I didn't expect it from them

Well your warm heart won't change their cold soul. You feel like a fool when in the end you were totally wrong about who they were. It is hard to believe that you gave them way more than they deserved. You sacrificed your time and money to help them yet they will cost you thousands of dollars more as they exit out of your life. It is sad that this isn't the first time your kindness cost you. It's hard to say it won't happen to you again because that is the price you pay for having a warm heart. But it will make you avoid getting close enough to anyone to give them a chance. Don't let their cold soul change your warm heart.

The temperature is going down down down

The frigid cold is slowly moving in, making sure no one forgets it's winter. The seasons change effortlessly bringing with it challenges. It's a never ending circle of seasons. The circle of life is also ever-changing and there will be challenges you will face along the way. The frigid cold of winter is just as challenging as the blazing hot summers. Luckily there is also a spring break and a fabulous fall to also enjoy. Just like the roller coaster of Life has it's ups and downs.

Time will tell

I believe everything happens for a reason. I also know that sometimes the reason may not be known for quite a while. I know that I can not waste time sitting around searching for the reason. I know that I have to just accept that there is a reason and JUST FLUSH IT and keep moving. There are even times when I realized that the reason something in particul happened wasn't to guide me, it was meant to help someone around me. It doesn't always seem like there could be a good reason for some of the things that you will go through in life, but that is no reason to let it hold you back while you try to figure out why it happened. It is what it is and you have to accept that you may never know the reasons why. Remember you got totJUST FLUSH IT  so you can ENJOY your Life while you are living it.

When you become an "elder"

Family gatherings were rare occasions but they were what held the family together. As the last "elder" of my husband's family died two days ago, you could feel the chain be broken. The circle of life rolls from one generation to the next. We were forced to accept that we were now the "elders" of our family. Although it can be a great honor it also comes with the realization that we are also "next" in the circle of life. We will miss you Aunt Louise but thank you for all the memories. I wrote Aunt Louise's tips on gardening and canning in my second book. To me they both had become  a "lost art". Times have changed and with all the technology there isn't much "lost art" that gets past down from generation to generation. Have you ever been in a business and they lose power. They are stopped in their tracks because they have no idea how to"fix it" on their own without googling how to. Without the cash register they seem to not know how to add things up . Learning how to survive without your electronic technology is a "lost art" that makes the situation destined to have a gloomy outcome.

It starts with a dream

Your dreams can't come true if you don't have a dream. Even if it seems like your dream could not possibly come true it has a chance to if you dare to dream. It may not be easy but hard work pays off. Reaching for what you want is the only way to get what you want. I had a couple of dreams when I was a child. But I didn't give it and they both came true in my forties. Although it was decades late I am glad that I never gave up. Don't sabotage yourself by giving up on your dreams. It can only happen if you can dream it.

Even if you don't like it, it still is a necessary part of the overall cycle of life

We have all seen a group of buzzards around a dead animal. It is heartbreaking and nauseating to see but it is an important part of the Eco system. You may not like spiders but they are helping to keep the bug population in check. Even snakes are helpful in keeping the rat population down to prevent them from spreading disease. Now mosquitoes on the other hand have no positive purpose at all. At least none that I can think of. The cycle of life has a purpose but it brings both joy and pain. Accepting things that you don't understand is necessary too. Like the serenity prayer says "God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

When you can you can, when you can't you just can't

When you are sick you need your rest. It seems like when you are sick and trying to rest you get more phone calls, more things suddenly need done. It just doesn't make sense but that is how it works. My phone might not ring for days but if I am resting it seems to ring over and over again. I have the ringer off but later when I check the messages it is too late to call the business back because they are closed. If anyone I know has called me or texted several times during the day they eventually sound frustrated that I haven't responded. But you need the rest so you will be able to call everyone in a day or two. It is never a convenient time to be sick and you can't predict when you are going to be sick. But if and when you are sick 😷 you need to get all the rest you can to get better. So before you get frustrated because you missed some important calls remember you didn't choose to get sick but you did the right thing by turning off your phone and get the rest you needed to get better.

Two weeks down fifty to go

The New Year has been a good the first two weeks. I have started implementing to have a fresh outlook. And making sure to look at each thing as it has come from more than one angle. It let's you see that if you do you have a better chance of seeing a positive side. It sure keeps your stress levels down. Because your first look at a situation you may only see the negative  effects it will have. But from a different perspective you may see that it is worth it because where it will lead you. Sometimes having a tornado in your life is the only way you were ever going to get where you needed to be. Keep your eyes wide open to see all the good things in your life.

