Friday, September 30, 2016

Sometimes there is more than one answer

There are many ways to look at something. If you asked ten people the same question it is possible to get ten different answers. They all could be the right answer because each of them see it from their point of view. Even driving from point A to point B there are many different ways to get there. Some take the quickest route. Some take the scenic route and some take the easiest route. They all lead to the same place. The only difference is which way they feel is right for them. You may not agree with someone on the answer but they have the answer they need and you are free to answer it differently.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Teach them well so they can.

What do you think has the biggest impact on children,your words or your actions? They say actions speak louder than words. This may be true if you say one thing but do another. They say words will never hurt you yet what you say is what they learn. So the answer is they both have a big impact on their way of thinking. You often hear people say they are exactly like their parent. As much as I hate to admit it I too have not only the good parts of my father but also his not so pleasant qualities too. His way of thinking had been planted in my mind. I realize that I am now the teacher to my kids and grandkids as well as others around me. So before I say a word or choose how to react I need to stop and think about whether I would want those around me to learn it from me.

Monday, September 26, 2016

Where did it come from?

I had worked for days getting ready for my out of state relative to come visit and stay at our house for a week. I was exhausted by the time they had arrived. We had many plans for the week and I wandered where I would find the energy to do them all along with an already busy schedule I normally have all week. Not to mention having to keep the housework up so the house remained clean while they were here. But everyday I had the energy even though I didn't know where it was coming from. If I had this much energy to go all day while they were here why didn't I have it when they weren't here? If I knew I would get it for everyday but I have no idea where it came from but I am sure glad it came while they were here. I believe it is always inside me but it only comes when there is so much that needs to be done. If I Changed my mindset I would find it each and every day but I am just too tired to even want to be that busy so when I know I can get away with not doing anything I don't reach deep inside to find the energy so I can just relax when I can.

Friday, September 23, 2016

Food for thought

A Childs memory is astonishing if you promise them something. Yet they have no memory at all sometimes when you give a job they need to do. If you have plans early one morning you can't wait to get up in the morning. Yet getting up early in the morning for work isn't anything you look forward to at all. Having a good attitude when you have something fun to do is easy. But having a bad attitude when you have things to do only make doing them harder. Look at your alarm going off early in the morning as a good thing just because you woke up to live another day. Remember if you promise a child something they will not forget so don't make promises you can't keep. And most of all you have to learn how to flush away a bad day because we all have a bad day every now and again. Like the sign that inspired me said "It's Ok to sit on your pity potty every now and again just be sure to flush when you are done". Just flush it.

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Well its true and it sure is pouring

I have always repeated an old saying "When it rains it pours". Because we all have times in our Life where one bad thing after another seems to happen. And to help them understand that it happens to others too seems to make them feel less like they are alone in Twilight Zone. It seems to be pouring in my Life so I thought I would write it out loud to help me JUST FLUSH IT by realizing it is what it is and the storm will pass. Tomorrow the sun will be shining.

Monday, September 19, 2016

I was just wandering

Have you ever wandered how a tiny spider can produce all that silk for a giant web? Or how he can stay exactly on course to make such a precise intricate web? Have you ever wandered how an ant can carry one hundred times his weight? Or how on earth ants are so disciplined to follow each other in a straight line as they walk? Have you ever wandered how some people can overcome so many obstacles yet still succeed? Or how some people have every opportunity in the world yet never try to succeed? Perhaps they need to think like an insect and do what they got to do to get'r done.

Friday, September 16, 2016

You don't have to help if you don't want to.

You may not be able to help them or you may not want to help them. But you shouldn't make matters worse for them. If you don't have anything nice to say then just don't say anything at all. When you are angry don't spread it by spewing it on others. You wouldn't spread the flu and anger isn't healthy so don't spread it. The next time you feel overwhelmed and you begin to feel your anger growing inside you Just Flush It before it has a chance to make you or anyone else sick.

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Should you go left or right?

All the excuses in the world are no excuse at all for bad behavior. I often wonder as they give their list of excuses, do they really think that it excuses their behavior? Your true character has nothing to do with your ability to place blame on anyone or anything else. You choose whether to be honest or not just like you choose whether to eat a hamburger or a pizza for dinner. You are not defined by the things in your past. Your past experiences at times may guide you in which direction to go but ultimately where you go and how you get there is purely up to you.

Monday, September 12, 2016

You get to choose

There are things you are dealt in life that are through no fault of your own nor did you get to choose them. But you and you alone choose how you react to them. For instance you can't choose your family but you can choose how you interact with each and every one in your family. You may not have a choice but how you look at things is your choice. At first glance it may seem impossible but if you look at it from every angle you will see that you have options if you choose to look at it in a different way. Your choices are limited if you only focus on part of it. A narrow view will keep you from seeing the whole picture. To open up your possibilities you have to open your mind to see everything that is possible.

Friday, September 9, 2016

They may fear the worst has happened.

Sometimes you get so busy that you don't even have the time to talk to those around you that you love. It may seem like it has only been a week or two, yet at times there are months that go by. Recently a dear friend had tried for months to get in touch with me. She began to grieve as she feared that I had passed away and someone forgot to tell her. She couldn't imagine any other reason that I wouldn't have contacted her back by now. Later as I read some of the messages she had left me I realized that she was honestly grieving my death. I felt horrible to have put her through that. I realize now that those that I truly love are far more important than the things that were keeping me so busy. Please remember to slow down and make time for those you love because you love them.

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Reach for the stars instead of blaming it on the moon.

Have you ever been frustrated when you hear someone say "No I can't do that", when you know they can? You know it means they won't because they will never try. Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy. You defeat any chances you have because you constantly tell yourself that you can't so you don't. When in fact you will never know if you can unless you try. You could be surrounded by water yet die of thirst because you chose not to reach your hand out and grab it. If you want to reach for the stars then go for it. But if you choose not to reach for your dreams then don't blame it on the moon. You will have no one to blame but yourself because choosing to do nothing is still a choice you make.

Monday, September 5, 2016

What will they remember?

As you go through Life there will be many encounters you will have with your family,your friends ,your teachers ,your coworkers and many others. Some you have only brief encounters that can make a big impact on your way of thinking. Heck the little sign I saw inspired the message behind Just Flush It and that was merely a moment at a red light. You never know what even a simple sentence from any one or thing or a small random act of kindness we each receive that you will remember for a lifetime. Make every encounter you have with others be a moment they will remember forever that will have a positive impact. What do you want them to remember about you?

Friday, September 2, 2016

Time runs out

I kept meaning to call you to catch up but I kept putting it off. I wanted to plan another doughnut morning with you and Phil but it seemed like I never had enough time. As I checked in on my face book I was devastated that your time on earth had run out of time. I had put it off too long. I want to take this moment to remember my dear friend Vonnie Van who inspired me to write my Just Flush It books and spread the message that Life is full of challenges and bumps along the way and if you want to enjoy your life while you are living it you got to Just Flush It as it comes. RIP my friend.