Was it taught or untaught?

Everyone is born with honesty and a conscience. A young child says whatever pops in their mind. They sometimes let your secrets out because they had no idea that it was something that was a secret.  Most of the time it isn't a big deal if anyone else knows, but you would have rather that no one else knew. When I was young the  family would all gather to watch the old show called " Kids say the darndest things." It wasn't very funny necessarily for kids but it sure made the adults laugh uncontrollably. Now that I am "old" I see the show from a whole different point of view. And I laugh uncontrollably and say OMG a lot. If you are a parent to young children it makes you wander what might fly out of their mouths at any given time. I know when my children were young they blurted out things that not only did I wish they hadn't, but I didn't even know they had heard or seen. Children of all ages appear to be too busy to notice yet somehow they can describe to a tee, everything that was going on all around them.  Unfortunately the pictures they describe are full of some details that you would rather that no one else knew. Knowing that children are born with a conscience to guide them, you have to wander how is it possible that they can be so cruel to each other. Just how did they suddenly become a school bully. How can they be allowed to bully other children? You by law have to send your kids to school yet there doesn't seem to be a law that the teachers can't ignore it when they see someone being bullied. If you ignore it then it becomes acceptable behavior. And if you accept it then it will be a common occurrence. That means your teaching our children that it is okay to be a bully and it's okay that they are the victim of the bullying. It's time we start focusing on just what's going on in our schools these days. We need to remember every home is a class room and every parent is a teacher. What we teach our kids are learned behaviors. It takes a village to raise a child because every single interaction they have determines who they become as adults that make up our neighborhoods. We all can teach the children so that they can help clean up the mess in society that took many generations to create. If all the generations can come together we can fix it in "OUR" generation. Teach HUMANITY to replace the INSANITY we see in society these days. World peace is possible but it will happen one person at a time having "peace of mind."

Wanting the opposite

People with straight hair want curly hair. People with natural curly hair want straight hair. My son has curly hair and I bought him the new hair straighting brush off Amazon. It really worked. Within a few minutes his hair was straight. But he was unrecognizable to me and everyone else. Luckily he felt strange and decided he was more comfortable with his natural curly hair. You may think you want something else but then you realize you are  comfortable with what you got. People think the grass is greener on the other side but when they look closer they can see the sand Spurs all throughout that green lawn. Then they are thankful that even though their lawn isn't as green, they can  comfortably walk without shoes. Looks can be deceiving. If you are comfortable, then enjoy what you got. You may not have everything you ever wanted but you have everything that you need to be comfortable. You may not miss it until it is gone but when it's gone, you may not be able to get it back. If it works then don't throw it away.

If only for a moment

A moment can happen in the blink of an eye. Yet every moment has a chance to change things in an instant. An opportunity may come come knocking at your door, but if you don't open the door and grab the opportunity, you wasted any opportunity you may have had. You may only have a handful of big moments throughout your lifetime. But there are an endless amount of "little special moments" you have a chance to enjoy. Every moment has a chance to be a memory you can cherrish forever. Only thing is, you have to slow down to have a moment you can enjoy. One less you tube video, one less email, one less game on our devices, one less moment of reading our social media, will give.us the time we need to spend with the humans around us, so we can have memories we can cherrish. The cyberspace technology has made human connection a rare occurrence. It is a shame when the closest thing to a hug most people get is a poke, a text, or an email.

If you could see it from the outside...

Someone looking at it from the outside, may not necessarily see what you can from the inside. Obviously only you know everything about what you are dealing with, it's your life. You are affected not only by what they see but by everything you have had to live throughout your entire lifetime. With that being said, listening to what they see looking at it from the outside, can't hurt and who knows it may be helpful to you. Since you alone have to live with the consequences of your decisions then of course you alone should make those decisions. But in order to be sure you are making the right decision, you need to look at the situation from every view possible before you make a decision. What they see may not affect your decision at all. But just in case they see something you couldn't, it might just be important to know before you make a decision. Keep an open mind as you listen, just in case you hear something important.

Ooops, I did it again

I can't believe I missed posting a blog post yesterday. In ten years I had only missed my regularly Monday, Wednesday and Friday blogging schedule three or four times. Now in less than thirty days, I have missed three blog days. For those of you who have stopped by to read them on those days, I apologise. I was dealing with a cold that kept returning. I would take cold medicine then think I was just going to lay down for a nap. Unfortunately some naps lead to not waking up until early the next morning. The flu season is here. Don't forget to get your flu shot. I was reminded to get mine after being sick the first week of this thirty day period, a little too late. Hopefully now after two more weeks, the flu shot can effectively protect me from catching the flu again.

Keep it simple if you can

Sometimes you can be so overwhelmed that you are exhausted before you get started. You need to look at whatever it is as a job that needs to be done one step at a time. Split up the task into three steps so you don't feel so overwhelmed. Being able to see it as simply doing step one, then step two and then you simply move on to step three, allows you to believe that it is as easy as one, two, three. The more simple you keep things the more simplified the task will be to do. When you believe that it is too difficult for you to do, the less likely you are to do it. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day, but it got built. Not everything you need to do can be done in one step. But as long as you keep doing each step, you will get it done. Don't let your thoughts wear you out before you even get started.

