reap what you sow. What kind of seeds will you plant today?

Shape your reality

The only thing that you get decide is what you create in your home, your space, your four walls, your mind, body, and soul. "Your point of view" is your reality so look with your eyes wide open and think long and hard about what you see before you form an opinion that will be your "point of view" that will ultimately lead you to shape your reality based on what you choose to see. Take the time to think about it before you are forced to live with the outcome that you made without opening your eyes to see which direction you should go.

Make your "to do" list shorter

There is not enough time in the day to get everything done that needs to get done. Don't overwhelm yourself and use your energy filling your mind with everything that needs to be done. Focus on what is most important and get those things done first. With that out of the way you will have a shorter "to do" list that will be only the things that need to be done but don't have to be done. You would get a lot more done off your short list if you ease your mind by getting the most important things done and out of the way first.

Without seeing what's inside

If you run around reacting negatively to things that don't go your way it will only make things worse. Everything happens for a reason but no matter what good was to come your reaction will determine whether you will see the positive outcome that was suppose to be. You can be your worst enemy when you react negatively. You can see new doors open if you look for it positively or you can close one door after another as you react with anger without ever getting to see the opportunity that was waiting for you inside.

Stop long enough to see

You never know when the answer you need may come nor who it may come from. By taking the time to just talk with others through simple conversations they just might lead you in a direction that will lead you to the answer you were looking for. People seem to be in too big of a hurry or too distracted to make friendly small talk with others which could lead them to the answer they need. They wouldn't be in a hurry running around looking for the answer if they would stop long enough to see the path they will have to take to find what they are looking for.

Just Plunge It........then Flush

There are far too many things that we let clog up our mind when we need to "Just Plunge It.....then Flush." We could eliminate so much of our stress by simply deciding to get rid of the crap in our life. We carry around things that do not matter what-so-ever at this point in our life's yet we let them weigh us down and clog us up. Let go of the painful experiences from your past and "Just Flush It" out of your mind. If it tries to stick around......"Just Plunge It.....then Flush."

Get your act together

Getting your act together starts with "getting real" with yourself and the truth will hurt but it will be necessary. Since you alone will have to deal with the consequences for everything you say or do make sure you set standards and live by them no matter what anyone else around you is doing. If you know it's NOT going to help you become a better you then you better NOT do it. If you know it will lead you no where then turn away from it.

Flush away a bad day

Have you ever met someone who seemed to always be having a bad day? Try making them laugh to help them flush away a bad day. Sometimes the answer to their problem they can handle they just need someone to acknowledge that they are dealing with the problem. If you take the time to listen it will help them have a good day, they just need to tell someone so they can "Just Flush It" out of their mind.

Somethings come with age

There are somethings that just come with age no matter how hard you try not to be.....well old. It just happens along with all the hard knocks that make you wise comes all the aches and pains from the many years of lessons you have lived through. If you remember something that you did once that was fun plan to do it again while you can. Getting older has it's perks and if you enjoy yourself even the "not so pleasant moments" are fond memories that make you smile.

It could be worse

We all have met someone who's circumstances in life are tragic yet they seem so happy and optimistic. It makes us wander how they do it yet there are others who's lives are no where near as tough yet they get angry at the simplest things and become immobilized. There are many things that we should be thankful for and be happy about. You will never get everything you want but you should definitely be happy with what you got because "it could be worse." Just waking up in the morning is a reason to smile.

Do things differently

It does not matter how many chances you are given you will have no chance at all unless you take a chance at something. Many things are possible but if you never try, it will be impossible for you. If you want a life worth living it will take hard work. The choice is yours to make so stop blaming others for your choice to do nothing at all. If you want a different outcome in your life you are just going to have to do things differently.

What are you looking for?

WHEN YOU look for a person or a reason to blame you can definitely find one.
WHEN YOU look for the faults of others you can definitely find many.
WHEN YOU look for trouble you can definitely find it.
WHEN YOU decide not to try then you can definitely say you will not succeed.
IF YOU look for a bright side you can usually find one.
IF YOU look for a solution you can usually find one.
IF YOU look for a reason to smile you can usually find a reason.
What are you looking for?

No matter what

The seasons are going to change from one to another just like they always have no matter what you say or do. As we age our bodies go through the changes no matter what you say or do. Accept the things you can not change and save your energy complaining about them because they are going to happen no matter what you say or do. No matter where, when, or how you slice it you can only do what you can do and "Just Flush It" out of your mind if it just can't be done.

Make a path

You can not reach your goal unless you set one. Keep it simple. Don't make a goal that is unreachable nor set a time frame that is unrealistic. As you make a plan to reach your goal don't forget about all the hard work it will take to get there. You can reach it if you stay focused on it no matter what obstacles come your way. The set backs as you climb are just the path you will have to take to get there.

Change their "point of view"

You can't change anyone they have to make the change. You can't save anyone they must save themselves. You can't make them do the "right thing" they must choose to do the "right thing." You can only help them see a different "point of view" so they can see a reason and a way to do things differently. They won't just do what you say but if they can see what your saying they just might change their "point of view" and see what they need to do to "get 'er done."

Enjoy what you do have

If you can't enjoy the things that you have now then you won't be able to enjoy the things you will have in the future. Enjoying what you got while you got it is the key to enjoying life while you are living. Don't wait till time runs out just make the time to enjoy what you have. Would of, could of, should of won't hold you down if you just enjoy what you Should when you Could you Would enjoy your life while you are living.

If you help others

If there comes a time where you need help with basic living tasks will anyone help you? You can not say with certainty that you will never need help because in the blink of an eye everything can change. Would you be able to reach out to those you have helped? You could if you help others. When you give your word keep it. Help those you can along the way to stand on their own and they will be standing tall, therefore they will be stable enough to help you stand with a helping hand if you ever need it.

