The LONGER you hold on....the HEAVIER IT GETS.

      When you PICK UP a weight you are LIFTING the AMOUNT you THINK you SHOULD LIFT.

      You may have a GOAL that you want to LIFT IT for about an hour to GET THE BENEFITS you want.

      BUT YOU CAN'T HOLD IT in the air for an hour without OVERDOING IT and HURTING YOURSELF. 

      You must LIFT IT UP then BRING IT DOWN then you LIFT IT UP and BRING IT DOWN over and over again for an hour.

      If you TRY TO CONSTANTLY HOLD IT in the air do you THINK that is WHAT you should do?

       Even if you were only HOLDING a drink of water would you HOLD IT ALL DAY or only when you NEEDED A DRINK?

        When you first GRAB the 12 ounces of water it FEELS like you are HOLDING 12 ounces of water.

       But the LONGER YOU HOLD IT the HEAVIER that 12 ounces of water will FEEL to your arm.

      And there is NO REASON to PUT SO MUCH STRAIN on your arm.... just SIT IT DOWN so your arm can rest.

      Then when you get thirsty PICK IT UP and TAKE A DRINK then sit the water DOWN and rest your arm.

      WASTING YOUR ENERGY and STRENGTH on HOLDING ON when YOU DON'T HAVE TO is WASTING YOUR TIME and YOUR ENERGY.

      We let MEMORIES from NEGATIVE things that happened in the PAST stay FRESH ON OUR MIND and it is HURTING US so....

      ACCEPT what has happened then LEARN from it then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you DON'T have to LET IT HURT YOU ANYMORE....so JUST FLUSH IT and EASE YOUR LOAD.

You will GET THERE ONE STEP AT A TIME

       Have you ever felt so OVERWHELMED at what NEEDED DONE that you felt OVERWHELMED WITHOUT DOING ANYTHING?

      Just TURN IT into FIVE JOBS that would TAKE LESS WORK so that it will make it FEEL MORE DOABLE so you won't feel OVERWHELMED. 

       I decided that even when I am watching something on the TV I could still get a lot done if I got up and did something during the COMMERCIALS. 

       Even when I start to COOK DINNER I get out EVERYTHING that I KNOW I NEED TO COOK EVERYTHING for that meal FIRST.

        Because it made it EASIER because I don't want to be NEEDING a pan, a utensil or a bowl in the middle of doing many other things so I GET PREPARED. 

       When what YOU HAD PLANNED in your life is NO LONGER happening you GOT to JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind and FIND ANOTHER WAY TO DO IT, ADJUST.

      Things happen in your LIFE'S JOURNEY that you had HOPED wouldn't happen but YOU CAN ADJUST and KEEP GOING ONE STEP AT A TIME.

       As long as YOU NEVER QUIT then YOU NEVER LOST it means YOU ARE ADJUSTING until YOU SUCCEED.

       YOUR DREAMS are YOUR DREAMS to REACH no matter what IT WILL TAKE for YOU TO ACHIEVE THEM.

       No matter if ANYONE BUT YOU BELIEVES IT it's not up to ANYONE BUT YOU but it can ONLY HAPPEN IF YOU STEP UP AND DO IT.

When you LEARN that ONLY YOU KNOW then.....

       Have you every got UPSET about something that YOU WERE RESPONSIBLE FOR after you FIND OUT that it wasn't done by the PERSON YOU TOLD TO DO IT?

       Well were you UPSET at YOURSELF or were you blaming the PERSON YOU TOLD to do it?

      ASKING YOURSELF on WHO you would PLACE BLAME ON can GIVE YOU THE ANSWERS YOU NEED.

       Even if the PERSON YOU TOLD to DO IT ACTUALLY DIDN'T DO IT then YOU WILL SEE that if it is IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO GET DONE then YOU WILL FIND A WAY. 

      EVERYTHING that YOU LEARN will HELP you GROW to MAKE YOU WHO YOU WILL GROW UP TO BE which will MAKE YOU the BEST YOU THAT YOU CAN BE.

      And remember that WHO YOU WANT TO BE is ONLY BASED ON HOW YOU REACT so if IT IS UP TO YOU then  DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO.

     Sometimes you make WRONG CHOICES but LUCKILY YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT and GROW.

      

As a HUMAN you CAN ADJUST AS YOU GO to STAY ON TRACK

       Have you ever seen a "THUNDERSTORM " that was so LOUD that you COULDN'T THINK of anything EXCEPT that IT IS RAINING HARD RIGHT NOW?

