Turn those Halloween tricks into a treat you can enjoy

Halloween is finally here and you can enjoy the happiness on all your visitors faces. This is an exciting time for those getting candy as well as for those waiting at their door to give you some candy. But it is important to check every piece of their candy because unfortunately even little children are not safe from an evil person putting something in the candy to harm them. In the good old days you were safe to eat a piece of candy or two as you ran from house to get as much candy as you could. It's only for two hours  and it comes just once a year. Remember if they don't have a light on to welcome you, just run past that house to get to their neighbors house who is waiting to see your costume and give you candy to enjoy. As we all know Halloween signals the countdown to Christmas. Don't forget to shop for the Halloween clearance to find unique things to turn your wrapped presents into robots that will be fun to look at until Christmas day when they can finally open them. Happy Halloween.

Forgiveness you do for yourself

To forgive someone is something you do to let go of the negative feelings so you can move on. Forgiving it doesn't mean you forget about it. It doesn't mean that what happened wasn't wrong. It doesn't mean that you will have trust in them to do the right thing for now on. It simply means you can JUST FLUSH IT so it doesn't do any harm to you anymore. Being angry at them about it would only hurt you. Forgiveness you do for yourself.

Everyone is free to have their own opinion or are they?

Ten people could see the exact same thing yet every single one of them can see something totally different. Does that mean nine people are wrong? Of course not. How you look at something determines what you see. And just because you didn't see it doesn't mean it wasn't there. There seems to be a problem with accepting that anyone could see things differently than you do. Our differences are what make every single one of us uniquely different. Can you imagine a world where we are all exactly alike. Or a world where your opinion didn't matter you had to do what your told, when you were told to, and like it or not you would. Well luckily we are free to have our own opinion and we need to respect everyone's opinion if we want to keep freedom to have our own opinion.

A little bit goes a long way

Every little bit helps. You can make a big difference by showing a little kindness. It isn't about how much you can do it is about taking a moment to show them you care. Even if you can't do anything just taking a moment to listen can help them a little. You don't have to say a word just letting them say it out loud gives them a chance to figure it out on their own. When all they are dealing with is swirling in their mind it is like a tornado. But as they gather their thoughts to say it out loud they are able to see more clearly what exactly they are dealing with. It is easier for them to solve their own problems when they can see clearly what the problems are.

Maybe or maybe not

Maybe it will happen but there is a chance it won't happen. Well there is a chance if you don't blow it. If you react defensively to what could happen in a situation you are choosing the outcome that may not have even happened. If you would have just waited to see what happened you could have had a better outcome for yourself. Although you will blame the situation for the outcome you really have no one but yourself to blame. How you react determines the outcome. You may have had to deal with a negative situation but that doesn't mean there wouldn't have been a positive outcome. Don't assume the worst if you want any chance for your situation to have a positive outcome. How you look at it and react to it determines the outcome.

Laughter is the best medicine

It had been a long time since I have laughed so hard. You can feel a good belly laugh from your head to your toes. It is like a FLUSH for your mind, body and soul. When is the last time you had a good belly laugh? It is usually over something silly but it just makes you laugh so hard that you almost pee your pants. Like someone accidentally saying froggiging. To hear the word now doesn't make me laugh. But when the word triggers the memory of the time my friends and I laughed so hard when it rolled out of our friends mouth, well it still makes me giggle a little. It is one of those things that you had to be there to understand why it was so funny. We all have heard that laughter is the best medicine. If you can make them laugh you can help them. You can not solve their problem but if you can make them laugh it will help.

Proper rest is needed no matter how old you are

You need to get enough sleep just as much as you need to maintain your diet and get plenty of exercise. It seems like people make sure to eat healthy and at least get some form of exercise yet they don't even pay attention to the hours of rest they are getting. When you are sick you and your doctor never seem to attribute it to a lack of proper rest. You may have caught a cold and need medicine but your body needs rest to recouperate. They put very sicksick patients in an induced coma because the body heals better and faster when you are asleep. So if you find yourself sick you need to get extra rest. And to keep yourself healthy you need to get proper rest everyday. Of course there are times when you treat yourself to a piece of pie but most of the time you eat right. There will be times when you stay up a little late but most of the time you need to get the rest you need. You may think you don't need a bedtime when you are grown up but you do if you want to stay healthy.

