Monday, September 21, 2020

If you see trouble coming then get out of the way

 If you know it isn't good for you then don't do it. If you know it ain't right, then don't do it. If you are heading in the wrong direction then turn around. If you know what to expect then you shouldn't be surprised. If you see trouble coming then get out of the way! Accepting the things you can not change will let you focus on the things you can change. It is what it is, so accept it for what it is. Knowing what you can do is only possible if you acknowledge and accept that there are things you can't do. You can only do what you can do. 

Friday, September 18, 2020

The twists and turns are part of your life's journey

 To navigate through life during a pandemic we all have to bend and twist like a pretzel. But we will get done what we need to get done. The rollercoaster of Life will have it's ups and downs, but we will put on our seatbelts and we will be fine. To get through the tough downward times just remember that it will soon shoot upward again. Just make sure you don't do anything on the downward times that will prevent you from experiencing an upward moment. The outcome is not determined by the circumstances that you must face but on how you react to the situations you face. If you do the RIGHT thing then everything will be ALRIGHT. 

Wednesday, September 16, 2020

A "point of view" that they didn't see

Your "point of view" is your reality, even if it isn't what others see. If you show them a different view they might see things differently. Just telling them that they got it all wrong won't matter because until they can see it from a different "point of view," they can only see it from their view. After years of frustration with my neighbor over his loud noises that are impossible to sleep through, there is finally peace after nine pm. One short conversation over the fence solved it after years of arguments. His reasoning was he had a lot of issues he was dealing with. I brought it to his attention that I nor my husband nor my son had ever done anything to cause him any of those issues. I also brought to his attention that everyone especially nowadays was facing tough issues. But that as neighbors we didn't have to make things harder for each other. He agreed and stops the noise by nine pm now that he sees it from that point of view. I wish we would have had that conversation years ago and avoided all the sleepless nights. When you want them to understand your point of view then you have to show it to them from your point of view so they can see it. Telling them and showing them are two different things. If you want to get your point across you have to show them your point of view. We all have a different point of view because we see things differently even when we are seeing the same thing. It's all in how you look at it. If you want them to see what you see then show them so they can see it from a different view. Seeing is believing.

Monday, September 14, 2020

Being thrifty now because you have to

During these tough economic times you have to learn how to be thrifty. Instead of being embarrassed that you have very little money, be proud of yourself for being thrifty to get by. What you have learned will save you money even when you get back on your feet. Because of the quarantines and restaurants being closed, many people had to learn how to cook. When the pandemic is over you can continue being thrifty and continue to cook for your family. Just think of all the money you can save for peace of mind now and in the future. Times have been tough but there have been many positive things that have come out of it, like quality time spent with family that wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for the pandemic. And through the struggles I believe humanity will grow in our neighborhoods.

Friday, September 11, 2020

Doing something for someone else is good for you

When you help someone else when you don't have to, it makes not only them feel good, you feel good. It's hard to describe just how good you feel about yourself. It's so refreshing to know you made a positive difference in someone's life. Sometimes when you are always doing something for your family and friends it feels more like an obligation to help those you love. But when you show kindness to a complete stranger that you don't know and will probably never see again, that is an amazing feeling. Of course it is just as amazing to the stranger you help. I remember being short ten cents at a store and told the cashier to take off one of my items and the Lady behind me in line handed me a dime and said here that isn't necessary, I can help. Now a dime doesn't seem like much but it brought tears to my eyes. I had a little money in the bank but I was trying to stay on budget. I just was so overwhelmed with emotion that she cared enough to help me. Especially when many people in this World seems so cruel and uncaring towards each other. You don't have to solve someone's problem to help them. It doesn't have to cost money even. Just having compassion and acting on it to make a positive difference can make all the difference in the world. Just a kind word, or a smile, or holding the door open for someone can have a positive effect on them. A random act of kindness goes a long way. I would like to thank Mr. Mike for his kind words I got in his email this morning, it definitely was nice to find and started my day off in an inspiring way. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing.

Wednesday, September 9, 2020

How do you want to be remembered?

What will people remember about you? Will they remember how you were when you were at your best behavior or will they have more memories of your not so pleasant times? It's possible they will remember both the good and the bad times. But hopefully you had more positive interactions than bad. We are all human and have bad moments. Do the good memories far outweigh the bad memories? You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone feel it? Take the time to let those around you feel your love. What you do today will create the memories they will have of you. So create the special memories each and every day that you want them to remember about you.

Monday, September 7, 2020

Are you overwhelmed with things that are out of your control?

If you are overwhelmed by things that are out of your control, then ease your mind by focusing on the things you can control. Many things that are weighing heavy on our minds during this pandemic, are out of anyone's control. It's hard to know what lies ahead when what the future will hold is uncertain for all of us. But don't lose focus on your integrity and your honor during these difficult times. Because when it's over you want to be proud of how you handled yourself during these difficult times. And you will reap what you sow. Doing what is right through good times and bad times is the only way for you to have a positive outcome when things are all said and done. You can't say that you had no choice because the choice to do what's right is yours and yours alone even during a pandemic. Even a pandemic is no excuse for bad behavior. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing.

Friday, September 4, 2020

Your EGO can get in your way

Having self esteem and pride in yourself is very important. But when your EGO is too big, it can get in your way. It can prevent you from seeing things realistically. It can prevent you from seeing that having flexibility is necessary to achieve your ultimate goals. It can prevent you from hearing the facts necessary to achieve your goals. If you think that you know everything then you won't be able to learn as you go. If you want to work things out in your favor it will take being open to what it will take in order for things to work out best for everyone involved. Sometimes the only way to get what you need, is to compromise so that they can get what they need too. You may be the CEO of the company but without your employees it wouldn't be as successful.

Wednesday, September 2, 2020

You know if you play in the rain you are going to get wet

You know that if you want to be the best you can be, you have to do the best that you can. You know that if you go looking for trouble, you will find it. What you get out of life is based on what you put into it. If you surround yourself with people who inspire you to be better than you have a good chance to do better. If you surround yourself with those who will lead you down a rocky path then you will have no chance at all of doing better. If you set yourself up for success then you will be successful. If you set yourself up for failure then you will fail. Look around you and ask yourself, is this where I want to be? If you are heading in the wrong direction then turn around and get back on track.

Monday, August 31, 2020

When you write it in permanent ink in cyberspace it is permanent

You probably should think about it before you hit send. Once you send it in cyberspace it will be written in permanent ink. Surely you know that. Recently I had received a message on Facebook from an old friend I had not seen in almost a decade. Before I responded I scrolled through their old post to see what they had been up to. It didn't take long to learn that where they were in life wasn't anywhere I wanted to go. Obviously I did not respond. Had they not posted all the chaos for me to see, I could have made a decision I would have regretted. Take a moment to go through your own social media accounts to see what your posts say to those that might read it. Are you someone who they would want to be around? Before you hit the send button, take a moment to think about what message that would send about you.

Friday, August 28, 2020

It's not only what you say that matters, how you say it also determines what they hear

If your tone of voice says your disappointed then they can't hear the compliment you said in your words. If your tone makes them go into "Defense Mode" their ears close. It's seven percent what you say and ninety three percent how you say it. Your words might be what they need to hear but if they can't hear you they won't be able to help them. If you are grouchy it is best that you save your encouraging words until you can say them in a encouraging way. I looked into the mirror and said the same message with different tones in my voice like happy, glad, proud, frustrated, disappointed, disgusted, and angry. I saw my face go through all kinds of distorted ways as I tried to show each of those emotions. And let me tell you what, if you try looking in the mirror you would see just how ugly and scary you can look when you say it in every negative tone. When you say it with a happy tone, everyone is happy. When you say it in a proud tone , they feel how proud you are of them. So remember that it is seven percent what you say and ninety three percent how you say it.

Wednesday, August 26, 2020

In tough times you have to make tough decisions

One thing is for sure, the pandemic has given us all a culture shock that will forever change us all. Nothing will be the same. Businesses will not return to business as usual. Until it is done reeking havoc, we will not know what will be left to build upon. Don't be so quick to make a decision that will narrow your point of view or make your options so limited when all is said and done. Keep an open mind to the possibilities so that you have a positive outcome when it's over. Don't let greed and fear change who you are. Don't lower your standards to get by during the pandemic or you won't have the moral support and pride to stand on your own two feet when it is over. Times are tough and we will all have tough decisions to make to get through these tough times. Even during a pandemic your future is determined by your actions today. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing.

Monday, August 24, 2020

Without competition your opinion means nothing

Having competition will keep everyone to compete for your business. Without all the "Mom and Pop" stores to keep them honest they honestly don't have to care whether their customers are happy or not. They know that since the customers have no where else to even get what they need, they will have no choice but to come there if they want it. The pandemic has caused, and will continue to cause a lot of these "Mom and Pop" stores to close their doors for good. As that happens the "customer service" at those stores remaining open will not be necessarily good because they have no competition. They know that customers won't dare complain when they have no where else to get what they need. They will have to take whatever the store managers and employees do if what they need can only be purchased there. So keep this in mind when you need something now to support your local "Mom and Pop" stores so they can remain open. Because having competition will keep stores competing for your business.

Friday, August 21, 2020

Like they say, sometimes it is better to say nothing at all

I am sure you have  heard the saying, If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.

Wednesday, August 19, 2020

To be the best you can be only takes doing your best

No one is good at everything, but everyone is good at something. To be the best you can be, takes doing the best you can. You won't be successful at everything you try but to be successful at anything you have to give it your best and try. If you can't do it you can at least say with pride, I gave it my best effort. Others may not see how hard you tried but all that matters is that you know that you did the best you could. Sometimes to be successful you have to first learn from the mistakes you make while trying. Keep in mind when you were young and you were trying to learn to ride a bike. Everyone falls down many times but because they want to ride the bike, they keep trying until they finally get the hang of it. Success doesn't happen in an instant, it comes from hard work.

