Monday, March 30, 2020

While we are all staying home, we finally get to spend quality time with our family

Long before internet you had to entertain yourselves in other ways. Now is a good time to build a puzzle. We had two puzzles burrired in our closet along with other Christmas gifts we had been given over the decades. You just might be surprised what you actually have kept that you have stuffed in your closet. Now is the time to go through old stuff to help entertain you while we are stuck indoors to stay safe from covid19. The puzzles we found weren't just regular puzzles they were very unique. One was a round puzzle with pictures on both sides making you have to essentially solve two puzzles at the same time. The other one had extra pieces to throw you off for as long as they could. When you get a puzzle started that will take days to do, at some point other family members will sit down occasionally to find a piece or two. Eating home cooked meals together as we are staying home has definitely had a positive impact on families everywhere. Sitting down eating together every night, bonds a family and that was missing in families everywhere. The fast paced electronic driven society we live in, had made family dinner time non existent. We have to focus on the positive things that are happening so we don't let all the negative things that are happening be the only thing we think about. Stress lowers your immune system which is not going to allow you to fight off any sickness let alone covid19. Make a list of the bonding little moments you have with your family each day while you are quarantined. Keep your list handy so you can add them as they occur. When you are feeling frustrated at what is happening from time to time, just read the list you have written and you will have plenty to be thankful for that wouldn't have happened if you were not quarantined together as a family.

Friday, March 27, 2020

The difference between a good day and a bad day may be how you look at it

It may not be a day where everything goes how you had planned but that doesn't mean it wasn't a good day. Sure things could have gone better but that doesn't mean it was a bad day. Even when you have had a really bad day, if you look at everything that happened that day you will find there was something good that happened that day. Even if it is just the simple fact that you are alive makes it a good day. I know as I go through the grocery store and there are still things that are not in stock, I am still happy that I got other stuff I needed. How you look at it will determine what you see. If you look for only the negative things in a situation, then you will find them. If you look hard enough to find something positive about the situation, then you will find something positive about it. It is all in how you look at it. Remember the situation you are in may be bad, but that doesn't mean the outcome for you is going to be bad. How you look at it and react to it will determine the outcome of the situation you are in. If you want a good outcome then look for a way that a positive outcome would be possible. Enjoying life while you are living it despite all the negative things that will happen along your journey, is the only way to enjoy life while you are living it.

Wednesday, March 25, 2020

A little bit of kindness can do a whole lot of good

Having at least what you need may be difficult for some people. Social distancing is necessary to fight the covid19 virus but you have to go out to the store to get the necessities you need, if you have any chance to get the basics that you need. I haven't been able to get certain things for over a week now, hand sanitizer especially. When you need gas you have to stop to fill up your tank. As I push on the buttons to make my card work to purchase gas, I wander if it is contaminated with the covid19 virus. As I hold on to the gas nozzle as I fill up my tank, I wander if it is contaminated. Everywhere you go you have to wander if you will be contaminated. I know we all face the fear of being contaminated. But stress from worrying can actually lower your immune system, which is not healthy. You can't forget about it, you can't let your guard down, so remember.... it's okay to be concerned about it but don't be obsessed about it. If you find hand sanitizer by chance in a store, please don't buy all of it so no one else can get some. We all need toilet paper so don't buy it all. Stores are starting to put limits on how many you can purchase but as we saw in a recent video one customer at a store with no limit filled her truck with every toilet paper and paper towels that the store had. Just because they didn't have a sign what happened to common decency, common courtesy and common sense? Really would be nice if we all come together and use common sense. You aren't protected if you are the only one with hand sanitizer. If we all had some we wouldn't be spreading germs. Life could get back to normal if together we fight the covid19 virus, if we don't work together the World as we know it will be devastated. You may survive the covid19 virus but will you be able to survive the challenges you would face? No matter what city or country you live in, we all have a common enemy, the covid19 virus. We all need to use common decency, common courtesy, and common sense to fight the war against covid19. Since for the first time every person in the whole wide world is United, we can see each other as humans as it will take every single person around the World if any of us are to win the war against covid19.  World Peace is possible.

Monday, March 23, 2020

Everyone must do their part

We can't be divided if we want to win the war against the covid19 virus. It doesn't matter if you are Young or Old, everyone has to do their part. It doesn't matter if you are Male or Female, everyone has to do their part. It doesn't matter what race you are, we all must do our part. It doesn't matter what City or Country you are from, we all must do our part. It doesn't matter if you are Rich or Poor, we all must do our part. Although if you are Rich you could sure use some of that extra cash to save some businesses that may not financially recover from their economic situation. Or you could consider buying a few medical supplies that would literally save people's lives. Everyone in the Whole Wide World can win the war against the covid19 virus if we work together. I sure have seen a lot of HUMANITY going on all over the WORLD and that may be one of the positive things that has come from this pandemic. This terrible situation that everyone in the WORLD is dealing with won't get better on it's own, we all must do our part. Let's work together to win the war against the covid19 virus.