Two face dilema

I have often wandered what two faced people do to keep their head on straight as they change so rapidly. How do they keep from getting whiplash? Which face will they reveal when standing face to face with a crowd that consist of both kinds of people that they put on a different face for? Do they have more than two faces that they change into. No matter how many faces they have they must face the fact that their mind, body, and soul will pay the consequences for their actions no matter which face they were wearing when they did it.

Get over it already

I can't remember what I got for my Birthday two years ago or where we went to dinner, heck most of last Christmas is a blurr. I would like to know how others can remember so much from their past so vividly that it impacts their every move and their very happiness daily and they are sure their future will always be affected by it. Come on get over it already. You could "Just Flush It" out of your mind if you wanted to and just learn what you need to from it to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Let go of your anger

You miss out on a lot when you are always to angry to hear or see. Time flies by whether you are enjoying it or not. Before you know it the bridges you burned in a fit of anger you will one day need to get across but you will find that bridge can't be rebuilt after those on the other side are forced to burn it at their end. Let go of your anger and stop the insanity in your life so you can enjoy life while you are living.

Reserved for the Holidays

Why is thankfulness, kindness,and love for all only reserved for the holidays? Wouldn't it be nice if you knew someone who was always grouchy and you could wrap a present or bake a turkey with all the fixings to make them glow with that Holiday feeling? If only it was that easy. Your mood however can make a difference. Be kind to everyone you meet just like you would on a Holiday to spread good cheer on all the other days of the year.

Fresh on your mind

You won't get over it if you constantly think about it, that will only keep it fresh on your mind. If you doubt yourself then others will doubt you too. There will always be things that will stress you out. you just got to....
Just Flush It.....flush it as it comes
Just Flush It.....flush away your doubts
Just Flush It.....It's the only way
You got to "Just Flush It" out.
You could "get over it" if you would "Just Flush It" out of your mind.

Don't waste your time

There are some things you must do no matter how much you don't want to do them. If you would just accept that and "get 'er done" then it will quickly get done. If you complain about it and let it waste your time then it will take much longer and be more stressful yet you still have to do it. Don't waste your time or energy just do what you got to do and you will be happy when it's done and you will have the time and energy to do something else.

Pay the consequences

Quiet time is needed to sort through all the thoughts in your head. If you react to quickly you will quickly see that had you took the time to gather the facts you would not have reacted that way but since you did you will have to pay the consequences for those actions. It takes far to much energy to fix your mistake then it would have taken you to take a quiet moment and think about the results your reaction would bring and choose a different action to take to get the results you want. Consequences for your actions can be a reward instead of a punishment.

You live with the consequences

Tomorrow is just another day but what it will bring will be determined by what you do today. What you do today will be determined by what you find important to do today. Just remember although it is important to enjoy the moment your in, it is just as important to make sure what you are doing today is not destroying your chances at happiness tomorrow. The choices you make today you will have to live with the consequences tomorrow.

Go with the flow while it's going

Have you ever had a day where you finally had a happy "peace of mind" that was full of positive energy and you were just flowing along? You can accomplish things that you had doubted was possible so you just didn't try to do before. Everything just keeps falling in place then WHAM! You encounter someone along the way that just zaps the life out of you. By the time they are done complaining about the circumstances they have put their selves in you loose your grip on that flow of energy you were enjoying. We all know when it's gone it's gone that's why we get as much as we can done while we can. Don't let other people suck the very life out of you.

In the pit of your stomach

It is never a good sign when you feel it in the pit of your stomach. Deep down inside we all know that 95% of the time our first instinct is right. It is amazing how many people ignore these built in attempts to save us from bad choices. People are so hung up on "not being told what to do" that they don't even listen to their own self. They are so against boundaries that they don't set boundaries for their selves to keep their life on track. You must always remember that what you feel in the pit of your stomach is not always gas.

Followed by action

You could have the greatest plan in the World but if all you do is make plans nothing will ever get done. A plan has to not only be well thought out but unless it is followed by action it will benefit no one. A well thought out plan includes the action it will take to execute the plan. If you want your plan to work you will have to do whatever action is necessary to get the job done. Just get 'er done.

A simple task

The task may be simple but it won't get done if you just simply don't know how to do it. When you ask others for help they sometimes look at you like you are from outer space. No matter how simple it is you will have to ask "how to" questions if you want to know the answer. A simple task could be the key to solving complex problems if you simply get them done. One thing leads to another but there are times when you have to build a bridge to get where you want to go.

Slow down

You won't enjoy the gentle breeze from the the trees if you are always running from one place to another. You'll miss the beauty when a flowers petals are opened before they wither away if you don't look at them when they are blooming. You can't enjoy their childhood when they are grown. You would be surprised how many things you could enjoy if you just would slow down long enough to enjoy them.

Playing in the rain

Lost at a store parking lot in the middle of a drenching sideways rainstorm with your arms full of purchases that you made. As you search the parking lot for your car you find yourself enjoying playing in the rain. If you are already soaked getting mad will only make you feel uncomfortable. If you get over it you will enjoy stomping in the puddles and feel the raindrops wash away your stress like a fountain of youth. The kid in you can't come out if your angry all the time. Enjoying yourself if you get caught in the rain will keep you from going insane.

If you could

If you see a chance to make a positive difference, would you? If you could ease someones mind, would you? If you could bring a smile to someone to brighten their day, would you? If you knew what was causing someones pain and you could stop it, would you? If you knew how to fix the mess their in, would you? If you could you should and you would want help if you needed a hand, wouldn't you?