       If it WASN'T for the "THUNDERSTORM" you WOULD HAVE REMEMBERED that you were in the middle of THINKING about SOMETHING IMPORTANT but...now you FORGOT what it was.

      I was LISTENING to a STORY my husband was TELLING ME then OUT OF THE BLUE a THOUGHT POPPED IN MY BRAIN and SUDDENLY I COULD NO LONGER HEAR his STORY.

      But I WANTED to HEAR the STORY so....I UNFORTUNATELY had to STOP HIM IN THE MIDDLE OF HIS STORY to ADMIT that MY BRAIN GOT LOST.

     When you GET DISTRACTED then......you GET TOO DISTRACTED so you GOT TO STOP and FOCUS to GET BACK ON TRACK TO KEEP UP.

      DON'T EXPECT to ALWAYS STAY FOCUSED because LIFE IS LIFE and sometimes DURING YOUR LIFE things CAN HAPPEN that DISTRACTS YOU so CATCH BACK UP!

      DON'T GET ANGRY at yourself because the TRUTH is at least YOU KNOW YOU ARE HUMAN and HUMANS ARE NOT PERFECT so JUST ADJUST to GET BACK ON TRACK.

     YOUR ENEMIES will TRY TO DISTRACT YOU but the HUMAN IN YOU KNOWS that AS A HUMAN YOU CAN ADJUST AS YOU GO. 

     

SEARCHING FOR HOPE is HOW YOU FIND HOPE

        When something NEGATIVE HAPPENS it brings on NEGATIVE FEELINGS that TAKE AWAY YOUR JOY.

       But YOUR JOY is UP TO YOU so DON'T let what happened keep you from FINDING THINGS YOU ENJOY.

       Sure what happened can make it an UNCOMFORTABLE MOMENT but IT DOESN'T DEFINE YOU.

       It may CAUSE YOU to REGROUP and things to CHANGE but as long as YOU ALWAYS FIND THE JOY IN EVERYTHING then YOU WILL HAVE HOPE.

       Of course there will be BUMPS IN YOUR LIFE'S JOURNEY but all of YOUR LIFE'S JOURNEY is PART OF YOUR LIFE.

       Sometimes it takes a TORNADO IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE to get YOU WHERE YOU NEED TO BE.

        LIFE'S LESSONS can be PAINFUL but WHAT YOU LEARN is PART OF THE PROCESS and even OUR MISTAKES and OUR CIRCUMSTANCES are JUST PART OF THE PROCESS.

       WE ALL only have ONE LIFE TO LIVE so remember that YOU GOT TO ENJOY IT WHILE YOU ARE LIVING IT.

Have you ever REALIZED that YOU WERE WRONG?

        When something HAPPENS that UPSETS YOU then there is usually SOMEONE or SOMETHING that YOU BLAME FOR IT.

        BUT SOMETIMES the PERSON or CIRCUMSTANCES that YOU BLAME had NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. 

       I have seen FRIENDS FIGHT over CIRCUMSTANCES yet in the end they REALIZE that THEIR NEGATIVE ATTITUDE IS NOT BASED ON nothing that EITHER OF THEM DID.

      Have YOU ever RUINED A WONDERFUL FRIENDSHIP over YOU BELIEVING something that THEY DIDN'T DO?

       When I REALIZED that WHAT I THOUGHT WAS TRUE was ACTUALLY NOT TRUE it was TOO LATE.

       That is when I REALIZED that WHEN YOU ARE HURT then YOU WILL SEE THAT YOU ARE HURT and UNFORTUNATELY YOU ANGRILY BLAME someone or someone without THINKING.

      So BEFORE YOU REACT or BLAME SOMEONE just STOP.

      It could take you hours, or weeks, or POSSIBLE NEVER TO TRULY KNOW for sure but if YOU REACT ANGRILY then YOU WILL Have NO ONE but YOURSELF TO BLAME for HOW YOU REACTED.

      YOUR SUFFERING could NOT BE because of WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU but because of HOW YOU REACTED.

       DON'T REACT UNTIL YOU STOP and THINK because ONCE YOU REACT..... then WHAT'S DONE IS DONE.

      

      

FORGIVENESS is a GIFT YOU GIVE YOURSELF

      You CAN'T WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY because HONESTLY THAT PROBABLY WON'T COME from SOMEONE THAT HURT YOU. 