Friday, March 20, 2020

Now is the time to look up Old recipes

As bread has been hard to find it's time to look up how to make your own fresh bread. The items that you will need are still fully stocked up on the store shelves. You have to get creative these days. It will bring a smile to your face and warm your families bellies and hearts as they are thankful for the delicious bread you made them. There are still plenty of stock of fresh produce in most stores and we all know fruits and vegetables are a part of maintaining good health. Staying home eating home cooked meals has been missing in families the last decade or so. This World wide pandemic is devastating and we know it will get worse but in the end it will cause every single person around the World to connect with each other on a human level. Together every person no matter what city or country you live in has to fight this war against the corona19 virus, United we stand, although quarantined, together to fight it.

Wednesday, March 18, 2020

It is okay to be concerned but not healthy to be obsessed

You can't say the word "pandemic" without a feeling of panic. We all need to be concerned and follow the instructions of our health department. When you see images of our beaches being crowded, you know that there are lots of people not following the rules that are necessary to minimize the massive spread of the covid19 virus. Businesses that are forced to shut down, are concerned about the economic struggles they will face. So why are people defeating the purpose of the closures? If twenty percent of the population are going around spreading the virus then the effort eighty percent who did close was for nothing. We need to close our free beaches just like we closed businesses even though we know how bad economically it will hurt them. We need to enforce the rules that were set to protect all of us. Now with that being said. We all should be concerned about it but it is not healthy for us to be obsessed about it. We all must work together to stop the spread of the corona19 virus. Together as one nation we can reduce the suffering and deaths from it. It takes ALL of us not eighty percent of us, to fight the war against the covid19 virus. Learn to have fun at home and stay home. We started playing card games and board games that we hadn't played in years. We even broke out the home movies to distract us from constantly obsessing over what unknowns lie ahead for any of us. Please stay safe and follow the instructions of our health departments.

Monday, March 16, 2020

Take the time to stop and "smell the roses"

Well the clocks have spring forward and spring is in the air. Hopefully you have some annual flowers planted in your yard that will soon be blooming. Time to wash down the patio furniture to sit in while the weather is still cool not blistering hot. You can enjoy the nature and the breeze in the daylight and relax later as you enjoy the stars in the sky at night. We enjoyed a game of rummy the other night, which we hadn't played in years. Make the most of your time at home by enjoying the time you have to relax. We went through old photo albums from decades ago, we had a blast reminiscing about so many things. We had forgotten moments that came flooding back with each picture. Suddenly we could vividly see the day in our minds that were buried deep in our memories. In the old days we took lots of pictures which we filled in photo albums. Now they are there to enjoy the memories they evoke. Nowadays photo albums are non existent to the last generation or two. They will have no way to trigger those special memories that are buried deep in their minds. You need to take pictures because you need help to remember all the good times for decades and they won't pop up unless they get triggered. The same is true for "small talk" that brings up subjects that you don't always have time for. You miss a lot of "little things" if you are always in too big of a hurry to slow down to enjoy them.

Friday, March 13, 2020

Can anything positive come out of the corona19 virus?

So many times I have started to write a blog about the corona19 virus, but they sounded so negative. I write short little blogs to give you something to ponder to distract you long enough to catch a fresh breath of air. In this fast paced World we live in, we don't slow down to relax. At times our lives can be filled with chaos and a relaxing moment to forget about it, is important. I have tried to think of something positive that could possibly come out of the corona19 virus, finally I started seeing some. As we are forced basically to stay home as much as possible, we can finally have time for "small talk" that has become non existent in the fast paced World we live in. We have time and we want to call relatives and friends to check up on them, which keeps us connected to our "human side" that is desperately needed in society. Since we aren't running around we won't be eating unhealthy fast food, so we will save money and get healthier. Not to mention we will lose a few pounds eating healthy foods at home, and loosing a few pounds is a good thing. Because we aren't going out for entertainment, we will save money. Since we aren't out shopping, we will save money. Giving our bodies a much needed break from running it ragged, is definitely good for your health. All those projects you had put off because you weren't home long enough to do them, well now you have the time and the energy to do them. No matter what country or what city you live in, the corona19 virus will have a negative impact on each and every one of us. It is natural to be concerned but don't be obsessed about it, that alone is dangerous to your health. What will you do with the extra time you have?