Monday, August 17, 2020

When is going from a million to ten a good thing?

Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts clogging up our mind to the point where PEACE of MIND has no room to get in. If you can reduce a million thoughts down to ten, you immediately feel better and you can think more clearly. PEACE of MIND really is JUST a FLUSH away. All you got to do is take all but ten of the million thoughts that are clogging you up and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so PEACE of MIND has room to get in. To clearly see what you need to do you have to be able to clearly think about it to see what you need to do. Clearing the clutter of thoughts in your mind is the only way for PEACE of MIND to have room to get in, so JUST FLUSH IT. PEACE of MIND really is JUST a FLUSH away.

Friday, August 14, 2020

As long as you take care of your necessities in your life, you will have at least your necessities

Making your "to do" list with more than you can possibly do is a guarantee that you won't get your "to do" list done. Don't set yourself up for failure. You can be so overwhelmed just thinking about everything on your "to do" list that you can wear yourself out mentally and physically without doing anything. Have more than one list. One list of the things that are a necessity to get done and a "when I get extra time" I will do list. Separating things you need done into more smaller, manageable projects will motivate you, by not overwhelming you. You can only do what you can do no matter how long you write your "to do" list. To lessen your load start by taking everything that doesn't really need done off your list. It may be as easy as one, two three but not possible if there is also a four, five, six "to do" too.

Wednesday, August 12, 2020

The outcome is determined by how you react

Many of us all around the World from all walks of life are having to deal with uncertainty at these difficult times. Although we are each affected on many different levels, we are all affected. The pandemic has forever changed every single person in the entire World. Stress is a natural reaction to life experiences. But too much stress causes problems in nearly every system in your body. Including your immune system. It increases your risk of a heart attack or stroke. If it is not a life or death situation then don't stress about it to the point where you make it one. The outcome is not based solely on the situation you are facing but on how you react to the situation you are facing. Before you react STOP and think about what is the best possible outcome and then do whatever you have to do to have the best outcome possible. Learn how to reduce your stress so your immune system stays strong and you reduce your chances of a heart attack or stroke. Being mentally stressed out has a negative outcome on your physically well being as well. If it isn't important in the big picture of your life then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind to ease your stress. If it doesn't really need to be done then don't stress about getting it done. If it has to be done, then get it done so you don't have to stress about doing it.

Monday, August 10, 2020

Without saying a word you are still saying something

If you look the other way, you are saying it is okay with you. If you ignore bad behavior when it is happening to anyone, you are saying that it is acceptable. By making it acceptable behavior, it will become a common occurrence. If you ACCEPT it then you can EXPECT it will eventually happen to you or someone you love. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make. Without saying a word you are saying something. If you wouldn't want it to happen to you or someone you love, then you must prevent it from happening to anyone. If you want to feel safe in your community, then you have to ensure that everyone in your community is safe. If you see someone who needs help then help them. Wouldn't you want someone to help you if it was happening to you or someone you love?

Friday, August 7, 2020

Is a junk drawer really full of junk?

The more time I spend at home the more "junk drawers" I find. I have also realized that "junk drawers" are not always in a drawer. I found "junk drawers" in baskets, in boxes, as well as drawers. There seemed to be a "junk drawer" in every room, tucked somewhere out of sight. As I needed things I would dig through a "junk drawer' hoping to find just what I needed. What I noticed was most of what was in these "junk drawers" was really junk. They were full of all kinds of things that I would never need or even use. I would find little tidbits of pieces needed for things that I didn't even own anymore. Have you looked at what you have in your "junk drawers" recently? It is a walk down memory lane as the tidbits bring up old memories. I decided to spend a few seconds each time I found myself digging through a "junk drawer" to enjoy the memory of an item then throw it away. Slowly but surely I got rid of enough junk out of the "junk drawer" to quickly be able to find the tools and the tidbits that I might need. By the time I get done, I hope to have only one "junk drawer" in the whole house not one in each room. You never know what you might find in a "junk drawer" but I guarantee you that if you look through your "junk drawer" you will find a lot of junk.

Wednesday, August 5, 2020

Not knowing what to expect is worse than expecting the worst

Like the old saying says, Hope for the best but plan for the worst. If you expect the worst then you start making a plan about what you can do if the worst happens. If you don't know what to expect, it will catch you completely off guard, knocking you down.  That is why giving someone an honest no does far less damage than telling them yes when you know you have no intentions of doing it. If you tell them no they will find another way to do it. If you tell them yes then they won't look for another way to do it, because they took you at your word that you would do it. If you know what to expect you know what you need to do. Being prepared for anything means you will be prepared for whatever comes your way.

Monday, August 3, 2020

You may forget what you said but they won't forget

My fortune cookie took me a minute to understand. It said, No one has a good enough memory to be a good liar. Suddenly as I realized what it was saying, I could see several images of people in my mind who I had run across throughout life. They would say one thing one conversation and the next time the details were different. I had often wandered if they realized that last time they said four and this time they said seven. But they always seemed to not remember as they continued on with their story. There had been a time or two where I stopped someone in mid conversation to say hey last time you said four. This only caused tension in the air as they tried to deny ever telling me four. Now I have learned to not bother to confront them. But what I did learn was I would never believe a word they said anymore. Like the Fortune cookie said no one has a good enough memory to be a good liar.

Friday, July 31, 2020

You become very creative when times are tough

When times get tough you have to get creative to get through the tough times. When you are faced with tough decisions, you will have to think of a way to have the best outcome. Which also will take "creative thinking" to figure out a way, by thinking outside of the box to make a positive outcome even possible. In stead of being angry during the quarantine about being stuck at home, get creative with ideas of things you can do while you are stuck at home. By the time the quarantine is over, your yard and your house will get a homemade makeover that you would have never done if you weren't quarantined. For years to come you will be proud of all the "little projects" you had done. Even going to get groceries when you find empty shelves takes creativity to provide food for your family. Who knows you just might discover some new family favorites that you never would have cooked except you had to get creative with what you had.

Wednesday, July 29, 2020

When you are in "defense mode" you can't see or hear

When you feel threatened you go into "Defense Mode." That is the natural human reaction to protect yourself. You build a "wall" to shield yourself from getting hurt. But you can't always live in "Defense Mode" or that "wall" will block you from all the good things in your life too. You don't have to, nor should you, let your guard down but you need to take the "wall" down if you want to enjoy your life while you are living it. You may be surrounded by those that love you but if you don't take the "wall" down, you won't be able to feel it. If you are always in "Defense Mode" then even though you may have a lot of love in your heart, no one will be able to see it or feel it.

Monday, July 27, 2020

You can't move past what you don't leave in the past

We all have had negative experiences at different times throughout our lifetime. You just have to learn from them to make sure you don't repeat them. You can't move past what has happened in your past unless you leave it in your past. Keeping it FRESH on your mind makes it the present moment you live day after day because you relive it over and over again. You have to take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so you can enjoy today. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come but TODAY is yours to enjoy. No matter how many times you relive it, the outcome will be the same. You can't change what happened no matter how many times you relive it. But you can quit reliving your yesterdays. Otherwise everyday is the same as it was yesterday. Don't carry every past painful experience with you like a sandbag on your life's journey. Lighten your load, JUST FLUSH IT,

Friday, July 24, 2020

Are you waiting for something that may never come?

Having dreams is good but realistically, not every dream comes true. Don't miss out on the "little things" in life waiting on "something big" that may or may not come your way. To enjoy life while you are living it takes enjoying it while you are living it. Some of your most treasured memories can come from even the most not so pleasant moments in your life. Some of your greatest achievements were only possible out of necessity when you had been knocked down. It may take a "tornado" in your life to get you where you need to be. Life doesn't always turn out like we had planned but we only have one life to live to enjoy, so enjoy it while you are living it. Like the plaque on my wall says, so this isn't "home sweet home" ADJUST.

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

Do you see it as a weed or a wish flower?

Dandelions have two lives to live in a short amount of time. First they grow into a sunny yellow flower adding a touch of color in a sea of green grass. Then one day it shrivels up and before long it blooms a second time into a white fluffy flower. Some people see a red seed dandelion as merely a weed. While other people see it as a unique flower that is two flowers in one to enjoy.  They look forward to a chance to make a wish on it, that is if they catch it at the right stage of growth. When you see a dandelion do you see a weed or a wish flower? Do you see a glass as half empty or half full? How you look at something will determine what you see. If all you see is the negative side to everything then you will never see the positive side of anything. There are pros and cons to everything but before you make a decision about anything, you need to consider both the pros and cons. Sometimes the bad outweighs the good, but sometimes the good outweighs the bad. Which is why you need to think about the positive in each situation not only the negatives in each situation so you will know if the good outweighs the bad.

Monday, July 20, 2020

You may have thought about it but...

I read a story the other day about the generosity of a customer giving a car to a fast food employee, who's car had broke down. He had seen him walking to work and after years of coming to the restraunt he knew he was a hard worker and was always pleasant. He had an extra car so anonymously, with the help of the manager he gave him the car. Most people don't have an expensive way like that to help someone in need to that extent. But every random act of kindness makes a positive difference to them. The story inspired me to do something to help a random stranger. With the pandemic I wasn't going out to see anyone. After thinking about it I finally thought of something I could do. Since I didn't know what anyone needed I decided I could at least make someone smile. I gathered some of my grandkids toys that they had outgrown to put out at the road and sit on my porch and wait to see the smile on the face of who stopped by to pick it up for free. I put out the kitchen playset with the table, dishes, food, toy appliances, even a toy microwave, as well as many other toys they had outgrown. Within literally two minutes, a car pulled in my driveway and two women got out with smiles on their faces as they loaded up their car. I couldn't help myself, I hollared out have fun, as I waved with a big smile on my face. As I thought about all the fun times their children would have when they got it home, it warmed my heart to imagine the smile it put on their faces. Now more than ever before people could sure benefit from random acts of kindness.

