It may not be everything you dreamed of but...

When you are facing rough times you dream of what you wish would happen to fix it. When you are dreaming you tend to dream so big that it becomes unrealistic to think it actually could happen. So remember that when you do get it fixed enough to get through it. It isn't everything you dreamed it would be but you should be thankful that it is at least everything you needed. As long as you have what you need you can relax while you are dreaming. I believe that is why the divorce rate is so high because their dreams of what married life would be like were just unrealistic. I have been married for 36 years and just the simple fact that we are still married is a dream come true even though it was nothing like I dreamed about. You can be successful in business even if it isn't everything you dreamed it could be. Some dreams really do come true but you don't acknowledge them because they are not exactly as big as you had dreamed. Don't miss out on all of the "little things" that happen in your life because you are too busy chasing after something so big that you will probably never be able to reach it. To enjoy what you have you have to be thankful for what you have.

The sound of the rain

As I sat on my porch during the rain storm the sound of music was playing loudly. As the rain came down it landed on the metal chair making a steady rhythm like the beat of a drum. As it bounced off of the chair it made a ping as it fell onto the table next to it. At first it was music for my ears. Then all of a sudden came a loud bolt of lightning that shook the ground. You could no longer hear the sound of music only the thunder roaring.  In a flash I quickly ran inside. Once inside I could no longer hear the music it now sounded like a war. With every lightning strike it felt like a cannon had fell to the ground causing the house to shake. Eventually the storm had passed and the sky was blue and you could hear the birds chirping happily as they waited for the worms to come out. The frogs were all croaking with delight at the puddles they could play in. The sound of the animals after the storm was music to my ears. It reminded me that in life you go through rainstorms that sometimes turn into tornadoes but if you hang on when the storm passes you will be able to enjoy the sounds of music again.

Don't wait for an answer to a question that there simply is no answer to.

There may not be an answer to your question, not even on Google. But that doesn't mean that you can't keep moving along. We naturally want to know why things have happened. But regardless of whether we will ever know why or not, the fact is it did happen. You don't need the answer to why it happened, you simply need to know that you have to accept it. Which reminds me of the church sign that inspired me. "It's ok to sit on your pity potty every now and again just be sure to FLUSH when you are done." So when you find yourself with a question that has no answer that the answer is always JUST FLUSH IT to keep moving.

You don't even realize that you are doing it

My teenage son and I have in depth conversations about random subjects that are brought to our attention by our local news. One of his teachers also includes discussing current events in the news. Unfortunately we have had to discuss the school shootings that no child or parent or teachers or anyone should have to. The subject of the type of culture that we all have to live in creates these situations always comes up. For generations the "ADULTS" have ignored the deteriating compassion for one another. Family unity and community unity is necessary to stop the insanity we see in society. You can't possibly ignore that our children are not even safe at schools. They are not even safe in their own homes because the drive by shooter doesn't care who gets hit by the bullets they fire. They are desensitized to caring about any human life. It's time we stand United to stop the violence. It starts with raising our children to have compassion for everyone. To have respect for one another. Give them the ability to grow up without fear of a bullet coming at them.

If you decide before it happens then you will determine what happens

If you decide how something is going to turn out before you even get there then you prevent what was supposed to happen from happening. You can be so focused on what to expect that you are in defense mode. And the look on your face and your demeanor when you are in defense mode can change the whole situation. Have you ever looked in the mirror when you are agitated? The way you are thinking about things affects everything. That is why people are always saying you have to think positive thoughts if there is any chance for a positive outcome. Your thoughts are your reality. Keep an open mind so that when an opportunity comes along you don't miss your opportunity. Opportunities don't come along often so don't let your thoughts limit your chances of getting any opportunity at all.

Once upon a time

Once upon a time there was community unity. The phrase it takes a village to raise a child comes to mind. I not only had my parents watching me but the neighbors were watching too. And back then the neighbors talked to your parents to let them know anything they might have not seen. Nowadays everyone keeps to themselves and they do everything they can to not even notice anyone. If they do see anything they sure don't take the time to tell anyone. As a child I was annoyed when the neighbors would tell on me but as an adult I would give anything if neighbors still watched out for each other. Together we can bring back community unity by uniting to make our neighborhoods safe.

Changing with the times

As time goes by there are a lot of changes that happen. Like your new electronics become old and obsolete in a year. My grandkids even change what they like to eat from month to month making their old favorites that I just stocked up on obsolete. And when you get old the food you eat changes to what agrees with your body. What you can buy cheap one day can sky rocket the next day like the price of gas lately. What worked in the old days won't work today because times have changed. You will just have to accept the changes and change with the times to navigate through life. After you experience decades of changes you can barely remember how things used to be like not having a cell phone. Today it is a necessity that you can't imagine being without. If you don't keep up with the changes you will find yourself lost in the dark about things you need to know. You may not like all the changes but you will have to make the necessary changes to stay on track in life.