Wednesday, February 27, 2019
The circle of life is never ending but as part of the process it means that it is the end eventually. As I watch another dear friend prepare for the passing of her mother, my heart goes out to her. Just like recently with my husband, she becomes the "elder" now of her family. Knowing that as an "elder" you have the responsibility to keep the family connected. Family gatherings are the best way to stay connected. Everyone may be busy on actual holidays but there are hundreds of other days during the year when everyone can be available to have a "family gathering." To pass on anything to them you have to make the time to sit down and talk.
Monday, February 25, 2019
When you ask a young child what they want to be when they grow up, they have a big long list. And they really believe it is possible to be all of them. When you ask a young adult they have narrowed it down to a couple of things. By now they are aware that they can only pursue one career at a time, and they are choosing their path. I am old and one of my grandkids asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. It was funny to be asked that when you are old. I sat there for a moment and told them I wanted to be a better me. Later I thought about that question. It made me giggle, again. And I realized that at every age it really is a legitimate question. Without a doubt my answer from here on out will always be that I want to be a better me.
Friday, February 22, 2019
You may not always get everything but if you get what you need that is what is most important. Like my fortune cookie today said "bread today is better than cake tomorrow." You have to eat today and be thankful for what you have. It is fun to be with someone when reading the fortune because what it means to them can be totally different. You can see how it can be interpreted that way. Just like many things in life you see what you see and they see what they see. Ten people can see the same thing and all ten can be right. I may not always eat my fortune cookie but I always read them. Sometimes I feel like it was written just for me. The other day my fortune cookie said " the answer you need is coming but you will only get the answer you need if you are looking for it." That is the same meaning I got from a church sign that said "opportunities are never lost they are just taken by someone else." Because we all know that when opportunities come knocking on the door you have to open the door. Don't miss your opportunities because you are waiting for an opportunity to fall in your lap. Because it is not no more than the sky is falling.
Wednesday, February 20, 2019
It takes four days to get ready for your two day weekend getaway. You are not sure what exactly you will need so you tend to take more than you can even use in two days. Most of the time those "just in case" things never get unpacked. But in past experiences you did need one of those "just in case" things, and you were sure glad you had packed them. What you pack is like preparing for an old show Let's make a deal. At the end of each show they pay for weird objects you bring. Like one hundred dollars per paper clip you brought. So the audience would bring a "junk drawer" of items hoping that the object they are looking for is strangely something they brought. Nowadays you need lots of electronic devices and every charger and headphones you own. By the time you get the car packed everyone has to squeeze in for the long ride. Unfortunately when you return from your trip you are exhausted. Your relaxing weekend was more work than you thought. It sure makes "home sweet home" look sweeter than ever. Like Dorothy said "There is no place like home."
Monday, February 18, 2019
It doesn't happen often but every now and then you get a three-day weekend. That third day is the most relaxing. You usually have a ton of things to do on your normal two days off. But that third day you can do whatever you want to do. Including doing nothing at all if you don't want to. Enjoying the little bonuses you get in life breaks up the monotony of always being busy. And you literally can be so busy that you don't have time to stop and "smell the roses." We all need a little time to just relax to enjoy life while we are living it. It is hard to squeeze in time which is why you need to make plans from time to time to just relax. You need a break to prevent an overloaded that is not healthy, mentally or physically. Plan on taking a break before you breakdown. Admitting that you need a break is not being lazy it means your smart enough to know what you need to do and doing it.
Friday, February 15, 2019
We seem to have forgotten that we all have a right to have our own opinion. We condemn anyone who doesn't see things our way. We try to silence them by being a bully. If you want to have a right to have your opinion in the future you will have to start respecting other people's opinions today. Because if you don't now then eventually no one's opinion will matter. For generation after generation we have seen a decline in common courtesy, common decency and common sense. Our youth are inheriting a mess that has gotten worse with each passing decade. We can stop the insanity we see in our society. It starts by respecting each other.
Wednesday, February 13, 2019
Every day is a special day. It doesn't mean that every day is an easy day. It simply means every day you have is a blessing. One day may bring with it a "storm" but if you wait just a little while the "storm" will pass. You may not see how things could turn around in just a day or two but it can. Every day is a different day and what a difference twenty four hours can make. It can be foggy in the morning and you can't see what is in front of you. But when the fog is gone you will see everything you need to see. And in the fast paced World we live in things can change in a matter of minutes. When things look like there can be no happy ending just give it a day or two and you will be able to see a positive outcome. That is if you don't blow any chance of a positive outcome by reacting so negative that you change what was meant to be. Wait before you respond because your response can determine the outcome.