Wednesday, March 11, 2020

It's your choice, so choose wisely

You choose whether to be honest or not just like you choose what to eat for dinner. You choose whether you will do the right thing or not, just like you choose what to wear each day. You can't say you had no choice because you do have a choice. Just because other people are doing it doesn't make it right. The choices you make matters so choose wisely. If you choose to ignore bad behavior then it will become a common occurrence and it's only a matter of time before it happens to you or someone you love. Choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make. The choice is yours, so choose wisely. The choices you make today affect the choices you will be able to make later.

Monday, March 9, 2020

There are no guarantees

You can hope for the best, but you have to also be prepared for the worst. You can make plans but things don't always turn out as you had planned. Having a back up plan is necessary because there may not be anyone to back you up if you need it. It's sad but true that you can only count on yourself. You can be surrounded by people that are only around for the good times, but during bad times they are no where around if you need them. A fair weather friend will blow away the minute the stormy times come. Be honest with yourself and make sure you have what you need or be caught off guard and find that you weren't prepared for what might hit you. Friends are nice to have but remember they may just be a fair weather friend and you will experience rain from time to time.

Friday, March 6, 2020

If you want to make the most out of a bad situation you have to...

Let's face it, life is full of challenges. No matter how well you walk a thin line to avoid it, things happen in life, that's just Life. The "Rollercoaster of Life" is full of ups and downs and twists and turns. Along with the challenges you will have to face, there are also opportunities. You can't get too comfortable in life because life is always changing. You may not want anything to change but things are always changing. You have to keep up with the changes or you will not be able to navigate through the challenges you will be faced with. One change I will never get used to is calling a business and get a computer voice. How many times have you screamed "Need a Human" into the phone? It is so frustrating to call to take care of a small problem but talking to a HUMAN isn't one of the options you are given to choose from. I often wander if those companies realized that by the time you reach a HUMAN, you are so angry that your problem with them feels bigger. Unfortunately some businesses have that type of answering service and no matter how stressful it is you have to succeed in getting past the computer voice part of it, to be able to talk to a HUMAN. Now that I wish they would change.

Wednesday, March 4, 2020

I know they know better

It amazes me what people will do even though they know better. Even if it hurts someone, they do it anyways. Unfortunately some people never get bit on the butt by karma. So since they pay no consequences they repeatedly do it. Why is it that some people are affected by karma and some are not? If you wouldn't want someone to do it to you or someone you love, you shouldn't do it. If affects anyone else in a negative way, you shouldn't do it. Don't accept bad behavior because if you ignore it then it will become a common occurrence. What happened to common decency, common courtesy and common sense?

Monday, March 2, 2020

Does it really matter?

Stressing over things that don't really matter only makes the important things you have to do more stressful. As a friend and I who rarely got together, were heading out to enjoy ourselves, the traffic made it a frustrating ride. It seemed to have zapped the energy right out of both us. But obviously the extra five minutes in traffic didn't affect our plans at all. But as we began to talk about the traffic it was interfering with the conversations we would have had as we drove here and as we walked through the parking lot. Once inside we both realized that we had to JUST FLUSH IT out of our minds so we could enjoy our day out together. You can't enjoy the moment you are in if you spend every moment thinking about things that happened yesterday. Yesterday is already gone, tomorrow may never come, but today is yours to enjoy. To enjoy life you have to enjoy it while you are living it.

Friday, February 28, 2020

Getting angry about it hurts you so JUST FLUSH IT

Sure it will anger you but the damages you cause yourself from being angry, is something you can prevent. You may not have been able to prevent the situation you are in but you can prevent yourself from making the situation worse then it is. Anything and everything you do or say will determine the outcome. If you react negatively then you will have a negative outcome, because two wrongs don't make a right. You need to delay your reaction until you have had time to think about what your actions will bring. You will realize that you need to accept it, what's done is done and JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind to prevent anymore damage. You may have had no choice whether it happened or not but it is your choice whether you let it hurt you over and over again or not. JUST FLUSH IT so it can't hurt you anymore.

Wednesday, February 26, 2020

You are who you think you are

You can be your own worst enemy. You are who you think you are so don't worry about what other people think about you, the only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. You may not get a compliment or a pat on the back from others, so give yourself a pat on the back. You may not be the best at everything but as long as you do the best you can, then you should be proud of yourself. To feel comfortable in the skin you are in you have to be comfortable with what you do in the skin you are in. It doesn't matter what other people do, you have to do what makes you happy. It doesn't matter what anyone else tells you that you should do. You do what you need to do because you are the only one that has to live with the consequences for everything you do. No one is perfect so don't judge yourself so harshly because you are not perfect. If you tell yourself that you can't do it then you won't do it because you will never try to do it. You can either be your biggest cheerleader or your worst enemy. Which one you choose is up to you.