It's common today

If you see something happening that you know is wrong and you do nothing at least realize that choosing to do nothing is still a choice and will make the wrong doings acceptable. If it commonly happens and it commonly gets ignored it becomes a common acceptable occurrence. It used to be common decency, common courtesy, and common sense was common to see now we commonly ignore every act of inhumanity that has led to insanity in our society.

Failure you anticipate

If you can't imagine yourself succeeding then the failure you anticipate will surely come. If you see that the path you are taking will lead you nowhere yet you don't turn around then nowhere is where you will surely go. Your "point of view is your reality and if you can't see anything positive then the reality is you will fail to go anywhere if you don't know there are other places you could go.

Big things come in small packages

Make it a point to say something kind or smile at one person each day. If you don't get out everyday just look in the mirror and smile because you are alive. Don't miss out on life's little joys while you wait for something big to happen to make you happy. Big things don't come often if they come at all. Big things do however come in small packages. Enjoy life's little joys each day and pass on a smile as you go through your day.

Losing the stress is a victory

Many people are suffering mentally and physically trying to hang on to a mortgage that they can't afford to pay now. In many cases they owe more than the homes current value. Don't make yourself sick just accept the loss and live stress free in a home you can afford comfortably. It's not a bad thing to lose the stress but a victory to celebrate.

One moldy strawberry

As I sat in the waiting room of the dentist I was trying to understand how what started as a mild discomfort in one tooth now three days later has caused major pain and became unbearable in every tooth on my lower jaw and swelling in my neck and cheek. How can one bad tooth take over my quality of life? The same is true if you leave one bad past person or problem in your life they will cause havoc in all areas of your life. If you leave a moldy strawberry in a container of good ones if it is not removed immediately the mold will spread quickly ruining them all.

A storm can bring relief

As the thunder roared and shook the house and the lightning struck you could feel the house rumble. Errands would just have to wait the rain was coming down so hard visibility for driving is too dangerous. As I waited out the storm I sat in awe of the power in the thunder to shake the earth. In minutes it passed and the soothing relief from the heatwave replaced the annoying delay it caused. The storms in your life although scary shall too pass and can bring relief.

The answer isn't always clear

Foe five days in a row the forecast was cloudy with 30% chance of rain. My grandson would ask me everyday will it rain today? He waited for the rain and on the fifth day he said when will it be our turn to be the 30% who get rain? I had no real answer for him no more than I do for those who are waiting for a chance to get ahead financially in this bad economy. When your chance for rain will come isn't always clear.

Wating for what you need

If we meet in the middle then we will both be half way there. Waiting until you get exactly what you want could leave you waiting for what you need. Compromise that will get you at least what you need will be a step in the right direction that will put you closer to what you want as long as it doesn't compromise your integrity. You may not be able to run but you can walk to where you need to be one step at a time.

Stay out of the crater

You may be doing something that is causing unpleasant outcomes but once your eyes are wide open to see the negative affect you clearly know it is a problem and you can not continue that behavior without knowing that it is wrong. You must learn from your mistakes if you want a better outcome. You can't shut your eyes once they are open because the crater that you discovered is still there to fall into. You should keep your eyes wide open so you can safely go around it.

Find your "Peace Of Mind"

How can everything you thought needed to happen in order to find "peace of mind" inside yourself has happened yet the inner turmoil remains. Perhaps all along the dream wasn't needed. You just needed to look deep inside your inner self and FLUSH out the turmoil and you would have found the inner peace that was buried there beneath the painful past. If you would take all the hard painful experiences from your past and "JUST FLUSH IT" out of your mind your "PEACE OF MIND" will be easy to find.

Treading on thin ice

There are times when your attention is needed for so many different areas in your life that you try to spread yourself too thin. The old expression you are treading on thin ice isn't talking about the pond that had frozen over. If you want to stay on solid ground on your journey through life's struggles don't spread yourself too thin. Doing what is most important right even if that's only one or two things is better than starting 10 things that are not finished when you are done.

Bake an apple pie

If you were hungry and someone gave you more apples than you could eat would you figure out how to use them while they are fresh or let them go rotten? You may not have much in this economy but are you using what you got wisely? When times are tough you will need to get creative and smart in order to get through them. Learn how to make apple pie and apple jelly out of the apples you got while they are still good.

Don't reward bad behavior

There is a difference between someone who is needy and one who is lazy and greedy. At a time when so many in America are hurting it is important that when you choose to give from your heart that you check with your mind to be sure what your giving is really needed. When you give to the truly needy ones you will truly make a difference. If you give to the lazy and greedy then they simply get rewarded for being lazy and greedy. Make sure your gift is a helping hand not a reward for bad behavior.

Stay focused and don't get distracted

It seems as if before I can accomplish the one task I set out to do I must first have completed a different task that I didn't even know I needed to do. Keeping focused on the outcome I'm looking for as my to do list seems to grow is what it takes to stay on track no matter how hard or long the journey may seem. I know I must focus on what's important and not be distracted by all the important steps that are necessary to reach the outcome that I want. One step at a time will get you where you want to be.

Your desire can inspire

Let's bring out the human in all of us. Buried deep inside from the young to the old is the desire to be treated with dignity and compassion. It has not been taught, shown, and for some felt for the past five generations. Start by not spreading your anger on to others. If we want others to be kind to us we must be kind to others ourselves and pass it on. Bringing out from within you the desire followed by action to show (therefore teach) compassion for another, you will inspire others to bring out the human emotion to a situation and react on it. Before you know it society will be humanized again.

Don't Ignore It

If you can see that wrong doings are being ignored and you choose to ignore it then you can clearly see that first you need to change if you want to change the wrong doings in society. We could clean up our streets and make neighborhoods safe again by stepping in when you can to stop the wrong doings therefore replacing them with the right reaction to get humanity moving in the right direction. Don't Ignore it.

