Friday, July 31, 2020

You become very creative when times are tough

When times get tough you have to get creative to get through the tough times. When you are faced with tough decisions, you will have to think of a way to have the best outcome. Which also will take "creative thinking" to figure out a way, by thinking outside of the box to make a positive outcome even possible. In stead of being angry during the quarantine about being stuck at home, get creative with ideas of things you can do while you are stuck at home. By the time the quarantine is over, your yard and your house will get a homemade makeover that you would have never done if you weren't quarantined. For years to come you will be proud of all the "little projects" you had done. Even going to get groceries when you find empty shelves takes creativity to provide food for your family. Who knows you just might discover some new family favorites that you never would have cooked except you had to get creative with what you had.

Wednesday, July 29, 2020

When you are in "defense mode" you can't see or hear

When you feel threatened you go into "Defense Mode." That is the natural human reaction to protect yourself. You build a "wall" to shield yourself from getting hurt. But you can't always live in "Defense Mode" or that "wall" will block you from all the good things in your life too. You don't have to, nor should you, let your guard down but you need to take the "wall" down if you want to enjoy your life while you are living it. You may be surrounded by those that love you but if you don't take the "wall" down, you won't be able to feel it. If you are always in "Defense Mode" then even though you may have a lot of love in your heart, no one will be able to see it or feel it.

Monday, July 27, 2020

You can't move past what you don't leave in the past

We all have had negative experiences at different times throughout our lifetime. You just have to learn from them to make sure you don't repeat them. You can't move past what has happened in your past unless you leave it in your past. Keeping it FRESH on your mind makes it the present moment you live day after day because you relive it over and over again. You have to take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can enjoy today. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come but TODAY is yours to enjoy. No matter how many times you relive it, the outcome will be the same. You can't change what happened no matter how many times you relive it. But you can quit reliving your yesterdays. Otherwise everyday is the same as it was yesterday. Don't carry every past painful experience with you like a sandbag on your life's journey. Lighten your load, JUST FLUSH IT,

Friday, July 24, 2020

Are you waiting for something that may never come?

Having dreams is good but realistically, not every dream comes true. Don't miss out on the "little things" in life waiting on "something big" that may or may not come your way. To enjoy life while you are living it takes enjoying it while you are living it. Some of your most treasured memories can come from even the most not so pleasant moments in your life. Some of your greatest achievements were only possible out of necessity when you had been knocked down. It may take a "tornado" in your life to get you where you need to be. Life doesn't always turn out like we had planned but we only have one life to live to enjoy, so enjoy it while you are living it. Like the plaque on my wall says, so this isn't "home sweet home" ADJUST.

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Do you see it as a weed or a wish flower?

Dandelions have two lives to live in a short amount of time. First they grow into a sunny yellow flower adding a touch of color in a sea of green grass. Then one day it shrivels up and before long it blooms a second time into a white fluffy flower. Some people see a red seed dandelion as merely a weed. While other people see it as a unique flower that is two flowers in one to enjoy.  They look forward to a chance to make a wish on it, that is if they catch it at the right stage of growth. When you see a dandelion do you see a weed or a wish flower? Do you see a glass as half empty or half full? How you look at something will determine what you see. If all you see is the negative side to everything then you will never see the positive side of anything. There are pros and cons to everything but before you make a decision about anything, you need to consider both the pros and cons. Sometimes the bad outweighs the good, but sometimes the good outweighs the bad. Which is why you need to think about the positive in each situation not only the negatives in each situation so you will know if the good outweighs the bad.

Monday, July 20, 2020

You may have thought about it but...

I read a story the other day about the generosity of a customer giving a car to a fast food employee, who's car had broke down. He had seen him walking to work and after years of coming to the restraunt he knew he was a hard worker and was always pleasant. He had an extra car so anonymously, with the help of the manager he gave him the car. Most people don't have an expensive way like that to help someone in need to that extent. But every random act of kindness makes a positive difference to them. The story inspired me to do something to help a random stranger. With the pandemic I wasn't going out to see anyone. After thinking about it I finally thought of something I could do. Since I didn't know what anyone needed I decided I could at least make someone smile. I gathered some of my grandkids toys that they had outgrown to put out at the road and sit on my porch and wait to see the smile on the face of who stopped by to pick it up for free. I put out the kitchen playset with the table, dishes, food, toy appliances, even a toy microwave, as well as many other toys they had outgrown. Within literally two minutes, a car pulled in my driveway and two women got out with smiles on their faces as they loaded up their car. I couldn't help myself, I hollared out have fun, as I waved with a big smile on my face. As I thought about all the fun times their children would have when they got it home, it warmed my heart to imagine the smile it put on their faces. Now more than ever before people could sure benefit from random acts of kindness.

Friday, July 17, 2020

When you care too much about what everyone else says...

When you realize that opinions are as diverse and plentiful as leaves on trees, you realize that your OWN opinion is of the greatest worth. That is when your confidence grows. Respecting your OWN opinion transforms you and your World. When you begin to care too much about what everyone else says, your confidence shrinks. If you keep changing your opinions based on what others say, you are no longer yourself. To determine if someone is sane or insane, is based on whether they can on their OWN make decisions for themselves. You will never gain someone's respect by changing everytime the wind blows, it is when you stand confident in your OWN worth that respect is earned. Before anyone else will respect you, you have to respect yourself. To be proud of yourself you have to be proud of who you are. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, we all make mistakes. But as long as we learn from our mistakes, it's just life lessons we learned the hard way. Just growing pains. So when someone gives you their opinion, invision it as merely one of many leaves blowing in the wind.

