Is it wishful thinking or make believe?

If there is no chance at all, then it is make believe. If there is at least a slight chance, then it is wishful thinking. It's okay to Hope for the best, having hope is necessary to staying hopeful. But being realistic will keep you in touch with reality. Being optimistic is good as long as you are realistic in your optimistic view. Making the best of a situation can only happen if you are honest with yourself about the situation you are in. It's nice to get some helpful advice but they don't know everything that you have to consider. Even those we are close to only know what you tell them. And let's be honest, we don't tell our deep dark secrets. Talking to yourself sounds crazy but if you don't then you won't be able to figure out what is best for you. To determine whether someone is insane or not is whether on their OWN they can make sound decisions for themselves. Not what others tell them. So talking to yourself may sound crazy but obviously if you don't, then you are legally insane. Since you alone will have to live with the consequences for the decisions you make, then obviously you alone should make the decision. Get all the facts so you can make the right decision, otherwise you will be making an uneducated guess.