The love of a child

Young children have nothing but love for everyone. They don't hold grudges or expect everything to be perfect. They are such a blessing. When you are a young parent you have no idea how fast they grow up. But as a grandparent I know that you have to enjoy every moment of their childhood. Because time flies and before you know it they will be an adult. Which means they get so busy in their own lives that you rarely get a chance to enjoy their company. Luckily my grandkids are still little and they love to come over and play. I will be lonely when they all grow up. But I know how lucky I am to have been able to enjoy my children and now my grandchildren for the last 36 years. So many families live too many miles away from each other but mine live just three miles away. My Mom died when I was three years old. My sister died before her grandchildren were even born. And my little brother died at nineteen before he even had a chance to have kids. Which is why I feel so lucky to be able to enjoy my grandkids. I don't know if I will live long enough to enjoy my great-grandchildren but considering my family history  I know just how lucky I am to be able to enjoy my grandchildren. I am reminded of a plaque on my wall that says "I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life, He gave me life that I might enjoy all things."

If you don't want to then don't but don't blame anyone but yourself if you don't do it

There are some people who blame anyone but themselves. You can't learn from your mistakes if you don't first admit that you made a mistake. You can blame it on the moon but the truth is you don't have anyone but yourself to blame for what you do or don't do. If you accept responsibility for it then you know what you need to do to make sure it doesn't happen again. A mistake is something that you do once because if you do it again, it is a habit. Life is full of lessons. There is never an age where you don't learn as you go. And in this ever changing fast paced World we live in by the time you learn how to do it another change is happening. If you don't learn as you go through life you won't be able to navigate through it. Just admit it and learn what you need from it so you can JUST FLUSH IT and move on.

Sometimes what was meant to be was only meant to be for a brief moment

Well we went for the recheck appointment today and we were told our primary physician had changed. Obviously my first thought was the other doctor didn't like what I said during our phone conversation on Friday. I did see him in the hallway this morning and approached him. I asked him did he transfer us to the other doctor after our phone call. He said no, you can be placed with any doctor in the office when you make an appointment. Let's just say after our conversation, I felt as if he wasn't meant to be our doctor. I do believe our encounter was meant to be. I believe I was meant to tell him how he made me feel as his patient. He did teach us health tips that will be helpful. But without a doubt the doctor we saw today is thankfully the doctor we were meant to have. He was knowledgeable and funny, which was refreshing. In any profession you can have many people who know what to do but not all of them do it with a smile. I choose which cashier's aisle to get into to checkout based on how pleasant the cashier is just as much as which line is longer.

Sometimes if it is meant to happen a circumstances will make sure it does happen

There are many times throughout your life that you will have to decide whether you will or won't do something. You go back and forth on if you think you should or shouldn't do it. Wednesday I was pondering whether I should tell the doctor his words were hurtful and it was hard to trust whether he cared about his patients health. Since your doctor is so important to keep you healthy you have to be able to feel comfortable. Because literally you are putting your health in their hands. I was going to make the decision on whether to tell the doctor how  I felt based on how he treated us on our follow up appointment. Since it was days away I had time to forget about until Monday. Then out of the blue the doctor called me this morning to discuss getting some lab work done before our next visit. During the conversation he said the same exact thing as he had at the visit, that I felt was rude and offensive. Well I couldn't help but tell him everything that I had bit my tongue not to say to him on Wednesday. He defended his choice of words because they were facts he needed me to be aware of. After telling him those words were hurtful, he said them again. By then I didn't see any way I could be comfortable with him. Strangely though we continued talking. At some point I believe he became more compassionate. At least I think so and hope so. I will find out Monday morning if I will actually feel like he listened to what I said. I know I felt relieved that I had said it. Part of my struggle with whether to say it to him or not was because if someone didn't he would not know how he comes across to patients. Perhaps it will be a positive impact throughout his career. I know after talking to him for a while he certainly earned my respect on his doctor knowledge. But let's see if he has a human side. I will let you know in Mondays blog. Remember it's not always what you say but how you say it.

Have you ever had to deal with a medical professional who have no bed side manners?

You shouldn't be able to get your medical degree until you pass not only a written test but a test to see if you have compassion. Just because you were a good student for 8 years and you passed all the test doesn't make you a good doctor. A good doctor has compassion for people and want to make them feel comfortable and confident that they care. Today I experienced a doctor for my son and he had no bed side manners at all. I am in his office literally biting my tongue not to let him know his attitude and remarks we're just rude and hurtful. Unfortunately if you say something you know it will only make his attitude worse towards you at your next visit. But a nagging voice in my head keeps saying if no one ever points it out to him, he will always do it. Even if I do say something he seemed so rude and arrogant that I don't think he will ever change. We have to go back for a recheck next week and I am hoping he can be a little more pleasant to be around. I hope that he one day realizes that for anyone's over all good health that he treats, they need him to treat them and talk to them with compassion and kindness. No matter what profession you are in you should always be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they are facing.