Friday, July 17, 2020

When you care too much about what everyone else says...

When you realize that opinions are as diverse and plentiful as leaves on trees, you realize that your OWN opinion is of the greatest worth. That is when your confidence grows. Respecting your OWN opinion transforms you and your World. When you begin to care too much about what everyone else says, your confidence shrinks. If you keep changing your opinions based on what others say, you are no longer yourself. To determine if someone is sane or insane, is based on whether they can on their OWN make decisions for themselves. You will never gain someone's respect by changing everytime the wind blows, it is when you stand confident in your OWN worth that respect is earned. Before anyone else will respect you, you have to respect yourself. To be proud of yourself you have to be proud of who you are. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, we all make mistakes. But as long as we learn from our mistakes, it's just life lessons we learned the hard way. Just growing pains. So when someone gives you their opinion, invision it as merely one of many leaves blowing in the wind.

Wednesday, July 15, 2020

You won't know unless you try

Obviously no one knows how to do everything. And what they do know how to do now, is only because they tried to do something that they had no idea how to do. You won't know unless you try. If you tell yourself that you can't do it, then you won't be able to do it because you will never even try to do it. Start saying I don't know how to do it but I will try and who knows maybe I will be able to do it. And if you try but can't do it you can at least say I tried. And then if it is still something that you need done, you can find someone who can get it done for you. If you are going to have any chance at all you will have to take a chance. To get anywhere starts by  taking the first step to get there. Opportunity may come knocking at your door but if you don't open the door you will miss your opportunity. You miss one hundred percent of the shots you don't take. There is no magic wand to make things happen it takes actually doing something to make anything happen. If you want any chance at all at getting it, you will have to do whatever it takes to get it. You have to be stubborn about your goals but be flexible about your method to reach them.

Monday, July 13, 2020

If you want to have a right to your opinion you have to let others have a right to their opinion

We all have our own opinions. Therefore we know that our opinions are all different. We don't have to agree with everything to agree that we should respect and accept the fact that our opinions are going to be different, and that is okay. As long as we treat each other with respect and common decency, our differences in opinions doesn't matter. It's not our differences that matter but what we all have in common that matters most. Common sense, common decency and common courtesy is what we all need to have in common. As long as we all stay connected to our human side, we can spread HUMANITY to replace the INSANITY we see in society. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. This is true now more than ever.

Friday, July 10, 2020

A moment to gather your thoughts is necessary to make an informed decision

Being spontaneous from time to time is important. But if you are making an important decision you need to consider all the facts so you can make an informed decision not an uneducated guess. Even what you do spontaneously takes a little bit of common sense before you decide. There are always consequences for your decisions which is why you have to take a few moments to think about it before you react. Because once you react you can't take it back. And how you react determines the consequences that you will have to live with. Remember that if something sounds too good to be true then it probably isn't true. Also you have to remember that what works for someone else doesn't mean it will work for you. You have to do what is best for you because you are the only one who has to live with the consequences. It's your life and your decisions make up the reality you live.

Wednesday, July 8, 2020

You can't appreciate it until you acknowledge it

We all take a lot of things for granted. If you make a list of all the things that you are grateful for, you will realize that you really don't need what you thought you were lacking. You can't appreciate what you got if you don't acknowledge what you got. Just think how lucky you are to have everything you need, not feel cheated that you don't have everything you want. When you get upset at the cost of your car repair, remember some people don't have a car. Don't get angry that you have to repair the roof on your house, be thankful you have a home because some people don't. As we all struggle through this pandemic, we will have to keep writing a list of things that we are thankful for to distract us from thinking about what we can't do. I know everyday I am so thankful that I have electricity to stay cool from the scorching heat outside. Just waking up everyday is something to be thankful for. To enjoy what you have, you have to know what you got.

Monday, July 6, 2020

Don't hit the snooze button

To start your day off on the right foot starts by you NOT hitting the snooze button. You set your alarm for the exact time so you know you have enough time to wake up and get started on time. If you hit the snooze button you will start off behind schedule. Just get up when it goes off. There is a reason you set it for that time. Most of the ten minutes of snooze time you spend frustratingly trying to fall back asleep. Then you run around frantically trying to get ready on time. You are your most alert and energetic in the morning hours. So starting the morning off right will determine how productive your day will be. You know breakfast is the most important meal of the day and if you hit that snooze button you won't have time to fuel up for the day. Your day starts the minute the alarm goes off and hitting the snooze button is your decision whether you will have a good day or a bad, think about that before you hit the snooze button.  If you find that you need ten more minutes of sleep each day then go to bed ten minutes earlier each night. I often wander why they put the snooze button on an alarm at all. Because like they say if you SNOOZE you LOSE.

Friday, July 3, 2020

If you want things to be different then you have to do something different

If you keep doing what you are doing you are going to keep getting what you are getting. If you want things to change then make a change. Life has no remote control so you have to get up and change it yourself. If you want anything to be different you will have to do something different, otherwise it's the same old thing just a different day. Remember the definition to insanity is to keep doing things the same way and expecting a different result. Without a change nothing will change. If you know it's time for a change then stop wasting your time. Some situations require you to have to make major changes but most of the time, with a few tweaks and minor changes it can make all the difference in the world. Before you know what needs to change you have to be totally honest with yourself about what has to change. Change can be hard and sometimes painful but nothing is more painful than staying stuck somewhere that you don't belong. Before you celebrate INDEPENDENCE DAY, make the changes that are necessary for you to be able to celebrate the personal independence free from things that were holding you down. A change will do you good so for goodness sake JUST CHANGE IT.

Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Don't let their opinions change who you are

We each as individuals are unique. You can have things in common with others but we are all totally different from each other. We each have our own opinions. It is okay to listen to other people's opinions but the only opinion that matters is yours. You can't keep changing who you are to please others because then you are no longer yourself. You decide what is best for you because you are the only one who has to live with the consequences of your decisions. You decide whether you are honest or not just like you decide what to eat for dinner. Just because other people are doing it doesn't mean it's the right thing for you to do. You won't be comfortable in the skin you are in unless you are comfortable with what you are doing in the skin you are in. If you want people to know you as a honest, hard working person who is compassionate, then be honest, hard working and compassionate. Like the sign I saw said... Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

Monday, June 29, 2020

Choose your battles

You don't have to win every battle to win a war. Choose what is worth fighting for because sometimes PEACE is better than being right. Compromise let's everyone win. With a little give and take you can both get what you need. Working together gets a whole lot more accomplished then playing tug of war against each other, and nothing gets accomplished. Neither of you can get everything you want but you both can get everything you need. You can be stubborn about your goals but you have to be flexible about how you can achieve them. As long as there is compromise then your goals won't be compromised.

Friday, June 26, 2020

You won't know which way to go until you know where you want to go to

You have to decide where you want to go before you can choose which way to go. You can't just sign up for college until you decide what degree you need to get the kind of job you want when you graduate. You won't know what direction to go on the highway until you decide where you are going. You can't reach your goals unless you set goals for yourself. Your dreams can't come true if you don't have dreams. If you get knocked down in life you have to either stay down or get up. You may have not have been able to prevent yourself from falling down but whether you stay down or not, is your choice. Sometimes it takes you falling down lower than you have ever been to stand back up taller and stronger than you ever were. Sometimes it takes a tornado to get you where you are supposed to be because it was the only way to get you there. It's hard to understand but growing pains are painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong.

Wednesday, June 24, 2020

Have you heard the phrase, my way or the highway?

I hadn't heard the saying, it's my way or the highway, in a long time. So when I heard it I was surprised. There are many things from decades past that have become common and popular again. I never thought I would see bell bottom pants come back in style, but they have. Unfortunately none of us, or at least I didn't, save any items for four decades until they would become popular again. When I see someone wearing styles like I did four decades ago it brings a ton of visual memories that make me smile. When I hear "old phrases" from time to time, it brings up many happy memories for me to enjoy. Our minds are full of buried memories that are forgotten and they won't be remembered unless something triggers them. I have always enjoyed walking around a flea market where old memories can be triggered as I look at what people are selling. I don't have to buy anything, I just have to see an object that triggers a forgotten memory suddenly vivid front and center in my mind. One day I saw an old lamp exactly like the one my aunt had in her home. Instantly many memories of time spent at her house flooded in my mind that made me smile from ear to ear. I felt bad when the lady selling it thought for sure I was going to buy it after spending so much time staring at it while I was reliving memories with a big smile on my face. I stroll through the many ailes of the flea market enjoying all the buried memories that all the random objects trigger. Each time I go there I never know which relative or friend I will get to spend time with.

Monday, June 22, 2020

You don't have to have the answer you just have to listen

It's sad when you see someone going through a rough time and there is nothing you can do to help and you have no advice to give them. But that doesn't mean you can't help them get through it. If you just take the time to listen to them, it helps. If you listen long enough it helps them feel better. If you just allow them to share their story and respond with empathy and understanding, it helps them. You don't have to have the answer you just have to take the time to listen. It's possible as they tell you they not only feel better but they see the "whole picture" and see an answer to their problem. You don't have to be a doctor to make someone feel better, you just have to be a compassionate person and take the time to listen to them. They say laughter is the best medicine and you can give it away for free.