Monday, February 24, 2020

What will change because of it?

You can learn from your mistakes and make the necessary changes, but that is only if you admit that you made a mistake. You can learn from other people's mistakes rather than having to make the same mistakes, but that is only possible if you take the time to notice.  By the time you get old you have learned a lot of mistakes that you can avoid repeating. You want to warn those younger than you by telling them what you have learned to keep them from making the same mistakes. Unfortunately they don't want to listen. It's hard to watch them make a mistake that you tried to prevent. I know they don't want to hear I TOLD YOU SO. I have learned to simply say, I am sorry I was afraid that could happen. Sometimes I wander what is the point of all the knowledge you accumulated over your lifetime if no one will listen to benefit from it? In these fast paced times we live in, no one makes the time for "small talk" which is when random stories and details emerge that you can learn from. Through many decades of "small talk" I am able to recall and share past experiences that could help someone. But unfortunately they were so busy running around like a chicken with their head cut off that I never got to warn them. Not everything you need to know in life can be found on Google.

Friday, February 21, 2020

Surely you can see the pain it causes

A heartbroken mother of a nine year old boy from Australia shared a video showing the affects bullying had on her son. There is no way anyone can watch that video without tearing up and getting angry as hell. To hear and see the emotional torment he was going through was heart wrenching. Schools should be a place where our children are safe. Unfortunately schools everywhere have "shooter drills" which definitely doesn't make parents or children feel safe knowing they have to be prepared because it could happen. But SCHOOL BULLYING destroys lives on a daily basis but no one protects our children from being bullied. I have seen bully's in school children start from kindergarten age and are allowed to continue being a bully all the way through their school years. If they would have stopped them in kindergarten from doing it, they wouldn't have been able to do it to hundreds of other children. I think schools need to be held accountable for allowing it to continue. Of course the parents play a big role in teaching their child to be kind to others. But by law you have to send your child to school or face the consequences. Why isn't there a law that our children be safe from being bullied or the school will pay the consequences. In the video the boy cries out while pointing and said and "you didn't do anything." That few seconds of video is for ALL of us to hear, he is talking to ALL of us. We know it is happening and we need to do something about it.

Wednesday, February 19, 2020

You may have heard it but that doesn't mean you heard anything

If you don't listen, you won't hear it and neither will they. It may seem like a little thing but when you see the "Big Picture" you can see just how big it really is. Sometimes if you just listen to them describing the "Big Picture" they can see it for the first time themselves. By someone just giving them a chance to try to explain their complex situation, it allows them to see for themselves the "Big Picture." When they see it they will be able to know exactly what they need to do. A therapist you pay to listen. They know that by letting you talk about it, you will be able to figure things out on your own. Unfortunately those around you that you would be able to talk with to help, seem to always be to busy to listen long enough for you to be able to see the "Big Picture." It is certainly not something you could do in a text or an email. With all the technology these days, we rarely take the time to relate to each other on a human level. We can become so distracted that we don't notice what others are truly going through. Without staying in touch with your human side you become lost in cyberspace. You don't have to solve it for them just take the time to let them see the "Big Picture", so they can see how to solve it themselves.

Monday, February 17, 2020

Without an imagination you won't be able to imagine the possibilities

Being creative will help you create the best outcome for yourself. You can't always see it right away, but with a little imagination and creativity you can make lemonade out of lemons. If you can imagine it, then you know it is possible. Without an imagination you won't be able to imagine what is actually possible. Could you imagine what is possible if you got creative? To make the best out of a bad situation you have to remember that it is all in how you look at the situation. The outcome is not determined by the situation you are in but on how you react to the situation you are in. With a little imagination and creativity you can have a positive outcome. If you can't imagine it then it won't be possible because you won't see the possibilities. You will find what you are looking for but only if you look for it will you be able to find it.


