What would my loved ones say to the Long Island medium?

When our loved ones pass away we are left behind to try and pick up the pieces. Nothing will ever be the same yet we long for things to be like they used to be. As I watched the show Long Island Medium tonight, I wandered what the spirits would say to Theresa to me. Although my tears are flowing for those on the show, part of them are for my own sadness for the passing of those I have lost. I find myself zoning out unable to hear the show, as I wander what message my loved ones would have for me. After the show ended I was wandering if their spirits were watching me from beyond. Then I began to wander when I pass away what will everyone remember most about me? Since I don't think they will see a medium for me to say what they need to hear, should I write them a letter that lets them know how much I love them? Someone I know found many little notes that their Mother left scattered everywhere throughout her house. She knew they would have to go through her belongings after she passed away. She wanted to make things easier for them by finding the notes to distract them with a pleasant thought to ease their pain of her passing. As they found each little note it brought a happy memory that made them smile. I started thinking about what I would say to them in a little note. Then I decided to make a plan to get together with them more often and tell them in person how much I love them. After an hour or so of wandering if their spirits were always watching me, I suddenly realized that there were some things that I had to admit, I hoped they didn't see.