Friday, June 19, 2020

Father's day is the day you let your father know how much you love him

To be a parent is a hard job. As a parent there is nothing you wouldn't do for your children. Letting your Father know how special he is to you, means more to him than any child will ever know. We are just  twenty seven hours away from making the day all about him to show him how special he is to us. As I helped my grandkids make cards for their Father you could feel the love that they had for him. When your children are little they just beam from the inside out with love that is easily seen and felt. The quarantine may keep some people from being able to physically visit their Fathers this year. That doesn't mean you can't talk to him so he can feel your love. Time talking about memories you two have shared will still allow him to feel your love. For those of us who's Father's are no longer with us, you can still think about memories you shared with him and feel his love. And if there is truth that their spirits are still here with us, he will feel your love. Happy Father's day to every Father.

Wednesday, June 17, 2020

Don't stunt your growth

You have no choice in how tall you are. But you can stunt your "personal growth." How you VIEW yourself, NOT how other people VIEW you, will decide whether you personally grow where you are planted. If you only focus on your faults, you can't see your many strengths on which you have to build on. The only way to make the "most of what you got" is to realize what you actually have first. You don't have to be good at everything, you just have to be good at everything that you decide to do. People are entitled to their own opinions but the only opinion that matters is your opinion. Your personal growth depends on whether you let yourself grow naturally without stunting your personal growth. You have what it takes, the only question is, will you use what you have? 

Monday, June 15, 2020

Everytime you think of it, you feel the pain

Take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Keeping it FRESH on your mind won't allow you to HEAL. Everytime you relive it in your mind, it hurts you. Once was bad enough. You can't STOP the painful memories from popping up but you can JUST FLUSH IT quickly out of your mind so it can't hurt you again and again. You can't forget it but you can choose to never relive it again. By the same token, if you enjoyed a past experience you should plan on doing it again. Choosing to do the things that evoke happy feelings and AVOID anything that evokes negative feelings. Your thoughts make up the "REALITY" you live. You can't have a feeling without a thought. Remember Peter Pan couldn't FLY until he thought of happy thoughts. There are times in life when the only way to have a good day is to FLUSH AWAY a bad day. Peace of mind really is JUST a FLUSH away, so JUST FLUSH IT. To have peace of mind you got to make room for it to get in.

Friday, June 12, 2020

If the answer is no then don't say yes

Don't say yes to someone when you know you have no intentions of doing it. An honest NO does far less damage. If you say yes then they stop looking for another way to get what they need done. If you would have just been honest and said no, they would have kept looking for a way to get it done. Don't say it if you don't mean it. There is nothing wrong telling someone NO. But saying yes when you know darn well that there is NO chance you would do it, is wrong. By the same token you can't overwhelm yourself with more than you can actually do by saying yes to everyone. If it is honestly more than you can handle then tell them NO, I would if I could but I just can't. You can't honestly say yes if the honest answer is NO. They may not like the answer but regardless they will appreciate an honest answer. If you tell them yes then keep your word. Like they say, A person is only as good as his word.

Wednesday, June 10, 2020

We all want it but who will get it?

Everyone wants to feel loved. You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone feel it? Just because you think that they know you love them, doesn't mean they feel your love. You need to tell them and show them how much you love them so they can feel it. If you don't, then they won't. No one will know what you are thinking if you don't tell them what you are thinking. You may have a lot of love in your heart but can anyone feel it? Ask yourself that question when you are with those who you love, then make sure they can feel it.

Monday, June 8, 2020

What businesses will be open after the quarantine ends?

For months we have had to shutdown everything to stop the spread of covid19. It has been devastating economically and emotionally frustrating. When will they be able to begin to recover? Who knows how much longer some of the local business will suffer financially before they are forced to close their doors for good. Some communities will suffer far more than they can endure. After the quarantine is over every business that closed will be less jobs available for those living in those communities. Running down to get what you need from stores that were usually open, won't be possible due to them closing.  If you want your local stores to be open you have to support them now so that they will be. We will be better budgeters and more thrifty than we have been over the past few decades. We would replace items not because they were broke but because we wanted the new style. Hopefully we will remain more thrifty after we recover so we are in less unnecessary burden of debt to carry.

Friday, June 5, 2020

Compromise takes communication

You have to compromise to make things work for everyone involved. You have to each communicate what you need to figure out a compromise that works for both of you. You can't be one sided when you aren't the only one involved. Well I guess you can but you won't get anywhere if you can't do it alone. Working it out so that things work out takes communication and compromise. To be a team it takes teamwork. You can only get what you need if they get what they need. Otherwise no one gets what they need because it takes a team effort so you have to work together that's why it is called teamwork. If you need a team to do it then be a team player.

Wednesday, June 3, 2020

Don't let anyone or anything suck the JOY out of you

To enjoy life while you are living you have to enjoy it while you are living it, even during a pandemic. I have heard countless stories from many people of memories created with their families as they spent time together during the quarantine. And for many people their families had not spent quality family time together in years, unless it was a Holiday. So although the pandemic has hurt us all, months together has bonded families that wouldn't have been possible if it hadn't happened. It's hard to see anything positive about a pandemic. But if you want to enjoy life while you are living in a pandemic, you have to look for anything positive that you can find. As the quarantine is nearing it's end, don't let the regular family time end with it.

Monday, June 1, 2020

We can agree to disagree and continue the conversation

They may be family but that doesn't mean you will agree on everything. They can be a good friend even though they can be very different from you. You might not like everything about your job, but still like your job. Your dog is still your best friend even though they may chew on your favorite pair of shoes. Just because someone doesn't see what you see doesn't mean they didn't see something completely different. Ten people could see the same thing yet each one see something different. There is no wrong answer when you are asked your opinion on something. Your point of view is the only view you can see and their point of view is the only one they can see. You don't have to agree with someone to get along, you just have to agree to disagree and change the subject. If you want to have a right to your opinion you have to respect other people's opinions. My favorite uncle and I have very different opinions on a lot of things yet we are super close. We know the subjects that we disagree on and we both agree to change the subject whenever they come up. There are plenty of other things to talk about. The subjects we can't talk about we each talk to other people about. Choosing to agree to disagree is followed by choosing to change the subject.

Friday, May 29, 2020

A drive thru experience we will never forget

Do you remember your senior year of high school? Do you remember your senior prom? Do you remember Graduation night? You may not remember everything about your senior year but there are many special memories that you created during your senior year. I want to say CONGRATULATIONS to the CLASS of 2020. Today we had my son's DRIVE THRU GRADUATION. It wasn't a traditional graduation by no means. As the music played we drove through the parking lot
where we were greeted by heartfelt signs being held by the teachers and their families. Every teacher we passed would call him by name and shout CONGRATULATIONS at a social distance. With tears of pride flowing down my cheeks as we were near the end of the line, I said to my son, WOW you only have six teachers yet I heard at least twenty of them shout out your name. He said Mom that's because you have a sign with my name on it hanging from your rearview mirror. I had totally forgotten that they said hang your GRADUATES name on your windshield. Even though it was right in front of me hanging. After we left our DRIVE THRU GRADUATION we got in the line at a DRIVE THRU restaurant to celebrate. It may not have been a "traditional Graduation" but my son is officially a 2020 GRADUATE! 

Wednesday, May 27, 2020

If you earned it they can't take that from you but they can...

If you earned it, no one can take that from you. Forever it will be a fact that you earned it. Unfortunately it is also a fact that there are things, people and circumstances that can prevent you from reaping the benefits that you have earned. Even so, you still earned it, and you know it. They can't take away that fact nor can they take away the pride you have in yourself for all your hard work to earn it. Being proud of what you have done and what you will do is a priceless benefit that they can never take from you. Don't focus on what you didn't get or you won't be able to enjoy what you got. Don't focus on what you are not good at, no one is good at everything. Don't lose focus on what you are good at so you can figure out how to use that to your advantage. You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. Your thoughts make up the reality that you live, not what others think about you. All you have to do to be comfortable in the skin you are in, is if you are comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. Being proud of who you are only comes from being proud of what you have done. 

Tuesday, May 26, 2020

You will get wet in the rain but you know we need the rain

As I was running around doing my errands today, I was in and out in the rain. It wasn't fun but I know we need the rain. The puddles of rain in the parking lot made it impossible to keep my shoes dry, but I know we need the rain. As I arrived home I could hear the birds chirping as they bathed in the puddles. I know they were happy it was a rainy day. Later as I sat out on my porch I could hear the frogs as they came out of their hiding spots to cool off in the puddles. The flowers that were wilting from the heat earlier were now standing tall as they soaked up some rainwater. Now I was relaxing enjoying the benefits that the rain brings, no longer thinking about how miserable it had been earlier because of the rain. There are good points and bad points on a rainy day. But at the end of the day we need the rain. The good points about the rain far out way the bad points. In life you make good decisions if you base your decisions on whether the good out weighs the bad that will come from your decision. If it doesn't, then DON'T do it. By weighing your options, you don't weight yourself down and carry it with you on your life's journey.

Monday, May 25, 2020

You know if you don't leave a scab alone then your cut can't heal

In order to heal from any physical health issues you know it takes time to heal and feel better. It doesn't happen in an instant. Nor will you heal if you don't do what your doctor says. You certainly need to avoid it from physically ever happening again if it is possible. Other issues you may face on your life's journey affect your mental health negatively. Don't keep reliving it over and over again in your mind so it can hurt you again and again. Take the painful experiences from your past and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind so it can't do any more damage to you. Keeping it FRESH on your mind won't allow you to "HEAL" from it. Once was enough! There will be times on your life's journey that in order to have a "GOOD DAY" you will have to "FLUSH AWAY A BAD DAY."

Friday, May 22, 2020

Obviously you know you can't please everyone....