Friday, February 14, 2020

Don't waste it, make the most out of it

It's income tax time again. In the creative writing class I took many years ago, we were given the assignment to make up a new word and it's meaning. Because it was income tax time, my word was "scervous." It's meaning was being scared and nervous about how much I would owe. Now if you are lucky enough to get a refund, then for you, income tax time would be exciting and something you looked forward to. For some people who live payday to payday, it's the only time they get a chance to have any cash that you don't owe out before you get it. Don't waste it, use it wisely. It's tempting to go shopping and just blow it. Make the most of it by spending it wisely. You might enjoy some new clothes or a new electronic gadget, but if you have been worried about needing tires for your car, then you should use the money on new tires. Going to all of your favorite restraunts that you can't afford while you are living paycheck to paycheck, sounds good. But it is better to plan on one special dinner out, then use the rest of the money to fill your pantry and stock up on household supplies. That way you will have a little extra money as you live paycheck to paycheck for weeks, not use the money on a meal that only satisfies you for a few hours before it's time for your next meal. Instant gratification only lasts for an instant. It is best to choose what you want to spend your money on then the moment you get your refund check, stick to your decision and do it right away. Because if you hold on to it waiting to decide, it will get wasted little by little until it is gone. You should definitely splurge on something for yourself but don't make a gluten out of yourself.

Wednesday, February 12, 2020

Hang on tight and you will be alright

There are millions of people but your circle of life is made up of only a handful of people. And you have to hold on tight to keep the circle together. When the circle is broken from a death, you have to grab your "Duct Tape" to keep the circle together. Unfortunately, as well as births there will be deaths, they are both a part of the circle of life. I have seen a death in families that causes the family circle to be broken forever. I have seen family reunions that everyone had gathered at for decades, stop when just one person died out of one family, out of the group of families that had always gone to the family reunions. That should have made everyone else look forward to the next family reunion that much more because you never know if you will see them again. If your family doesn't have family reunions, I suggest you start that tradition.

Monday, February 10, 2020

You can peacefully agree to disagree

Just because your opinion is different than their opinion, doesn't mean you should get angry or violent towards them. You may not agree with them but they have a right to have their own opinion. If you want the right to have your opinion you will have to respect other people's opinions. You can agree to disagree. Unfortunately some people get angry if you voice your opinion if it is different from theirs. Especially politics and religion. Some of my dearest friends and family members have a different opinions on politics and religion. Therefore, we don't talk about them with each other. There are times when the subjects get brought up and immediately the tone of the conversation gets tense. When it happens one of us says let's change the subject. We know that nothing we say to each other will change the other ones opinion but we know trying to would only damage our relationship. There is plenty to talk to each other about that has nothing to do with politics or religion. For the sake of our friendship, we just agree to disagree. If you find yourself starting to get tense when someone tells you their opinion, stop, exhale, and bring up a different subject to talk about. To keep peace you both just agree to disagree. It's that simple. Because it could take one simple argument over something you both know you have totally opposite opinions about to end a relationship that is not nor never has been what your friendship was formed on. You are who you are and they are who they are, and that is why you agree to disagree.

Friday, February 7, 2020

A helping hand VS a hand out

It feels good to lend a helping hand to someone. Sometimes that is all they need to stand on their own again. Getting just a little behind when you are barely making it can be all it takes to knock you down. Even just needing a part for your car that you can't afford can be devastating because you need your car to get to work. It can be a stressful situation that you couldn't avoid. If you could would you give them a helping hand and buy the part they need? The only thing is do they really need a helping hand or are they playing on your emotions to get a free hand out? If you don't know them well enough to know then it's hard to reach out and help them. I have met several people who always say they desperately need help yet they really just want to emotionally play with your kind-heartedness to get anything for free. We were about to give someone an old car we had after hearing them repeatedly say how desperately they needed one. Then we found out that someone else had already given them a car. How on Earth could they say they needed a car then? When we confronted them about knowing they already had one, they just chuckled. They showed no guilt. They felt no shame, they just chuckled. Needless to say we didn't give them the car. Unfortunately it has affected us in a negative way. Our kind-heartedness has grown a little colder. We learned we can't just act on our emotions because we realized we can be fooled. You know the saying fool me once shame on them, getting fooled twice shame on you, it just makes us the fools. You have to know if someone just needs a helping hand or are just looking for hand-outs. Those that don't ask for your help yet you see they are struggling, those are the only ones that you should give a helping hand to. Because unfortunately some people get whatever they can simply because they get away with it. I have seen news stories about pan handlers that admit they make more tax free money begging then they made working. I have seen them walk from the street corner where they stood with their sign, over to the parking lot across the street and get into a nice car and drive away. After that I only give to the firemen who collect twice a year at our intersection of town and the Bell ringers in front of the stores at Christmas time. And of course the monthly gift we give to St. Jude's for decades now that we know use every penny they get on treatments and research in hopes of finding a cute for cancer. So before you reach out a helping hand make sure your help is needed. Because giving someone a handout just makes them continue taking advantage of people's kind-heartedness. Be kind but don't be foolish.


