You decide first then they will decide

Where you lead them they will follow. What you teach them is what they learn from you. Every home is a classroom and every parent is a teacher. If you want them to grow up to be responsible, compassionate, hard working and honest adults then you have to teach them how to be responsible, compassionate, hard working and honest. The best thing you can do for your child is love them enough to let them be mad at you. They won't always like what you do at times along the way but when they are grown they will thank you.