You learn at a young age that you can't please everyone, no matter how hard you may try. Throughout your life you find yourself in situations where you are performing a juggling act to not let those around you down. It's hard to be someone in the middle of situations knowing no matter what you do, you can't please everyone which usually means someone is going to be disappointed. Your only choice is to make sure you are pleased with whatever you choose to do or choose not to do. You can't always please everyone but you got to ALWAYS please yourself. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is if you are proud of yourself for the choices you make. You won't be happy in the skin you are in unless you are happy with what you do in the skin you are in. If it makes you happy then you will be happy. If someone else is unhappy about the decision that you made does it really matter as long as you are happy? You knew before you made your decision that you can't please everyone but you can please yourself. That's why if it makes you happy then you know you made the right decision for you.

Wednesday, May 20, 2020

If you know what you want it may sometimes require you to put your blinders on

Of course you need to look at things with an open mind. You need to look at it from every angle. Depending on how you look at it will determine what you see in order for you to know what you should do. Then make the necessary plans of the path you need to take to get where you want to go in Life. The path may be bumpy along your journey to get where you want to be but as long as you stay on the path you will get there. There will be a few that will tell you to give up if you fall, but everybody falls off their bycicle many times while they are learning to ride a bycicle. You don't give up because you know the end result is you will know how to ride a bike. Make little goals that will be the steps you will need to reach bigger goals that you have planned for your life's journey. Your dreams are made with your mind wide open and then you put your blinders on to prevent anyone or anything from distracting you from reaching them. Your dreams can't come true if you don't have any dreams. You can't reach your goals if you don't set goals for yourself. Along your journey in Life there will be twist and turns as well as bumps along your path. But as long as you stay on the path you will get where you need to be. The first step is choosing where you want to go. The second step is choosing the path you will have to take to get there. The third step is to put your blinders on so no one or nothing can distract you from getting there.

Monday, May 18, 2020

We are all affected even if we are not infected

The covid19 virus will affect every one, even though not everyone will become infected with covid19. The economical damages have also created unhealthy personal damages that can't be fixed simply by finally getting a paycheck. Getting settled back in will take time. Finding a way to regroup after a pandemic is hard when you are still living with the unknowns that the pandemic has in store for our future. Whatever the future brings is what future plans we will regroup and make to stand strong again. One day at a time, one phase at a time, one step at a time we will all win the war against covid19. My son is a 2020 graduate and although he missed out on a lot of things that most seniors do, he will be forever part of the story of the pandemic of 2020. This fact doesn't help him much but it is a fact that will never be forgotten. Congratulations to the 2020 GRADUATES all around the WORLD.

Friday, May 15, 2020

Is it time yet?

If you know it is time for a change then does it really matter what time it is? If times are changing then don't you think that you should make whatever changes are necessary to keep up with the times? You just can't get too comfortable in your life because life changes all the time. Obviously you may not like all the changes but you can't change it back to what you were used to. It is what it is and it ain't what it ain't. Just how much will change because of covid19 is yet to be determined. Things will definitely not get back to "normal" but whatever the "new normal" is, will determine how many changes we will all have to make. There has been some positive changes. The World has United to win the war against covid19. We don't see each other as the "enemy" but as fellow HUMANS who all have a common enemy. Another positive outcome is that HUMANITY is spreading in communities around the World. We will each have our personal journey as we begin to see what the future will look like for ourselves after the pandemic has passed. We will make whatever changes we need to and adapt our lives to our "new normal." It reminds me of the saying on my plaque, So this isn't home sweet home, adjust." Things will never be the same, it is what it is so do what you got to do, JUST DO IT.

Wednesday, May 13, 2020

Times are tough...

The pandemic has taken it's toll on every single person around the world. With all the unknowns, no one knows just how much worse it will get. Emotionally we all have been affected. But there are many people who the financial toll from the businesses being shutdown is hard to endure. The longer the quarantines go on the more people that will be devastated financially and emotionally. Just the other day when we entered phase one to reopen businesses, we excitedly headed to our favorite restaurant. The owner had worked at our local restaurant and had served us for over a decade before finally opening his own restraunt in the next town. When we got there instead of a sign that said closed for now due to covid19 like we had seen for the past two months, was a sign that said OUT OF BUSINESS. His hard work, his hope, his dreams and his livelyhood was GONE. The reality that all your hard work means nothing if you can't work, is another way that covid19 is a silent disease that is spreading. There is going to be a lot of people who need their community's support to recover from the affects of the pandemic. Whenever, wherever, however, to whomever you can please do what you can to help. If it was you I am sure you would hope that someone would help you. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing.

Monday, May 11, 2020

You can't always choose but you will still have choices you will have to make

You may not have any choice on some of the situations you will face during your lifetime. But with every situation you will have choices on how you will react to them. It is not the situation you are dealing with that determines the outcome of the situation, it is how you react to them that will determine the outcome for you. Which will require you to STOP before you react to think about what your actions will bring. Once you react you can't take it back, your actions will decide how the situation will affect you. If you want a positive outcome you will have to make sure that you react in a way that a positive outcome is possible. You decide the outcome so make sure you do what you need to do to, so you can have the best outcome you possibly can under the circumstances of the situation you are forced to deal with. The harder the situation you have to face, the harder it will be to find how to react to minimize the damage it will have on you. It's not easy to figure out what to do. But the outcome will be harder on you if you don't figure it out before you react. What you look for will determine what you will find. Look for the best positive outcome so that you can have a positive outcome. Before you react, STOP and think about how you should react. You may not have had a choice in the situation but you do have the choice on how to react to it.

Friday, May 8, 2020

Before you hit send...

You decide to look something up in cyberspace and before you know it an hour has gone by. Have you ever tried to go back to find what you were reading on the internet but couldn't find it? You hit in the same thing you did the first time yet what you were looking at before is no where to be found. You could search for an hour and never find it. You know it is somewhere lost in cyberspace. Most of the time exploring cyberspace is a great distraction when you have plenty of time to be distracted. But when you need to get back to the information you were at in a timely manner, you don't have any time for distractions. Unfortunately even cyberspace has a Bermuda triangle that things disappear in. You never know what you will find in cyberspace and you will never know what will get lost in cyberspace. One thing is for sure if you don't want something you wrote to be found in the future then don't write it. Because once you hit send it is in permanent ink somewhere in cyberspace where some one could find it.

Wednesday, May 6, 2020

You don't get to redo the things you regret not doing

A "Bucket List" isn't intended to be a garbage can. Your "Bucket List" will change from when you are a child. As a child you believe that you can be anything you want to be and do everything you want to do. Your career choices will change many times before you grow up and finish school. As you choose which college to attend, you also start your "Bucket List." In case you haven't heard each thing you put on the list has to be accomplished by a certain age. If you save your "Bucket List" waiting to do it until you are retired, some of them you will have missed your opportunity to do. So before you toss it in your "Bucket" you should put them in time slots of which decade of your life they have to be done in. Obviously the more physical ones have to be done before you get too old and can't physically do them. You don't have to worry about your list of where you want to vacation because luckily those are places you can visit any decade of your life. Timing for other things you may add to your "Bucket List" will be necessary to do in a timely manner. A "Bucket List" should be almost empty by the time you are too old to remember what was on your list.

Monday, May 4, 2020

The bugs in your own back yard can be entertainment

While everything is closed you got to find ways to entertain yourself at home. As I was sitting outside I noticed a trail of ants. It is amazing how they all stay in a straight line. It reminded me of the movie Bugs Life. As I looked closer I could see that most of them were carrying things that were as big as they were. I sat outside for hours enjoying the gentle breeze and the fresh air. From time to time I would glance over at the trail of ants. I noticed one little ant off just an inch away from the line struggling to carry what looked like a piece of a leaf. It was twice his size and it's shape made it impossible for him to go in a straight line. Rather than hold the line up, he moved over. He was determined, no matter how hard it was, nothing would stop him from doing it. Once I noticed him I couldn't help but think about the determination, just like a human being has to have to struggle through Life with a heavy load to bare. I began to think about how many people are dealing with a lot of things due to the lockdowns. Just because the lockdowns will end doesn't end the struggles they will face to pick up the pieces of their lives and get back on track. If you can help them get up on their feet it will help them stand on their own, although they may still be a little wobbly. When the lockdowns are over be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be going through, nor how wobbly they are.

Friday, May 1, 2020

You would have never experienced it

If we weren't experiencing a pandemic, we wouldn't have experienced the bonding moments with our families and friends. We stay in touch with each other in a way that would have never happened if it wasn't for covid19. Family time was nearly non-existent in most families. In the fast paced World we lived in, we barely even crossed paths. Now, only because everything is shutdown and we are all quarantined together in our homes, we have plenty of time and no where to go to enjoy each other's company. We all know how bonding it is for a family to sit down together every day to eat dinner. But it wasn't something that families everywhere were able to get everyone to do. The positive things on a human level that will come out of this pandemic will forever change each and every one of us. And family dinners may be part of the list of positive things that will come out of the pandemic. When I called to check on an old friend it wasn't about how hard being quarantined was. You could sense the smile on her face as she told me about the night that her and her family had played a game of scattegories. She chuckled as she described all the belly laughs they had. And a good belly laugh as you know is like a FLUSH that leaves you feeling refreshed from your head to your toes. She said she made her first lasagna and it was a meal that her and her family will definitely look forward to eating from now on, even after the quarantine has ended. She didn't list all the things she couldn't do while being quarantined, she listed all the exciting things that she was experiencing while she was quarantined. The difference between a good day and a bad day is all in how you look at it.

Wednesday, April 29, 2020

Have you ever been in the middle of a thought and someone interrupts your train of thought?