Wednesday, February 5, 2020

There will be set backs but...

Accepting that there will be setbacks at times in your life, will help you not let them hold you back. If you think everything will always be smooth sailing for you during your life's journey, you won't be prepared when you hit rough times. Knowing that there will be tough times, can help you get through the tough times. You got to be able to JUST FLUSH IT so you can move on. Remind yourself of the things that you are good at and use those "tools" to get you back on track. The outcome is not what happens in life as much as it is about how you react to what happens to you. So if something angers you don't react until you have time to think about what your reactions would bring. Your first thought to a negative situation is so negative that the outcome will be negative. You will still be angry about it, but as long as you stop and think about it, you won't be angry at yourself for making things worse by how you reacted. Relying on your strengths will be the key to turning the situation around to get a positive outcome.



Monday, February 3, 2020

Did you notice that?

Even in a crowded area it is possible that no one noticed. We have trained ourselves to ignore everything. Some call it minding your own business. Some say they were too busy to notice. Others say it is too dangerous to get involved. And sadly enough, some say it's because they don't care what is happening to anyone else. When I was growing up, the neighbors would watch out for each other. And you feared that they would tell your parents if you misbehaved, nowadays neighbors fear retaliation if they tell on kids. When I told my neighbors son to go tell his parents what I just saw him doing, his response was his parents didn't care. I had known his parents and their children for a long time and I asked him out of respect for me please go tell your parents. He said yes mam. In less than a minute he was back outside. He said I told them what you said and just like I thought they said they didn't care. I thanked him for at least showing me respect and going in to tell them. Years later when he was grown up, when we were talking he brought up the memory of that day. He said he had always respected me for that. I was so happy that he remembered everything about that afternoon that was so long ago. He said he realized then that I was an old fashioned parent. I had never forgotten the incident but I assumed just like his parents that he would have forgotten it. Your brief encounter can make an impression, even though you don't think so. Perhaps as a parent one day he will care to hear from his neighbors if his children are misbehaving. Then he could nip it in the bud before it leads to commonly misbehaving when they are older..it's much easier to stop a three year old from unacceptable behavior. If you wait until they are teenagers and out of control, it will be too late. Teach them from an early age. My best advice to young parents is to remember they have to love their children enough to let them hate them when they have to call them out on their bad behavior.

Friday, January 31, 2020

Was it taught or untaught?

Everyone is born with honesty and a conscience. A young child says whatever pops in their mind. They sometimes let your secrets out because they had no idea that it was something that was a secret.  Most of the time it isn't a big deal if anyone else knows, but you would have rather that no one else knew. When I was young the  family would all gather to watch the old show called " Kids say the darndest things." It wasn't very funny necessarily for kids but it sure made the adults laugh uncontrollably. Now that I am "old" I see the show from a whole different point of view. And I laugh uncontrollably and say OMG a lot. If you are a parent to young children it makes you wander what might fly out of their mouths at any given time. I know when my children were young they blurted out things that not only did I wish they hadn't, but I didn't even know they had heard or seen. Children of all ages appear to be too busy to notice yet somehow they can describe to a tee, everything that was going on all around them.  Unfortunately the pictures they describe are full of some details that you would rather that no one else knew. Knowing that children are born with a conscience to guide them, you have to wander how is it possible that they can be so cruel to each other. Just how did they suddenly become a school bully. How can they be allowed to bully other children? You by law have to send your kids to school yet there doesn't seem to be a law that the teachers can't ignore it when they see someone being bullied. If you ignore it then it becomes acceptable behavior. And if you accept it then it will be a common occurrence. That means your teaching our children that it is okay to be a bully and it's okay that they are the victim of the bullying. It's time we start focusing on just what's going on in our schools these days. We need to remember every home is a class room and every parent is a teacher. What we teach our kids are learned behaviors. It takes a village to raise a child because every single interaction they have determines who they become as adults that make up our neighborhoods. We all can teach the children so that they can help clean up the mess in society that took many generations to create. If all the generations can come together we can fix it in "OUR" generation. Teach HUMANITY to replace the INSANITY we see in society these days. World peace is possible but it will happen one person at a time having "peace of mind."

Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Wanting the opposite

People with straight hair want curly hair. People with natural curly hair want straight hair. My son has curly hair and I bought him the new hair straighting brush off Amazon. It really worked. Within a few minutes his hair was straight. But he was unrecognizable to me and everyone else. Luckily he felt strange and decided he was more comfortable with his natural curly hair. You may think you want something else but then you realize you are  comfortable with what you got. People think the grass is greener on the other side but when they look closer they can see the sand Spurs all throughout that green lawn. Then they are thankful that even though their lawn isn't as green, they can  comfortably walk without shoes. Looks can be deceiving. If you are comfortable, then enjoy what you got. You may not have everything you ever wanted but you have everything that you need to be comfortable. You may not miss it until it is gone but when it's gone, you may not be able to get it back. If it works then don't throw it away.

Monday, January 27, 2020

If only for a moment

A moment can happen in the blink of an eye. Yet every moment has a chance to change things in an instant. An opportunity may come come knocking at your door, but if you don't open the door and grab the opportunity, you wasted any opportunity you may have had. You may only have a handful of big moments throughout your lifetime. But there are an endless amount of "little special moments" you have a chance to enjoy. Every moment has a chance to be a memory you can cherrish forever. Only thing is, you have to slow down to have a moment you can enjoy. One less you tube video, one less email, one less game on our devices, one less moment of reading our social media, will give.us the time we need to spend with the humans around us, so we can have memories we can cherrish. The cyberspace technology has made human connection a rare occurrence. It is a shame when the closest thing to a hug most people get is a poke, a text, or an email.

Friday, January 24, 2020

If you could see it from the outside...

Someone looking at it from the outside, may not necessarily see what you can from the inside. Obviously only you know everything about what you are dealing with, it's your life. You are affected not only by what they see but by everything you have had to live throughout your entire lifetime. With that being said, listening to what they see looking at it from the outside, can't hurt and who knows it may be helpful to you. Since you alone have to live with the consequences of your decisions then of course you alone should make those decisions. But in order to be sure you are making the right decision, you need to look at the situation from every view possible before you make a decision. What they see may not affect your decision at all. But just in case they see something you couldn't, it might just be important to know before you make a decision. Keep an open mind as you listen, just in case you hear something important.

Thursday, January 23, 2020

Ooops, I did it again

I can't believe I missed posting a blog post yesterday. In ten years I had only missed my regularly Monday, Wednesday and Friday blogging schedule three or four times. Now in less than thirty days, I have missed three blog days. For those of you who have stopped by to read them on those days, I apologise. I was dealing with a cold that kept returning. I would take cold medicine then think I was just going to lay down for a nap. Unfortunately some naps lead to not waking up until early the next morning. The flu season is here. Don't forget to get your flu shot. I was reminded to get mine after being sick the first week of this thirty day period, a little too late. Hopefully now after two more weeks, the flu shot can effectively protect me from catching the flu again.

Monday, January 20, 2020

Keep it simple if you can

Sometimes you can be so overwhelmed that you are exhausted before you get started. You need to look at whatever it is as a job that needs to be done one step at a time. Split up the task into three steps so you don't feel so overwhelmed. Being able to see it as simply doing step one, then step two and then you simply move on to step three, allows you to believe that it is as easy as one, two, three. The more simple you keep things the more simplified the task will be to do. When you believe that it is too difficult for you to do, the less likely you are to do it. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day, but it got built. Not everything you need to do can be done in one step. But as long as you keep doing each step, you will get it done. Don't let your thoughts wear you out before you even get started.

Friday, January 17, 2020

It may seem like a small thing but it can make a big difference

Have you ever had a nagging feeling like you were forgetting something really important? You start going over everything you know you need as you run around getting them done. But still you have a feeling there is something you are forgetting. You keep thinking realizing other things that were not on the top of your list of things to do, so you go ahead and get them done too. You spend the day getting your list done plus the extra stuff you thought of, by now it is late and you are exhausted. Just as you get settled in, you remember what you needed to do that was so important. Unfortunately the business you were supposed to go to is now closed. The worst part is I had meant to do it earlier in the week but I kept forgetting all about it each day. Now it is Friday and Monday is a holiday so I can't do it now until Tuesday. It was a small errand so not a big deal but forgetting it three days in a row made it a big deal on many personal levels. I just had my son text me a message so Tuesday if I forget, I can read my text. I even set an alarm for two different times on Tuesday to remind me. Now I got to get over my disappointment in forgetting and JUST FLUSH IT out of my mind so I can enjoy the three day weekend being satisfied with all the other things I did get done.

