Friday, July 3, 2020

If you want things to be different then you have to do something different

If you keep doing what you are doing you are going to keep getting what you are getting. If you want things to change then make a change. Life has no remote control so you have to get up and change it yourself. If you want anything to be different you will have to do something different, otherwise it's the same old thing just a different day. Remember the definition to insanity is to keep doing things the same way and expecting a different result. Without a change nothing will change. If you know it's time for a change then stop wasting your time. Some situations require you to have to make major changes but most of the time, with a few tweaks and minor changes it can make all the difference in the world. Before you know what needs to change you have to be totally honest with yourself about what has to change. Change can be hard and sometimes painful but nothing is more painful than staying stuck somewhere that you don't belong. Before you celebrate INDEPENDENCE DAY, make the changes that are necessary for you to be able to celebrate the personal independence free from things that were holding you down. A change will do you good so for goodness sake JUST CHANGE IT.

Wednesday, July 1, 2020

Don't let their opinions change who you are

We each as individuals are unique. You can have things in common with others but we are all totally different from each other. We each have our own opinions. It is okay to listen to other people's opinions but the only opinion that matters is yours. You can't keep changing who you are to please others because then you are no longer yourself. You decide what is best for you because you are the only one who has to live with the consequences of your decisions. You decide whether you are honest or not just like you decide what to eat for dinner. Just because other people are doing it doesn't mean it's the right thing for you to do. You won't be comfortable in the skin you are in unless you are comfortable with what you are doing in the skin you are in. If you want people to know you as a honest, hard working person who is compassionate, then be honest, hard working and compassionate. Like the sign I saw said... Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

Monday, June 29, 2020

Choose your battles

You don't have to win every battle to win a war. Choose what is worth fighting for because sometimes PEACE is better than being right. Compromise let's everyone win. With a little give and take you can both get what you need. Working together gets a whole lot more accomplished then playing tug of war against each other, and nothing gets accomplished. Neither of you can get everything you want but you both can get everything you need. You can be stubborn about your goals but you have to be flexible about how you can achieve them. As long as there is compromise then your goals won't be compromised.

Friday, June 26, 2020

You won't know which way to go until you know where you want to go to

You have to decide where you want to go before you can choose which way to go. You can't just sign up for college until you decide what degree you need to get the kind of job you want when you graduate. You won't know what direction to go on the highway until you decide where you are going. You can't reach your goals unless you set goals for yourself. Your dreams can't come true if you don't have dreams. If you get knocked down in life you have to either stay down or get up. You may have not have been able to prevent yourself from falling down but whether you stay down or not, is your choice. Sometimes it takes you falling down lower than you have ever been to stand back up taller and stronger than you ever were. Sometimes it takes a tornado to get you where you are supposed to be because it was the only way to get you there. It's hard to understand but growing pains are painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong.

Wednesday, June 24, 2020

Have you heard the phrase, my way or the highway?

I hadn't heard the saying, it's my way or the highway, in a long time. So when I heard it I was surprised. There are many things from decades past that have become common and popular again. I never thought I would see bell bottom pants come back in style, but they have. Unfortunately none of us, or at least I didn't, save any items for four decades until they would become popular again. When I see someone wearing styles like I did four decades ago it brings a ton of visual memories that make me smile. When I hear "old phrases" from time to time, it brings up many happy memories for me to enjoy. Our minds are full of buried memories that are forgotten and they won't be remembered unless something triggers them. I have always enjoyed walking around a flea market where old memories can be triggered as I look at what people are selling. I don't have to buy anything, I just have to see an object that triggers a forgotten memory suddenly vivid front and center in my mind. One day I saw an old lamp exactly like the one my aunt had in her home. Instantly many memories of time spent at her house flooded in my mind that made me smile from ear to ear. I felt bad when the lady selling it thought for sure I was going to buy it after spending so much time staring at it while I was reliving memories with a big smile on my face. I stroll through the many ailes of the flea market enjoying all the buried memories that all the random objects trigger. Each time I go there I never know which relative or friend I will get to spend time with.

Monday, June 22, 2020

You don't have to have the answer you just have to listen

It's sad when you see someone going through a rough time and there is nothing you can do to help and you have no advice to give them. But that doesn't mean you can't help them get through it. If you just take the time to listen to them, it helps. If you listen long enough it helps them feel better. If you just allow them to share their story and respond with empathy and understanding, it helps them. You don't have to have the answer you just have to take the time to listen. It's possible as they tell you they not only feel better but they see the "whole picture" and see an answer to their problem. You don't have to be a doctor to make someone feel better, you just have to be a compassionate person and take the time to listen to them. They say laughter is the best medicine and you can give it away for free.

Friday, June 19, 2020

Father's day is the day you let your father know how much you love him

To be a parent is a hard job. As a parent there is nothing you wouldn't do for your children. Letting your Father know how special he is to you, means more to him than any child will ever know. We are just  twenty seven hours away from making the day all about him to show him how special he is to us. As I helped my grandkids make cards for their Father you could feel the love that they had for him. When your children are little they just beam from the inside out with love that is easily seen and felt. The quarantine may keep some people from being able to physically visit their Fathers this year. That doesn't mean you can't talk to him so he can feel your love. Time talking about memories you two have shared will still allow him to feel your love. For those of us who's Father's are no longer with us, you can still think about memories you shared with him and feel his love. And if there is truth that their spirits are still here with us, he will feel your love. Happy Father's day to every Father.