Have you ever been interrupted in the middle of a thought then afterwards you can't remember what that thought even was? You search your mind later but you can't remember. It is frustrating. It does however show you how when negative thoughts pop up front and center in your mind you can interrupt them and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Our minds have an endless stream of thoughts running through it. One by one they take turns popping up front and center trying to grab our attention. If it is a negative thought, JUST FLUSH IT at a quick glance. If you give it a second thought you will have an avalanche of negative thoughts. It's like seeing a cockroach come out of your grocery bag. If you don't squish it, before you know it your house will be infested with cockroaches. Your thoughts make up the reality you live in. As the thoughts stream through your mind choose the ones that will have a positive affect on you. When you see a negative one it is as easy as changing the channel on your TV to something else. And if you see a cockroach coming out of your grocery bag, JUST SQUISH IT.

Monday, April 27, 2020

When the dust clears, what will you see?

In the end will you be proud of yourself for how you handled it? If you did the best you could, you should feel proud. Regardless how things turn out. If you did what you thought was the right thing to do, you should feel proud of yourself. Regardless how things turn out. All anyone can do is the best they can do. At the end of the day all that matters is if you are proud of yourself. That is not based solely on how things turned out. Even if things don't turn out like you had hoped, if you did the best you could, then you should be proud of yourself, regardless how things turned out. Being comfortable in the skin you are in is only possible if you are comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in.

Friday, April 24, 2020

It's hard to make a decision without all the facts


You can't say you made the right decision if you don't know all the facts to be able to have any chance of making the right decision. Unfortunately our governments will have to make many important decisions without knowing all the facts about covid19. I do believe every government in every country has a team of experts working together to make the best decision possible. They have to consider the Health risks but also the Economical risks. Nearly every country is working together and sharing data with other countries that is critical if any of us are to win the War against covid19. We know we can't keep everything closed for a year or so until they come up with a vaccine. Nor can we open everything up tomorrow. Important decisions will have to be made without having time to get all the facts. Follow the guidelines that are an attempt to protect us from it spreading and millions of people getting covid19. You do it for the same reason you get a flu shot. Because you want to protect yourself. You remind your family and your friends to get a flu shot so they don't get sick. One day at a time we will get through this and we will be one step closer to winning the War against covid19.



Wednesday, April 22, 2020

We all have things in COMMON even though we live in different parts of the WORLD

What used to work, won't work anymore. You can't get too comfortable in life because life is always changing. Even before the pandemic we all had to go through many changes throughout our lives. Since no one has ever experienced a pandemic before, we will all experience the changes at the same time. It doesn't matter whether you are Young or Old, nor what city or country you live in, we will all have to make changes. All the generations can work together for the first time to clean up the messes that have been made by generation after generation for decades. The HUMANITY that the covid19 has brought out all around the WORLD can replace the INSANITY in our societies. Let's make COMMON courtesy, COMMON decency, and COMMON sense, what we all have in COMMON. What grows in Florida may not grow everywhere but HUMANITY will grow EVERYWHERE it is planted. Remember you reap what you sow. It took a WORLDWIDE PANDEMIC to bring WORLD PEACE.

Monday, April 20, 2020

Find out if you can by trying

As new situations arise you have to get adventurous and creative. Obviously if it is something you have not done before you won't automatically know what to do. You won't know if you can do it unless you try to do it. As long as you try you can figure it out. You may not get it right the first time or do it like anyone else does but with a little creativity you can make it work for you. Things are different these days which means we will all have to learn to do things a little differently than we are used to. We have to entertain ourselves at home just like everyone did back in the "old days." At least nowadays we have our electronic gadgets and endless choices of television channels. Since time flys by before you know it things will open up again. Although we will have a new "normal" we will adjust to the changes and have some "normalcy"  in our lives soon. Meanwhile we have to follow the safety measures of social distancing to keep the spread of covid19 from getting out of control. By buying time for the scientist to figure out how to stop it from spreading and find a cure to keep people from dying who do get it. It is a sacrifice we all have to make to keep ourselves and our loved ones from dying during this pandemic. Distract yourself to stay busy so you don't have to much time on your hands to think about how bored you are or worry yourself sick over things that you can't do anything about. You can't forget we are living through a pandemic but you can be distracted for a little while as you focus on doing something to distract yourself. The busier you are the faster time will fly. We started watching full episodes of an old show one afternoon and before we knew it, it was getting dark outside. Look at it one day at a time instead of another month or two of lockdowns. We are one day closer to winning the war against covid19.

Friday, April 17, 2020

Social distancing is necessary but you can still be social

Although we must have social distancing that doesn't mean you can't still be social. It's hard to see if someone is smiling when they are wearing a mask, but you can still see it in their eyes. You can still say thank you while wearing a mask. As road construction is still going on, you can make someone smile by letting them have space to get over in the open lane. And pandemic or not don't forget to wave when someone let's you in the lane. I let three people in today in the mile drive and only one of them waved to say thank you. Surely they appreciated it but why didn't the other two drivers wave to show it? Times are tough but a little kindness goes a long way all the time, but especially nowadays. Be kind to everyone you see while you are keeping your distance. I have gotten more phone calls from family and friends in the past six weeks then I had in the past six years. It has been awesome to hear their voices instead of a quick text. A text doesn't give you the social bonding like a phone call does. I hope that even when things get back to "normal" that they call from time to time because that has been one change that I have enjoyed. I hope the humanity that this pandemic has brought to us all lasts forever. Some changes we have all had to make have made this world a better place. Even from a distance you can see the human compassion that is everywhere. Be kind to everyone you meet because you have no idea what they may be facing. A little bit of kindness goes a long way. A smile says peace in any language even if you only see it in their eyes.

Wednesday, April 15, 2020

What you learn will make you more informed

We are all learning how to adapt to the changes that the covid19 virus has brought. Although the changes are challenging, they are necessary. I don't believe that we will be able to return to "normal" even after the lockdowns are lifted. But I do believe that we all have learned a lot about self discipline that will make us a better version of ourselves, when all is said and done. Families have grown closer because we have had to spend more time at home with our families. Home cooked meals had become almost extinct for some families who now look forward to them. Gardening which had become a "lost art" is being done out of boredom right now will be reoccurring events for years to come for some people. Although a quarantine has it's drawbacks, it also has positive changes that we will carry with us for our lifetimes. The bonds with our friends and family is stronger because of the pandemic. The HUMANITY that it has brought will replace some of the INSANITY we have all had to live with in society. The lessens we have learned through this tragic pandemic has United every single person in the world, reminding us that we are all HUMAN. Seeing each other as humans not the enemy is what we needed to have WORLD PEACE. Sometimes it takes a negative situation to bring out the best in ourselves. Just like after a devastating fire the grass grows back greener and healthier than ever, after the pandemic is over, we will all see PEACE on Earth everywhere.

Monday, April 13, 2020

Keep a positive attitude

There is a lot of negative things going on but you can't only have negative thoughts about it. Otherwise it will have a negative affect on you even more than the negative situation by itself would have on you. There is always hope that things will get better soon. You can make some changes to adapt with everything going on to get through it. It doesn't change what you are going through but it will make it doable for you. Where there is a will there is a way. The future may be uncertain but you certainly can get through it. The changes you will have to make are not what you really want to do but they are what you will have to do. And to have a positive outcome when it is all over, you have to keep a positive attitude and a positive outlook so you can have a positive outcome. Remember to be thankful that you can manage to get by because it could always be much worse than it is. It ain't great but it is doable. With each passing day we are one step closer to winning the war against covid19.

Friday, April 10, 2020

It is not a waste of time if you had a good time doing it

You need to have a few moments that you do something just to relax and enjoy what you are doing. We all make the time to do the things that we have to do. But do you take any time out to do something that you do just because you enjoy doing it? Making the time to have a little fun every now and again is just as important as making the time to do the necessities that you need done. All work and no play can wear you down. You need a break every now and again to keep you from becoming exhausted and having a physical and mental breakdown. When your mind and body starts sending signals saying "Give me a break" it's warning you that you need a break. Heed the warning. We all have a built in warning signal. That feeling in the pit of your stomach is not always gas.

Wednesday, April 8, 2020

Change is necessary throughout your life, even more so then ever

We go through changes all throughout our lives. This time every single person in the whole wide world will have to make the same kind of changes at the same time. Since this pandemic is nothing any of us have had to experience, we need to unite to figure out how to combine our experiences and our knowledge to win the war against covid19. We have our differences but we are all HUMAN. We all want ourselves, our loved ones, our friends, and everyone in our community to live. I always say everything happens for a reason and all the suffering has made no rhyme or reason why this could be happening. But the truth is it has UNITED us against covid19. It has brought compassion in us all. Maybe this terrible pandemic was the ONLY WAY to bring WORLD PEACE so that we can work together to fight the war against covid19. TOGETHER WE can if UNITED we stand. It doesn't matter where you live, EVERY LIFE MATTERS.

Monday, April 6, 2020

We all definitely have time to get our Spring cleaning done

Usually you have to squeeze in the time to do your Spring cleaning while you juggle a busy exhausting schedule. This year you got plenty of time and the energy to do it. You will even have time to go through things that you had tucked away for a decade or two. By the end of the shutdowns you will have organized, inventoried, and cleaned every nook and cranny of your house. You will have gotten rid of the things you didn't need making more use of the storage you had. Each day as you do a little Spring cleaning you will begin to notice the difference a day can make and it will inspire you to look forward to what you can do each day. If you work on your "Hobby" for a few minutes each day it will give you something to look forward to doing each day. You can finally have time to work on the outside of your house or your yard. Just think of all the things you never had time to do at your house and make a LIST. We know we are on lockdown for at least a month. Can you imagine what you can do in that month if you did something each day? The more distractions you have to distract you right now is necessary to maintain your overall good physical health and mental health. There is a lot of uncertainties ahead of all of us. We need to be concerned but not be so obsessed about it that it affects our personal well being. Stress can lower your immune system, which is very important to fight off any flu or virus let alone the covid19 virus. Stress can raise your blood pressure which has a negative affect on many of our vital organs. We all have more time on our hands allowing too much time to think. And if you don't keep yourself busy to distract yourself the chances are greater that a negative thought will be able to "grab your attention." And once that happens you will have an avalanche of negative thoughts that soon consumes you. When a negative thought pops up front and center in your mind, JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind. Just look at it this way. A negative thought is like a cockroach. If you invite one cockroach in you know it won't be long before your house is full of cockroaches.     