Nothing from something is nothing

Too many people say nothing can be done, it is too late without giving even the smallest bit of effort to at least try. This is true for many great ideas that get snuffed out before they even get lit. Every idea that has become a necessity in peoples life started out with one persons idea that they believed in despite others telling them it is impossible. They went ahead trying it anyways and made their dream, their vision a reality. The reality is nothing can get done if nothing is done to get it done. Just get'er done.

Stop the cycle

Even though we all can agree that society has become full of angry people who keep spreading their anger everywhere they go, we can't seem to stop the cycle. It's hard to get them to smile and pass on happiness that could spread just as fast. If you won't let go of the hurt and anger then your hurt and anger will never go away. If you want to be happy you will have to flush away your hurt and anger.

Take your time

If you want to know the time you have to look at a clock. If you know it is time for a change then does it really matter what time it is or simply that the time has come. Timing is everything but you can run out of time. If you want to be on time you must know what time to be there. You will know in time if what you did was right but it's only possible if you take the time to do it right.

Kids are a blessing

Kids are a blessing that should be treasured but... they are treated as a burden and tossed to the side like an unwanted shoe that has grown out of style. Kids should come first in any parents eye but....games such as farmville and partying come first as a child cries. There are those that cry as their soap opera stars have a make believe problem but get angry at a child for crying even if it is for a bottle that they need to survive. Kids are a blessing that should be treasured.

Enjoy the moment

Enjoy the breeze while it's blowing. Soak up the warmth of the sun while it's shining. Cherish the moments you have with family and friends while you can. Admire the flowers while they are blooming. Don't let the little joys in life pass you by, enjoy them while your living. Find beauty where you are at this moment as the moments fly by quickly and in a moment they could be gone.

Make a difference

You may have a lot of potential but if you don't use it then it could be potentially lost. You may have a lot to offer others but if you don't offer it to others then it won't benefit anyone. You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone see it or feel it? The difference that you could make to others has endless of possibilities but it is only possible if you do something that can make a difference.

Welcome the rain

You don't have to see eye to eye with someone to know that they would be there if you needed them. We all have our own opinions and do things a little differently. It is not our differences but what we have in common that bonds us. Blood is definitely thicker than water but don't forget how important water is to stay alive. Plants need sun, water, and air to thrive and so do humans. If you want to grow where you are planted you will need to soak up some rain to keep healthy while you catch the rays of the sun and enjoy the breeze.

Barter for what you need

To get by a little easier in this tough economy get creative and use the barter system to get what you need. For example perhaps you know someone who is a mechanic and he could do a minor adjustment on your car and you could watch his kids so he and his wife could have a break one evening for dinner and a movie. You could fix a broken fence for someone in exchange for an old wheel barrel they have no need for anymore. Trade services with more than one person and you could all end up with something you need.

Simply show, give, teach compassion

Talk is cheap because it does no good. Talking about problems will keep it fresh on your mind but the havoc it will reek on your life is outrageous. If you see, feel, or hear a problem that you can help fix then learn to jump in and do what you can do to help. This will give you something positive to talk about and will make a positive difference to whomever you helped. There will always be problems in life but there are usually simple solutions to fix what is most important. Start simple, simply show, give, teach compassion.

Good days Bad days

Everything happens for a reason. Some of the most valuable lessons in life are the most painful. Life is tough and there will be good days and bad days. There are times when you got to "flush away a bad day" if you want to have a good day. Unless you want to keep reliving a bad situation you must learn what you need to from it then "Just Flush It" away if you want to have a good day. You wouldn't stay in high school after you learned what you needed to graduate, you learn and move on.

You reap what you sow

You can't get bruised, battered and shattered from the inside out and thrown out into a cruel world and expect to land on your feet knowing what compassion is about. If you let go of the anger and hurt and treat others how you wish you would have been treated you will feel the warmth that compassion can bring. You don't have to wait for it you can plant it in others and enjoy the harvest that your kindness will sow. You reap what you sow in life not only in your garden.

Closer to where you need to be

You got to start somewhere if you are going to get anything done. If you find yourself overwhelmed with things that there is nothing you can do about then "Just Flush It" off your list of things that need to be done and you will have a start. Now if you can take care of all the ten minutes or less items off your list by taking the time to get them done your list will seem more manageable as you scratch them off one by one. You might not be able to do everything but whether you get 10%, 50%, or 95% done you will be that much closer to where you need to be.

They failed to help themselves

There are times when you do all you can to help someone but they still fail because they fail to help themselves. There are just some people who choose to be where they are and no matter what anyone does that is where they will stay. If you want to make a difference by helping someone make sure they want things to be different. If they think that they are owed something there is little doubt that they can't be helped. Those that ask for nothing will gain the most from your help.

Soak in the quiet

Sit back relax and soak in the quiet peaceful moments in life to rest up in between all the not so peaceful moments. If you don't give your mind a fresh break of oxygen when you can you will not have the strength to cope during the stressful times. Life is full of ups and downs which can take its toll on our mind leading to physical damage. Your lungs breathe in the oxygen but unless it reaches the brain it won't know where, when, nor how much to go where it is needed to be healthy.

Shed more than pounds

Carrying around dead weight from your past will only make your journey through life harder. There is no need to let them drag you down and keep you down. You need to learn what you can from them and "JUST FLUSH IT" out of your mind and you will feel the dead weight flow away as you shed more than pounds. The climb up life's mountain will be filled with good times and some bad but it will be easier now that your past isn't weighing you down.

Make things happen

You may be wasting your time waiting for someone to call if they are waiting for you to call. There may be endless of possibilities for you but unless you believe it is possible and try then it will be impossible for you to ever know what might have been possible. Don't just sit there and complain about why or how a bad situation occurred just make every attempt to fix what is possible and stop wasting your time waiting for something good to happen and make things happen.

