You can't always choose but you will still have choices you will have to make

You may not have any choice on some of the situations you will face during your lifetime. But with every situation you will have choices on how you will react to them. It is not the situation you are dealing with that determines the outcome of the situation, it is how you react to them that will determine the outcome for you. Which will require you to STOP before you react to think about what your actions will bring. Once you react you can't take it back, your actions will decide how the situation will affect you. If you want a positive outcome you will have to make sure that you react in a way that a positive outcome is possible. You decide the outcome so make sure you do what you need to do to, so you can have the best outcome you possibly can under the circumstances of the situation you are forced to deal with. The harder the situation you have to face, the harder it will be to find how to react to minimize the damage it will have on you. It's not easy to figure out what to do. But the outcome will be harder on you if you don't figure it out before you react. What you look for will determine what you will find. Look for the best positive outcome so that you can have a positive outcome. Before you react, STOP and think about how you should react. You may not have had a choice in the situation but you do have the choice on how to react to it.