It can be there one minute then gone the next

Nothing last forever. Even if you like things just the way they are you can't prevent it from changing. Several generations before mine had no television at all. I couldn't imagine no television, luckily I grew up with three channels. Could you imagine only having three channels today? There was no computers, game systems or internet. You had to use your imagination to entertain yourself. Although all the changes may seem like positive changes there are many negative results of the changes. Families can be in the same room yet not even communicate with each other because everyone is lost in their electronics. So family bonding experiences rarely happens anymore. Instead of using your imagination and creativity you rely on cyberspace to occupy your free time. Instead of going outside to play for exercise and getting fresh air you sit inside staring at your devices.  Without human contact you become desensitized to your human side. There is no way to stop things from changing but when you are with your family and friends you can turn off your devices and share some human contact to stay connected to your human side.

What triggers it?

From time to time in the middle of doing something, out of nowhere a thought can pop up front and center in your mind.  It can catch you by surprise making you wander where on earth did that come from. It can be a smell that triggers it. It can be triggered by a number of ways. I know when I walk through a flea market there are many old memories that pop up as I see something. Like seeing the gawdy lamp my aunt had in her house. Before you know it I have enjoyed reliving a couple of memories I had forgotten about at her house. After I walked through the whole flea market seeing many things my family had owned in the past, it felt like I just had a family reunion. By the time you are my age you realize the memories you have stored away won't come out unless something triggers it. Of course not all the triggered memories do we want to relive. So when a negative memory pops up JUST FLUSH IT so you don't relive it.

A new beginning means a fresh start

To have a fresh start in your life you have to let go of your past painful experiences. That doesn't mean you can totally forget your past. It simply means that you can't keep it fresh on your mind or it will stink up your future too. Acknowledge it and learn what you need to from it then JUST FLUSH IT. You can't move forward if you are stuck always looking at your past. No more than you can drive your car forward while you are always looking in your rear view mirror. Keep in mind as you move forward that there will be bumps along the way. That way you will not get discouraged because it will not be smooth sailing all the time. Expecting things to be perfect is setting yourself up for failure. Good things and bad things will happen on your journey in life, that's just life.

Rushing into it can ruin it

You may be able to do it faster but that doesn't mean you will do it just as good as you would have if you would have taken your time. Doing it right is more important than how fast you do it. It may take longer than you thought but it takes patience to get the results you want. It is easy to take your time when you get started on something that you know will take a long time to accomplish. But the closer it gets to being done the harder it is to wait for it to get done. You get so excited to reach your goal that you may be tempted to hurry up and get it done. But you know that all the hard work you have put into it could be wasted time if you mess it up as you rush to get it done. It's like seeing a red light up ahead so you start slowing down to be able to stop then out of nowhere you push your gas right when you get to the red light. You know that makes no sense. Neither does working so hard to get something done right then when you are almost done you mess it all up by rushing to get it done fast. If you want to do it right then you will have to take your time to do it right. Unless you plan on failing you need to stick to your plans. And since things can take longer than you planned, you will have to plan on doing whatever it takes no matter how long it takes to get it done right.

A message to help you

I just spoke with someone who recently lost their mother. I never met her but she still inspired me through his stories. She apparently knew she didn't have much time left on Earth. So she decided to write notes to leave behind for her loved ones to find. It wasn't just one note it was many little notes she left all around her house. She knew after she passed away that her family would have to clear out her belongings. As they slowly went through her stuff they would find little notes. She knew that they would be saddened by her death and she wanted to ease their pain. Instead of crying as they went through her stuff they would smile with each little note she carefully wrote. As he told me about the special notes I could hear him beam with pride and love for his mother. Throughout his life he had admired her strength and courage. And in her little notes he was able to find a way to once again be inspired by her courage to accept her iminent death and plan to bring her family comfort even after she was gone.

Don't reach your boiling point

We all know that if your car engine is getting hot you have to let the car cool down. If you don't you know you will blow your engine. When you yourself  physically become overheated from the sun you know you have to get inside and cool down before you have a heat stroke. Don't forget that when you get angry you make your blood pressure rise. If you keep thinking about whatever angered you then your blood pressure will start to boil. The damage to your body when it reaches it's boiling point is the same as it is for your cars engine.

Learn how to be thankful for the problem you are facing

It may not have been a problem that you wanted to face, but if it is a problem that you are able to work around then be thankful for it. I know it is hard to imagine being thankful for any problem you have to face. But it could have been a bigger problem so be thankful. Obviously it would have been better if there was no problem at all. If you start dwelling on the fact that it happened you could turn it into a bigger problem that you will have to face. Like they say anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt. It is merely a setback not a knockdown.