"Just Flush It" out of your mind

Choosing to do nothing is still a choice. Ignoring it wont make things better. Complaining about it will only keep it on your mind yet still nothing will get any better. Crying about it will only wear you out. Figure out what you can do and just do it. Then you will have a start on solid ground and you will see more clearly what you can or can not do. With each decision you make followed by action you will relieve some of your stress and make your quality of life better. Things that are weighing you down that you can let go of well......"Just Flush It" out of your mind and let it go.

Be thankful that it was only one

Anyone can make a mountain out of a molehill if they keep adding dirt.Don't let a minor setback in one area of your life determine what happens in all the other areas in your life. One door may have closed and slammed you on the nose but if you react in a way that closes other doors you will get a concussion instead of a simple nose bleed. Get over what one thing you lost before you lose it all. "Just Flush It" and be thankful it was only one door that closed.

The wave of our flag

As I watch the flag wave with the breeze I wander what our soldiers are doing. For those overseas I send a prayer to bring you home safely. For those that are home but dealing with injuries both mentally and physically I send a prayer that you would heal. For those who's loved ones sacrificed their life I send a prayer to help ease the pain you bare. "God Bless America"

Teach them well

If only others could feel the pain and sorrow that their actions have caused would they then realize how painfully wrong it is. Too many people walk around feeling no shame or guilt. Their actions done out of anger have no consequences because it has become not only acceptable but also rewarded in society for generations. There are those that have not been taught, shown, nor even felt compassion. Teach the habit of humanity and we can put an end to the insanity that we see going on in society.

You can't get back across if you burn the bridge

If you burn all your bridges as you get angry throughout your life it will only make you angry when you can't get back across to get to the other side to choose to go a different way. Don't act shocked when even those that you thought for some reason, no matter what you put them through, they would always be there for you are no longer there. Your anger and actions done out of anger can take it's toll and the ones that were there for you will have to burn their bridge so you can't hurt them anymore.

All havoc breaks loose

When panic sets in your mind then all havoc breaks loose in every organ, every muscle, every vein, and every cell in your body. It starts at the top of your head with a thought that shoots like a bolt of lightning affecting every fiber of your body all the way to your toes. If you fail to get a grip on your mind then panic will cause your health to fail. If you want to be healthy you must not only watch what you eat but just as important you need to watch what thoughts you let in your mind.

Damage for a lifetime

There was a time when a negative comment would enter your mind like a bolt of lightning in reaction to what was happening at that moment but you didn't dare say it out loud. Nowadays it shoots out of people's mouth as fast as it enters their mind. If they will just keep it in till they have had time to think and see how they should react 95% of the time they wouldn't say it. Whoever said "words can not hurt you" was wrong. The hate that spews out of their mouth in a split second can do damage for a lifetime.

It's not what is in your bank account

Money can not bring you true happiness but it sure would make anyone happy to be able to not worry about a job, bills,or where their next meal is coming from. Even if you won the lottery you will still have to find happiness within yourself as you hide from those that beg you for financial help. It is only inside your mind that true happiness can be felt and enjoyed not what is in your bank account. Your "point of view" is your reality.

What are you looking for?

If you are always remembering only what angers you then you will surely be angry all the time. We have all had things done to us that has hurt or angered us. If you look for a reason to smile or a way to be happy you will feel happy because believe it or not you can still find happiness if you try. What are you looking for? You won't find happiness if you don't look for it.

A reason to be good

Talking about what is wrong in the world without doing what you can to help is what is wrong. Everybody sees the problems and all they have done for the past five generations is talk about it which has made it acceptable. When others see that talk is cheap and bad behavior is ignored then they have no good reason not to do it. Give them a reason to be good and they will strive to be good. Teach them to be good and they will learn to be good.

Follow it to the very end

So many thoughts could be great ideas that can then be turned into dreams come true if you follow that simple thought till the very end. Taking that simple thought that gets triggered at the most unexpected times that you must act upon before it quickly disappears as quick as it came only never to return. It may be your opportunity but you must grab it as it flashes through your mind as fast as lightning if you want to enjoy it. Seize the moment.

False Hope

There was a time when a deal was sealed with a man's word and a handshake, today.....Even if you get it in writing it won't keep you from getting ripped off on the deal. We are living in a time when you can't even count your blessings without someone trying to steal it. It is hard to even hang on to your sanity without others trying to steal your simple joys in life. If you give someone your word it ought to mean something. False hope is worse than no hope.

The answer may be blowing in the wind

As I was waiting on a hot day outside of the school for the bell to ring for dismissal I felt the cool breeze blow through my car cooling me off just enough to be bearable. As I was enjoying the breeze I looked at the trees but their leaves were not moving. I realized that little breeze was just for me. My answer to the unbearable heat came "blowing in the wind." The answer you may be seeking may be blowing your way in the wind but will you hear it, see it, or feel it?

You only hear jibberish

Sometimes the many noises that surround you can be so loud that you only hear gibberish that bounces in and around your head so loud that it is painful. When it is all too painful to hear you must close out any sounds you can to ease the painful sounds that are reeking havoc on your inner-peace that is necessary to hear clearly the important things that you need to hear.

From a nut to a tree

You can not grow where you are planted if you don't plant your feet firmly on the ground. Being all wishy-washy or a whiny-hiney will only prevent you from creating the strength of character and standards that is needed to stand loud and proud amongst all the elements we must face in life. Their are hard lessons you must learn in life, they are called growing pains. Plant your feet firmly and stand your ground. Remember the mighty Oak tree was once a nut that held it's ground.