Wednesday, January 15, 2020

It will make your journey harder if you carry the past along on your journey

Look at your negative experiences from your past as sandbags. Could you imagine choosing to carry sandbags? If you can't learn what you need to from it and then JUST FLUSH IT out of your mind, then you are choosing to carry that sandbag. Your life's journey will be hard enough without carrying heavy sandbags on your journey. Obviously if it is weighing heavy on your mind you have to JUST FLUSH it out of your mind to lighten your load. If you don't then you are choosing to carry that sandbag with you. Accepting what someone else did or accepting something you yourself did, is the first step to healing from it. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. You will never forget but accepting things you can not change will help you move on. And leaving those sandbags in your past will make your life's journey easier to enjoy. You can't always chose what happened in your past but you do get to choose how many sandbags you want to carry.

Monday, January 13, 2020

What it means to you doesn't mean it is what they meant it to mean to you

Sometimes we take what someone says or does to mean something that isn't what it meant at all. If you can communicate how you felt by it they can explain what they meant by it. Unfortunately you can be so angered by what you thought they said that you don't bother to know the true meaning of what they said. If you always expect them to say something negative to you then all you listen for is a negative twist to whatever they say. If negative is what you look for then that is what you are looking for and that is all you will find. There are many ways to look at things and depending on how you look at it will determine what you see and hear. In any relationship you need to communicate to have a good relationship. You won't always see eye to eye but listening to each other is necessary to meet in the middle. We can see things differently yet still through understanding how each other feels about what they saw, resolve our differences. Always being in defense mode can make you always feel like you have to defend yourself, even when you don't. It is impossible to communicate with someone who is always in a defense mode just waiting to attack you in defense of themselves. Relax and enjoy the conversation for what it is. You need to guard yourself at all times without being ready to attack at all times. They say words can't hurt you but that is not true. It is also true that someone's words that hurt you was not words they actually said but that you implying that is what their words meant. Give them a chance to defend what you heard before you attack them for words they didn't really mean when they said them to you.

Wednesday, January 8, 2020

What you pass on will spread, but what are you passing on?

It's true, you reap what you sow. But it is also true that what you sow can effect others in society. When you plant a garden you don't want to plant weeds at the same time. Because if you did, the weeds would spread and prevent your vegetables from growing.  The same is true in life situations. If you want a positive outcome then don't go into it with a negative attitude. You will reap what you sow. A negative situation may be challenging but with the right attitude it can have a positive outcome. It's all in how you look at it. Anyone can make a mountain out of a mole hill if they keep adding dirt. You can easily go around or over a mole hill. But you may not be able to climb a mountain. When life drops a boulder in your path, just go around it. Don't just stand there and waste time and energy on trying to remove it, just go around it. On your life's journey if you reach a dead end, just turn around and go back and choose a different direction. The roller coaster called Life is full of ups and downs as well as twists and turns, that's just Life. And sometimes in life you got to look hard to find a positive response to a negative situation so that you can have a chance for a positive outcome. It is not what happens to you that determines the outcome, but it is how you react to what happens to you that will determine the outcome.

Monday, January 6, 2020

Taking the time to do it right will save you time

Reading the instructions can take a lot of time but it will make the time it will take to get it put together easier. Knowing what to do is half the battle. Whether it is how to put something together or how to get where you want to be, knowing what to do makes doing it easier. Knowing all the facts about anything is necessary to make the right decisions in Life. Otherwise you are simply making an uneducated guess. Some decisions you will have to make throughout your life are too important to just simply guess. We all have a built in warning system. So if you feel uneasy deep down inside, don't assume it is gas. If it is an important decision then you know it is important to get all the facts before you make your decision. Because once you act on it you have to live with the consequences. Deciding what you should do is a lot easier then deciding how to fix the problem created by guessing. I am bringing this up because I did what looked like the right thing to do, but it turned out to be the opposite of what I should have done. Unfortunately my built in warning system didn't go off. If it looks good to be true then it probably isn't true. And looking into someone's eyes to see if their telling the truth doesn't work. In the good old days people would say a person is only as good as his word and a handshake meant they would do what they said they would. Today people say....you can't believe a word anyone says and a handshake has nothing to do with anything. Sometimes a short cut will only leave you to a dead end. Honesty is the best policy. Unfortunately not everyone is an honest person so be honest with yourself that you can't believe it until you see it.

Wednesday, January 1, 2020

Some things you do for yourself

If someone you know needs help, you help. If it is something that you you know needs done, you make sure it gets done. Don't forget how important it is to take the time to occasionally do something for yourself, just cause you should. We all have busy schedules and lots of responsibilities. But to enjoy life while you are living you have to squeeze in some time every now and then, to do what you enjoy. That's not being selfish, it is necessary. In order to be able to take care of everything else and everyone else, you have to first take care of yourself, so that you can. Happy New year everyone. Make 2020 the best it can be and take care of yourself so you can be the best you can be.