      But REGARDLESS YOU DESERVE TO LET IT GO so that YOU CAN MOVE PAST IT.

      SO YOU FORGIVE THEM so that YOU CAN JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind then ENJOY the FORGIVENESS that YOU DID FOR YOURSELF. 

       Trying to WAIT FOR AN APOLOGY from a person WHO HAS NO RESPECT FOR ANYONE not even THEMSELVES is....CRAZY.

      But the MINUTE YOU ACCEPT IT and GIVE FORGIVENESS is THE MINUTE YOU HAVE THE FREEDOM TO BE FREE to ENJOY PEOPLE YOU CAN TRUST.

      Now just because YOU FORGAVE THEM definitely DOESN'T MEAN that YOU WANT TO BE THEIR FRIEND STILL, because YOU LEARNED.

      Because YOU KNOW WHO THEY TRULY ARE NOW and YOU LEARNED that YOU DON'T WANT ANY RELATIONSHIP with someone LIKE them.

     Just BE THANKFUL that YOU LEARNED WHO THEY ARE and YOU CAN STAY AWAY from THEM because YOU LOVE YOURSELF enough to STAY AWAY FROM THEM.

       If YOU DON'T TRUST THEM then....STAY AWAY FROM THEM and let FORGIVENESS SET YOU FREE.

To STAY MOTIVATED you have to always MOTIVATE YOURSELF

       When TIMES GET TOUGH it makes what you NEED TO DO....HARDER TO DO.

       Just STOP and REMIND YOURSELF WHY the HARD WORK is NECESSARY. 

      If you want to REACH the TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN then remember that YOU HAVE A LOT OF CLIMBING TO DO in order to REACH the TOP.

       If you want to EARN A DEGREE then YOU HAVE TO PASS THE CLASSES NEEDED in order to EARN THAT DEGREE.

      If you want to BE KNOWN as SOMEONE WHO IS ALWAYS HONEST then YOU MUST ALWAYS BE HONEST so everyone KNOWS HOW HONEST YOU ARE.

       If it is IMPORTANT TO YOU then no matter what ANYONE ELSE THINKS just REMEMBER IT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU. 

      I have many people that I ADMIRE but WE THINK DIFFERENTLY about CERTAIN THINGS.

      So I just NEVER ASK THEIR OPINION ON THOSE SUBJECTS because I KNOW WE THINK DIFFERENTLY on THOSE SUBJECTS.

      We have to KNOW WHAT WE NEED TO DO  TO STAY MOTIVATED and FOCUS ON THAT so that WE CAN STAY MOTIVATED.

      When YOU HAVE TO DO THE HARD WORK then JUST DO IT and YOU WILL BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR DOING IT.

      YOUR THOUGHTS will DETERMINE whether THEY ARE MOTIVATING OR NOT to YOU.

       So THINK POSITIVELY and remember that Peter Pan could ONLY FLY if he THOUGHT HAPPY THOUGHTS.

      In order to STAY MOTIVATED then YOU HAVE TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF. 

      

       

      

      

Letting them LEARN the HARD WAY is......

       Obviously LEARNING from someone else's mistakes may be IMPORTANT to you and those that you love.

      But sometimes it IS NECESSARY to LET THEM LEARN ON THEIR OWN because that may be PART OF THE PLAN for THEM TO LEARN FOR THEMSELVES. 

      I always THINK that it is PART OF MY JOB to make sure I try to keep EVERYONE SAFE by LETTING THEM KNOW the DANGEROUS PARTS so THEY CAN AVOID THEM.

      But WHEN SOMEONE LEARNS BY DOING IT then for sure THEY LEARNED and THEY GREW AS THEY LEARNED.

      And I LEARNED that if I want those around me to FEEL COMFORTABLE in TELLING ME about their NEW IDEAS THEY HAVE PLANNED....

    .....then I NEED TO JUST LISTEN WITHOUT ALWAYS SAYING NEGATIVE REASONS WHY THEY SHOULDN'T DO IT.

      But in MY MIND I can't help but THINK... so I THINK ABOUT IT..... I just DON'T SAY EVERY THOUGHT that POPS UP.

      And the MOMENT THEY GET BACK FROM DOING IT I will BE THANKFUL that THEY ARE HOME SAFELY. 

      What YOU DID WHEN YOU WERE YOUNG WASN'T SMART TO DO but YOU WANTED TO DO IT so YOU DID IT....  but TODAY YOU KNOW THAT YOU WOULDN'T DO IT AGAIN...HAHAHA.