You can't enjoy today if all you think about is what happened in your past

Trying to help someone move on from their painful experience if they keep it fresh on their mind, is impossible. Until they can JUST FLUSH IT out of their mind they will keep reliving it over and over again. It's like the movie Ground Hog Day. If they let a negative thought grab their attention when it pops up in their mind then they keep reliving their past over and over again. You can't get over it if you keep it fresh on your mind. You can't enjoy life while you are living it if you choose to only keep reliving your past. It's like never changing the channel on your TV and wandering why you missed your show which you know is on a different channel. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. You can't change what happened. It was bad enough when it happened once. Once was enough. It will keep popping up in your mind but at a quick glance you can JUST FLUSH IT so it can't do anymore damage. It's as easy as changing the channel on your TV.