You do it for yourself not just for others

As you are about to "react" to a negative situation STOP. Take a moment to think about what your "reaction" will bring. Our first thought to a negative situation is a very negative reaction and can bring nothing but a negative outcome. That is why before you "react" you must first think about what your "actions" will bring. There are times when nothing you can say will makes things better yet anything you may say will make it worse. You know the Old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all?" Well I have learned that it wasn't just to NOT hurt other people but also NOT to make things worse for myself.