Wednesday, July 15, 2020

You won't know unless you try

Obviously no one knows how to do everything. And what they do know how to do now, is only because they tried to do something that they had no idea how to do. You won't know unless you try. If you tell yourself that you can't do it, then you won't be able to do it because you will never even try to do it. Start saying I don't know how to do it but I will try and who knows maybe I will be able to do it. And if you try but can't do it you can at least say I tried. And then if it is still something that you need done, you can find someone who can get it done for you. If you are going to have any chance at all you will have to take a chance. To get anywhere starts by  taking the first step to get there. Opportunity may come knocking at your door but if you don't open the door you will miss your opportunity. You miss one hundred percent of the shots you don't take. There is no magic wand to make things happen it takes actually doing something to make anything happen. If you want any chance at all at getting it, you will have to do whatever it takes to get it. You have to be stubborn about your goals but be flexible about your method to reach them.

Monday, July 13, 2020

If you want to have a right to your opinion you have to let others have a right to their opinion

We all have our own opinions. Therefore we know that our opinions are all different. We don't have to agree with everything to agree that we should respect and accept the fact that our opinions are going to be different, and that is okay. As long as we treat each other with respect and common decency, our differences in opinions doesn't matter. It's not our differences that matter but what we all have in common that matters most. Common sense, common decency and common courtesy is what we all need to have in common. As long as we all stay connected to our human side, we can spread HUMANITY to replace the INSANITY we see in society. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. This is true now more than ever.

Friday, July 10, 2020

A moment to gather your thoughts is necessary to make an informed decision

Being spontaneous from time to time is important. But if you are making an important decision you need to consider all the facts so you can make an informed decision not an uneducated guess. Even what you do spontaneously takes a little bit of common sense before you decide. There are always consequences for your decisions which is why you have to take a few moments to think about it before you react. Because once you react you can't take it back. And how you react determines the consequences that you will have to live with. Remember that if something sounds too good to be true then it probably isn't true. Also you have to remember that what works for someone else doesn't mean it will work for you. You have to do what is best for you because you are the only one who has to live with the consequences. It's your life and your decisions make up the reality you live.

Wednesday, July 8, 2020

You can't appreciate it until you acknowledge it

We all take a lot of things for granted. If you make a list of all the things that you are grateful for, you will realize that you really don't need what you thought you were lacking. You can't appreciate what you got if you don't acknowledge what you got. Just think how lucky you are to have everything you need, not feel cheated that you don't have everything you want. When you get upset at the cost of your car repair, remember some people don't have a car. Don't get angry that you have to repair the roof on your house, be thankful you have a home because some people don't. As we all struggle through this pandemic, we will have to keep writing a list of things that we are thankful for to distract us from thinking about what we can't do. I know everyday I am so thankful that I have electricity to stay cool from the scorching heat outside. Just waking up everyday is something to be thankful for. To enjoy what you have, you have to know what you got.

Monday, July 6, 2020

Don't hit the snooze button

To start your day off on the right foot starts by you NOT hitting the snooze button. You set your alarm for the exact time so you know you have enough time to wake up and get started on time. If you hit the snooze button you will start off behind schedule. Just get up when it goes off. There is a reason you set it for that time. Most of the ten minutes of snooze time you spend frustratingly trying to fall back asleep. Then you run around frantically trying to get ready on time. You are your most alert and energetic in the morning hours. So starting the morning off right will determine how productive your day will be. You know breakfast is the most important meal of the day and if you hit that snooze button you won't have time to fuel up for the day. Your day starts the minute the alarm goes off and hitting the snooze button is your decision whether you will have a good day or a bad, think about that before you hit the snooze button.  If you find that you need ten more minutes of sleep each day then go to bed ten minutes earlier each night. I often wander why they put the snooze button on an alarm at all. Because like they say if you SNOOZE you LOSE.

Friday, July 3, 2020

If you want things to be different then you have to do something different

If you keep doing what you are doing you are going to keep getting what you are getting. If you want things to change then make a change. Life has no remote control so you have to get up and change it yourself. If you want anything to be different you will have to do something different, otherwise it's the same old thing just a different day. Remember the definition to insanity is to keep doing things the same way and expecting a different result. Without a change nothing will change. If you know it's time for a change then stop wasting your time. Some situations require you to have to make major changes but most of the time, with a few tweaks and minor changes it can make all the difference in the world. Before you know what needs to change you have to be totally honest with yourself about what has to change. Change can be hard and sometimes painful but nothing is more painful than staying stuck somewhere that you don't belong. Before you celebrate INDEPENDENCE DAY, make the changes that are necessary for you to be able to celebrate the personal independence free from things that were holding you down. A change will do you good so for goodness sake JUST CHANGE IT.

Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Don't let their opinions change who you are

We each as individuals are unique. You can have things in common with others but we are all totally different from each other. We each have our own opinions. It is okay to listen to other people's opinions but the only opinion that matters is yours. You can't keep changing who you are to please others because then you are no longer yourself. You decide what is best for you because you are the only one who has to live with the consequences of your decisions. You decide whether you are honest or not just like you decide what to eat for dinner. Just because other people are doing it doesn't mean it's the right thing for you to do. You won't be comfortable in the skin you are in unless you are comfortable with what you are doing in the skin you are in. If you want people to know you as a honest, hard working person who is compassionate, then be honest, hard working and compassionate. Like the sign I saw said... Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.