Friday, April 3, 2020

It may not be preventable but it can be manageable

If you make it work for you, then things will work out okay for you. You may not be able to prevent it from happening but you can prevent it from happening a second time. Just because you are faced with a negative situation, you still can have a positive outcome. It will be how you react to the negative situation that will determine the outcome. Whenever something negative happens just stop before you react. Think about what your actions will bring to decide how you should react. Your first thought when enduring a negative situation is always going to be negative. And if act on it you will make the situation permanently worse. So before you say anything or do anything, STOP. Take some time to think about how to react to have the best outcome possible for you. And yelling or threatening won't give you any chance to have a positive outcome. Two wrongs don't make a right but by doing the right thing you can't go wrong. Remember once you say it or do it the damage is done. Sometimes it is better to say nothing at all. Sometimes the best thing to do is to just walk away and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind because anything you say or do will only make it worse.

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

Time to get a hobby

Now is the perfect time to get a hobby. Not only will a hobby make you happy, it will make those around you happy, as it distracts you from the stress of being quarantined. You can become easily agitated with everything that is going on right now. Especially if you are someone who has temporarily been unable to work because of the shutdowns. I certainly hope you find the financial help you need to survive until businesses can open back up. The fear of you or someone you love dying from the covid19 virus weighs heavy on everyone's mind. It's a good time to start a new hobby or indulge your mind with an old hobby that you hadn't done in ages. Someone I know started making bird houses to give to friends and family at Christmas time. His wife is going to be a part of the decorating part of it, which has certainly kept their spirits up. And just think of all the money they will save not having to buy anyone Christmas gifts. And what pride they will feel as the recipients open them up and express how creative they are. Another person I know hadn't knitted in years, but boy won't her friends and family be surprised to see what they are going to get for Christmas. To relieve your stress you got to get busy thinking about things that relax you to distract you. It's hard to not think about what is going on all over the world. But if you want to be alright when it is finally over, you got to distract yourself to stay healthy enough while it is happening, to be still standing when it's over.

Monday, March 30, 2020

While we are all staying home, we finally get to spend quality time with our family

Long before internet you had to entertain yourselves in other ways. Now is a good time to build a puzzle. We had two puzzles burrired in our closet along with other Christmas gifts we had been given over the decades. You just might be surprised what you actually have kept that you have stuffed in your closet. Now is the time to go through old stuff to help entertain you while we are stuck indoors to stay safe from covid19. The puzzles we found weren't just regular puzzles they were very unique. One was a round puzzle with pictures on both sides making you have to essentially solve two puzzles at the same time. The other one had extra pieces to throw you off for as long as they could. When you get a puzzle started that will take days to do, at some point other family members will sit down occasionally to find a piece or two. Eating home cooked meals together as we are staying home has definitely had a positive impact on families everywhere. Sitting down eating together every night, bonds a family and that was missing in families everywhere. The fast paced electronic driven society we live in, had made family dinner time non existent. We have to focus on the positive things that are happening so we don't let all the negative things that are happening be the only thing we think about. Stress lowers your immune system which is not going to allow you to fight off any sickness let alone covid19. Make a list of the bonding little moments you have with your family each day while you are quarantined. Keep your list handy so you can add them as they occur. When you are feeling frustrated at what is happening from time to time, just read the list you have written and you will have plenty to be thankful for that wouldn't have happened if you were not quarantined together as a family.

Friday, March 27, 2020

The difference between a good day and a bad day may be how you look at it

It may not be a day where everything goes how you had planned but that doesn't mean it wasn't a good day. Sure things could have gone better but that doesn't mean it was a bad day. Even when you have had a really bad day, if you look at everything that happened that day you will find there was something good that happened that day. Even if it is just the simple fact that you are alive makes it a good day. I know as I go through the grocery store and there are still things that are not in stock, I am still happy that I got other stuff I needed. How you look at it will determine what you see. If you look for only the negative things in a situation, then you will find them. If you look hard enough to find something positive about the situation, then you will find something positive about it. It is all in how you look at it. Remember the situation you are in may be bad, but that doesn't mean the outcome for you is going to be bad. How you look at it and react to it will determine the outcome of the situation you are in. If you want a good outcome then look for a way that a positive outcome would be possible. Enjoying life while you are living it despite all the negative things that will happen along your journey, is the only way to enjoy life while you are living it.

Wednesday, March 25, 2020

A little bit of kindness can do a whole lot of good

Having at least what you need may be difficult for some people. Social distancing is necessary to fight the covid19 virus but you have to go out to the store to get the necessities you need, if you have any chance to get the basics that you need. I haven't been able to get certain things for over a week now, hand sanitizer especially. When you need gas you have to stop to fill up your tank. As I push on the buttons to make my card work to purchase gas, I wander if it is contaminated with the covid19 virus. As I hold on to the gas nozzle as I fill up my tank, I wander if it is contaminated. Everywhere you go you have to wander if you will be contaminated. I know we all face the fear of being contaminated. But stress from worrying can actually lower your immune system, which is not healthy. You can't forget about it, you can't let your guard down, so remember.... it's okay to be concerned about it but don't be obsessed about it. If you find hand sanitizer by chance in a store, please don't buy all of it so no one else can get some. We all need toilet paper so don't buy it all. Stores are starting to put limits on how many you can purchase but as we saw in a recent video one customer at a store with no limit filled her truck with every toilet paper and paper towels that the store had. Just because they didn't have a sign what happened to common decency, common courtesy and common sense? Really would be nice if we all come together and use common sense. You aren't protected if you are the only one with hand sanitizer. If we all had some we wouldn't be spreading germs. Life could get back to normal if together we fight the covid19 virus, if we don't work together the World as we know it will be devastated. You may survive the covid19 virus but will you be able to survive the challenges you would face? No matter what city or country you live in, we all have a common enemy, the covid19 virus. We all need to use common decency, common courtesy, and common sense to fight the war against covid19. Since for the first time every person in the whole wide world is United, we can see each other as humans as it will take every single person around the World if any of us are to win the war against covid19.  World Peace is possible.

Monday, March 23, 2020

Everyone must do their part

We can't be divided if we want to win the war against the covid19 virus. It doesn't matter if you are Young or Old, everyone has to do their part. It doesn't matter if you are Male or Female, everyone has to do their part. It doesn't matter what race you are, we all must do our part. It doesn't matter what City or Country you are from, we all must do our part. It doesn't matter if you are Rich or Poor, we all must do our part. Although if you are Rich you could sure use some of that extra cash to save some businesses that may not financially recover from their economic situation. Or you could consider buying a few medical supplies that would literally save people's lives. Everyone in the Whole Wide World can win the war against the covid19 virus if we work together. I sure have seen a lot of HUMANITY going on all over the WORLD and that may be one of the positive things that has come from this pandemic. This terrible situation that everyone in the WORLD is dealing with won't get better on it's own, we all must do our part. Let's work together to win the war against the covid19 virus.

Friday, March 20, 2020

Now is the time to look up Old recipes

As bread has been hard to find it's time to look up how to make your own fresh bread. The items that you will need are still fully stocked up on the store shelves. You have to get creative these days. It will bring a smile to your face and warm your families bellies and hearts as they are thankful for the delicious bread you made them. There are still plenty of stock of fresh produce in most stores and we all know fruits and vegetables are a part of maintaining good health. Staying home eating home cooked meals has been missing in families the last decade or so. This World wide pandemic is devastating and we know it will get worse but in the end it will cause every single person around the World to connect with each other on a human level. Together every person no matter what city or country you live in has to fight this war against the corona19 virus, United we stand, although quarantined, together to fight it.

Wednesday, March 18, 2020

It is okay to be concerned but not healthy to be obsessed

You can't say the word "pandemic" without a feeling of panic. We all need to be concerned and follow the instructions of our health department. When you see images of our beaches being crowded, you know that there are lots of people not following the rules that are necessary to minimize the massive spread of the covid19 virus. Businesses that are forced to shut down, are concerned about the economic struggles they will face. So why are people defeating the purpose of the closures? If twenty percent of the population are going around spreading the virus then the effort eighty percent who did close was for nothing. We need to close our free beaches just like we closed businesses even though we know how bad economically it will hurt them. We need to enforce the rules that were set to protect all of us. Now with that being said. We all should be concerned about it but it is not healthy for us to be obsessed about it. We all must work together to stop the spread of the corona19 virus. Together as one nation we can reduce the suffering and deaths from it. It takes ALL of us not eighty percent of us, to fight the war against the covid19 virus. Learn to have fun at home and stay home. We started playing card games and board games that we hadn't played in years. We even broke out the home movies to distract us from constantly obsessing over what unknowns lie ahead for any of us. Please stay safe and follow the instructions of our health departments.

