Make time for "small talk"

Through small talk you learn stepping stones and hidden dangers to a variety of things. They may not be questions that you have today but they may be the answers to the questions you may have later in life or the answer for someone asking you for advice one day. The simple conversations that you may have if you slow down to talk can make your life more care free by finding solutions as the conversation bounces from subject to subject opening up topics that are of interest to you that will help you free up more time to relax if you make the time for "small talk."

A quick glance

There are many ways to view a situation so don't make a decision based on a quick glance. At a glance you don't see the whole picture and you will have no idea what good can come and your reaction to the quick glance that angers you will change the outcome from a positive outcome to the negative one your actions out of anger will bring. You must take the good with the bad in most situations in life and if you get so angry about the bad parts then you will react badly and no good will be able to come from it.

One step closer

Someone must be the first to do something to get it started and create a starting point for others to join to get the ball rolling. There are many things that seem impossible but if you would make even a small step towards the task you would see that it is much easier now that you started the ball rolling. It can either gain momentum and keep rolling or at the very least it will be one step closer than it was. You will never get to the finish line of anything if you don't start.

Pick and choose your battles

In this day and age you definitely need to pick and choose your battles carefully. In a time when we are all facing so many battles at the same time we must save our energy for those battles that are most important so you will have the strength it will take to win them. You will wear yourself down if you fight for everything that you know ain't right. You may not win every battle that you choose to fight but you can still win the war if you stay focused on what is most important to you. You don't have to strive for a perfect outcome just the outcome that can work for you.

Spring clean your mind

You don't have to go to an expensive retreat to get away from the stress you are under, just make room in your mind by simply refusing to let the stressful thoughts that you keep fresh on your mind from past painful experiences take up all the room in your mind. You will have "peace of mind" when you make room for it. Don't let what has happened in your past stink up your future too. "Just Flush It" out of your mind like you do all the clutter during Spring Cleaning.

You are a teacher and a farmer

You teach compassion to others by being compassionate.
You teach honesty by being honest.
You teach sharing by always sharing.
You teach others how to be happy by being happy when you are with them.
You teach patience by being patient.
Every interaction you have with others shows them therefore may teach them something. What are you teaching others? Plant seeds of kindness as you go through your day because it is true YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

Too big to climb

How you react to your problems will determine how big the problem will be. Take the time to think about it before you let a minor set back in life become something that will affect you negatively in a major way. Remember the old saying "anyone can make a mountain out of a molehill if they keep adding dirt." Acknowledge the problem for what it is and simply see it as a small mole hill that you can simply step over and don't react with anger that can turn it into a mountain too big to climb.

Turn frustration into energy

If you don't get over the anger about what you have to do because of what others have done and just "get 'er done" then nothing will get done. Anger will grow inside you doing physical damage that nothing can be done about. Cut your losses by doing what needs to be done turning the frustration into the energy and lessons learned that you will need to fix the situation not let your frustration turn into anger that stresses your heart out.

Don't close the doors

You must learn to be patient. When you get angry so fast you close the door before your answer comes making it then impossible to get whatever it was you were waiting for. You should at least leave all the doors open even if you stop waiting on the answer. Doorways and paths are opened whenever they can so that one day when the timing is right you will have the access to the answers you need. If you are not patient and you slam all the doors closed then you make it impossible to find any answer that you may some day need.

Will you know if the sun is shining?

Your "point of view" will determine your reality. If you believe something is true then no matter what someone may say or do it will still be true in your mind. If you close your mind to even the proven facts then the fact is that it will remain true to you. If you open your mind you just might find that it is not the facts that are making your reality so gloomy but your "point of view" that is keeping your reality so gloomy. The sun may be shining but if you convince yourself that it's cold outside and you don't look outside to see then you will spend your day inside to avoid the cold.

Don't bite their head off

Why is it when someone is faced with so much chaos in their life that their head is about to explode they bite the head off every person around them? It won't help them a bit but they do it despite the fact and usually unaware of the pain that their actions have on those who they lash out on. Don't spew your anger onto others no more than you should spread your germs on others if you had the flu. Anger makes people sick so don't spread it!

Strategies to prevent it

Don't let a set back in your life keep you from enjoying life. Don't let your mistakes define you. Don't let your past stink up your future too. What is done is done and some things just aint right but it is what it is. Don't spend all your energy trying to figure out why or how it happened because there is no answer to tragedies only questions about strategies to prevent it from happening again!

Happy New Year

Happy New Year. May 2012 bring you "Peace of Mind." Peace starts within ourselves by letting go of what has happened in our past in order to start with a clean slate to do things as they need to be done to have a peaceful future. Things will naturally leave your memory if you don't think about them to keep them fresh on your mind. Don't bring the same personal baggage that has been holding you back into the New Year, "Just Flush It" out of your mind.