Don"t b e a fool twice

Be yourself no matter what your circumstances are or who you are with. Since you must live with the consequences for the things you do you should dig down deep inside yourself for the answers. Others may tell you what they think you should do although they wouldn't dare try something so crazy. If you fall in a crater of problems they will simply tell you that you were the fool that did something to get there and it is foolish to think that they will help you get out of the crater.

You"ll get where you need to be

Those that don"t learn from their mistakes must live with those mistakes. Those that do learn from their mistakes will live a better life because of the mistakes they made. They taught them what not to do which led them to do things right. The right way may be harder but you:ll get where you need to be. The easy way makes for a harder life to live. If you want to enjoy life while you are living then live right.

Your "point of view"

It is just another day in our journey in which our "point of view" will be our reality as it will determine how we live it. If you can't see yourself achieving it your "point of view" will keep you from doing anything to achieve it therefore the reality is without a doubt you won't achieve it. Changing your "point of view" will change your reality. You must first believe you can do it before you will get up and do what is necessary to get it done! There are times when a change of scenery can make a world of difference.

Remain a hidden talent

Have you ever met someone who you felt was made for a particular task yet they couldn't see their potential? Even when you point it out to them they can't see it therefore their hidden talent will remain unearthed and never become a reality. Unless they can see it from their "point of view" it will remain a hidden talent. Finding your hidden talent is like an Easter egg hunt in there is no shame in getting one pointed out to add to your basket of eggs in life's journey.

"Just Flush It" out of your mind

Don't let your hurt and anger define who you are nor where you will go in life. Whatever happened has already happened once DON'T keep living through it over and over again by constantly thinking about it over and over again. Why would you keep doing it to yourself over and over? Someone else did it to you once but the other 50 times you are doing it to yourself. "Just Flush It" out of your mind once and for all.

You win some, you lose some

There are those that are admired by others for the strength they show to persevere in spite of the obstacles they had to face to get there. Overcoming your own obstacles in life may not get noticed by others but knowing where you have been and all that you had to endure to get where you are now is as admirable and courageous as a four star general that leads a victory battle. There are many battles we all must face in life and some you will lose but as long as you keep fighting you will win some.

Re-build the staircase

There are those that believe sitting around complaining about all the unfair things that they encounter will make them feel better. In actuality without doing something to make things better nothing will happen but a lot of complaining that will only keep you down. Look at it this way....If the staircase is broken and your happiness is at the top but you can't reach it then build the steps one by one to reach it instead of standing at the bottom complaining about the broken staircase.

Be happy in spite of the chaos

There are those that are waiting for all their issues to be solved in life before they can be happy. That day may never come because life is full of ups and downs and there are always going to be issues, THAT'S LIFE. Learning to be happy inspite of the chaos is true happiness. Being happy within yourself despite all that gets thrown at you on life's journey is the key to enjoying life happily while you are living it. Happy is a state of mind not what is going on around you.

Every moment you are awake

All the reasons to be angry are there and they are very legitimate reasons but there is absolutely no reason to be angry enough to last a lifetime. Anger is a natural response but it shouldn't define who you are every moment you are awake. Others shouldn't have to feel it in your words and your actions. You know why you are angry now you need to figure out how to let go of the anger and "Just Flush It" because there is no reason to keep it for a lifetime.

Can you see where you are headed?

Life will throw boulders along your path, no matter which road in life you take, good or bad. The difference is when you can see where you are headed on the right path, you know what the reward is to go around the boulder to stay on track to get there. When you are on the wrong road in life and a boulder comes your way you don't know what direction to go when each direction leads to nowhere.

Get people talking

If we start talking about the state society is in where we see people ignoring all the wrong doings as they go through their day, perhaps we will get people to start helping others. Let them know that others are ignoring it and it is up to them to stop the wrong doings. The world will not get better on it's own someone must do something. We all should do our part. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice.

Taken by someone else

It is only impossible if you never try. If you try it and you just can't do it then at least you know without a doubt because you tried it. Have you ever heard the phrase...lost opportunities? Well opportunities are never lost they are taken by someone else. Opportunity may come knocking at your door but you got to get up and open the door to let it in. You will never know the sun is shining unless you look outside.

Don't let your family down

Families should stick together and not just stand around and watch members of their family drown in front of them. The Walton's were the last family we have seen or even known that lived, worked, loved, laughed, and cried together. Nowadays families move far away not only physically but emotionally as well. If you can't count on your family and society ignores you, how on earth can someone who needs help get help?

You would want it too

If you were a child who was being hurt wouldn't you want someone to save you? If you were being bullied at school wouldn't you want someone to stop it? If you were being attacked on the streets wouldn't you want someone to help you? If you were the one who needed a helping hand wouldn't you want someone to reach out to lend you a hand? Be a hero to someone today by simply showing them the compassion that you would want shown to you if you were in their shoes.

"Why would they" reaction

Make a memorable experience with a brief encounter with someone that will positively last forever in their mind. In an instant upon feeling a way that you personally can impact another persons life, even if it is to just simply bring a true smile, act on that impulse. The spontaneous, random "why would they do that for me" reaction you will get will be a memory for a lifetime for you and them. A random act of kindness can last a lifetime but it is only possible if you do an act of kindness.

Set the mood

In a world where hate can be felt everywhere a relaxed smile directed your way can grab your attention. Try making eye contact and with a big smile on your face watch an onlooker relax their angry growling face that turns instantly into a calm curiosity and without warning see their smile come alive in response to your warm smile. Sometimes in life in even a crowded mall, you must be be the first to smile and pass it on to get others mood heading in the right direction. Set the mood wherever you go.