Monday, March 16, 2020

Take the time to stop and "smell the roses"

Well the clocks have spring forward and spring is in the air. Hopefully you have some annual flowers planted in your yard that will soon be blooming. Time to wash down the patio furniture to sit in while the weather is still cool not blistering hot. You can enjoy the nature and the breeze in the daylight and relax later as you enjoy the stars in the sky at night. We enjoyed a game of rummy the other night, which we hadn't played in years. Make the most of your time at home by enjoying the time you have to relax. We went through old photo albums from decades ago, we had a blast reminiscing about so many things. We had forgotten moments that came flooding back with each picture. Suddenly we could vividly see the day in our minds that were buried deep in our memories. In the old days we took lots of pictures which we filled in photo albums. Now they are there to enjoy the memories they evoke. Nowadays photo albums are non existent to the last generation or two. They will have no way to trigger those special memories that are buried deep in their minds. You need to take pictures because you need help to remember all the good times for decades and they won't pop up unless they get triggered. The same is true for "small talk" that brings up subjects that you don't always have time for. You miss a lot of "little things" if you are always in too big of a hurry to slow down to enjoy them.

Friday, March 13, 2020

Can anything positive come out of the corona19 virus?

So many times I have started to write a blog about the corona19 virus, but they sounded so negative. I write short little blogs to give you something to ponder to distract you long enough to catch a fresh breath of air. In this fast paced World we live in, we don't slow down to relax. At times our lives can be filled with chaos and a relaxing moment to forget about it, is important. I have tried to think of something positive that could possibly come out of the corona19 virus, finally I started seeing some. As we are forced basically to stay home as much as possible, we can finally have time for "small talk" that has become non existent in the fast paced World we live in. We have time and we want to call relatives and friends to check up on them, which keeps us connected to our "human side" that is desperately needed in society. Since we aren't running around we won't be eating unhealthy fast food, so we will save money and get healthier. Not to mention we will lose a few pounds eating healthy foods at home, and loosing a few pounds is a good thing. Because we aren't going out for entertainment, we will save money. Since we aren't out shopping, we will save money. Giving our bodies a much needed break from running it ragged, is definitely good for your health. All those projects you had put off because you weren't home long enough to do them, well now you have the time and the energy to do them. No matter what country or what city you live in, the corona19 virus will have a negative impact on each and every one of us. It is natural to be concerned but don't be obsessed about it, that alone is dangerous to your health. What will you do with the extra time you have?

Wednesday, March 11, 2020

It's your choice, so choose wisely

You choose whether to be honest or not just like you choose what to eat for dinner. You choose whether you will do the right thing or not, just like you choose what to wear each day. You can't say you had no choice because you do have a choice. Just because other people are doing it doesn't make it right. The choices you make matters so choose wisely. If you choose to ignore bad behavior then it will become a common occurrence and it's only a matter of time before it happens to you or someone you love. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make. The choice is yours, so choose wisely. The choices you make today affect the choices you will be able to make later.

Monday, March 9, 2020

There are no guarantees

You can hope for the best, but you have to also be prepared for the worst. You can make plans but things don't always turn out as you had planned. Having a back up plan is necessary because there may not be anyone to back you up if you need it. It's sad but true that you can only count on yourself. You can be surrounded by people that are only around for the good times, but during bad times they are no where around if you need them. A fair weather friend will blow away the minute the stormy times come. Be honest with yourself and make sure you have what you need or be caught off guard and find that you weren't prepared for what might hit you. Friends are nice to have but remember they may just be a fair weather friend and you will experience rain from time to time.

Friday, March 6, 2020

If you want to make the most out of a bad situation you have to...

Let's face it, life is full of challenges. No matter how well you walk a thin line to avoid it, things happen in life, that's just Life. The "Rollercoaster of Life" is full of ups and downs and twists and turns. Along with the challenges you will have to face, there are also opportunities. You can't get too comfortable in life because life is always changing. You may not want anything to change but things are always changing. You have to keep up with the changes or you will not be able to navigate through the challenges you will be faced with. One change I will never get used to is calling a business and get a computer voice. How many times have you screamed "Need a Human" into the phone? It is so frustrating to call to take care of a small problem but talking to a HUMAN isn't one of the options you are given to choose from. I often wander if those companies realized that by the time you reach a HUMAN, you are so angry that your problem with them feels bigger. Unfortunately some businesses have that type of answering service and no matter how stressful it is you have to succeed in getting past the computer voice part of it, to be able to talk to a HUMAN. Now that I wish they would change.

Wednesday, March 4, 2020

I know they know better

It amazes me what people will do even though they know better. Even if it hurts someone, they do it anyways. Unfortunately some people never get bit on the butt by karma. So since they pay no consequences they repeatedly do it. Why is it that some people are affected by karma and some are not? If you wouldn't want someone to do it to you or someone you love, you shouldn't do it. If affects anyone else in a negative way, you shouldn't do it. Don't accept bad behavior because if you ignore it then it will become a common occurrence. What happened to common decency, common courtesy and common sense?

Monday, March 2, 2020

Does it really matter?

Stressing over things that don't really matter only makes the important things you have to do more stressful. As a friend and I who rarely got together, were heading out to enjoy ourselves, the traffic made it a frustrating ride. It seemed to have zapped the energy right out of both us. But obviously the extra five minutes in traffic didn't affect our plans at all. But as we began to talk about the traffic it was interfering with the conversations we would have had as we drove here and as we walked through the parking lot. Once inside we both realized that we had to JUST FLUSH IT out of our minds so we could enjoy our day out together. You can't enjoy the moment you are in if you spend every moment thinking about things that happened yesterday. Yesterday is already gone, tomorrow may never come, but today is yours to enjoy. To enjoy life you have to enjoy it while you are living it.

Friday, February 28, 2020

Getting angry about it hurts you so JUST FLUSH IT

Sure it will anger you but the damages you cause yourself from being angry, is something you can prevent. You may not have been able to prevent the situation you are in but you can prevent yourself from making the situation worse then it is. Anything and everything you do or say will determine the outcome. If you react negatively then you will have a negative outcome, because two wrongs don't make a right. You need to delay your reaction until you have had time to think about what your actions will bring. You will realize that you need to accept it, what's done is done and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind to prevent anymore damage. You may have had no choice whether it happened or not but it is your choice whether you let it hurt you over and over again or not. JUST FLUSH IT so it can't hurt you anymore.

Wednesday, February 26, 2020

You are who you think you are

You can be your own worst enemy. You are who you think you are so don't worry about what other people think about you, the only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. You may not get a compliment or a pat on the back from others, so give yourself a pat on the back. You may not be the best at everything but as long as you do the best you can, then you should be proud of yourself. To feel comfortable in the skin you are in you have to be comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. It doesn't matter what other people do, you have to do what makes you happy. It doesn't matter what anyone else tells you that you should do. You do what you need to do because you are the only one that has to live with the consequences for everything you do. No one is perfect so don't judge yourself so harshly because you are not perfect. If you tell yourself that you can't do it then you won't do it because you will never try to do it. You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. Which one you choose is up to you.

Monday, February 24, 2020

What will change because of it?

You can learn from your mistakes and make the necessary changes, but that is only if you admit that you made a mistake. You can learn from other people's mistakes rather than having to make the same mistakes, but that is only possible if you take the time to notice.  By the time you get old you have learned a lot of mistakes that you can avoid repeating. You want to warn those younger than you by telling them what you have learned to keep them from making the same mistakes. Unfortunately they don't want to listen. It's hard to watch them make a mistake that you tried to prevent. I know they don't want to hear I TOLD YOU SO. I have learned to simply say, I am sorry I was afraid that could happen. Sometimes I wander what is the point of all the knowledge you accumulated over your lifetime if no one will listen to benefit from it? In these fast paced times we live in, no one makes the time for "small talk" which is when random stories and details emerge that you can learn from. Through many decades of "small talk" I am able to recall and share past experiences that could help someone. But unfortunately they were so busy running around like a chicken with their head cut off that I never got to warn them. Not everything you need to know in life can be found on Google.

Friday, February 21, 2020

Surely you can see the pain it causes

A heartbroken mother of a nine year old boy from Australia shared a video showing the affects bullying had on her son. There is no way anyone can watch that video without tearing up and getting angry as hell. To hear and see the emotional torment he was going through was heart wrenching. Schools should be a place where our children are safe. Unfortunately schools everywhere have "shooter drills" which definitely doesn't make parents or children feel safe knowing they have to be prepared because it could happen. But SCHOOL BULLYING destroys lives on a daily basis but no one protects our children from being bullied. I have seen bully's in school children start from kindergarten age and are allowed to continue being a bully all the way through their school years. If they would have stopped them in kindergarten from doing it, they wouldn't have been able to do it to hundreds of other children. I think schools need to be held accountable for allowing it to continue. Of course the parents play a big role in teaching their child to be kind to others. But by law you have to send your child to school or face the consequences. Why isn't there a law that our children be safe from being bullied or the school will pay the consequences. In the video the boy cries out while pointing and said and "you didn't do anything." That few seconds of video is for ALL of us to hear, he is talking to ALL of us. We know it is happening and we need to do something about it.

Wednesday, February 19, 2020

You may have heard it but that doesn't mean you heard anything

If you don't listen, you won't hear it and neither will they. It may seem like a little thing but when you see the "Big Picture" you can see just how big it really is. Sometimes if you just listen to them describing the "Big Picture" they can see it for the first time themselves. By someone just giving them a chance to try to explain their complex situation, it allows them to see for themselves the "Big Picture." When they see it they will be able to know exactly what they need to do. A therapist you pay to listen. They know that by letting you talk about it, you will be able to figure things out on your own. Unfortunately those around you that you would be able to talk with to help, seem to always be to busy to listen long enough for you to be able to see the "Big Picture." It is certainly not something you could do in a text or an email. With all the technology these days, we rarely take the time to relate to each other on a human level. We can become so distracted that we don't notice what others are truly going through. Without staying in touch with your human side you become lost in cyberspace. You don't have to solve it for them just take the time to let them see the "Big Picture", so they can see how to solve it themselves.