Monday, February 11, 2019
It is amazing that you would have known if you would have chosen to listen. You can't learn from those around you if you never spend time with them. You could learn valuable information that would help you or someone you know if you took the time to listen. I just spent more time and learned so much from the cable company employee than I have with people I know. I was calling to complain about the cable being out. During that call it turned into a very informative conversation that I will always remember. I have to say it was unexpected but life is like that sometimes. It seems so easy to pass on what you have learned in life but how can you if no one cares to take the time to listen. If you would stop long enough to listen you would benefit from it. Perhaps you could visit an old relative and see what you could learn in a few minutes if you listened. Maybe schools could make it a yearly assignment to have kids sit down and talk to a older person they know and give a report on what they learned. They may not learn something helpful later in their life but they will learn how much fun it is to just sit and have small talk. No one just sits and talks anymore. They have to be entertained by their electronic devices.
Friday, February 8, 2019
You have a reason that works best for you. Even if no one else can see any reason at all. Everything happens for a reason even if you may never know the reason. The reason you have has nothing to do with the reason someone else has. Don't forget the reason if it doesn't turn out the way you planned. Because everything happens for a reason. There are many times throughout your life when you can't see any positive reason yet there can be a positive outcome. But there is never any reason to hurt anyone. There is never a reason to spread your hate onto others. Every day is a reason to be thankful for.
Wednesday, February 6, 2019
After you get in the habit of doing it, it is hard to break the habit. Now the habit of brushing your teeth and flossing before bed is a good habit. There are many habits that you have that are good for you. But then there are those habits that you sure wish you didn't have. And even though you know they are bad for you it is not that easy to break the habit. I am struggling with a few habits that I know I am smart enough to know they are bad habits yet I am still doing them. How is that even possible to ignore the facts and continue to do them. Now that I am fighting pneumonia I am utterly shocked that I hadn't quit smoking by now. Although the pneumonia has now made me quit I still ask myself why I had not stopped decades ago. I knew decades ago that they were bad for my health yet I continued to smoke. Sometimes it takes a wake up call to tell you what you already know. Don't ignore the facts just because ignoring them had become a habit. A change of habit may be just what you need.
Monday, February 4, 2019
It's hard to look forward to Monday because it means the weekend is over. It means back to work again. But Monday is coming and it is part of the steps to get closer to the next weekend. It is a day to get started getting everything planned out so you can get everything done in the next few days so you can relax on the weekend. You can't relax until you get everything done so Mondays are an important part of your week. Now that the plans are made you can plan on what you can do this weekend. That is if you get everything done. Every day is part of your life and a day to look forward to that you can enjoy. The wheels on a car may not be your favorite part but you know they are a necessary part that you need to be able to drive it.
Friday, February 1, 2019
Okay I usually try to not write about my personal business but I am livid right now about all the damages done by our tenant in a rental property we own. I lowered her rent because she said she had no money to eat on after paying rent. She was a single lady with a child. But my reward for kindness is thousands of dollars worth of damage. Now she expects her deposit back. Are you kidding me! She accepts no responsibility for any damages. Including the damage to cabinets due to water leak she never told us about. We fixed leak once first year she lived there. If she would have told us we would have fixed again. Closet door and shelves missing, medicine cabinet door missing, broken light covers, the list goes on and on. Yet she still thinks she deserves deposit back. I am shocked. Seriously? We could proceed to collect all the damages but are not unless she trys to fight for deposit. Just angers me, shocks me, disappoints me, that this is how our kindness to her is rewarded. We are fixing and selling our rental and would never advise anyone to have rental property. Because this is how they treat your property. Over and over I have to JUST FLUSH IT, as we start repairing the damages. Once the work is done and the house is sold I will be able to JUST FLUSH IT for good. But meanwhile I will not let her clog me up, I will JUST FLUSH IT as the negative thoughts about the situation comes up over and over again. Thank God I learned how to JUST FLUSH IT as it comes. To my tenant I wish you well and I believe this karma will bite you in the end. She cost us thousands of dollars and she doesn't care but I will not let her affect my peace of mind. It is not fair but it is what it is. And life goes on but my landlord days are over for good. I sure hope the house sells quickly. One thing for sure the owners are getting the kitchen newly renovated thanks to the Tennant. Unfortunately you can't get back all the money you put in to renovating.