An endless road

Today is the day to start doing the right thing because the wrong way doesn't seem to lead anywhere but down a path that leads to trouble. As soon as you realize that you are heading in the wrong direction while traveling on vacation on unfamiliar roads you turn around before you get too far away off the path. It is the same in your life's journeys. If you see that what you are doing is leading you further away from what you were heading for then turn around because you are on an endless road that gets you further off track.

You are naturally different

If people could only understand that if they want a long lasting happy marriage they have to quit getting divorced just because they get angry. No matter how many times you get married nor to who, your gonna get on each others nerves and get angry. You are naturally different and it may not feel like "home sweet home" but you can adjust and bend or keep getting married and divorced. Today is my 29th wedding anniversary and we are still naturally different and have to adjust and bend like a pretzel.

Anger from one generation to another

Stop blaming one generation for the insanity we see in society. It took five generations to wipe out compassion. Each generation replacing anger for their hurt from their past, never passing on the good things only sharing their hate. Plant a seed of kindness and humanity will replace the insanity we see on our streets. You can blame it on the moon if you want to or accept that it is what it is and figure out how to let go of your anger so that it will not be passed on to other generations.

Too angry to hear

WOW, if you think it is hard to be positive when you are surrounded by anger from every direction, try getting people to listen to something positive. That is so frustrating it is enough to ruin a good day. I can shout till I am blue in the face it seems everyone is too angry to hear. I could paint 1000 pictures but they are too angry to see it. I can only send you a smile and hope you can feel it and pass it on.

You are too angry to see

Many people may agree that people are so full of anger that compassion hasn't a chance but they are too angry to see that they are just as angry. There is only a chance if seeds of compassion are planted so that it can grow. Just like you won't get to enjoy the harvest of vegetables from your garden unless you plant one. Tomatoes don't just pop up ready for you to eat. Plant seeds of kindness wherever you go and watch compassion in society grow.

It has a ripple effect

If only you could see the ripple effect that can damage those who simply come in your path as you angrily rant and rave and spew hate onto them. A brief encounter in life that unfortunately happens again and again. You won't feel better and what angered you remains the same but your seed of anger that you planted onto another will remain a seed that will grow. If you plant seeds of kindness then compassion will grow.

Chilled to the bone

As winter has been around long enough to freeze out all signs of the spring colors and made it impossible for the last of the leaves to hang on to the tree, the seasons in our life can also leave us feeling chilled to the bone. The freezing temperatures from the winter will seem like a distant memory and springtime will soon be here with all it's colors that will bloom once again. Find warmth in knowing that a change of season is coming in your personal life as well as in nature.

You may be better off standing alone

Surround yourself with people that won't let you down when you need picked up or shove you to the side for their own gain. If you have to compromise your standards you will be better off standing alone. Doing the right thing at times can feel lonely but it's better than having your character drug to the ground by following others only to be left with mud on your face and a reputation that won't leave you a leg to stand on.

Surrounded by doom and gloom

How in the world are you suppose to get in a Happy Zone when you are surrounded or should I say incased in a cloud of gloom and doom? The answer may not be clearly seen but unless you look for it you will never find it. You wouldn't feel doomed or always gloomy if you flushed out those negative thoughts and gave positive thoughts room to get in. A change in your life can only happen if something changes.

Girl Scout cookies

As I watched a group of Girl Scouts selling their famous cookies, it brought a warmth to my heart to see people stop by with a smile for them. In a time when it seems the world had no compassion for anyone. The Girl Scouts brought out their sleeping caring hearts. That was beautiful to watch over and over again as it was hard for people to ignore. Although going door to door is too dangerous, the Girl Scouts still safely bring a smile.:)

Flush out the anger

When all you think about is everything that has happened in your past that angers you, then anger is all you will feel in your present. And guess what? Every word that comes out of your mouth because that is all you are filled with, will be full of anger, that is then spread onto others as you go through your day. Now just like spreading the flu, that anger is spread, that you started throughout our streets from one person to another. If you want to stop the insanity we see on our streets you first have to flush the anger out of your mind. "JUST FLUSH IT"

Over and over again

You need to realize that when something makes you angry it puts a strain on your body and mind. If you think about it over and over again then over and over again you put your mind and body under stress. The damage that it does is done over and over again. Stop getting angry over something that happened only once. If you think of it 100 times then 100 times you will feel it, live it, and pay the consequences that will affect your over all well being over and over again. "JUST FLUSH IT"

Roll with it

If someone steals part of your lunch, are you going to refuse to eat the other half and starve? Of course not you still got to eat. Take what's left after the economy has devastated you personally and financially and carry on. If someone steals your joy take comfort in knowing how to laugh. In life you just got to roll with it and adjust.

The first sign of anger

Too much stress in your mind will put your body in physical distress. When you feel your jaw tightening recognize that as the first sign that you are too angry for your own good. Stop it before your jaw locks tight as you grit your teeth and the veins in your neck pop out. Stop it before it clamps down on your forehead like a vice that takes over your brain function. Stop it before your heart gets squeezed physically by your muscles and organs that are reacting to the anger. Stop it when your jaw starts tightening before your heart stops because you are too uptight.

Don't let others knock you down

Instead of allowing others to brainwash you into thinking that they know you better than you know yourself, use your brain to wash away your doubts and make your mind up about what you want to do and build on that the foundation for your life, your future goals. Set your own standards that you will live by that will keep you on track to success. You will stand on your own if you stop letting others knock you down.

Don't let the weeds take over

When you prepare a garden for planting you know you have to remove all the weeds or they will suffocate any seed you try to sow. If you leave a clump of weeds and dismiss them as if they are no threat because of the size they are, then you will have to learn from experience. Before you know it that weed has taken over your plants and suffocated any chance of reaping a harvest. The same is true in your personal life. You must remove 100% of the weeds out of your personal life if you want to start a new one. Grow where you are planted.