It may seem like a small thing but it can make a big difference

Have you ever had a nagging feeling like you were forgetting something really important? You start going over everything you know you need as you run around getting them done. But still you have a feeling there is something you are forgetting. You keep thinking realizing other things that were not on the top of your list of things to do, so you go ahead and get them done too. You spend the day getting your list done plus the extra stuff you thought of, by now it is late and you are exhausted. Just as you get settled in, you remember what you needed to do that was so important. Unfortunately the business you were supposed to go to is now closed. The worst part is I had meant to do it earlier in the week but I kept forgetting all about it each day. Now it is Friday and Monday is a holiday so I can't do it now until Tuesday. It was a small errand so not a big deal but forgetting it three days in a row made it a big deal on many personal levels. I just had my son text me a message so Tuesday if I forget, I can read my text. I even set an alarm for two different times on Tuesday to remind me. Now I got to get over my disappointment in forgetting and JUST FLUSH IT out of my mind so I can enjoy the three day weekend being satisfied with all the other things I did get done.

It will make your journey harder if you carry the past along on your journey

Look at your negative experiences from your past as sandbags. Could you imagine choosing to carry sandbags? If you can't learn what you need to from it and then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind, then you are choosing to carry that sandbag. Your life's journey will be hard enough without carrying heavy sandbags on your journey. Obviously if it is weighing heavy on your mind you have to JUST FLUSH it out of your mind to lighten your load. If you don't then you are choosing to carry that sandbag with you. Accepting what someone else did or accepting something you yourself did, is the first step to healing from it. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. You will never forget but accepting things you can not change will help you move on. And leaving those sandbags in your past will make your life's journey easier to enjoy. You can't always chose what happened in your past but you do get to choose how many sandbags you want to carry.

What it means to you doesn't mean it is what they meant it to mean to you

Sometimes we take what someone says or does to mean something that isn't what it meant at all. If you can communicate how you felt by it they can explain what they meant by it. Unfortunately you can be so angered by what you thought they said that you don't bother to know the true meaning of what they said. If you always expect them to say something negative to you then all you listen for is a negative twist to whatever they say. If negative is what you look for then that is what you are looking for and that is all you will find. There are many ways to look at things and depending on how you look at it will determine what you see and hear. In any relationship you need to communicate to have a good relationship. You won't always see eye to eye but listening to each other is necessary to meet in the middle. We can see things differently yet still through understanding how each other feels about what they saw, resolve our differences. Always being in defense mode can make you always feel like you have to defend yourself, even when you don't. It is impossible to communicate with someone who is always in a defense mode just waiting to attack you in defense of themselves. Relax and enjoy the conversation for what it is. You need to guard yourself at all times without being ready to attack at all times. They say words can't hurt you but that is not true. It is also true that someone's words that hurt you was not words they actually said but that you implying that is what their words meant. Give them a chance to defend what you heard before you attack them for words they didn't really mean when they said them to you.

What you pass on will spread, but what are you passing on?

It's true, you reap what you sow. But it is also true that what you sow can effect others in society. When you plant a garden you don't want to plant weeds at the same time. Because if you did, the weeds would spread and prevent your vegetables from growing.  The same is true in life situations. If you want a positive outcome then don't go into it with a negative attitude. You will reap what you sow. A negative situation may be challenging but with the right attitude it can have a positive outcome. It's all in how you look at it. Anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt. You can easily go around or over a mole hill. But you may not be able to climb a mountain. When life drops a boulder in your path, just go around it. Don't just stand there and waste time and energy on trying to remove it, just go around it. On your life's journey if you reach a dead end, just turn around and go back and choose a different direction. The roller coaster called Life is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that's just Life. And sometimes in life you got to look hard to find a positive response to a negative situation so that you can have a chance for a positive outcome. It is not what happens to you that determines the outcome, but it is how you react to what happens to you that will determine the outcome.

Taking the time to do it right will save you time

Reading the instructions can take a lot of time but it will make the time it will take to get it put together easier. Knowing what to do is half the battle. Whether it is how to put something together or how to get where you want to be, knowing what to do makes doing it easier. Knowing all the facts about anything is necessary to make the right decisions in Life. Otherwise you are simply making an uneducated guess. Some decisions you will have to make throughout your life are too important to just simply guess. We all have a built in warning system. So if you feel uneasy deep down inside, don't assume it is gas. If it is an important decision then you know it is important to get all the facts before you make your decision. Because once you act on it you have to live with the consequences. Deciding what you should do is a lot easier then deciding how to fix the problem created by guessing. I am bringing this up because I did what looked like the right thing to do, but it turned out to be the opposite of what I should have done. Unfortunately my built in warning system didn't go off. If it looks good to be true then it probably isn't true. And looking into someone's eyes to see if their telling the truth doesn't work. In the good old days people would say a person is only as good as his word and a handshake meant they would do what they said they would. Today people say....you can't believe a word anyone says and a handshake has nothing to do with anything. Sometimes a short cut will only leave you to a dead end. Honesty is the best policy. Unfortunately not everyone is an honest person so be honest with yourself that you can't believe it until you see it.

Some things you do for yourself

If someone you know needs help, you help. If it is something that you you know needs done, you make sure it gets done. Don't forget how important it is to take the time to occasionally do something for yourself, just cause you should. We all have busy schedules and lots of responsibilities. But to enjoy life while you are living you have to squeeze in some time every now and then, to do what you enjoy. That's not being selfish, it is necessary. In order to be able to take care of everything else and everyone else, you have to first take care of yourself, so that you can. Happy New year everyone. Make 2020 the best it can be and take care of yourself so you can be the best you can be.