A gift of words

This economy is making it hard to reach out and help others. Help can come without spending a dime. A gift of words of encouragement, inspiration, or simply acknowledge their struggles and remind them that their hard work and sacrifice will get them through this crises and bring them out standing firm on solid ground. Give the gift of kindness that will give them a stepping stone to get them out of the personal crater they are in.

The answer is clear

Being a good listener is sometimes more important than the words that you offer as help. If you just listen and let their words and feelings flow out they will feel better now that they have let it go and it will help them to FLUSH their stress away. Heck they may get the answer they need on their own now that the clog is gone they may clearly see the answer that was there all along.

It's what you say and do

If you don't accept blame for your mistakes you will never learn from them. If you never really tried to reach your dream you will never be able to say you tried as hard as you could. If you always tell yourself you will never be happy then you will never be happy. It is not what other people say and do to you that is holding you back it's what you say and do that is keeping you down.

The ability to feel compassion

People don't just wake up one day and say I will go about my day ignoring all the wrong doings that I see along the way. It has taken FIVE GENERATIONS to create a society that is desensitized to even care about what happens to others. They have lost the ability to feel compassion. Show that you care and compassion will grow and put roots back into society and humanity will replace the insanity that we see on our streets.

Get your own shoes

The old expression "you will never know until you have walked a mile in their shoes" didn't mean if you put on their shoes that you will walk like they do. The shoe may fit but they may not be comfortable to wear. Just putting them on will not get you where they are in life, you must find what works for you then you will get your own shoes that will help you run life's marathon.

It takes more than time

Although it is true that everything takes time, it is also very true that it takes more than time to get where you want to be in life or you would have already been there by now. Take the time to figure out where it is you want to be and exactly what it will take to get there and if you apply the effort you will get there in time.

A makeover that won't go out of style

A true makeover is more than a new hair style and clothes. It is a NEW POINT OF VIEW and a NEW ATTITUDE that will make a difference that won't go out of style. You may like the packaging but you would not be happy if the actual product was not inside. It is what is inside the packaging that matters most and will make you truly happy.

Focus on what you can do

You can't fix everything that may be a problem in your life but you can focus on what you can fix and FIX IT. You can't focus on your future if you spend all your time and energy focused on your past. With every issue that was weighing you down with stress is flushed away you will be able to focus on what you can do about the rest. "JUST FLUSH IT" one thought at a time.

Reach as far as you can

If you let others tell you that you will never reach your goals and you stop trying to reach them then without trying you will definitely not reach them. If you alone believe it is possible and don't give up, you will reach as far as you can. If you think you can then you will. If you think you can't then you will never know because you will never try.

Be someone's hero

In today's society you can not count on people to do the right thing. Now you have to watch your back your front your sides and only hope you will be all right today. You can help change that by being the one in the crowd who watches out for others. That would make you a common citizen in the good old days but in today's standards you could be someones hero. Let's make everyday heroes common again.

Figure it out, Just get it done

Don't tell yourself you can't do something if it is something that you really need to get done. If you can't physically do it or you just can't figure out just how to do it,then figure out where when and how you can find someone else to do it for you. It doesn't matter who does it what matters is that you make sure it gets done.

A cloud of anger

There are many challenges in life that we must face and you don't get to choose all of them. You do however get to choose how to react to them. If you react with anger then your actions in a cloud of anger will lead you. If you choose to react after you have had time to think things through then your actions will clearly lead you.

Stop- Look -Listen

Life is tough enough without making it harder on yourself. When a situation arises that makes you angry you need to back-off and think about it before you react. One step back will get you further in life then lunging forward out of anger.You need to .... 1)STOP-take a deep breath, 2) LOOK- at it from every "point of view", 3) LISTEN-to your first gut instinct. When you feel it in your gut it is not always GAS.

You just got to do what you got to do

You can't fix a leaky pipe with a band aid you have to at least use duct tape. You can't drive on a flat tire till payday you have to at least put on your dough nut tire to get around. If your toilet gets clogged you can't just keep flushing the handle you got to grab the plunger. There are times in life when you just got to do what you got to do.

One thought at a time

Tornadoes can destroy lives even on a sunny day. When everywhere you turn things keep getting worse and the problems you are facing keep swirling around weighing heavy on your mind. In your reality there is a tornado going on in your mind and suddenly with great force a small thought like burning dinner is as deadly as the layoff that you are worried about. One thought at a time you can calm the storm in your mind. "JUST FLUSH IT" one thought at a time.

Relax when you can

It is not wasted time when you relax when you can. Whether I have twenty minutes or four hours to just sigh in relief and relax and unwind or take a nap if I need too. I am old enough and tired enough to know that physically and mentally I did not waste my free time it was time well spent getting prepared to tackle what ever life might throw my way. Rest when, where, while you can.

Seeing is Believing

You may be saying it loud and clear but those that need to hear it may simply not see your "point of view" therefore it falls on deaf ears. Just keep saying it in different ways till they can picture it in their mind and see it for themselves. It will be a "point of view" that they had not thought of. Reality is the answer could be right in front of your face and you wont see it. Seeing is Believing.

A temporary crises

Although you might feel like you are barely hanging on by a thread, with your dignity intact you can hold your head up high. When times were tough you just dug a little deeper and found a solution that didn't compromise your standards. When our economy starts to recover there will be those who character will never recover. Don't create a permanent problem from a temporary crises.

The cold front shall pass

Just this morning you had to put on layers of clothes and gloves. Now the birds are chirping and the gentle cool breeze feels refreshing with the warmth of the sun that is now shining brightly. In our daily lives we can feel the aches and pains when we are overwhelmed with troubling issues that at the time we forget that most of the time they too shall pass just as the cold front that brought us a chill just hours earlier.